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How do you have a catfight?
Like I understand its a lot of pushing and like "clawing" at them but what if you were like completely dominating them, like sitting on top of them...what would you do?
Like how do you win a catfight against someone who is easy to beat?

all a catfight is would be girls fighting each other.. if their easy to beat though i would say that you would win if your a good fighter..if you were sitting on top of them still, if it is one or more girls that your fighting, if they are both girls it is still a catfight..hope i helped..
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hey well I have a really good friend name ana, and I have such an amazing boyfriend name peter well they knew each other for like years, and my friend ana used to be in love with him!! and at first I cared about it and now I don't cause I know he would never cheat on me and I know my friend ana wouldn't do that to me, and well lets just say (not to be conceited) she's 10x's bigger than me she's really fat and I'm atheltic, but its not the looks always count but I feel that she still has feelings for him and she keeps going to him and hugging and touching in places that I don't like, and peter (my boyfriend) always says stop, what are you doing, but she doesn't get and it and plus she has a boyfriend, so I don't know what to believe. and I already told her that I don't like that and she goes and says I can't help it I'm like that, and I started thinking what do u mean u can't help it, soo I really don't know if I should trust her or not, or should I just let it slide. please help!! she's my best friend and I don't like what's she's doing EVEN my boyfriend started realizing it, so please help
does she still have feelings for him,even when she denies it? I don't know help
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*worried*

usually the first step of a crush is denial so she probably does. but you shouldnt call your friend fat. even if it is true. but when she does something like that to your boyfriend then say hey you know what, hes my boyfriend not yours so if you wanna get all touchy feely wit a guy then go get your own. and dont say you cant help it cuz if your really my friend you WILL help it..just let her no that you mean buissness...hope i helped
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alright ok sorry for one of these "does he like me" questions lol.
alright so i like this guy and he's in one of my classes and lunch.
my friends say he's really quiet;;;which i could totally see...except for when he's in my cultural geography class...he kinda talks a lot.
except see we've never talked before
i have a MAJOR problem talking to guys i like.
i overanalyze EVERYTHING i say and get sooo self-conscious
my friends say he always looks at me & it seems like he likes me even though we;ve never talked lol. i even sometimes catch him staring.
ok so the problem;;what should i do to get my confidence to talk to him or whatever?

thank you :]

okay lil story time. i liked a guy, couldnt talk to him, so wrote him a note. it is easy to talk to him through one of those. i wrote like 50 notes before he ever got one. so just write it, give it, and it is said and done. hope i helped!
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i go to movies and hang out with my friends at main street almost every weekend and when I see a movie this girl that I like(she like me too lol)olivia will kinda lean on me--and she keeps giving me hints to kiss her...wat should i do and how should i do it? i dont want my friends to c it btw.

okay--KISS HER!!! :] just like set up your other friends or maybe just invite her--just her. so your alone... then just like when she leans on you just move her hair out of her eyes and look into them. that makes a girl feel real great! and when she drops a hint to kiss her, move in and make your kill!! (dramatically speaking of course!!) dont go for a tounge though, not first kiss material. give her a kiss that is short and sweet. that way you leave her wanting more!! hope i helped! and good luck with olivia!!!
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I got my period today (Wednesday) and I have a cross country meet @ Brown University on Saturday. The problem is we have a long drive to get up there (5 hours) and I get horrible cramps sometimes. Its an overnighter to top it all off and I dont feel comtrable having my period and sharing a bed. Ive had my period for about 4 years now so its not like its a super out of control flow or anything. I tried tampons and they just dont feel comtrable. I dont know what to do! This makes me not want to go so bad and it sucks. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do? I know that is such a dumb question but I am DESPERATE. Please Help!

well you could use like midol or something--ibuprofen! cheap and it works. it can help with cramps. and as for the ride and over nighter. maybe double up on pads. like make a kinda diaper thingy. it works. you dont bleed through or nothing like that, unless your period is really freaky like though. but yeah i hope i helped! and good luck at you cross country meet!!
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hey. im normally a really outgoing girl, but whenever im around my crush i totally freak out, and i cant think of anything to say ! its so annoying. he will be standing next to me, and i will just stand there too. i dont want him to think im not interested, because i really am.

so what are some good topics to talk about, or what would you do?

thanks!

well im normally a really outgoing girl and my crush i just got sick of people teasing me about it and him not knowing so i just told him. it depends on how much guts you got though. you cant help but get tounge tied around a crush. they are holding your heart in the palm of your hand and can do with it what ever they want. you can take a chance and tell them yourself or you could start up a conversation, which you asked for topics. Maybe you could start up a conversation about something going on at school. something like a new club or a class or something like that. hope i helped!
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does anyone else think it is dumb how girls wear low-cut tops and expect guys NOT to stare? they get offended when they do but theyre the ones that are like trying to get their attention??

