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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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is there any good site to download music from? myspace only has a limited selection of downloadable songs, and i don't have an ipod.

please help!

"myspace only has a limited selection of downloadable songs, and i don't have an ipod."

Yeah, and?

Download LimeWire or something.

Does anyone know how to get the big big planes that you can load cars onto. It's for Grand Theft Auto: San ANdreas. I got to this airport and there are HUGE planes that you can load cars on. Does anyone know how to get them. (i.e. Cheats, walkthroughs, etc.)

Use google.

Okay, so theres this guy that i really really like, we talk on the phone every night & he likes me too. The problem is that i just broke up with my ex bf almost 2 weeks ago now & im working on a friendship with him..and i dont want this to ruin it. plus my ex knows that i was talking to this guy on the phone while we were dating, but it was just to help me through a difficult time & i told him that now & he heard that i did like him before. So im worried that we wont be able to be friends now if i end up dating this guy & i really want to do both. i dont want to hurt my ex anymore than i already have but i really really like this guy, hes nothing like any other guy ive dated. we are planning on hanging out on spring break but not saying anything so my ex dosnt find out, atleast not yet. Also theres another little problem, one of my best friends liked the guy i like a few months ago i told her and she said she dosnt care but i dont know if shes lying or not cuz i asked another friend about it& they told me that she is kinda upset about it & i completely understand how she could be a little mad but she has been ignoring me lately & i just dont know what to tell her, she kind of hides her emotions from people, then she started telling me not to like him because he lied to her, but no one knows for sure if he did or not. but that dosnt change the fact that i really like him. So what do i do about my ex & my friend? When do i tell them that we are hanging out now? My other best friend knows everything about this, but she wasnt sure what to tell me about this. So please help!

If you're completely done with your ex boyfriend for good, you might wanna make that clear to him. He's not dating you anymore, so what you do with your love life is none of his business at all. He's not apart of it anymore, so he basically shouldn't care what you do. Explain to him that you're just gonna be friends, and he shouldn't care what you do with your love life because it no longer has anything to do with him.

For your friend; I realize she's your friend, but are you guys close? If not, then just hang out with him & go out with him. You like him right? If she's gonna let something dumb like a boy come between you guys, then she's dumb & she was never your friend anyways.

As for your other friend who couldn't tell you anything, she probably doesn't wanna get involved with it, so she wasn't gonna say anything to you.

But listen, just like whoever you want. Date whoever you want & learn not to care if feelings get hurt or people ditch you. It's life, and you can't stop it from happening. Be happy, and don't stop being happy because it's gonna make someone else miserable.

It's me again the 15 year old girl and I just have one more questin.What if I see him looking at me, but then he turns his head real fast so that he doesnt know that I saw him looking at me? What should I do then? Should I still go up to him and introduce myself and start talking to him? By the way, you give good advice thanks from before!

Haha, he's probably shy & embarassed that you caught him. Yup, still go & say hi. Good luck!

does taking lime after sex stop pregnancy?

No, and it also doesn't stop stupidity.

Just use a damn condom & birth control. Fruits aren't gonna make you not make kidlens.

It's the half term and I'd like to spend most of it with my mates. What things to do can you suggest? Me and my mates thought of shopping/hanging in town, cinema, gigs, gym, swimming pool, badminton, round each others houses and that's it. So if you can think of stuff to do and places to go then pease tell me. Thanks, xxx

I'm not sure if you guys have bowling, but you could always do that. Uhm, also if there's an amusement park open where you live, go there. =)

ok so there is this guy i like and he liked me back but i rejected him(that all happended last semester). he left the school (not because of me!!)
ok so somebody told me his myspace so i checked.
well now i accidently sended him an invite thingy.
AND NOW I AM DEAD!!! what should i do? he thinks i hate him. and i don't really know how he feels about me but i'm pretty sure he doesn't like me anymore. i am so ambarressed right now. i have'nt heard from him since last semester and after i rejekted (that was like february 2006) him we never talked again. i am in love with this guy
WHAT SHOULD I DO?????????

Just cancel the request. It's not so hard.

Hey what I want to know is how I can make my boyfriend horney. No I am not being a tease because he told me he loves when I do it but I don't know how I did. I don't want to ask him because I kind of want to suprise him. Also I can't really dress in "sexy clothing" and I don't talk dirty. But can someone give me some information on places where I can touch or kiss or something that will turn him on.

