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I'm Very Afraid Of REJECTION!!!
Hey, okay i'm very attracted to my best friend. I would like to go out with her.Were both girls and i'm 14 and she's 13. She said a few times it would be easy if she could be with me and that i understand and care for her better than anyone. We have experimented 3 times and we loved it just being with each other being close and intimate. I want to tell her how i feel but i get more scared when i get infront of her face. I hate rejection! It's not that i've been rejected by my friends or guys or anything i just hate it. I even feel bad and low when i call someone and they can't talk or when i ask her if she can come over. I end up getting this pity look like she's doing me a favor if she went to my house. I hate it because i make good time to be over their at her house and she can't because of her mom and her little sister. I'm very afraid and when i wanted to ask her today i just looked at her like i was doing the worst sin in the world. I feel dirty when i wanted to tell her how i felt today. I just wanna keep it a secret that i have feelings for her so i can not have rejection and still have her as close to me as we are now. I just feel like a complete loser for asking a girl to be with me. I want her to do that and then i would fall into her arms and we'd feel the love between each other and i wouldn'r feel like a loser.
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Ohkay, one thing. I think you should do it. Later on in life you might regret not doing it if you dont. If you reallt like her that much, you definately should. If she likes you too, that is. You should wait a little bit to see if its really worth it. Like wait a week or so. xO ali
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Why do you fear Rejection? If you know she likes you then go for it, why not? And if you're bisexual, guys love 'em!
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wait first off are you and her both homosexual because if she is straight i wouldnt ask her out..maybe she was just doing the stuff with you so she could know how to do it with guys..not uncommon..but if your sure she likes you go for it!
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To me it seems like she likes you. Dont worry about it tho. You`ll never know until you tell her how you feel. I know rejection sucks but you will get over it trust me. Tell her how you feel. x0
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hun i know where your coming from with that.. i get the same way.. i feel stupid when i get rejected over things that shouldnt even matter.. but um you said she wants to be with you and thinks you guys should be together.. well hun i seriously would tell her how you feel.. you could get rejected bout the whole thing but you never know til you speak up..i would maybe wait a lil bit longer to tell her that you have those feelings.. jus so you can see how she might actually feel towards you.. And you can keep your feelings a secret.. feelings cant be crammed inside of you..they will eventually die to come out and then youll jus drive yourself crazy cause you didnt tell her.. and then theres a chance you could lose her..and then youll feel bad that you didnt say anything then youll be hurt cause you lost her or something.. Try to think positive which will be hard i know.. and jus do it and get it over with hun..much luv dez x0x0
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OK, well there is no way to go through life avoiding rejection unless you want to lock yourself up in your room forever. So it is the fear you need to deal with before anything else. Froming reading your post, it seems you are very insecure about who you are and whether you are a worthwhile person. You lack confidence. There is no easy way to gain it, but you need to stop being so hard on yourself. Once you start to gain confidence you realise it doesn't matter if you get rejected, because you are strong as an individual and someone elses choice is up to them but shouldn't affect how you see yourself. The mere fact that you have a good friend like this and feel so close suggests to me that there is a lot to like about you. You need to start to see that for yourself.
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