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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Anyone know any websites I can go to to watch videos of like people doing double spins? I tried to google it but it didn't help me. Thanks!

This is so obvious.

www.youtube.com

Hey im a teenager and I need to save up for a big trip like 7000 dollars. Would I look really bad if I got a part=time job for like six or seven months just to save up for the trip? Or would that be too shallow?

I think it's a great idea. =) It can teach repsonsibility & maturity.

I love my cat a lot. I wouldn't give her up for the world.. she's everything to me, but she sheds so much that there are hairs everywhere!!! On my bed, my clothes; any furniture at all, it's there. I do comb her several times a day but it does not help at all. Also, she hates baths! Last time I tried bathing her she scratched me all over and made a mess. I know most cats hate water but my point out of that was I don't know how to control her shedding! I also know it's summer soon, so shedding will happen no matter what But how can I control a lot of it?? It's just so much, it takes washing my furniture every day just to make my stuff look decent.

Please help!! Thanks

Haha, you don't need to wash your furniture. Just get a lint brush. That'll help. That way you don't need to wash your things everyday. Also, cats are always gonna shed. I doubt there's anything you can do to stop it.

Now, my best guy friend and I have something of a thing for each other. So we talk on the phone and stuff. But sometimes I'll be like, hey, I miss you [we're on break, so I went outta town] and he'll say something like 'yeah'. Other times, he'll say I miss you too. Just things like that.
My question is, why would he say it sometimes, and other times, just 'yeah'?
This tends to happen whenever I say anything like that. Does it mean he doesn't feel the same way?
Is it a guy thing? Or...?
Thanks!

Maybe he's confused. But I'd say it's a guy thing.

I'm a freshman in highschool, and the kid I currently have a crush on is a sophomore. I have seen him multiple times in school, and we stare into eachothers eyes when we pass eachother in the hallway. Also I was chilling at starbucks with some friends and I saw him chilling with his friends (which were nistly girls, so i couldn't really approach him), every time he passed me we'd look at eachother, but he never seems to smile. I've never had a boyfriend/first kiss before, but only because I turned all the guys down, but this kid is actually in my league. All I want is to become friends with him, but I have no idea how. We don't have any classes together, but I do know his name from my yearbook. I was thinking about writing a little note that says something like"
hey, you're kinda cute.
IM me at blahblahblah
If anyone has any ideas, please respond. Oh and can you girls ask your guy friends and your boyfriends and tell me what they say?
I'd REALLY appreciate it! k thanks!
xo

Just say hi to him or smile at him. You guys already make eye contact, so that's good. Just say hi & strike a conversation with him. =) Or add him on MySpace.

so i have this fried and she has a boyfriend joey. and he is head over heals for her but he pretty much controls her life. he wont let her do anything. he even wont let her hang out with me. ive told her that he is insane and she said that she would break up with him or talk to him but i dont think she has even talked to him. i really dont know what i should do. should i just stop talking to her. and she has blown me off multiple times to hang out with him.

I would talk to your friend about it. Guys who are controlling & overprotective can get violent & whatever if you don't do what they say. Warn your friend. And still be friends with her. Because if he does get this way, you might be the only person she'll be able to go to.

Not really sure where this goes, but does anyone know any good sites that have good quotes for a profile or an away message? I don't want quotes about being in love or a broken heart, more like lyrics, movie quotes, friendship quotes, funny quotes, stuff like that. Thanks.

I used wittyprofiles.com for mine. They're cute & they've got a lot of quotes. =) Also, go on www.xanga.com & click Blogrings. Type in QUOTES, and they'll have a ton of blogrings/groups that have users that have quotes. =)

my ex boyfriend adn i were really close. i lived with him wehn i got kicked out adn everything. it was great. we had fights but we got over them. now theres a restraining order and its all screwed up. he would go to jail if he was caught talking to me. and he does if i call him. but he complains the whole time. we argue but talk. i dont know. its hard to explain. i love him adn he says he loves me, but in the past he has hurt me very badly. i want to get over him. he has a new gf adn im trying to find someone. but they dont seem to compare to him. i miss him. he told me on the phone tonight that i need to prove he won't get into trouble, how do i do that. adn how will he know. then in 3 or 4 months we can see where it goes. what the hell. should i try to be with him or not

I don't think you should be with him. I mean, yes he was probably your first love, & it's gonna seem like no one else is good enough or compares to him, but that's not the case. There are plenty of other guys out there for you who won't hurt you. There's a restraining order for a reason. Find yourself a good boyfriend.

