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Q: okay so i have this ex boyfriend who hurt me real bad and i have been moving on which i figure is best to do. Well he keeps calling my one friend and bothering her saying stuff like its funny how someone you consider your best friend talks crap on you when i didnt say anything. Then he will call her and say stupid fat whore and hang up. Then on the 8th about 2-3 days ago he called me, i know this because he is the only one who calls on a withheld number but i didnt answer, that would of been the day of our three month. What should i do about this, he is being very immature and i am speaking of an 18 year old here.

Wow, when I was reading through this, I thought you were talking about a 14 year-old. I guess some people never really grow up.

I personally think that the best way to go about something like this is to simply ignore it. It may be hard, but continue not to answer his calls (you also say he has a withheld number). Also, encourage your friend to do the same...and she can just forget about talking back, cause what i know from experience, is that the more you show something bothers you, the more someone persists in their ways. Good for you for not answering his call; it demonstrates your maturity. Trust me though, he will get the point and get over it.

Q: "They're living for the present and not the future’s well-being"

or

"They're living for the present and not the future's fulfillment."

what one sounds better and makes more sense? im writing a poem for school

The second one definately sounds better. It's more eloquent and has better flow. Is this for an essay? If it is, I'm sure your teacher (or professor) will also prefer the second quote.

Q: 15/f

ok i know this is going to sound very weird, but i am in love with my english teacher. I can't help it, it's not just a silly crush that can go away. But i'm not an idiot, obviously i have a
.000000000000000000000001 % chance of anything happening with her, i understand that. She is a poet, amazing, beautiful. I really like creative writing, like i'm very good at fiction, an I know she realizes that.
I'm just wondering, because i'm even happy just going to class everyday and seeing her, i want to impress her, so i'm just wondering, what can I do? Not to flirt or something like that, just to make her notice me, think highly of me, i don't know, but i am so in love and so desperate to impress her, is that wrong? what should i do?

It is normal to have a crush on a teacher. When I was a senior in HS a few years back, nearly all the guys had a crush on our econ. teacher. Anyway, the point is that it's completely normal for you to be having these feelings. But, you should keep some things in mind, since she is your teacher:

1) Never try impressing your teacher (or anyone else for that matter), just for the sake of impressing them. Be yourself. If you know you're good at the subject, it'll shine through in your work, and it should make you proud...that's all that matters.

2) Realize that this is your teacher we're talking about, not some random person on the street. I know you admire her in many ways, but that's all that it should be.

3) Again, be yourself. Forget about trying to impress your teacher too much. Focus on your own work, and remind yourself that you're the student,and she's the teacher.

Q: if I were straddling my boyfriend, and I moved my hips into his, would it most likely hurt him or would it feel good for him?

You'd be able to tell just by his body language whether it hurt him or not. But generally, guys (and girls) are really turned on by this. I absolutely loooooove doing this while making out

Q: This may be a bit long. Bear with me.

There have been quite a few times my boyfriend and I have had unprotected sex. Well my period is usually like clockwork and right now I'm 10 days late.

Well when I was, I think, 5 days late I went to the doctor and had a pregnancy test done. It was negative. The doctor did say the tests weren't 100% accurate, so that didn't help me out at all.

Well now, I'm 10 days late. I took a pregnancy test last night (The Clearblue Easy Digital Pregnancy Test) and it came back Not Pregnant. I'm still not sure if this thing is right though. Friends of mine said, even though they were like 8 weeks along, tests would still show them as not pregnant. Has anyone else had this happen before?

Lately, I've been having these dull pains in my stomach lately, and sometimes they're really sharp. (Not like cramps at all). I've also been having a lot of discharge (sorry if that's TMI). I actually thought my period had shown up one morning but wasn't the case. My boobs are also sore, especially around the outside and I keep burping a lot (even though I only drink water). My appetite has increased greatly, but I always feel nauseous after I eat. It's strange. I'm not sure what's going on.

Could someone please help me?

Also, when is the best time to take a pregnancy test?

