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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.

I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.

ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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So on August 28th its my sixteenth birthday... I have no idea what to do!
I don't want to do anything too expensive... I want quite a few people there, but not too many. I have a pool and a hot tub.... but I'm not sure if people would actually use them. IDEAS PLEASE!!!!
And good ones... :D

Chances are- people will use your pool and hot tub if you let them know that they can.

Going with that, how about a beach theme? You can make smoothies with little umbrellas in them, and set out a fruit bowl. That would be cool :)

As far as what to actually DO:

- Bean Bags.
- Scavenger Hunt.
- Guitar Hero/Rock Band Showdown.

Or, you can just put on music and let people relax. That's what I did at my party, and it was a ton of fun :)

-Laura (17-f)

(18/f) One of my really good friends confided in me and told me that they are thinking of committing suicide, and he made me promise i wouldnt tell anyone. I'm really scared for him and im not sure what i should do. i tried talking him out of it as much as i could but i am still scared he might do something.

You need to tell someone. His parents, a counselor, your parents. SOMEBODY. Suicide is a serious issue, and it's not something you should take lightly and/or try to handle on your own.

Until then, keep talking him out of it. Don't scare him or let him know you're going to tell somebody, but just let him know that he has SO much more to live for. Let him know that whatever problems he's facing, other people are facing them, too and he is not alone. Tell him that he can get help, and that everything will be alright.

Suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem. Please get your friend the help he needs.

-Laura (17-f)

I'm 17/f and I don't even have my permit. Before you laugh and giggle in your computer chairs please understand that I would rather jump off of a building than drive a car. I've tried the whole empty parking lot, empty field, empty everything, but the second I start the car it's like I tense up. I hate it with a passion, but it's hard to watch my friends out and about with thier liscences (don't care if I spelled that wrong) and I'm still getting rides from my mom. I could have my own liscence right now if it weren't for the stupid panic attacks and the other people driving on the road. How do I get over this? Any one?

Thanks,
ScaredyCat

You just need to practice. I was terrified of driving when I first started out, too. But then, all my friends started driving and I started to feel more comfortable as time went on.

So, practice. Take it slow. Start out driving around your neighborhood, then gradually and slowly start driving on bigger streets.

Also, how do you feel about the radio? I know for me, it helped calm me down. If it helps, keep it on your favorite station, or make a CD of songs that will help calm you down. If it goes the other way and the radio makes you nervous (like it used to for my friend), then keep it off instead.

It's ok to be scared, driving is a new experience. Just work at it and you'll be a pro in no time :)

-Laura (17-f)

ok so....
15/f
So...um...my boyfriend and I have been hanging out a lot at his house and we're usually alone cuz his parents work and stuff. Lately he's been getting very....touchy. I mean, we've always kissed, but lately he's been going for my breasts and running his hands up my shirt and over my stomach and trying to get his hand down my pants. I really don't think I'm ready for that. I mean, I love him, a lot. But I don't think I'm ready for that. For him to finger me. Or give him a hj or bj, like he wants. How do you know you're ready for sex? But, actually, I guess mainly I'm concerned about, how do I get out of doing what I'm not ready to do, without him getting angry and/or dumping me? I mean, he has a bit of a temper, and he is very VERY inpatient, and he's gotten close to hitting me before. He'll raise a hand and then walk away, slam a few doors, kick some furniture and then come back like nothing happened. So, really, basically, how do I tell him no without getting hurt? I don't want to loose him, because I really really love him. But I'm just not ready for sex.
Sorry it's so long. Thanks for reading. Any help appreciated.
Chail

You know you're ready when you don't have any doubt, fears, or second thoughts. Obviously, like you said, you're not ready.

I think you should talk to you boyfriend and let him know that he's going too far. Explain to him that you're NOT ready for what he wants to do. Chances are, if he's a good boyfriend and really cares about you, he'll understand and he'll stop making you feel uncomfortable.

As far as the temper, make sure to stay calm. Don't force yourself to do something you're not ready for just because of your boyfriend's temper. And if he ever DOES lay even a HAND on you, tell somebody. Abuse is a serious thing, don't brush it off like it's nothing. And if he DOES, then you shouldn't put up with it anymore, because anybody who would hit a girl and force her to do things she doesn't want to isn't worth your time anyways.

-Laura (17-f)

http://c3.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/94/l_c270bb7d380f4913b4c1aa06083607be.jpg

please help?
like, the soft, misty effect in the photo?

I usually just mess with the color balance, contrast, etc. You can use Picnik or the photo editor oh Photobucket to get this affect.