well many girls do wear the shirts to get the attention of guys but they dont want others to think of them as a slutty type. i mean they want them to look but they dont want others to know that they want them to look. am i making sense? but yes i do think it is dumb...
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i did ask for help and my english teacher didnt do anything or my social studies teacher didnt say anything see i was in special ed my whole life well know nys put all of us in normal classes and i dont understand anything in social studies ms white ( the special ed teacher) is sometimes mean so i dont tell her she doesnt like me and in english ms cahill(sped teacher) only cares about a student that cant read and im not upset but i need help what do i do

then go ask your school consuler. or a principal. go to them and say "i need help and no one is giving it to me." maybe they could help. your principal is one of the head haunchos. so if the teachers arent doing anything then go to the source. he is the one in charge. i hope i helped!!
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im john i am 13 and realy need help as i realy have an urge to have sex although i know i shouldnt i have tried masturbating and porn but it doesnt make a diference what should i do.

well your changing and your hormones are going crazy. your gonna have some urges that you cant control--its what happens. But i strongly caution you--DONT HAVE SEX---ive seen it, it ruins lives. im not saying that your one to go out and do that but just know that it is something that will generally pass with time. your 13 and that is generally that time where your body begins to mature. so like i said it is just something you cant control. but just take it day by day, you need to know your not alone. millions of teenage boys are going through this. so maybe you should just relax a little bit and try to take your mind off of it. i know i know your 13 and sexual things are bound to pop up in conversations. just try to take your mind off of it. it might help. but seriously, its just hormones, they will pass i promise. boy or girl they all do the same thing--it passes. im not garunteeing no overnight recovery deal but i am saying it is just a part of pubrety, (or however you spell it..) everyone goes through it, like i said it is just something you cant control and something that everyone goes through...hope i helped!!
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hey i am 15/f and my friend robert and i are really close and we are such good friends. we both know we like eachother as more than friends, and we have hooked up before. but the thing is, when we hang out we usually dont end up kissing or anything cause we have such a friend and joking around relationship that it seems weird and we always just have a great time doing other stuff. what are some fun ways i can let him know i want him to kiss me, or even funny ways or things i could do to kiss him. or even ways to change the conversation casually to a more intesne one about like us or romantic based.

thanks! : ]

well you could tease him a little bit. like get some lipgloss or something and put it on in front of him and say "does this lipgloss look good on me?" and then say "mmm it tastes like [insert flavor here]" then lick your lips..lol..i thought that one would be funny because he would be focused on your lips..or if you want to kiss him then just catch him off gaurd, but not too much of a kiss just a little one to leave him wanting more. hope i helped!!
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omg i hate school im in social studies and english and the teachers are talking and i listen but then i dont understand it ooh im learning disabled in reading comprehension,reading decoding , written expression and math calculation so what do i do im so frusterated

ask for help. you cant control your problems. so tell the teachers about your problems with the learning. they will help. thats what they are paid to do. hope i helped!!
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My boyfriend that I've been dating for a couple of months dips. He used to do it A LOT more than he does now and he says he's trying to stop (NOT for me, for him), but I don't see much progress.

I was doing some research and it says that one can of dip has the nicotine of 60 cigarettes, so I can only imagine how hard it is for him to quit. It doesn't bother me as much as it did in the beginning, but there's just one thing that I constantly think about.

I know there are horror stories for cigarettes, alcohol...all that after school special stuff...and I'm not a "goody-goody" by any means, but seeing videos and pictures and hearing stories about people developing mouth cancer or even getting parts of their jaw removed scares me to death. He's only 18 and he's been doing it for two years.

Here's my question: How can I help him quit? Every time I bring it up I feel like I'm nagging him. How can I just help him along in a subtle way that will actually work without sounding like a nag?

well a]take him to a therapy thingy; b] give him something to replace the addiction; c] (if you want to get the message in strong) show him really nasty pictures of people who have chewed. then tell him that you dont want to sound like a burden you just dont want to see him like that because you love him... maybe that could help him realize that he isnt just hurting himself but he is also hurting the people around him...hope i helped!!
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ok. so, my friends all hate my bf, and i thought it was nothing. but, the other night, he kept making extremely rude comments about me and other people. and, he apologized L8R and everything, but i dunno. since then i've totally seen him in a different light. i've been seeing him the way my friends have. and, i mean-- we were, well-- are rlly close, and we love each other. but i think he is an ass hole now. i dunno what to do! please help me.

thank you soo much!

