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Shy Guy
Ok, I'll start off by saying I'm in college and I've only really had one real relationship in college that lasted about 6 months. There's this girl across the room in class that I think keeps looking at me and I think is really cute and nice, but we never seem to make eye contact (we have a couple times though). She doesn't have facebook or myspace, so I cant tell if she has a boyfriend or not and I'm too shy to just go up and talk to her. I found out though that she's graduating in May (I'm here for another year), so I have 2 problems; I dont really know what to say to her or how to approach her. And time is of the essence, because I really want to talk to her before she leaves to see if something comes of it. How can I just go up and approach her? What would you like for me to do from a girl's perspective? Thanks
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well in my opinion,i think you should make up an excuse to talk to her. Like next time you see her, ask her what's for homework to start a conversation with her during class. cause from a girl's vision, maybe she is also scared of making a conversation with you so she wants you to make the first impression.
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Well, if she does like you, then if you go up and talk to her on your own thats like making a dream come true for her. I just think you should smile at her once, becuase that will get her thinking, "maybe he likes me" then you'll probably catch her looking at you more. Girls can sometimes be weird, in that way, if you smile at her or just say hi once or twice, she will start noticing you more. That's the perfect start. Hope I helped =]
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If this girl likes you, than she is probably sitting there looking at you waiting for you to make a move. So take a deep breath, because were just as nervous if not more about guys and dating as you are.
Girls like guys who are confident but not cocky, nice but not a kiss up, charming, funny, and sweet. Most of the time we can tell if guys are being "posers", so don't try to be something you are not with this girl, because she can see right thru it.
If your in the same class, approach her afterwards and ask if she understood so and so about what you learned that day, or if you could borrow her notes because you missed part of class. Talk about class, and lean into a more fun conversation, and make her laugh. I know when I meet someone who can make me laugh, I want to be around them a lot and feel myself graviating towards them. Even flirt, a little! But not physically, yet, because you don't know if she's taken or not.
If you two really hit it off, ask her if she wants to go out for coffee or maybe have a study date. Or theres always parties going on, see if you can meet up with her at one of them.
All that you really have to do is put yourself out there, smile, and be genuine. She'll notice the effort your making and appreciate it. If you really screw up, just say it straight forward. "Im really sorry, Its hard for me to talk to girls sometimes." and say it with a smile. This might even put her at ease, knowing your just as nervous as she may be.
Of course, find out if she has a boyfriend first. Ask one of her friends, or even her, if she has a boyfriend. Like if you are going to a party, ask if she and her boyfriend want to come.
Really, it about being yourself. Sorry for trailing on so much, lol.
I hope that helped, and if you need more advice or me to be more specific, feel free to email me or ask again :)
Good luck!
-Abby
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Well, I think a guy that just comes off as someone respective and can just say "hey, what's up" is a perfect way to start a conversation. It's simple enough and easy. The one thing I wouldn't do though is (stating the obvious here) just go up and ask her out to dinner or a movie or something. Because like you said, you don't know whether she's in a relationship or not. But, it's understandable if a guy's shy, some girls think it's cute. :] But yea, I just think you should be yourself and just start a simple conversation. And go from there. :]
Good Luck,
Jess♥
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If I was in her position, I'd want you to come up & talk to me. Don't just look if you're not gonna wanna talk, ya know? Just go up & say hi. Ask her what her name is, and how she's doing. Make small talk until you guys get to be friends. Ask her to coffee, and then see how things go from there. Ask if she has a boyfriend, and if not, continue to hang out frequently, and then if things get super well, ask her out. I would try to do this within a month period. But act quickly, because like you said, she's graduating in May. =)
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first what you should do is get up your courage and talk to her i wish some guys would talk to me but thats besides the poit but if you cant talk to her leave a note on her desk and put your number in the note and leave it on her desk she if she calls you then talk to her be yourself on the phone and meet for lunch or something good luck
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From my perspective, if you cant talk to her maybe talk to one of her friends and find out if she likes you or if she has a boyfriend. Then if everything works out with that you should just go up to her and maek conversation and hopefully something can come of it. I hope I helped.
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Damn! This one tough question! Actually, I wouldn't mind at all if you just come up to me and tell me that you'd like to get to know me. I'd be flattered. Really flattered. You'd be the one to make my day.
Do you know any of her friends? You can get to know her thru her frens as well. You can take the opportunity to talk to her fren when she's also present. Like say if you're talking bout something general with your fren, eg "Hey do you know how to do this?" then maybe you can also turn to her and ask "Do you know how to do?" Blah blah blah. Then from there, when she sees you, you two will say hi and bye or at least smile at each other right? Then you can work on it from here since you already know her and she knows you.
Take every and any opportunity to talk to her. If she drops a pen or something, pick it up for her. If you have to pass something to her, pass it to her directly and make small talk.
I would like it if a guy comes up to me and says something funny, tells me a joke, make me laugh, etc. He'd leave a deep impression on me. But then again, since you're a shy guy, this would be something quite difficult to do. But you can try =)
We girls really don't mind if you come up to us and just talk to us randomly and make frens with us. We really don't mind at all. Serious. We'd be happy to befriend the opposite sex anytime. Hey, opposites attract right? Just go ahead and talk to her. Anything will do. Just talk. You can start by smiling at her when you see her. A friendly smile. Not a I-like-you-smile ok. Cos you still dunno if she likes you and you might freak her out cos she might think that you look like a pervert. Kidding. Anyway, we girls wont mind whatever method you choose. Just go ahead and do it. Don't think so much bout it. Be confident. Chin up, chest out. When the opportunity comes for you to get to talk to her, grab it.
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Awh, it's fine. I`m a shy person too, even though I`m a girl. But, i always like when guys walk up to me and are kinda shy, and they don't always know what to say, but they still make it look so cute. Just try going up and asking her how her classes are going, or if she wants to maybe go get a bite to eat or something. Compliment her when you see her, and just make her feel like she's the most beautiful girl you have ever seen. Make her smile, and she`ll fall for you. Trust me. =]
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Okay well from a girl's perspective, I think you should write her a note if your too nervous to go up and talk to her. I know how you feel. I am usually too scared to go up and talk to someone I like. But just keep in mind.. going up to her really isn't a big deal if you think about it. This maybe the only chance to get to know her and possibely date her! So i would defentely take talking to her into consideration.=] Who knows, maybe she is into you to. If you want to approach her, then I suggest going up to her and say "Hey, whats up?" Maybe ask her what classes shes taking. and most likely you will start a really good conversation and get to know each other. BUT be sure to smile a lot and make eye contact! Smelling good is also great=). Just to throw this in there... girls like it when guys use cute and nice to describe them (usually not hot or sexy) haha.
Okay well I hope I helped!
Tell me how it goes!:]
--Tori
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