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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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I always used to sleep with my mom. She would lay in bed with me. I am currently 14, and she still does. I tried to tell her i dont want to and she listened but i was up all night, couldnt sleep and started to cry. I feel pathetic, and idk i want to know how to feel more...independant. thanks
Well, it's a security issue. Don't feel pathetic- I slept with my baby blanket for 28 years. Yep. I curled up with Blankie until I got married.
It was hard to sleep, but after a while I got used to the whole idea and sleep came easy.
It just takes time for your mind to adjust to something new like that. Mom in bed= Security. Just like my security blanket.
Maybe try to put on a dim light or a night light for a while and see if that helps. I know, sounds silly, but it may work for you. Or, you can try getting a large stuffed animal and put that in bed with you so you still have the feel of laying next to something.
ygs-30/f
I'll try to sum it up short but our gym class is going bike riding 10km on friday to an ice cream place on a really hot day. One problem is, I just got ym period and when i do, I get really bad cramps. I could take Midol or something before we go but does it make you drowsy? I don't want to get hit by a car or anything. I'm the slowst bike rider ever and it's easy getting lost when you're going 10km!
As said before me, it won't make you tired. Try taking it about 30-45 minutes before you go, then be sure to carry some with you so you have it available to take later on.
ygs-30/f
recently, my hair has been having patches of, like, flaky skin in it. my friend says it looks like dandruff. and near my scalp, there have been pieces of skin like stuck in my hair. it's been occurring for two days now, and i'm really self-concious about it. my mom won't really help me with it. she just says im fine and leaves it at that. what could it be? and are there any products or thing i could do to stop it? any help is appreciated. thank you.
Sounds like a bad case of dandruff to me. I have really dry skin and get dandruff, too. I use Neutrogena T-Gel. (I don't know if I spelled that right...) It usually cures it up in a couple of days of treatment.
ygs-30/f
I'm so upset right now! There's this one teacher who's never trusted me although I've never done anything to deserve it. As soon as something goes wrong, or something is missing - she accuses me, and I promise.. I'm NEVER the one to blame. Last week I returned my book, and today she called me to say "It is very important that you return your book, you are the only one who hasn't returned it and it is a very expensive book. Keep in mind you promised to return it at the beginning of the year" I know its not a big deal but I'm crying my eyes out! I don't feel like I deserve all this suspicion I'm getting from her. I don't like to think its a racial issue, but I am the only non-blonde in my class. What should I do about this? I do not want to take it up with the principal, I respect her as a person and wouldn't want to get her in trouble.
Good for you for respecting her, even though she doesn't seem very respectful of you. That makes you the bigger person, for certain.
If it were me, I'd take it up directly with her. Ask her why she treats you differently than the rest of the class. If she says she doesn't, start pointing out to her what she does.
See if it's an issue you can solve between the two of you. If it can't be solved that way, then something else has to be done. She's a teacher, she shouldn't be that way towards any of her students.
ygs-30/f
I have a car that is about to be re-possessed and was wondering what would be more damaging to my credit, re-possession or filing bankruptcy to avoid paying for the vehicle that I cosigned to purchase with my mother for my sister?
Ok, I'm going to say what I've been told. I don't know if it is accurate. Perhaps a bank or some other place like that can best answer your question. Ask them which person they'd give a loan to first- one with a repossession on their credit record, or one who has filed bankruptcy.
Now. From my understanding, say a person wants to buy a new car. An auto dealership would be more likely to finance a person who has filed bankruptcy than a person who has had a repossession or a bad credit history.
Reason being, because they'll get their money from the bankrupt person one way or the other. They know that person can't file again for 7 years.
Like I said, I don't know how accurate that is or if it even answers your question. I do advise you consider my suggestion of talking to the bank.
ygs-30/f
24/m.
Point is, while highly drugged on my meds, I did something really stupid with another girl.
I already apologized to my girlfriend years ago, and she has stayed with me still, but she keeps bringing it up and going on how I have yet to prove my trust now.