sometimes it takes someone to turn down the wrong road before they learn. Maybe your friends were seeing the guy you needed to see all along. But there is really nothing you can do except for one of two things: 1. dump him or 2. stay with the guy...you dont need to be around someone like that because with all due respect he sounds two faced. where he tells someone one thing and then tells someone else something else. just tell him you cant be his gf anymore because you dont feel it is right at the moment...hope i helped!!
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Well Teardrop I am so afraid to call him!He doesn't have a cellphone and if I call his mom usually answers if I call again won't I sound desperate asking to speak to him or should I just wait for him to call me?
-Meggyboo

okay, well i would say that it depends on how much you want him. if you are like crazy bout him then call not past 2 times per day. because past two calls equals desperate. and if his mom awnsers so what. its not like his mom didnt call boys when she was a young girl... so two calls maybe like one when its in the noonish hours or when you get home from school, and the other at like 7 pm...its not late but it is usually the time that some would be home. but after those two calls just wait for him to call you back. sometimes moms and dads forget to tell so maybe you should say its urgent. And dont be afraid to call because you could be passing up what could be the oppritunity of a lifetime. hope i helped!
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PS thanks for asking me to my inbox!!! i love that! hehe. good luck!!! :]

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Well I have a huge problem this guy I liked last year liked me to.Are best friend is the same person! Toward the end of last years school year she new he liked me and I liked him. But I new any day he would ask me to go out with him. Plus he kind of isn't the most trustworthy guy around. He was going to a different next year(present day this year)and he finally asked me the last day of that school year I told him no I wouldn't that I wouldn't really see him that much(he might go out with another girl).Today I just called him after talking to my best friend we talked and I think I like him again.How do I tell my bestfriend that,should I just remain friends with him,and how do I have a conversation with him just to see if he likes me?

well if u really like him then go for it!if your best friend was really your friend she wouldnt hold you back. if he likes you and you like him then you should do something about it honey. write your story before someone else does! hope i helped.
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The tip of my tongue has been sore for days and is a lot pinker than normal. Any ideas on what this could be?
Thanks x

umm maybe you bit it? or have you been like eating sweet tarts? warheads? any kind of sour candy? if you eat alot of sour stuff it can do damage to your tounge. it should go away. if it still bugs you use ice or orajel?? hope i helped!
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okay my boyfriend's party is coming up soon. hes my second bf, and i have no experience going to partys with a boyfriend. since its his party, its more pressure. I CAN NOT DANCE FOR MY LIFE. dancing tips. remember that i cant dance. at all. what do i do. its coming up soon.

just follow the beat. look at others. dont be pressured its no big deal. just have fun with it. hope i helped
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what to do? well actually it's my Gaiaonline crush.. and I've never liked anybody on Gaia before cause most people are weird but one day he just said hi to me and i said hi back and like we have so much in common.. then on his profile it said he likes guys so im kinda dissapointed........ and he's really hott! haha so should i just give up? :/ i wish he was straight!!! ugh. well i've barely talked to him and i didn't know what to say to him without sounding stupid so now i'll be totally clueless or should i just try to be his friend first? :/

well i like a guy, told him that, and he claims hes gay, but i am just working on a friendship with him. its okay to like him. its no big deal. just be his friend. and if you say something stupid big whoop, the world isnt over. and with hot guys most of the time, they are either gay or just flat out mean...lol but just joke around a lil bit. like i told the guy i like "are you sure you aint straight cuz i can help you find out for sure!" just stuff like that. you can use that if you want. its just a good ice breaker and conversation starter... hope i helped
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I'm kind of confused cause people keep telling me different things i was wondering

When it comes to kissing in a relationship as in your first kiss in the relationship who's ment to make the move first ?

it depends, if you feel like your ready for it then you can take it head on. or you can just sit back and hope the other person will make the first move. it depends on your fear factor (aka how much guts you got) if you got lots then you could probably do it; just make sure that it is not too fast for the other person. or if you got none then just drop hints i guess and wait for the other one to pick them up...hope i helped
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ok well my boobs are starting to grow, though im not an A cup or w/e. probably an AA. Not sure. anyways, i got hair down there, i dont have pit hair. Though my pit does smell. I got discharge, though its not gooey. its more dry and looks clumpy, but its wet before it drys. :P I guess i'm an average height. 5'3 for 13/f.Average foot size too(about 8 1/2 for puma shoes). Will I get my period sooner or later? I don't really get the concept of "cramping". is it just like a normal stomache ache? Is it near the middle? does it make you feel like you need to go #2? (poo).

Thanks.

you will get your period soon enough. i didnt get mine until like 3 months before my 14th birthday. and trust me dont wish for it because once you get it you wish it would go away. but the cramping is like when you get the cramp in your side because you ran too hard for too long, its like that except maybe a lil bit milder. it occurs just a little below your waist. and now dear, it dont make you feel like you need to #2. hope i helped...
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