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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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so tell me, theres this boy in my school, we don't ever talk, but when i see him he just looks at me. like yesterday we were both after school and he walked past me and was looking at me up and down and came really close to me. he's also in my lunch and when he's in the room he looks at me alot, and when i walk past him in this other room he just looks at me again. so what does this mean? i mean like i'm really confused? he doesn't talk to me so idkk.

He likes you. =)

ok what does fingering mean??? I no its gross or sumthing I just see people using all the time on here!! so I need to no! Ive never done it EWWW but Im always curious about terms I don't no and I don't want to say sumthing about fingering to someone because that wud be really embarrassing!! (ive said stuff like that b4) I no its gross but please tell me!!

It's when a guy/girl sticks their fingers in another girls vagina & moves them around to get her off.

i want a new style i dress very plain i want a new style to be in style ya know. I wear jeans and hoodies almost everyday and i want to go spring shopping tommorow so if anyone had any ideas of where to shop or a site to see new styles that would help a whole lot! Thanks

Go to Hollister or American Eagle. =) They have cute stuff there.

what does getting and giving head mean?

A guy/girl can both get head. Head for a girl is getting her vagina licked. And a head for a guy is getting his penis sucked.

Giving head is performing those on a guy/girl.

I need to know how to be more open at school. or any other social place.

Just say hi to people. =)

How not to worry about things?

Just don't let it get to you & remind yourself that everything's gonna be okay. That's how I think of things when I start to worry.

im doing a report for school and i cant find this anywhere-- what steps did bill clinton take to become president? go google please, i tried and couldnt find anything. thxx.

Did you search for the biography of him?

me and my best friend are really close, but im starting to doubt our friendship, i mean she can be pretty retarted at times and i wish she could be a little bit more serious when im in pain(emotional)or upset or really really excited!I mean I love her(bff love)but i dont know what to do!

should i dump her or ask her to be a bit more serious?

Talk to her about it. She doesn't know you feel this way, so she's gonna keep doing it.

13/f theres this guy i like and he recently got a girlfriend...who i am aqaintences with. well i really really like the guy and i know that he wont ever like me and they already made out. how can i get over the guy with out trying to like someone else or think of all his flaws..i already tried.

Well, do somethings to keep your mind off of it. Play soccer, or draw. But like I've always said: Time heals everything.

whats that song called that goes "take it back back all the way back" by keak da sneak?

You could've just used google.

So basically,for the past 2 years i've LITERALLY BEEN INVISIBLE. to like everyone at school. So next year, i want to make a name. i was to be fun,crazy,and wild. So to get out there,i was thinking of trying out for Drama, Cheerleading, and finally Vollyball. and takeing as much electives i can get. But the thing is,i don't know how to cheer lead,it looks wicked fun though :o). im really short and light,so you know,i could be a flyer. but seriously,i dont people to hate me because i cheerlead,that stupid sterotype. anyways, is it easy to learn how? and is this a good idea? thankss.

I think it's a good idea to try new things, but not for the reasons you're doing it. Doing it because you think it's gonna make you popular & give you friends is stupid. Do it because you like it, it sounds fun & it's something you really wanna do.

But, do it. Trying new things is fun.

you know when you straighten your hair and when you get it wet it's not straight anymore? is that the same thing with blowdrying?

It does that to me, so I guess so.

15/f

I kinda like my best firend. He is seriously the most amazing guy I;ve ever met. And he's kind of confused lately. He has a girlfriend but he doesn't know if he wants to stay with her or go out with me. And I feel really bad cuz he told his girlfriend this and she is obviously mad. But he still doesn't know. And I don't want to get my hopes up. How do I do that?

If you like him, wait until things with him & his girlfriend are done. Getting in the middle of their relationship can cause problems, and it already did, because now she's pissed.

Back off for a bit until they're done.

Hi ! I'm 13 and I want to know...can I divoirce my parents or something god I just want to block them out of my life all together tips advice or suggestions ?

You can't divorce your parents until a certain age, but you can stay with another family member for a while.

Divorcing your parents is called emancipation.

Yea, my favorite band is Tool, but I'm looking for some other similar bands besides A Perfect Circle and Smashing Pumpkins. My favorite songs are Stinkfist, Pushit, 46 & 2, Vicarious, Jerk-Off (Live), Eulogy, etc.

And similar bands or songs would be greatly appreciated.

I use this site. And this is where I find most of the music I listen to. Along from Fuse.

www.musicmademe.com

Go there, type in your favorite band, and it'll give you lyrics, albums & bands that are similar to them that you might enjoy.