-Laura (17-f)

Like many other people out there my boyfriend and I will be going away to separate colleges in different states about 5 hours apart from each other. We have a strong relationship and we're going to stay together and work through whatever problems this might bring. We're determined to make it work.

Any good songs for this situation?

If It Means A lot to You by A Day to Remember.
3000 Miles by Valencia.
Miserable at Best by Mayday Parade.
Hey There Delilah by Plain White T's.
So Obvious by Runner Runner.
Love Story by Taylor Swift (or the cover that I like better, by The Scene Aesthetic).
So Contagious by Acceptance.
Jasey Rae by All Time Low.
Secret Valentine by We the Kings.

If you want more, inbox me :)

-Laura (17-f)

I'm getting a treadmill in a few weeks, and I was just wondering, having never used one on a weekly basis, how much I should start of doing? And how much a week? Also, how long will I have to do before I see a change in my weight?

Thanks.

It depends on how in shape you are and how much weight you want to lose. But the most important thing is to start out slow. Gradually build up and starting running longer and harder as time goes on.

Maybe start out doing 3 days a week, 20 minutes a day. Then, do 4 days a week, 20 minutes a day. Then, do 4 days a week and on one day, do 30 minutes. Get what I mean? Build up, but don't push yourself TOO hard.

You also have to maintain a healthy diet, because running on the treadmill alone won't do much.

If you need any more help, let me know! :)

-Laura (17-f)

i have recently become an lacto-ovo vegitarian. its been a couple of months now. in the past couple of days, i get these dizzy spells that come and go, and i just feel kinda crappy. is this from lack of iron or another type of supplement? are there alternate foods besides meat so i can get my daily quantities? i would also appreciate any advice, or comments. thanks!

Hello :)

First off, kudos to you for becoming a Vegetarian. I was one for about a year and a half, until I got kind of sick.

My doctor explained to me that the number one problem with new Vegetarians, is maintaining a balanced diet. I failed to do so and it sounds like you have, too. You need to make sure that you keep getting all of the nutrients you need.

Do you take a daily vitamin? If not, start. Talk to your parents, go to the Pharmacy and find a daily vitamin.

But before you do that, see your doctor. You really should see your doctor if you're not feeling well, because it probably is from some sort of vitamin deficiency. For me, it was iron and I started taking special vitamins. So like I said, go see your doctor and explain to them what's going on. Be sure to let them know you recently became a Vegetarian, so that they know exactly what tests they should do (if they even need to do any).

After all of this, make sure to balance your diet. Make sure to get food from each food group each day. Since you don't eat meat, find alternatives. Here are a few good websites I found:

http://pediatrics.about.com/od/nutrition/a/06_iron_foods.htm

http://pediatrics.about.com/od/nutrition/a/06_protein_food.htm

http://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminB12.asp

Good luck and if you need any other help, let me know :)

-Laura (17-f)

how likely is it to get pregnant from pre cum...are the chances like pretty low, or is it about as likely as cum?

The chance of getting pregnant from cum and pre cum are the same.

-Laura (17-f)

heey , so i had sex yesturday and i am taking the morning after pill tomorrow if you take it 2 days after is there a good chance i am not pregnant anymore? i am not positive i am pregnant right now but i am taking it as a precaution.
thanks for the help!

Any time you have sex, there is a chance you will get pregnant. You took it 2 days after? I think that the effectiveness would be relatively lower, seeing as it is called the MORNING AFTER pill.

But, I know next to nothing about it and could be wrong.

-Laura (17-f)

So i have a boyfriend and i really like him a lot. We've been dating for almost 6 months now. How can i tell i am in love and it is not just another crush? Are there any signs? Because idk. How can i tell he really likes/loves me? Please give advise on the signs of falling in love.

When you're in love, you'll know it. Your heart will race when you see the other person, you'll think about them all the time, you'll want to be with them whenever possible, you'll miss them when they're gone (even if they just left), you won't even think about looking at other guys. The list goes on and on.

Now, I haven't ever personally been in love yet, so I could be totally wrong, but I know that when you are in love, you'll know and you won't have to ask about it on the Internet.

-Laura (17-f)

i have virtually small breast between an A/B cup.. i want the most cleavage i can get lol.. what do you think is the BEST push up bra out there..and links to wear i can buy it.

Everybody is different, and everybody has different preferences. I agree with the person below who suggested Victoria's Secret.