Thanks sooo much!

Shove your hand down his pants, that should get him quite aroused.

What are the signs you see in your body b4 u can be sure you are pregnant.Beside going 4 pregnancy test.

You're hungry, your boobs hurt, you've missed your period, your back hurts, you feel sick constantly.

can doing exercises like seatup and press ups make one loose a one month pregnancy?

Uhm, no.

Way to wanna murder the could-be-next "einstein". Genius.

hey okay so my dad is 58, and he quit smoking in thesummer of 2005. He had smoked for 40 years and i was proud when i FINALLY MADE him stop. cause i know how hard it was for him.

I was wondering if his health a little bit better than when he smoked. Any ways to make his lungs cleaner or something? cause even if he stopped, he'd been smoking for 40 Years. and like a lot each day.

Thanks!

Well, it's been about a year, and a half, two years. They're somewhat cleaner, but not like fully. It'll take a long time for his lungs to clean themselves so immeadiate change is never gonna happen. But congrats to you & your dad.

i'm moving next year and i'll just be starting highschool. i don't know what i'm going to do because i made a whole bunch of friends here and it's going to suck. i'm not good at making friends. on the first day of school everyone is going to have friends and i won't. :(
how could i make friends?

I know how hard it is to move & have to make new friends, but it's not all that hard. If you put yourself out there & are really outgoing, you should have no problem. It seems hard because you're shy or quiet, but just open up, and be yourself. And remember, if someone doesn't like you the way you are, then they're not good enough to be your friend.

Does anyone have any good lies I could leave on my friends myspace as a comment for april fools day? Something kind of believable? Thanks! I tried to think of some, but they're bad.

Tell them you have AIDS.

what is hardcore? cuz i'm not sure. can u give me some exsamples maby?

Hardcore is really hard to explain. It's sort of a lifestyle, just like SCENE or INDIE would be.

Even though this site bashes the emo scene, and the scene scene, and the hardcore scene, it might help you some.

www.yourscenesucks.com

My boyfriend is in high school and I'm still in 8th grade; We've been close for years and we've been going out for several months. To be honest, he's got a few girls in his grade that like him, so of course they're doing everything they can to get him to break up with me including starting nasty rumors and putting down everything I do.

When we all hang out *his friends and I* no matter how nice I try to be, they love to put me down and treat me badly; So he started just hanging out with my friends instead. But I feel horrible, I wish they could just let me be. What should I do about all of this? I never did anything wrong.

They're just jealous and probably have every right to be. Although I've never seen your boyfriend, I'm sure he's quite the cutie.

Just know that your boyfriend loves you & he's not gonna leave you for those lame ugly girls. He's with you for a reason, and if he wanted them, he'd had left you already. Correct? Right. So just stop worrying. And next time they're mean to you, don't be nice to them. Be rude back. There's no reason for anyone to be walked all over when they're gonna be nice.

15 f
Ok you guys might think I'm crazy but...
I have a huge crush on zac efron. Yes the celebrity. He's so hott. Its like I can't control myself. I have so many posters of him. I find myself thinking a lot about him. Like I even have dreams about him. And no I'm not crazy. I have a boyfriend and sometimes I wish I was kissing zac. Its crazy right?. What's wrong with me. Also, you know that new video vanessa hudgens has with zac efron called say ok. I got really jelous. I just want to meet him so badly. What should I do?. Do you think vanessa and zac will go out or like eachother?. I can't stop thinking about him. Its like if I've meet him before. I don't know. help please.
Also, is there anyway I can meet him? And do you know any good acting agencies around newyork like queens or manhattan. Thanks in advance.
Ps I'm not crazy I swear!

As much as you say you're not crazy, I'm gonna have to disagree. No offense.

You're 15 years old, and you're dreaming about some celeb. I mean, every girl does so it's normal, but to actually imagine pretend your boyfriend is him & to kiss him, and be thinking to yourself "OMFG ZAC ILY" is insane.

I read in a magazine like last year that Zac thought Vanessa was cute, but claimed they were just friends. She said the same. I think they're just friends, but it's possible that a relationship as more than friends could form between them.

I'm not sure how you could possibly meet him, but maybe you could try getting like AIDS or something so the Make A Wish foundation can grant you the wish of meeting him. Haha, only kidding. Just try to join a contest or something & try & meet him.