Thanks.
Kayla

I completely understand how you feel. I once though I could've been pregnant, and believe me, it's not the best thought you could have. But, you have to look at this objectively. If you think, and know that there's a chance you could possibly be pregnant, then don't even waste another day wondering. Go to a clinic like planned parent hood, or to your gyno. and get a urine test. They can usually tell withing 10 days or so after you've had sex whether you're pregnant or not. Get this issue off your shoulders; it's not exactly the most comfortable thought. For future reference, always, always use a condom. If you'd like you could also get a prescription for birth control pills (depending on where you live, it's easy to get one).Some of my friends actually do both. Also, later on if you ever have the slightest chance of being pregnant, go ahead and take Plan B or something similar just in case. Please take care of yourself.

Q: sorry if this is long! i'm kind of confused. i'll start from the beginning. so, i hate my body. period. i find myself gross, even if everyone else say that i'm not. i'm short, and i'm stubby. i hate it, because it's genetic. once in awhile, i'll just look in the mirror, or i'll try on close and i just pretty much break down and start to cry. i'll put on clothes, take them off, put on new ones, take them off, because i feel so fat. yea, so basically i have a bad self-image, haha. alright, so this all started back in april-ish. this isn't always, but sometimes ill eat and i'll feel gross, so i'll purge. i feel good afterwords. i did this like sometimes 1 time a week, stop for 2 weeks, do it 3 times a week, etc. so that occured for like a few months. then i had surgery, and i coudln't really do anything physical (i was used to being able to do sports, running on a regular basis) so i started to do it again. then i stopped for 2 months. now i started to do it again. i just feel better after i get rid of the food. but it's like, one day i'll just eat regular, i'll go out to eat with my family and eat. then i'm like ew, i gotta get rid of this. but if i don't then i don't really care. but sometimes i'll try to do it and i feel like i cant get everything pu and i get so pissed off. then other times i can eat a lot but in my head i'm constantly counting the calories, but i'll eat it anyway and it doesn't bother me too much. i count calories on everything and throughout the day i try to estimate how mcuh i eat, but i don't really care.. i just do it. it's not like i'll kill myself if i have over 500 calories. ohh, and sometimes if i'm really stressed out, or if i get in a fight iwth my mom, etc. i'll purge , and i feel better. i guess it's kind of like cutting in a way. oh and i don't really want to talk to a counselor if it's not really a big deal either ( i don't want to draw attentionfor no reason) so i'm basically confused, do i have a problem? thanks so much.. and again sorry it was so long

This is a problem that you have to deal with right away, and yes, this is bulimia. Many young women have issues with their body image: blame it on society, media, etc., for giving us an unrealistic perspective on " beauty" or "being thin." Bulimia is extremely unhealthy, both mentally and physically. People die from this, it's not a joke.
The root of the problem is that you are unhappy with your body. You are dealing with the stress of that, plus the stress you get from family..in the WRONG way. Please know that this is so harmful for you and that you need to talk to someone about this immediately. There are healthy ways of dealing with stress. Do not resort to this. It doesn't matter what you may see on tv or wherever, bullimia is not a minor problem, nor is purging cool in any way, whatsoever. It poses a number of health risks. Please, please go talk to a school councelor about this. Many people get effective treatment and counceling for this. It's important, it's your life.
Here's a useful website: http://www.4woman.gov/faq/easyread/bulnervosa-etr.htm

You can also call the National Women's Health Information Center: 1-800-994-9662

Q: alright, so my ex boyfriend. i'm completely over him. well he has a new girlfriend and they've been going out for like, idk 8, 9 months? but in the hallways, when i walk past the, its like they maul eachother and start kissing and it seems like they're trying to make me jealous. i'm not paranoid either. other people have noticed this too. they'll see me coming and just start making out. it's disgusting and i just look right past them. his girlfriend used to be nice to me, but she's the really jealous type. she's such a bitch now. if she walks past me, she'll just look at my blankly but it's like a death stare, then she'll look away. she always talks to people around me, but compeltely ignores me. i mean, it's not like i want attention, but it's obvious that she hates me. she bascially hates any girl that looks at her boyfriend. but it's extremely annoying. why do they act like this? oh and btw- i have a boyfriend and we've been going out longer than them. so it's ont like i'm single and i'm a threat to her. so wtf? Haha, thanks!

