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hopeless friendship?
16/f
Me and my friend, lets call him chester, always fight. Like we are in fights every other week, or last year we where. The last time we had gotten into a fight was in august.
We are yet again in another fight. I dont think he cares about our friendship. I talked to him the other day and told him what was bothering me and all. Then he said he had to go.
The next day i asked him where that left us? if we where friends, not friends, or whatever. And he said "idk i dont have answers only ears"
I really dont know if i want to try to be friends anymore.
Im the one who always tries to fix our fights, im the one who starts to talk to him. It just feels like he doesnt care and i dont know what i should do.
Any ideas?
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Hey. If you're always fighting that's definitely not a healthy relationship as I'm sure you know. If you're always the one apologizing than that's especially not healthy for you because it's making you feel like you're always the one who's wrong when you're probably not half the time. It sounds like he doesn't care or likes the attention that you give him when you apologize. I wouldn't stay around him anymore because he's just going to keep starting fights from the way it seems. I would stay friendly with him, but stay away. In other words be cordial (as I'm sure you already know) but I definitely wouldn't hang out with him anymore. I really hope this helped and good luck =)!
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Well I think you know what you want to do..you said you dont to keep trying to fix your guyses relationship...if he truly wants to keep the friendship he will put some effort into it too...I think you should play it cool for a while and see if he brings it up and tries to do something
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Hiya,
I consider myself immensely lucky to have the best friends any one could ever wish for (and I tell them that all the time) and to be honest your 'friendship' with this guy doesn't seem to be much of a friendship to me. To be honest it seems to me that you have put in 100% effort to sorting it out and he has put in none. You have done all you can, you can't do any more. If he values your friendship he will make the effort and come after you and if he doesn't he was never a real friend anyway. Try not to let it upset you and stick around your friends who treat you better than Chester
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A true friend should be there for you regardless of the situation. It's natural to get into arguments every now and then, but it isn't fair not to discuss things over and brush things off as though they don't matter. There are two sides to every story, but by what I've read, it sounds like you do care about discussing things and coming to some sort of resolution. If your friend really has ears, as he says, then he should listen. He may be upset at the moment, but it doesn't excuse the fact that he isn't listening to your concerns. You should be firm with him; it's the only way that he won't take advantage of you and will actually hear what you have to say. You might want to talk over coffee, or alone at school or whatever, and have a real talk.If he still brushes you off and you feel he isn't taking you seriously, then maybe he isn't a true friend at all.
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i think you should ask him straight up whether or not he cares about your friendship. if he doesn`t, theres no point in trying because from what you`re saying, it sounds like he really doesn`t care.
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