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stupid me
I have been having sex with a guy for about 5 months now that I have been really good friends with for years. I love him very much. I also lost my virginity to him. He is 21 and I just turned 18. He doesnt want a relationship but he hasnt exactly been acting like a friend to me either. I do everything I can for him, but he wont go anywhere with me.... just his apartment when no one else is there. He has had less and less contact with me lately, and acts like he cares, but my best friends (who are friends with him too) tell me he is using me and its a waste of my time and to stop talking to him totally. I dont know what to do and how to completely stop talking to him if thats what I should do. It hurts so much. When I try not to talk to him, I end up talking to him within a matter of days. But he doesnt call, we barely see eachother, we just text all the time cept weekends because then hes out with his friends getting trashed and doing drugs. I am going over to his apartment tomorrow to talk to him and hes making me dinner (like he always does). What do I do?
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He just wants to be your fuck buddy. Cut him loose & find someone who truly cares about you. Because your friends are right. He's just using you for sex & he doesn't give a damn about you.
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It sounds like this guy just wants sex with no strings attatched, and your doing that for him. If you don't mind that, than its okay, but if it hurts you, than you need to get out of this toxic relationship.
When you see him, talk to him. Ask what he wants, and tell him what you want. Tell him you don't like being used for sex, and if thats all he want's, you can't be there for him. If you continue this, it will just keep hurting you. Stand up for yourself.
Good luck!
-Abby
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You love him? , are you sure, because it sounds like to me that he's not treating you right. The best thing I can tell you, is to stop all communication with him. All this guy seems to want is to hook-up and he goes to you because he knows you'll give it to him. Your're friends are telling you right,you're just wasting your time. You deserve someone better, and he doesn't deserve a good person like you. I know you may be tempted to talk to him, but try not talking to him, stay busy go out with a bunch of your friends, have a girls night out.Either Cancel the dinner with him tommorow, and just call him, and tell him in your best words,that you don't want to see him anymore, and that yall are not going anywhere. Or you could talk with him and ask: are we going anywhere, are we going to have a relationship? do whatever you feel, but these are my 2 best options. you deserve better. sorry so long. hope this helps.
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just tell him
that you dont want to comtinue with this
because its not getting anywhere
if he wants to still have sex, tell him he has the option to be friends that talk and have fun or just cut off the communcation
but tomorrow during dinner
just tell him that you love him and dont want anything to happen
hope i helped !!
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