about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice


im a girl and Im not a lesbian or bisexual & i dont ever want to like make out with a girl/date one or anything..but i get reallyyyy turned on when i like think about girls being active w/ echother..is this NORMAL


Sure its normal. I dont ever think like that but I guess its normal. x0

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yeah i am going through confirmation and like i have to look for a cute dress and well it can't be sleeveless. anyone have any places or anything that would have something cute? thanks!

I gotta find something for mine to. Go to Charlote Roose they have cute dresses. x0

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my hair is slightyly thin but slighty thick..personaly i want it thick but i've heard that its horrible thick(not my hair..theirs)should i want thick hair..and if so then what can i do to make it thicker?(no styling or layers though it fries my hair)

You cant make it thicker but you can give it more valume. Get Pantine Pro V for volume. x0

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I have been going out with this girl for like 3 or 4 months and we haven't kissed not even like hug but i dont want to bring it up like... you know so can SOMEONE PLEASE HELP i love her and she loves me but im to afraid of asking her or some thing so help!! plz!

Make the first move. Girls hate when guys dont and when the girl has to make the first move. Go up to her a hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek. x0

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i am pale so what do i do to get a tan besides going outside because it aint that warm.

Go to a tanning bed! x0

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Do you got a b/f? Im having truble with my boyfriend. We always fight and he is just being weird. He dont tak to me as much and it bothers me a lot. i dont want to tell him how i feel! so what ?

I dont know. Im having the same problem.

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K hers the deal. I seem to be popular but I dont know if i am? How do i kno?

What the hell. How am I supposed to tell you. If a lot of people like you and if you have a lot of friends then there you go!

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i have a guy friend that i like for a while and i still do like him and he likes me one problem is that he gots a gf and we close and he always tells me that he loves me and we can talk for hours and not worry about who knows we talking but my question is is it a bad thing that he has more feeling for me and not his gf? plz help!

No its not bad but it does suck for his girlfriend. I think that you should wait until they break up because if she ever found out she would be really hurt. You wouldnt want your boyfriend doing that to you. x0

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Hey, okay i'm very attracted to my best friend. I would like to go out with her.Were both girls and i'm 14 and she's 13. She said a few times it would be easy if she could be with me and that i understand and care for her better than anyone. We have experimented 3 times and we loved it just being with each other being close and intimate. I want to tell her how i feel but i get more scared when i get infront of her face. I hate rejection! It's not that i've been rejected by my friends or guys or anything i just hate it. I even feel bad and low when i call someone and they can't talk or when i ask her if she can come over. I end up getting this pity look like she's doing me a favor if she went to my house. I hate it because i make good time to be over their at her house and she can't because of her mom and her little sister. I'm very afraid and when i wanted to ask her today i just looked at her like i was doing the worst sin in the world. I feel dirty when i wanted to tell her how i felt today. I just wanna keep it a secret that i have feelings for her so i can not have rejection and still have her as close to me as we are now. I just feel like a complete loser for asking a girl to be with me. I want her to do that and then i would fall into her arms and we'd feel the love between each other and i wouldn'r feel like a loser.

To me it seems like she likes you. Dont worry about it tho. You`ll never know until you tell her how you feel. I know rejection sucks but you will get over it trust me. Tell her how you feel. x0

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Hey, I'm 13/F and I just got my period in January. I had it for 6 days. I haven't gotten it since!! It's the end of March now which means I skipped two months?? I know I'm not pregnant (I have no idea how to spell it)
Is something wrong with me???

Its normal !

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In high school, we get to choose which language we want to take- French or Spanish. I signed up for Spanish, but I'm having second thoughts. I like French a lot more, but I want to do what's best for me. Does anyone have any pros or cons for taking a certain language, or just general advice on what I should do? Thanks!

Personally I think French is way more fun! I had it a while ago and its more fun then Spanish! Go for French because you obviously like it more and its more fun to learn and more popular! x0

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One of my best friends just told me that she liked me today. She asked me if i had any feelings about it and i said not yet. The problem is that i don't really know if i like her as more than a friend. I used to like her like about a month ago, but i stopped. This may not make any sense but i want to like her as more than a friend because she is one of the nicest people i know, but i just don't think i see her that way. Is that possible? I don't want to hurt her and tell her that i'm not interested but i don't want to go out with her either. What should i do?

It doesnt seem like you want to go out with her. I think you should stay friends like you are now. Tell her that a good friendship is better then a relationship at least for right now. You probablly need some time to figure out what way you really feel about her. x0

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i want 2 shave 'below the belt' but i dont know what to do. do i shave it all or just a little bit? which is more prefered by boys? and how do i do it? ive been told tht it itches a lot though so how do i avoid it? please help!

