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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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OK, My friend well she is not really my friend but she is more like a person i talk to once in while and she is fun to talk to. Well she got raped, and know one knows if she is ok. I jus do not know what to say or think, every time i think about it i start to cry .. I can't call her or anything b/c i do not know her number. I just pray she is alright it's been like 4 days or so. Please someone if you ever knew a friend that this happened to tell what i am supposed to say her or how i know if she is ok.

Find out her number or her address from someone. She needs to see a counselor & a doctor asap. And tell her you're really sorry. And if she knows who the guy is, she can sue him. =/

Sorry about your friend, that sucks a ton.

14/f

I usually just wear band shirts and jeans...studded belt or checkers. i have black hair but its natuarally dirty blond...

So i want to wear more stylish clothes...like hottopic or almost anything except for holister or abercrombie. i like american eagle and stuff too. i just dont know what to wear that would go well with my boddy type...any advice?

Just keep shopping at Hot Topic. They always have cute things there. Try wearing some of the other tee shirts they sell there instead of band tees. Or buy a new hoodie. If you want, get some accessories like hairbows, or earrings & pearls. And wear flats & skinny jeans. Anything is cute there. And as for American Eagle, I get the shirts & sometimes the pants. =)

what type of perfumes like are the type that smell good and stay on longer then others
and what are some just good smelling perfumes??
also, what deoderente should i use that stops sweat stains, because i get them alot in school in the summer and its gross.
xoxo

I use the body sprays from Victoria's Secret. They all smell really good, and last really long. Usually all day. =)

As for deoderant, I've liked Secret, Dove & Degree.

Last month was the time that i had my first real period. the month before it was just brown. But last month i used a tampon although it was my 1st period. I only left it in for a couple hours. I havnt had my period again. I was suppose to have it about 2 weeks ago. I have this discharge like stuff that reminds me of jello because its all mushy and stuff, but its clear and oderless. Could this be a sign of anything? Why havnt i started and is there something wrong? is it safe to use tampons?

Discharge is usually a sign that your period is about to come again. There's nothing wrong though. It's completely normal. Since you just got your period, it's gonna be irregular for the first couple of years, so it won't come every month. But when you get older, it'll start regulating itself, so no need to worry. You're normal! And yeah, it's safe. =) But wear the light/medium ones because your period won't be that heavy since you're just getting it. Also, don't wear it for longer than a few hours because you could get TSS. And don't wear it when you're not menstrual because you could get TSS from that too.

hi.. so i'm 16/f.. 5'5" and i weigh like 103 pounds.. i know its not overweight or anything but do you think it would be healthy to loose like 8 pounds.. because i don't like how i look in a bathing suit and i wanna be skinnier...

You're really thin as it is. So I suggest you gain that 8-10 lbs. Losing it would endanger your health.

I've posted music questions before, and only got like, one or responses on them, so please, can i get a lot of replies?

i LOVE music, but it seems like im always listening to the same stuff. i hate rap, but heres some songs i like, so can you guys name some good songs?

tears don't fall-bullet for my valentine
calling all cars-senses fail
girlfriend-avril lavigne
only one-yellowcard
smile in your sleep-silverstein
& other bands like, rise against, +44, etc. but i only know a couple songs by each band.
so please?!!?

My MySpace [which I'm pretty sure is NOT private] has a list of artists that I listen to. I'd list them, but there are so many. And they're mainly rock. Every arist I listen to is actually pretty decent, and I listen to some of the artists you listed.

www.myspace.com/psshh_stfu

If my MySpace is indeed private, I apologize. To add me, my last name is curbstomp.

would you say its slutty for a 15 yr old girl to be regularly hooking up with a 19 yr old guy ... but they have no interest in getting in a relationship with one another?

No, but I would say it's extremely illegal since he's over the age of 18, and you're a minor.

Hello fellow Advicenators! I am getting really annoyed by the smallness of my breasts. I do not look good in several shirts becauase of the fact they are so small. I am only a 30A, and I am 15 years old. I have tried pushup bras, and those bras with the liquid stuff in them. Nothing makes them at least look bigger. Are there any excercises I can do to make them bigger? Any foods? I know that you mostly get breasts when you gain weight, but I tried that and still nothing!

Thanks in advance!