Their behavior is extremely rude and childish; it's natural for you to be taken back by it- I would be too. But the best thing, as the other columnist has mentioned, is to ignore them. That's really the only thing you can do, and it shows your maturity.
As for why your ex's girlfriend stares you down and doesn't acknowledge your presence...she's probably jealous of you for any number of reasons. You and her new boyfriend once had a relationship, afterall. If her eyes could talk, they'd probably be saying, "back off, he's mine." Although it may be hurtful or just annoying, remind yourself that she's the one being immature, and that you have nothing to do with her actions. Try not to even be in her vicinity. If she's talking to a group that you happen to be in, you don't have to put up with it..walk away.
And why would they be making out every time they see you? For the same reason: to make you jealous. Remind yourself that you're over your boyfriend, and that his childish games won't get him far. Your feelings and actions are in your own hands. Forget about them.

Q: I use hair remover on my upper lip and it seems like my skin is used to it and its not working! What works the best and lasts the longest?

Facial hair is such a pain! But you can get rid of it in a number of ways.. I think the best thing is to wax your upper lip--it also lasts pretty long. Some nail salons also do waxing. Or you could buy wax at beauty supply or at the drugstore.Make sure not to get the pre-waxed strips for facial hair, though. They're plastic strips and I find that they work very poorly, if at all. Another thing you could do is bleach the hair, but of course that doesn't get rid of it. I used to bleach my upper lip, but I've switched to waxing.

Q: 16/f
Me and my friend, lets call him chester, always fight. Like we are in fights every other week, or last year we where. The last time we had gotten into a fight was in august.

We are yet again in another fight. I dont think he cares about our friendship. I talked to him the other day and told him what was bothering me and all. Then he said he had to go.

The next day i asked him where that left us? if we where friends, not friends, or whatever. And he said "idk i dont have answers only ears"

I really dont know if i want to try to be friends anymore.

Im the one who always tries to fix our fights, im the one who starts to talk to him. It just feels like he doesnt care and i dont know what i should do.

Any ideas?

A true friend should be there for you regardless of the situation. It's natural to get into arguments every now and then, but it isn't fair not to discuss things over and brush things off as though they don't matter. There are two sides to every story, but by what I've read, it sounds like you do care about discussing things and coming to some sort of resolution. If your friend really has ears, as he says, then he should listen. He may be upset at the moment, but it doesn't excuse the fact that he isn't listening to your concerns. You should be firm with him; it's the only way that he won't take advantage of you and will actually hear what you have to say. You might want to talk over coffee, or alone at school or whatever, and have a real talk.If he still brushes you off and you feel he isn't taking you seriously, then maybe he isn't a true friend at all.

Q: Ok well i got what i thought was a yeast infection...but i kind of dont think it is one now... do you have any idea what this might be...
i had a white discharge that smelled a little not normal. It did itch it doesnt anymore. But its uncomfortable to have sex.

The only way to know for sure what the cause of your symptoms is, is to see a gynocologist. This could be a due to a number of infections..maybe a yeast infection. You can't know just be reading the symptoms whether or not you have a yeast infection. This is most likely some sort of infection though, since you did have abnormal discharge. For your own sake, see a gyno.. this may or may not be a yeast infection, or an STD. Get it checked out.

Q: i like when my boyfriend like kisses all the way down my neck and starts sort of making out/sucking/generally playing with my boobs with his mouth.

is this normal or weird?

It's completely normal. So many girls like having their boyfriend do that. I once read in a magazine that the nipple is one of the most sensitive parts of the body, so it's no wonder you're so turned on by this. Guys also enjoy getting subtle hints at what turns you on. It's encouraging and is positive reinforcement.

Q: my byfriend always tries to be funny by say somthing bout cum when my freind here him say that they started ewing and ahing i ask them what it mean bu they wont tell me what does cum mean and how does it work

Cum literally means ejaculate, or semen. When guys ejaculate, or come, this is what comes out. Sounds gross, but it's life. How does it work? When a guy gets sexually aroused, he ejaculates. The semen he produces contains sperm, (of course). The function of that is obvious..
Guys always joke around about it, i guess it's a guy thing.