**I hit my boyfriend yesterday, i didnt mean to hit him that hard. I slapped him in the face really hard, left a mark, plus it was really loud.
**I did it out of anger and surprise, we've been going out forever, but it really was stupid of me to overreact that way.
**He called me fat- kinda, he used the word "plump" which i hate.

**So, I was really pissed for a while and after school I realized that he was too. Instead of stopping where we usually do to hang out, he sped up kinda walking in front of me and didnt hold my hand. Then he looked back and saw that i was hur and was all sweet and comforting, but somehow I was still mad him.

**On the phone, he said that he was only joking and that I took him too seriously. I said I was sorry today.

**I've been in a really bad abusive realtionship before and its nothing like the way I treat my boyfriend, sometimes he'll say "You're abusive" and it really makes me mad because Im weaker and hardly ever hit him. My ex used to punch, kick, cut, and rape me, so slapping my boyfriend a few times when he's being a jerk doesnt phase me as abuse.

Today: He was working and its my little bros 6th bday. I was really busy when he called on his break to talk to me, he could tell I was busy, it was loud and there was a lot of commotion so he was like "you sound busy." and I told him I was and had to go he said "OK" but sounded kinda mad about it. So iwas like bye, Ilove you, but all I heard was a click. I know he didnt hear me say Bye and I love you or he would have responded. But he didnt say bye or I love you to me like he ALWAYS does.

***So, finally, here's my question: How do I get out of this "abusive" cycle, and is it really abusive? Do you think he's still mad at me, he's the best thing ive ever had and i never want to lose or hurt him.

I don't think he's the one that's abusive. I think it's you. You've been abused so much by your ex boyfriends, that you picked up from it, and you're not even phased by it. And you don't see it as abuse. It is. You need to stop it, and learn to control yourself. If you keep hitting your boyfriend, he's not gonna stick around for long.

Just talk to him about it & let him know that you're sorry for what you did. And that it'll never happen again. And next time you feel like you're gonna hit him, just walk away until you calm down.

ok so im basically like on that last day of my period
but
yesterday i changed my pad before i went to sleep and i woke up late so i forgot to change my pad... then in the middle of the day (like 1 ish) it started smelling so afterschool i went o my frined but all she had was a pantliner but i took it

my ? is am i gunna get like tss or something cause the pad was on for a long time or is it only w/tampons?

TSS is only with tampons. Haha, you've got nothing to worry about.

So.. i took about 6 or 7 asprin..that were 500mg each. Is that bad? Could that hurt me? And ever since then, my stomach has been hurting pretty bad every time i eat something..or even when i don't. It was Saturday night and it still does this. It could just be because i've been stressed out but i'm not sure..

It'd take a lot to kill you. Like, more than 40. But, I would even suggest take any less than that either. Taking more than the recommended dose can kill you, or make you really, really sick. It's bad if you don't take it for the reason you're supposed to, and if you don't take the doses you're supposed to.

Next time, just stick to one or two. I've overdosed so much if I don't take like 8 pills at a time, I get really sick. So, you don't wanna be like me. Trust me, it sucks to be yelled at everytime I take that much. I tried to explain it to my mom but she won't listen to me.

I have been having sex with a guy for about 5 months now that I have been really good friends with for years. I love him very much. I also lost my virginity to him. He is 21 and I just turned 18. He doesnt want a relationship but he hasnt exactly been acting like a friend to me either. I do everything I can for him, but he wont go anywhere with me.... just his apartment when no one else is there. He has had less and less contact with me lately, and acts like he cares, but my best friends (who are friends with him too) tell me he is using me and its a waste of my time and to stop talking to him totally. I dont know what to do and how to completely stop talking to him if thats what I should do. It hurts so much. When I try not to talk to him, I end up talking to him within a matter of days. But he doesnt call, we barely see eachother, we just text all the time cept weekends because then hes out with his friends getting trashed and doing drugs. I am going over to his apartment tomorrow to talk to him and hes making me dinner (like he always does). What do I do?

He just wants to be your fuck buddy. Cut him loose & find someone who truly cares about you. Because your friends are right. He's just using you for sex & he doesn't give a damn about you.

My worst fear EVER is throwing up. I can't listen to it or see someone throw up, or throw up myself without crying. And whenever someone feels sick I avoid them. My brother has been in the bathroom throwing up for about a half hour now and I locked myself in my room and started crying my eyes out. I am 13! I thought if you face your fears you can get over them, but when I throw up myself and face it, it doesn't help, just makes me scared I'll throw up again and I refuse to eat for the rest of the day.

I don't like it either. I'd see a doctor.

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