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should I stay or should I go?
Ok my boyfriend and I keep arguing because HE keeps messing up. It feels like I'm the bad person because I'm always getting mad at him. So I tried to keep it in one time because it felt like I was nagging & he found out and told me to always tell him when I'm mad at him. So I do! He messes like every other day & he's said he's not used to having a gf. Well, common sense should tell him certain things he does.
But when he doesn't mess up we're perfect for each other! We laugh & talk & everything! Its greeeat!
I don't know what to do. We've been together a month and I don't know if its a time issue and I have to let him get used to me or what? I'm tired of hearing him say "I'm sorry" all the time. But I love being with him when we're not arguing about his mistakes!
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he sounds like he isn't the one for you. if he really cared he would stop. He obviously isn't sorry, and like you said the stuff he is doing is common sense. You need to let him know you are not a door mat, and that he needs to treat his girl friends better. My advice to you is break up!!
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I am not really sure of the certain things that he does so it makes it really hard to really have insight on the matter.
I do know that relationships are always challenging - regardless of beginning or long termed - mainly b/c people are always getting to know each other. Even if you were married, there are still things to be learned about the other person.
It depends on what he is doing to mess up - if he's beating you, disrespecting you, dogging you basically hurting you and saying he's sorry, then I encourage you to go. If it's petty things such as trash being taken out, dishes being washed, then you can work through that - it's just a matter of communication.
Simple communication mess ups, are to be expected and can be corrected, yet serious mess ups (issues that cause you to question yourself, become distant, feel ignorant, scared, or insecure) are intentional mess ups and are done purposely and most apologies are fake and not sincere and the mess-ups become habitual as do the apologies.
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Good Luck and most importantly be happy!
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Oh Honey, I feel your pain. He is just trying to hard. I think he wants to be the perfect man for you and every time he tries he is doing the exact opposite. I say if you love him like you say you do then you should give him more time and help him get used to being with you and doing the right thing. Take my advice and things will turn out for the best!! XOXO ~$%Cam~$%
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We all make mistakes. We all mess up. This does include you.
YOU need to get used to him. Why should he change for you? Accept him for who he is, mistakes and all, or find someone else.
You've only been together for a month and you are talking like he's this big disappointing screw up...
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