Q: I can't seem to stop comparing myself to my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends and old "crushes." I know he loves me, but I just can't seem to stop thinking, "She's thinner than me," or "Wow, she's so much prettier than I am," and "She's so funny, do I make him laugh as much as she does?" The irritating thing is a lot of them are still his friends, and he sees them when he's away at college. He's completely against cheating, but I still worry that something will spark between him and one of his exes and he'll leave me.

Incase it matters, I'm 19 and female.

It's somewhat natural to feel this way, but it isn't helpful. Don't ever compare yourself to other girls. I'm sure that you are a beautiful, caring girl too..your boyfriend must see something special in you.
It is okay that he's still keeping in touch with his exes. But the fact that you're worried about it is only harming you. You should let him know how you feel, without bottling up all your feelings. Be confident in yourself. Try not to compare yourself to others. You are your own person and must have so many nice qualities.
Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. There are a lot of fish in the sea. But it's your bait that has him hooked at the moment.

Q: my boobs are too small! okay basically they are probably a B or something [thats my bra size] but they do not look like a B at all! i definately do not need to worry about any thing not fitting me because there is nothing THERE! i mean there is, but there isnt. you know what i mean. i'm not really self concious about it i would say, but i'm curious on why. my aunt had to get reductions & my cousins [who are my age, and sadly younger] are way bigger than me. i used to be heavier before, but lost a lot of weight. now im kind of skinny and there isn't anything there. is this why?? luckily my bf doesn't care but i do. i know what you are going to say, no you can't fix it, be happy with yourself. it just does not make sense. so what would be the best bra i could buy?? no water bras, and no obviously padded bras. oh & there's no way i'm getting surgery eitherr. thanks

I actually heard that in France, many men actually like small-breasted women (makes me want to move to France)! Chances are though, that your breasts are proportional to your figure. A couple years ago I lost some weight and my boobs were the first to show it! Once I gained the weight back, I went back to my usual size. But anyway, I totally understand what you mean by "there is, but there isn't" something there. I'm exactly the same. One bra that is perfect for a bit of lift, without making you look fake, is Victoria's Secret "Very Sexy" bra..or the " Angel's Secret Embrace." They are so comfortable, and give very nice form to your breasts. They are padded (gel or water), but don't worry at all..they are so comfortable and give you a natural look. Not at all like Wonder Bra or anything like that.
If you do gain back some weight, your breasts will go back to the normal size.

Q: Well, I don't get them very often, but I've gotten a few quite recently and I need to make them go away by Saturday, the 27th [there's a dance at school]. Any suggestions? (preferably home remedies or cheap products)

Please & thank you!

I suggest using an acne clearing body wash, like Neutrogena Body Clear (as the previous columnist mentioned). In addition, loofahs (the scrubby, tough kind) or something similar, like an exfoliating glove or cloth work really well to clear up back acne fast. I also have a few pimples on my back, and the loofah works wonders. You might also consider using a salt-based exfoliator on a regular basis..my favorite is " Spice Odyssy" by Origins...but there are tons of other products out there. Have fun at the dance!

Q: okay...umm yesterday was the 1st day of my period, and my boyfriend and i made out later on that night. well he ended up taking his clothes off, and he asked me to take my pants off...i explained to him that i was on my period and how i felt that it was gross because i didnt want to get blood anywhere. he didnt believe me at first so he asked, "did it jus come on today?" i responded and said, "yea!" and he said, "well it's alright baby just take em' off it's okay if u get blood anywhere" i blabbered on for like 5min about how disgusting it was. then he got on top of me, kissed me, then took my pants off. i laughed and asked him if he liked my "granny panties." okay anwayz, we made out for like 15min then i eventually got on top of him and grinded on his penis, i think he ejaculated b/c when i stopped it felt wet/moist. im too afraid to ask him if he really did, but the sametime im afraid that i might be a "pregnant virgin." Is it possible, how do i tell without asking if he ejaculated? and although i had on a pad + underwear could i possibly be pregnant?