I know I did wrong, and I've done everything to make up for it. But seriously, when a man has all but forsaken his family and friends just because she basically wants him to, doesn't that warrant finally letting it go?
I know you all are going to get on my case for doing it in the first place, but I'm asking if I've made up for it (not arguing that I did wrong, I just want to know if I'm just being abused now).
Ok... So you're saying this happened years ago? And she still won't move past it?
Hate to be the barer of bad news, but if you guys haven't gotten past it by now, will you ever?
If you can't move on from this and have a happy, healthy relationship, then what do you have?
If she can't let go of the past, then perhaps you should let go of her.
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theirs this party for our graduation from 8th grade and her brothers from senior in highschool, there will be drinking. im only staying at the party for like 2 hours then i have to go to my school carnival with my friends and cousins and if im drunk theyd kill me. but i wana go its one of my best friends, but if i drink more than just one thatd be bad, altho im not that light at it. if my parents or cousins do notice i drank at all and ask me, what should i say, bc if i say no and they can tell or smell it, what do i do? if i end up drunk what do i do, i have to go to the carnival after :/ what could i do to make the drunkness calm down however you say that lol eat or drink or do anything ill do it. i just need toknow before hand, its this weekend. any advice about going or what i can do if i get drunk.
Best advice you'll hear all day- DON'T DRINK.
See how simple of a solution that is?
No, there is nothing to make being drunk go away, nor is there a way to reduce the effects of being drunk. You may hear of things, but I promise it is all myth.
ygs-30/f
P.S.
I'm sure you must be aware that drinking at, what? 14? Is illegal...
Ok my boyfriend and I keep arguing because HE keeps messing up. It feels like I'm the bad person because I'm always getting mad at him. So I tried to keep it in one time because it felt like I was nagging & he found out and told me to always tell him when I'm mad at him. So I do! He messes like every other day & he's said he's not used to having a gf. Well, common sense should tell him certain things he does.
But when he doesn't mess up we're perfect for each other! We laugh & talk & everything! Its greeeat!
I don't know what to do. We've been together a month and I don't know if its a time issue and I have to let him get used to me or what? I'm tired of hearing him say "I'm sorry" all the time. But I love being with him when we're not arguing about his mistakes!
We all make mistakes. We all mess up. This does include you.
YOU need to get used to him. Why should he change for you? Accept him for who he is, mistakes and all, or find someone else.
You've only been together for a month and you are talking like he's this big disappointing screw up...
ygs-30/f
I'm an 18 year-old male in Georgia. While I was 17 years old, I got a ticket for running a stop sign and a ticket for speeding, and apparently, those two tickets are enough to get my license suspended for six months. It is suspended from May 2008-October 2008.
My mom had to drop me from her insurance payments because the cost of my car insurance became so expensive since the suspension. Once my license is no longer suspended, I don't know how I'm going to afford car insurance. My mom said it's something like $200 a month or more.
What do I do? Are there any insurance companies that would work with my situation and offer me a low rate or something? :(
I'm sure there are. Go to someplace that gives you quotes from their company as well as others. I think Progressive is one. They'll give you insurance through the company that gives the best rate quote.
As long as this is on your driving record, you'll likely be paying higher rates. Once you re-insure yourself as a driver, as long as you make sure your insurance is kept up to date, that in itself will drop your rates a bit. Even though you've got a suspended license, insurance companies do reward for keeping up on your auto insurance.
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i have been with my two babys dad for 6 yrs and gone threw so much with him. he is abusive at times and i have left him so many times. i have found someone new that i like and wana be with. i work with him, i dont know how to tell my kids dad that i dont wont him anymore and how to leave him please give me some advice
I assume you must live with him? Do you have a place to go with your kids? Family or friends? If not, you can go to someplace like SRS and ask for addresses for shelters that take in battered women and children.
He's abusive- you need to get away. For your children's sakes as well as your own. You don't want your kids to learn his behavior, and most certainly don't want him turning his abuse on them.