I also suggest Gilly Hick's, I have never seen so many bras in one place in my entire life. :P

-Laura (17-f)

Hey im 18/f and i got caught shoplifting at a shopko with my friend. The thing is though is i helped her take the blame even though i didnt shoplift, they left the room and she gave me some of her stuff and i thought being a good friend i would help her take the rap. They decided not to press charges/prosecute us and we didnt have to go to court or anything just pay a fine. Is this still on our records even though they didnt take any action, besides sending us a fee? I know this was really stupid of me, but at the time it seemed like the right thing to do was to help my friend. Thanks!

I don't think it's on your record if they didn't take any further action.

Next time, tell your friend "no" and avoid all of the unnecessary stress =/

-Laura (17-f)

ok i am 13 nd this guy i lyke is 14. me n him want to make out. ive kissed b4 i hve neva made out!! ik its dumb bt i want to make out wit him sum1 tell me how to!!!

Don't be nervous and don't think about it. If you think about it, you'll analyze every little detail and criticize every move you make.

Just go with the flow, like Jack said below. (Rhyming advice FTW!) But really, if you just take it slow and go with what he is doing, you'll be fine. I bet he's just as nervous as you! ;)

-Laura (17-f)

So, I'm thinking about some ideas for creating my own social website. I need opinions though based on other websites similar to my idea and was hoping that some people here could help me out so I don't have to sign up for the ones I don't use and become active on ones I no longer use.

Question of the day is:

What do you and don't you like about Facebook?
What can be improved on Facebook? How can Facebook improve that specific flaw (or, alternatively, can it NOT be improved for certain reasons) in your opinion?

Official Facebook users only please!

Thank you so much, Advicenators! :D

{ To answer my question about MySpace, please see:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=566118 }

I like that Facebook is organized and easy to use and really easy to get used to.

I don't like all the applications on Facebook. I like the main ones (Bumper Sticker, Notes, Video, Compare People), but I hate the small, meaningless ones (What Type of Underwear Should You Wear, etc.)

I think Facebook should allow you to have a profile song like Myspace, and you should be able to pick a profile color. I like that you don't have to fancy up the entire page though (even though that's one of the reasons I still like Myspace).

-Laura (17-f)

My breast are very big for my age im only 12 and i want them to be smaller how can i shrinck my breast without surgry or pills?

You can't make your breasts any smaller. But don't worry, you'll grow into them. You're young now, but you'll get comfortable with them as time goes on :)

-Laura (17-f)

I just moved into my new apartment and I'm really nervous to be alone! It's a stupid fear, I'm sure, but I'm having a hard time falling asleep now. Are there any ways to cope with nervousness? Can anybody say something to make me feel safer alone in my new apartment? I know I live in a good neighborhood but... :\ IDK!

Start by turning on all of your main lights and locking your doors (obviously).

Then, like a few columnists said below, keep busy. Watch T.V or listen to music to start (because the presence of noise will help ease your nerves).

Then gradually start trying other things, like reading a book or doing dishes. Like I said, start out with something noisy (at least, that helps me when I'm feeling nervous home alone.)

If you're starting to feel nervous at some point during the night, call a friend. Call a friend and talk to them until you start to feel better. This helps me a lot, too :)

Hope this helps!

-Laura (17-f)

I'm looking for a book called The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery. I think it was originally in French and actually called Le Petit Prince, but I'm not entirely sure about that.

Anyway, I heard something about it being the 60th birthday since the book was written and/or released and I remember fond memories of it. I want to find a copy and read it again. What store would have it or would I need to get it online somewhere?

The book was originally French and was, indeed, called Le Petit Prince. It's an amazing book.

As far as where to get it goes, have you tried your local bookstores? I'd assume you could find it at a Border's or Barnes & Nobles.

If you can't find it in store, try Amazon.com

-Laura (17-f)

i've been with my bf for three years. and he was just told that he has to move across the country. and we both don't believe in long distance relationships.

what are some good songs that go well for this situation?

Miserable at Best by Mayday Parade.
One Man Drinking Games by Mayday Parade.
Jasey Rae by All Time Low.
A Lonely September by Plain White T's.
All Again for You by We the Kings.

Here are some more sad songs you might like:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691

-Laura (17-f)

I have no idea what to wear. I have the shirt (black + white striped tank topbut i dont kno what to wear for the rest. Please help! put any thing down.

Go with the tank top. Warped Tour is hot and sweaty, and you'll be hot if you wear anything else.

I agree with Christina- wear Bermuda shorts or something.

DON'T WEAR FLIP FLOPS. I made that mistake last year, and ended up getting my shoes broken and one lost. Luckily, I ended up finding it later, but it's a chance I'm not taking if I go to Warped Tour this year.

Have fun!

-Laura (17-f)

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