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my friend
so i have this fried and she has a boyfriend joey. and he is head over heals for her but he pretty much controls her life. he wont let her do anything. he even wont let her hang out with me. ive told her that he is insane and she said that she would break up with him or talk to him but i dont think she has even talked to him. i really dont know what i should do. should i just stop talking to her. and she has blown me off multiple times to hang out with him.
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Watch out. I just had to help my friend through a really rough time because of a similar situation. She ended up stabbing her boyfriend twice.
Pretty much, it sounds like the beginnings of an abusive relationship. My friend's started off with the same sort of thing; they'd blow off school to go hang out, she didn't hang out with friends without him, etc. Eventually it got to the point where she failed out of university because he wouldn't let her leave the apartment, and she wasn't even allowed to talk to anyone on MSN or the phone. He got physically violent. The worst part of all this was not being there for her, because I didn't know what was happening.
If I'd seen the warning signs, though, I could have helped. I know she won't listen to you now, but make sure you stay in contact. If things start getting worse, tell her about your concerns again. Just don't let her go through things alone.
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I would talk to your friend about it. Guys who are controlling & overprotective can get violent & whatever if you don't do what they say. Warn your friend. And still be friends with her. Because if he does get this way, you might be the only person she'll be able to go to.
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It sounds like to me that your friends boyfriend is overprotective and controlling. You need to look into this, and tell your friend to watch out because if he is overprotective of her, he could get violent if she doesn't doesn't do the things he says. If it is that way, (like is he hitting her?, telling her not to wear this ,and do that) then your friend needs to get out of this relationship. A guy who is controlling like that can get abusive, and that's not healthy for your friend.She needs to get out of this relationship, quickly. Just tell her to break it to him gently, that it's not working out, and be careful if he does get violent, call the closest adult or somebody for help. If you want, you can be there with her. Just like be outside or something while they're talking, and if things get violent call the cops.That's the best advice I can give to you for your friend, hope this helps. xoxo Rosie
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my friend gets llike that exept she decides to obsess over the boy. what i would do is talk to her. call her up or sit down face to face and say "Joey is really sweet,, and im so happy for you that he is all gah-gah over you, but he needs to share you because i dont want to lose you to him. he needs to understand that we need girl time!"
or somthing along those lines it worked for me!
xo
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