How to tell him? Shoot, I'd just pick up and go so he couldn't stand in my way.
Even when you don't have someone else you want to be with, don't stay in an abusive relationship. You deserve far better treatment than that.
NOBODY deserves to be abused in ANY FASHION by ANYONE.
EVER.
ygs/30-f
Has anyone been in an interracial relationship? Did you encounter any heat from your friends or family? Did you live in an area where there was a majority of one race?
Thanks
I haven't but my brother was. We live in a predominately white area, but his family and friends didn't have anything rude to say about it.
No matter where you live, there will always be someone who looks at you cross-eyed. A family member, a friend, a stranger on the street. Why should that matter, though? If someone doesn't like it, that's their own too bad. Correct?
ygs-30/f
I got a tattoo back in february, without my parents knowing. so now my mom wants to get me tested for HIV and Hepatitis C.
also i think i might be pregnant....i am not sure yet though
if i get the HIV test done...do they test for pregnancy too?
They only test for pregnancy if you ask them to. HIV is tested through blood tests, but pregnancy is generally tested through urine tests. Reason being, it costs way more to have blood work done for pregnancy testing than it costs for urine testing.
ygs-30/f
ok you guys said that frequent urination is a symptom of pregnancy. but how often is frequent? like i've been peeing every two hours maybe? is that what you mean by frequent? (i usually do not pee that much)
Frequent urination is a symptom of a lot of things. Every two hours could be considered frequent, though when I was pregnant with my kids, I felt setting up camp in the bathroom during the first and last trimester was something to consider. I went more frequently than every 2 hours.
Here is a pregnancy symptom link you may find helpful:
http://www.whattoexpect.com/index.aspx?puid=063932f5-24e3-42a6-a7aa-dbab872aa690&p=1
If you think you may be pregnant, get tested. If you can't afford a test, your county health department should provide one for you free of charge, assuming you live in the US.
If you aren't pregnant, a check-up with your doctor would be a good thing. Like I said, frequent urination is a symptom of a lot of things.
ygs-30/f
My cousin is having a baby shower on Saturday. As part of everyone's gift, she wants us to each buy the baby a book and write a little message for him in it as opposed to just getting a card.
I need suggestions on what to write in the book! I want it to be cute, but something he can look at when he's older and appreciate. If it helps, the baby's name is Michael.
I'm not very creative with this stuff. I probably won't see this kid more than two or three times a year.
HELP!
I'm currently working on two baby books for my own little ones... LOL
I don't know if this is quite what you're looking for, but what I've been doing is saving every coin from their birth year and taping it to the page where you fill in price of loaf of bread, price of new house, etc.
I have taped every 2007 coin into my oldest son's book, and am now working on 2008 coins for my youngest.
Coins being penny, nickel, dime, the year's state quarters, and the year's presidential one dollar coins.
Like I said, not sure if that is helpful, but it's something I, personally have going on with baby books.
ygs-30/f
I have a bit of a problem and I am not sure how to deal with it. I am 21 and recently discovered my mother is smoking weed. I found a joint and today when I walked in the house it smelt like weed. She is a grown woman and can make decisions, but I am worried that it will turn into worse.
My father was a drinker and druggy and thats how he ultimately died. So I am worried that she will end up the same way to early.
So please tell me if I should just butt out or what I can do about it.
I have to say that you are NOT responsible for your mother...
If you have a problem with her smoking weed, then say so. Don't get rude or behave rudely. Just explain to her WHY you feel the way you do about it. Tell her your worries.
Other than that, there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. Like you said, she's a grown woman who makes her own choices in this life.
ygs-30/f
f/19.
i've been with him for 4 years, and counting.
my boyfriend went to get an x-ray at the hospital and ran into an old hight school friend, her name is marlo. she wasn't gorgeous, but also wasn't completely unfortunately looking. anyhow, he felt the need to text his friend saying, hey i saw marlo at the hospital, 'she was looking too fine' . i read his texts, which he doesn't mind, he reads mine all the time, but back to the point.. it really hurt me. it made me feel worthless, i honestly can say that i don't go checking out guys, i really don't. and this hurt my feelings. and made me feel so ugly on the outside. how do i get over this feeling, i feel so turned off now, i don't even want to have sex with him anymore. oh and this isn't the first time i found a text similar to this in his cell.