Uhm .. When you shave downthere.. you need shaving cream and a razor. Some guys like it all shaved some dont depends on them. If you want you can shave all of it or not. How do you do it? Well .. shave upwards .. I dont know how to explain but I hope you know what I mean. It does itch a little at first but just use a lil lotion after. x0

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well i have this really gud friend thats a boy and we are really close. everybody knows that he has liked me for ages and gets really upset when i go out with other people but i just didnt like him in that way. ive recently (as in 3 months a go) broke up with my long term boyfriend of a year and he has been really supportive. i was really hurt after we broke up bt my friend helped me throught it. now i think im falling for him but i dont know whether i should. am i just pretending that i like him because he is so nice to me? or do i reali like him? what should i do? i mean im 16 so it would be serious if i went out with him. i just need some advice!

If you really like him and he likes you go for it. Pretending that you like him means that you might have some feelings for him. Maybe as not strong feelings as he has for you but some. I think that you should give him a chance. He seems nice. This also could end up to be a long relationship! Good luck! x0

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ok well i have this friend call her leah shes 15 and im 14 and the guy joe is 16. ok well leah had a boyfriend who was her age hit her forced her into sex and he did drug her parents found out and she has alot of regrets. well she met this guy named joe hes really cute and nice. he was supposed to come over but never did. leahs really upset thnking hes going to be like her ex she should give joe a second chance he was at the mall instead of coming over what should she do.

signed stuck in the middle

Ask why he ditched her. Not all guys are like her ex-boyfriend and not all of them would do that. But if he was nice he wouldnt of done that to her. She should give him another chance because he might have a good explanation why he did that. If he does it again then she should probablly forget about him. x0

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there is this kid in my grade that likes me, the only problem is that he is a total geek and i don't even like him as a friend (not because he is a geek though, because he is annoying)
Now he told everyone that he IS stalking me and that he likes me!
what should i do without hurting his feelings?

If he is stalking you then who cares if you hurt his feelings. Thats so annoying tho! Just tell him to fuck off! He will eventually get the point that you dont like him and he will stop or just tel him. x0

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I'm not going through this but it's out of curiousity.
Some girl told me that she was cutting but that she was only leaving marks in her skin and wasn't getting right down to where it would start bleeding BUT where she marked her self after became swollen for a couple of days and was a red bump.
I asked someone about it and they said it was perfectly safe and should be happy she's doing that rather than actually cutting and someone else told me it's not AS dangerous but she could still do some harm to her self.
I didn't really understand how she could really hurt her self by making marks in her skin that later turned in to bumps so can anyone explain it a bit and/or tell me which person is correct.
thanks :)

Its not as dangerous like you said but it leaves scars. It doesnt hurt when you do it but it just burns a lil after. Why is she doing it? Tats just so stupid. Shes just gonna scar her self and it will look bad. x0

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I like this guy and his sister and his best friends tell me that he likes me too he has also told me that he does. anyway, I tryed talking to him and he was just acting like a total asshole!After we hung up I started to cry because he just seemed like he didnt care about me and he didnt care about what I had to say. I want to talk to him again but then I dont because I dont want to feel like I do now. He's never online and I live a long way away from him.. What can I do to like talk to him and tell him how I feel? And by telling him how I feel is also including that hes being a major asshole to me.

Just call him and tell him. Say how he was being a jerk and that he made you feel bad. He wasnt acting like himself so he probablly had a bad day. x0

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ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help

I know that people told you that cutting isnt the answer and it really isnt. I dont know why all these kids are startting to cut. So many people I know. I dont know if some just want attention or what. But in your situation I dont think so. I know that cutting is the only way you know how to releave depression and being stressed. Its not. Theres other ways you just got to find what. I know from expirience. Find someone that you can really trust. A friend or sibling. Talk to them about it every time you feel like doing it. Things will get better you just got to be strong and say that things will get better. Make yourself belive that because it will be okay. Everyones life sucks at times and no1 can be perfect. If someone finds out they will also be scared. You can hurt yourself bad with it. The scars dont go away that fast and it will always be there just a little. If you stopped for 2 weeks then you can do it! Try! When ever you feel like you need to cut go talk to someone about it. Make sure you can trust this person and they will help you. You have no idea how many people care for you and dont want you to do that at all! Find some other ways to deal with problems not hurt yourself. x0

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im so sick of not having a bf. im 13, 5'1" 128 lbs. blonde perfect teeth, no braces. anything a guy would want! the thing is i have NEVER had a bf. my frend has and she is really really unattractive. she has hideous crooked yellow teeth and puffy frizzy hair. i dont mean to be mean but i really hate the fact that an ugly grl has had 7 bfs and i had none. please please help!

This might get me a low rating but o well. Who gives a fu*k !

You are conceded and so full of yourself! Im not trying to be mean or anything but what the he*l! Not all guys go for looks they also look for personality also. You will find the right guy. Meet other guys then the ones you already know. Why are you talking about your friend like that? She is yourfriend and thats just ignorant for you to say that. She might not be as pretty or w/e as you but ugly girls are easier to do stuff with. That what most guys say. They dont go out with them just because they are ugly they want something. Sorry if I was mean but dont say that sh*t about people like that and no one is perfect no matter what you think. x0

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