You're only 15, and you still have plenty of time to grow, so don't rush it. But I'd say just keep doing what you're doing, even if it doesn't work. Your efforts will pay off eventually.

this doesnt ahve much to do with sex but some what i want to get a piercing down there. ANd i wanted to know if it hurts? And is it any use? would i be wasting my time trying to get it. And how much does it cost and where do you go a tatto and piercing palor? What do you say yeah i want my crotch piered? Is there any way you could get it being 17? Thankss --

Most tattoo/piercing parlors will not pierce anyone under age 16 unless they have a parent there to consent it. I wanted my marilyn done, and even though I'm 16, I'd still need my birth certificate, my social security guard, and a school/valid id. Since I have no valid ID, I would've had to use my school ID.

Usually, piercings run from about $35 or higher. It depends on the piercing, and the ring that you choose. I think it would hurt since that is a gentle place on your body, and I don't recommend it. My friend got hers done and she now cannot wear lace panties because the lace gets caught in the ring & pulls, and she said it hurts horribly. I think it'd be a waste of time. And yeah, you basically tell them you want your vagina pierced. Also, I'd go to the parlor before hand to ask them questions about it [your age], because they're much more experienced than I am.

Also, make sure you don't get pierced somewhere dirty. Make sure they open everything in front of you, & they let you know the procedure [what they're gonna do, and use] etc; If they don't do that, then get out of there because most likely they're dirty & the chances of you getting an infection are high. =) Just be safe, & don't worry.

my doctor says im underweight on charts and really overweight. 13/f 5'4 110 . my stomach is just fat. i do not look fat at all with clothes on but in a swimsuit or nothing over my stomach its just fat. he says to cal up and just to exercise. i eat alot well closer to normal. i run. my 2 bffs agree whats wrong so its not just me.
what exercises do i do?
im really confused im really underweight?
with a fat stomach and obese?
i dont wana be anorexic i just want a flat stomach mines plain fat and sick?
is there something wrong with mee?

Your doctor is right about you being underweight, but for him to call you overweight is idiotic. You are in no way overweight. If you were overweight, you'd weigh a lot, and 110 lbs isn't that.

Just drink lots of water [8 glasses a day] and do some crunches. You should be fine.

in november, we had an incident in my family where my dad beat my mom and tried to choke her. ever since then my parents have never acted the same. now i have these dreams that my mom kills my dad and that they stab each other and all of this. what should i do? 6 months later, it wont go away. should i get help? what do i do.

Wow, I'm sorry that you had to witness that. I would talk to your mom about it so she can get you some help.

hey, well i really like avril lavigne and ashlee simpson. can anyone give me anymore good "rocker" girl music?

Here are some bands/artists that are song by girls with rock flavor:

- Paramore.
- Evanscence.
- Aly & AJ.
- Flyleaf.
- Meg & Dia.
- The Sounds.
- The Hush Sound.
- Pink.

Try them. They're really good. =)

does having
-oral sex
-butt sex
-telephone sex
count as loosing your virginity?
just wondering..

None of those count as loosing your virginity. The only way to loose your virginity is if a penis enters your vagina. If it doesn't, you're a virgin. So, no. Phone sex/oral sex/anal sex do not count as loosing your virginity.

And I don't recommend to have anal sex. It hurts a ton. I've never tried it, but I've heard from sexually active friends that it hurts so bad, and that they'd never do it again. So, it made me realize I'm never having anal. Haha.

okay so here goes nothing:

there is this kid who i used to be friends with (im 13/f and hes 13/m) and all of a sudden he follows me to all of my classes and like stands really close to me. and i know this sounds bad but i CANNOT stand his voice. it is whispery and lisp and just really well...you know. its so embarassing to be seen with him because he makes it seem like he likes me and i hateeeee him. what should i do???? i hate how he follows me all the time and talks to me! i always stick with my friends and just try to stay away from him but he always finds me!

He probably doesn't have a lot of friends, and doesn't know how you feel. And if he did know, that'd suck. I feel bad for him. He probably has like no friends & the person he thinks is his friend hates him.

But, tell him how you feel no matter how bad you're gonna hurt him.

I never wanna prank call again I get so paranoid. Like today during lunch, my friend prank called my boyfriend and like started asking him if he was going out today and stuff but I think the joke got out of hand and like she kept on calling and he txted me asking if it was me and like I really don't want him to be mad please give me advice I won't prank call anymore

Tell him that you're friend did it, and you didn't even realize it until he texted you. He shouldn't be too upset.