Guys are visual creatures.
Just because he thinks Marlo was "looking too fine" doesn't mean he thinks she's more attractive than you. You gotta try to see it that way, or you will go nuts in this life.
Guys like to look and take notice. It's not harmful, and not intended to hurt their beloved, because it's male nature.
Try not to let it effect your life like it is. It's YOU he wants.
ygs-30/f
Me and my huband are moving in 41 days from FL to NC so my brother can help my husband get into the police adacemy (my brother is a cop and my husband has been stuck at a dead end job for years). My brother has offered us to say in his house with him, his wife, and 2 teenage kids untill we get on our feet. We are very excited about the move that we know is going to help us grown and be able to start a family. We have sold all of our furniture and we are beyond the point of changing our mind and staying in FL. Well my brother called me today and told me that he and his wife are getting divorced. He is moving out of the house but they dont know if they will sell the house, ect. He says we are still welcome to come but he just wont be living at the house but will still help my husband and us out as promised. What sould we do? Should we still move and cause more stress on my brother? Should we just stay and contuine with our dead end jobs?
That is tricky, now isn't it?
Hmmm...
Here's what I'd do- If he won't be staying there, I'd call HER and ask her what she thinks about it. Tell her you don't want to intrude or cause more stress.
If she says she's cool with you coming to stay for a spell, then I'd do it. It's a great opportunity to make a better life for yourselves.
She may say she'd rather you didn't come, but then again, she may appreciate you being there to help take her mind off of getting divorced.
ygs-30/f
ok i know this may sound weird but whatever i need help.
ok so about a week ago me and my mom were outside on the patio talking. (she makes me call her by her first name) so i said Sunshineheart (yes thats her name) you couldnt be a vegiterian. and she goes your right but i could be a chickenterian. and i was like huh? now me and my mom are very normal and open to each other but i didnt understand. dude i was so nervous about asking her what a chickenterian was! you have no idea how nervous i was! like i was sweating and almost in tears!
so what do i do?
LOL... Perhaps she means she eats a lot of chicken?
Just ask her what she meant. Don't be afraid to, because I'm sure she wouldn't mind you asking at all.
ygs-30/f
15/f
ok so my parents were out of town for 2 days. so i was home alone. i didnt have a party or anything i was very responsible. did all my chores and everything. now we have an alarm system and i made sure everything was locked before i went to sleep. so i just went off to bed but when i woke up in the morning ALL of our dishes were in the sink every single plate, cup, fork. EVERYTHING
and i had NO clue how it got there! i couldn't have done it cause i dont sleepwalk or anything but it just appeared there out of nowhere!
i was soooo scared! i double all the locks and everything remained locked. now my house is about 13 years old. but idk what happened im still freaked.
what do u think happened?
Wow. That is weird.
Maybe it was a ghost...
I'd be more willing to bet that it was a sleepwalking adventure. I know you say you don't sleepwalk, but that doesn't mean you never will. It could have been triggered that night because you're parents were out of town and you were alone over night.
Don't fret. Look at it this way, if it was a ghost, it's one with a sense of humor...
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P.S.
I believe in ghosts. I'm not poking fun at you.
So my parents may be getting a divorce. they act like theyre fine when me and my sis are around but when we walk away they fight and scream and everything and my mom wants to kick my dad out of the house, etc.
So i was wondering, how does one parent get custody bc i really want to be with my mom bc im like afraid of my dad and is there any way i can choose? thanks
I don't know how old you are, but I believe in my state, when you are 14, the judge will take your opinion into consideration.
Most likely, you'll be able to stay with your mom unless she is deemed unfit, or unable to care for her children.
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