okay i have this friend, lets call her.. jenny. i've known jenny all this schoolyear and we've been okay friends i guess. but we get into quarrels kinda often. we're in the same club, its kinda like a broadway club and our play is this week so we see each other kinda often outside like school classes. anyways like she misses alot of practices.. like she missed one this saturday which was our dress rehearsal for a flippin birthday party for her little sister. im suprised they didnt kick her out of the club.. well whatever. like sometimes she'd come like about 30 mins late because she was getting a dinner with her mom. amyways like today she got mad at me because i said i was buying tickets for the show today for the rest of my family. and then she said the tickets were due on the 10th which was like last saturday which i knew totally was false. anyways she acted like she was right.. its hard to prove something is right when it is. so i showed her the paper later and she said she thought i was talking about something else. yeah right. i didnt point this out though cause it was during class and i didnt wanna make a big scene or whatever. and we played battleship too and i won even though all her ships were twisted into weird angles and stuff.. like not diagonal, but like 2 would go one way and 1 would go like up or down. all mine werent like that except for one. anyways she almost won then it turned around because i had a strategy.. and apparently she didnt see that i'd sunk a ship! ugh she was just about to win when i pointed this out to her.. like i called out the numbers in a checkerboard pattern and if she didnt do anything diagonally, it wouldnt make sense.. i cant really explain though about that, use your imagination. ughhhh. and then later like today like before i borrowed a dollar from her to get a snack in the club we're in, because i didnt have money. i think that was like last week so i forgot and today she suddenly brought it up when i borrowed another dollar from a friend so i could get a snack. i mean what the heck? she said it was rude for me not to give it to her and said somethign along the lines that i couldnt buy anything without paying her back. i said i was hungry and i'd pay her back and she got all mad at me. ugh some girls. but she didnt have a dollar either for a snack and was all like "you dont really need one"? and im like "but i want it and thats my business". if i gave the dollar to her she woulda gotten a snack too, which doesnt make sense. how should i handle the situation tomorrow?

1. act like nothing happened to piss her off and just give her the dollar, nothin to it
2. be pissed about it?

usually after it seems like its a mini fight i dunno how to act.. i mean i dont forget things easily so then its still kinda in my mind ya know? and alot of times she says im being too competitive with her. like once i sold lollipops at school for that broadway show.. so it could raise money. and then the next day she went telling everyone i was a scam because its worth 75 cents and i sold them for a dollar unless they wanted to buy it for 75 cents, or 3 quaters (since i didnt have a quater to give back to the kids paying a dollar). or something along the lines of that.. she sold hers.. i was okay but it was like she was trying to get a bigger business. 25 cents didnt kill anybody. its called a "profit" since selling those lollipops are kinda hard.. because like tons of kids mall you in the hallway and buy like from 5-10 of them, which can make you late for your next class often. the fundraiser stopped tho.. and i never sold my 'pops on the same day she did.. but that still pissed me off that like she was trying to make a bigger business. its for the same freakin cause. and like she made me feel super guilty for getting that 25 cents extra.. but most people i even said it was 75 cents and they didnt want a quarter back!!!! i swear i dont forget things like that.. im not that type of girl.. i dunno if i'll be her best friend. most of my friends i hardly get into fights with.. some i've known since like first grade and we've only been in like what? 1 or no fights? thats how friendships supposed to be. not saying i wanna end any friendships.. but ugh.. she can be pretty annoying at times. advicenators, help!

Just give her the dollar you owe her, and act like nothing happened. And just ignore her from now on. If she annoys you, then don't be friends with her. You should enjoy your friendships & if you're not, then something's obviously not right.

Does anyone know any good sites that have sporty swimsuits like either surf shorts or tankinis? im not a real frilly person or like extremely fashionable I want something sporty please! I really like long board shorts.

Pac Sun & Zumies have those types of bikinis.

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They've been doing it for nearly a year, saying crap about my favourite bands.

It used to be more about that it hurt, you know it's like they're striking your heart, because music is my soul. The air that I breathe.

But I just took a step back and said "Okay, i'm the one that gets to listen to music in my opinion which is the best, and they are missing out not me." which made me feel a little bit better.

Now it's more annoying how they basically stalk me and say comments about the music I listen to. And when I 'beat them' they just come back with stupid comebacks not worth fighting and then they scream they won.