It is possible for the sperm to have seeped through the fibers in your panties. The chances of becoming pregnant are lower than if you had actually had sex, but they are there. .you did mention that you felt the ejaculate. But you also did mention that you had a pad on, so I'd say that you're probably fine. But you should go to a clinic and talk to a nurse, and they can also do a pregnancy test...it'll reassure you.
What i would be worried about is how your boyfriend pressured you into doing something you did not want to do, and were uncomfortable doing. That's the problem. You should talk to him about it and stick up for yourself.

Q: about a month ago i started using crest whitestrips but they started like burning my teeth so i stopped using them and now when i eat chocolate or pretty much anything that has sugar in it hurts my teeth. is there anything i can do to stop my teeth from being sensative?

You can try brushing your teeth with a toothpaste designed for sensitive teeth. All major brands have them.. In the meantime, avoid foods that aggravate the sensitivity, like cold foods, sugar,..
Your teeth should get better soon. If they get worse, or aren't really getting any better, you should talk to your dentist.

Q: OK So i realli like Ashley Tisdale`s skin color [lol. yeah i know that`s kind of weird] but does anyone know like any bronzer, blush, etc. like that?

i would like to get the stuff for not a lot of money, but if it costs a lot of money idc.

*& if you want, could you tell me how to apply it in steps???

thanks so much! =]

http://www.ashley-tisdale.com/pictures/displayimage.php?album=323&pos=17

(if you want more pictures ask.)

thanks =p

Her skin tone is pretty golden and even, and since she's a celebrity, she gets professional make-up artists to do her makeup. For the rest of us, getting that natural-looking, golden look isn't too difficult, especially with practice. I love Physician's Formula bronzer (available at drug stores)--there are plenty of shades and types of bronzers. I like the " magic mosaic" bronzer. It has many different shades, so you can use darker or lighter shades depending on the look you're going for. Or you can blend shades. Another bronzer (pretty pricey), is from the company, Benefit..it's at department stores. There are a few different types, from light to dark..

To apply bronzer, keep in mind that less is more. Try not to overdo it, since it may look fake, like a bad tan.
Apply it to areas that the sun naturally hits, like your forehead, nose, and cheeks.
Sweep it on gently and evenly, and be sure to shake off excess powder from the brush. Bronzer evens out skin tone and gives you a natural, golden look. I prefer it to blush. But if you do want to use blush, make sure to use a shade that isn't too pinkish.

Q: okay...so im 15 about to be 16...an ex boyfriend has already eaten me out..and it felt sooo good..but i have been with my recent boyfriend for 4 months now and we are starting to get serious...he started to finger me the other day...he was only using like 2 fingers, and it hurt. so he tried only one and it still kinda hurt. is that normal? should i do something to help it?

That's completely normal. Tell him to go slower at first and once you're comfortable, take it from there. Just make sure to let him know when it hurts so he can slow down a bit, or try something else.

Q: i got a kinda big problem here. my friends suicidal. she says every1 h8s here wich is true and its all bcz of freekin drama and catty fights in my skool. but heres the thing. im pretty sure shes kinda tryin 2 get attention? because my other friend said they were gonna kill themselves and now hes in therapy but he got tons of attention and he made a code 4 it. so now my other friend hoo says shes gonna do it made a totally similar code. and they were gonna do it the same way. so im like wtf its so freekin the same!! and so she says her life is over and theres no point of living. how can i show her ther is a point in living? she says she only has 4 friends that like heer but thats like lucky u no? she has 4 bffs thtt luv her 2 death and thats not enuf 4 her and i got no clue how 2 show her that its not how many friends u have as long as they care about you and how do i make her not do it? im so so worried about her bcz she says shes gonna do it this weekend and maybe 2morow andserously no i cant please please please anythin will help

This is serious. You need to tell an adult about this, maybe her parents or someone at schol--anyone that can help. Try referring her to someone to talk to, maybe a hotline or psychologist. Call 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) in an emergency situation,like this. (it's the hotline for suicide prevention.. And talk to her more about this and let her know as much as you can that she does have people that care, and that people at school are all complete idiots anyway. The more support she gets, the less likely it is she'll make a terrible decision.

Oh, here's a useful webpage with info: http://www.save.org/prevention/someone_you_know.html

Please visit this websit: www.save.org
for suicide prevention. There's tons of useful information for you and your friend. and make sure to call the number above..it'll help out a lot

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