Prank calling is fun when you don't know the person you're pranking, so you might wanna try that next time you decide to prank.

ok so i live in michigan right now. but im planning to move away from this gay state when i graduate!
i live in like the middle of nowhere with places that are atleast 15 minutes away by car. and i really rather live in a place where i can walk to things like stores.

i do plan on going to a college but i dont know which one yet.
ok so what im asking is does anyone know any good city areas to live which arnt too expensive and ones that are actually getting somewhere?

like i would love to live in new york. but i heard it was realllly expensive to live there. is that true?

It depends on what part of New York you're trying to live in. If you're gonna live NYC, then it will be expensive, but like I said, it depends what part of the state, or city you're living in. Where I live isn't too bad, but I don't live in NYC. I live in Rochester. It's this city near lake Ontario, but the school's here aren't too bad. =)

Ok, I'll start off by saying I'm in college and I've only really had one real relationship in college that lasted about 6 months. There's this girl across the room in class that I think keeps looking at me and I think is really cute and nice, but we never seem to make eye contact (we have a couple times though). She doesn't have facebook or myspace, so I cant tell if she has a boyfriend or not and I'm too shy to just go up and talk to her. I found out though that she's graduating in May (I'm here for another year), so I have 2 problems; I dont really know what to say to her or how to approach her. And time is of the essence, because I really want to talk to her before she leaves to see if something comes of it. How can I just go up and approach her? What would you like for me to do from a girl's perspective? Thanks

If I was in her position, I'd want you to come up & talk to me. Don't just look if you're not gonna wanna talk, ya know? Just go up & say hi. Ask her what her name is, and how she's doing. Make small talk until you guys get to be friends. Ask her to coffee, and then see how things go from there. Ask if she has a boyfriend, and if not, continue to hang out frequently, and then if things get super well, ask her out. I would try to do this within a month period. But act quickly, because like you said, she's graduating in May. =)

The only bathingsuit I own is a halter bathing suit.

I was wondering on any tips to look really hot in it?

Just work it, & flaunt your stuff. =)

ok to make a long story shorter one of my friends lets call her stacy got mad at one of my closer friends and we will call her kathy. i was talking to kathy and stacy seemed like she was pissed at me for it. another one of my friends who is friends with all three of us lets call her ariana totally ingonored kathy and ditched us for stacy. well i talked to ariana and she said it was because she didnt want stacy mad at her for talking to kathy. what am i supposed to do? im not mad at any of them and im not really in the middle of it but its kinda stressing me out that there fighting like all the time. what can make me not so stressing out?

Tell Stacy that you're gonna hang out & talk to whoever you want, and just because she's fighting with him, it's not gonna stop you. Tell her she can get pissed at you all she wants, but you're gonna be happy & hang out with whoever. No drama.

k, so i'm 16/f. my friends never call me to hang out, and when i do, they say they'll hang out w/ me and they ditch me. it's pretty much because i'm not dating someone within their clique of friends. my bf and i have been dating for 3 years, and he lives with me. he tells me that going out should be a top priority for me, and he never lets me hear the end of it. i don't go out with anyone on weekends, because they all ignore me. i'm hanging out with a new group of friends, but i feel left out w/ them too because i never know what they're talking about half of the time. my boyfriend feels obligated to be with me, and he's sick of it, so he's trying really hard to push me away, and it's really making me upset, because he never wants to be around me. so saying all of this, i have 2 questions.

1) what should i do about the friends thing? this new group of ppl that i hang out with like to get drunk every weekend and stuff, and that's not me. how should i approach making new friends?

2) what should i do about my boyfriend? i've tried telling him how i feel, and he doesn't care. he makes it sound like i'm not letting him hang out with his friends, and i get mad when he does, and i don't. he's not being forced to stay w/ me. i tell him to go have fun, and he pretty much yells at me because i don't go out, and makes me feel like a loser? what should i say to him?

any help is okay with me, as long as i'm not being made fun of. i apologize for the length, and thank you in advance.

For your friends, they're not really your friends. If you don't like getting drunk or whatever, go find some friends who like what you like. Or, you can go to the parties & try to get wasted. I'm not saying get completely trashed every second, but don't knock it til you try it.

As for your boyfriend, talk to him about it. Tell him that he's free to hang out with his friends & he doesn't have to hang out with you all the time. He might see that as "I DON'T WANT YOU AROUND CONSTANTLY." but tell him that you do, but he's free to hang out with his friends whenever he wants & it's okay with you.

I know how it feels for your friends to ditch you. Some of my old friends used to do that to me all the time, or they'd just never call back, or they'd use me because I had money. So, I dumped them & found some new ones who were more like me.

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