Once as a comeback I said crap about their favourite music but then they ordered people to try and beat me up. I've told the teachers they say they'll "talk" but never do and I've told my parents who tell me to get over it, it's just a few comments about music and to ignore them. The principal said I bring it on myself (I don't know how I bring it on myself, before you ask) and yeah everyone I should tell I already have and they've done nothing.

Everyone has their own opinion about music. You can't force someone to like your favorite music, and you can't force them not to talk shit about it. If your music sucks to them, then there is no changing their mind. Don't tell me "well they've probably never heard it!" because chances are, they have & they just didn't like it. Sure, you might not like one song by an artist, but you might like another, but they're ignorant & too stuck in their opinion to decide. If they don't like your music, then suck it up & deal. They don't have to like your music, and you don't have to like their's. Simple.

how long do you think it would take to lose about 9-10 pounds,is it possible to do it by may 7th? if it is then how much would you have to lose every week or every2 weeks?

thnx in advanced!

It's possible. Just start eating healthy. Stay away from junk food & sodas. Anything high in sugar is basically off limits. Drink lots of water [8 glasses a day] & 4 glasses of low-fat milk a day, and just exercise for about 30 minutes everyday. Never exercise or eat before bed though.

OKAY so the deal is, i have the LG chocolate, can anyone PLEASE PLEASE tell me the steps on how i can PUT MUSIC on it? PLEASE and thanks, like ALL the steps in order so i can do it, im having a lot of trouble. thanks again.

Well, if you have the special USB cord for the mp3 player part of the phone, then just plug that into your phone & into your computer. Then go into your library & get the music you want, then click Synchronize. If that doesn't work, then I'd ask someone that works at the store that you bought it from.

my friend needs her password for aim since she forgot it and when she made the screenname she typed in a random email and birthday so it can't get sent to her. is there a website that lets you find out passwords to aim sns because my friend needs to get online badly and doesn't want to make a new screen name????

Does she even know the email address she sent it to? I doubt you can type in some random email address because you have to have a VALID email address. Which means it works, and it's yours. So basically, I doubt she'll be able to get her password back. That's why I save my password, and make all of my passwords the same just in case I forget. But I never do since it's all the same. Anyways, if she has any old screenname's she can used, I'd advise her to use those until she can either remember her password, or until she stops being lazy & makes a new sn.

ok so i first bled when i was first fingered back in november. and then i bled when i had sex in february. and i've just been fingered again last week and again today and i'm bleeding again.
is this possible to happen or is there something not right?

thankss

It's possible. Your hymen [cherry] might not have been broken all the way, so it's possible to bleed. If you keep bleeding whenever you have sex, I'd say there was a problem, and then I'd get it checked out. But for now, don't worry about it.

So there's this guy. i kinda like him (just a tiny bit) and im friends with him. ive been flirting he's been flirting back. and how can i get him to see me as more than just "this is my friend"- acctual quote

First off, you can't make anyone like you. He'll like you if he wants to like you, and if he doesn't, that's cool too. So basically, liking you is totally up to him & there's nothing you can do to MAKE him like you. He doesn't really have to. Just remember that. But anyways:

Well, you flirt with him. So that's already out of the way. Ask him to see a movie, or maybe go to the mall with you. And just hang out there. And if things go well, then go from there.

On rhapsody is there any way to delete all the songs in my library at the same time?

Highlight them all, and press the delete button.

I normally just shave downwards when I shave down there, when I shave up and down I usually get alot of red bumps. Well, my boyfriend and I just started having fun with stuff, so I don't want all those little hairs/stubble thats left over. Any tips on how I can get a good close shave, or what other products I should tyr out?

You could always use your old razor, but it's better to use a new one everytime, that way it can get everything. Also, use tons of shave gel & then go over it with that first. Then use soap after for extra smoothness. And then when you're done, use some mositurizers & lotion. =)

good for you or not?

I'd say it's alright for you.

So this whole year has been nothing but trouble for me and this one particular boy. He finally broke up with his girlfriend and then after that we were basically together and everyone thought it was so cute...then he started getting confused and liked this other girl, but i got rid of her..haha...then MY FRIEND went behind my back and told him i didnt have feelings for him anymore!! Lets just say we arent friends anymore...he was "talking" to her for like 2 weeks and then he ended it with her and sort of came back to me...i dont know if he likes me..but that same friend called me and was like i think he likes you...but i dont know what to think about this...he just asked me to prom and im super excited...does he like me again?

Sounds like he does. I'd tell him how you feel, and then tell him that your friend was lying to him when she said that you didn't have feelings for him anymore.

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