So I pierced my ear lobes, and it healed as expected after whatever the suggested time was.

But how long can I leave in the same pair of earrings?

If I want to wear the same pair of earrings day after day, is there anything I should know? Do I still need to spin them or clean them, or?

Any tips or precautions I should take?

I am new at this earring thing, so anything would be nice. THANKS!!

When I got my ears pierced, the guy told me to keep them in for 6 months [so they can heal] & not to change the earrings until the 6 months was up. Once they were up, I could change my earrings whenever I wanted, & could not even put any earrings in at all. But I always kept them in my ears just in case [I suffer from paranoia, and I thought they'd close on me]. Haha. If you wanna wear the same pair of earrings day after day, just make sure you clean them like the person who did them told you to. If you did them yourself, just clean them like you normally would. =) If you take care of them, everything should be fine.

well i'm 200 pounds and i'm 4ft. 11in. I know i'm overweight, thats not what i'm asking though. i'm just wondering do you think i should get gastric bypass surgery? or try to work it off myself? if i work it off myself, then what ways should i work it off? PLEASE HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. thanks.

First off, I'd like to congratulate you on setting goals for yourself & trying to lose weight. When people are overweight, they're at risk for a lot of diseases, such as high blood pressure, diabetes & heart disease. So doing something about it now is good in the long run. You're saving your life, so congratulations!

Gastric Bypass surgery is really expensive, and quite dangerous for someone your age. I don't think you need it, because I think you can lose your weight the healthy weigh instead of having to go under a knife. You don't need drastic measures to lose weight hun.

As for how to lose weight, here are some do's & donts.

DO'S
- Drink 8 glasses of water a day.
- Drink 4 glasses of milk a day [low fat, 1%]
- Exercise for 30 minutes a day everyday.
- Cut out all junk food. No more sweets, no more junk, and no more fast food.
- Cut sodas out too. Try drinking something healthy like juices low in sugar. Or water.
- Start running. Do at least a mile a week. Don't run a mile all at once, but work your way up. Once you conquer a mile, try going for a few more until you can basically do anything. Also, don't run fast. Pace yourself so you don't get tired & feel like quitting.
- Eat healthy. Fruits, veggies, meats & breads are really good for you. =)
- Eat yogurt. Yoplait [sp?] Light & Fit works really well for losing weight. My mom lost a lot of weight eating it. [But if you're lactose intolerant like me, eat dairy sparingly so you don't get sick. Yogurt is a dairy product, if you didn't already know.]
- Join a gym. They have machines that target certain areas of the body. So tell a trainer what you wanna work on, and they'll recommend a machine for it.

DONT'S
- Don't eat or exercise before bed. If you eat before bed, it's gonna be really hard to digest while sleeping since basically your whole body shuts down, and you'll just gain weight. And if you exercise before bed, your muscles won't be relaxed, so you'll be antsy & it'll be hard to fall asleep.
- When you see results, DO NOT STOP. Keep going because if you stop right then, you'll just gain all your weight back. So once this healthy lifestyle starts to suit you, don't give it up at all. For the rest of your life, because if you do everything you've worked for will just have been a big waste of time.
- Don't be discouraged if you gain weight. Muscle weighs more than fat. =)

Hey, I'm a 15 year old girl and I really like this one boy. He's at my bus stop and I wonder if he likes me back. Do you know how I can tell if he likes me and what I should do so that we can at least talk to each other. I havent ever talked to him before but I want to. I'm really shy and I dont know what I should say and im REALLY scared to go up to him and talk to him!!! This is my very first time that i ever felt like this about a boy. What should I do? Please help me and thanks!

Okay, if you notice him looking at you, or smiling at you, he's probably interested & probably likes you. =) When you notice he's looking at you, just go up and introduce yourself. And then start a conversation from there. I'm not saying to start like an intellectual conversation with him all at once, but just a "hey, what's up?" kind of thing. And see how it goes from there. Once you become friends, start hanging out. =)

okay well first off how old do you have to be to get it done with a parent or guardian with you ? if it helps i live in western mass.

Basically, if your parents give consent, and are present with you, they'll do it at any age. But for some states you need to be 16 or older. In New York, if you come without a parent a 16, you need ID, your birth certificate & your social security card. And you'd still need all that even if you had your parent. Also, if you don't have a legal ID [driver's liscense, permit] you can use your school ID.

I'd go to some of the shops where you live & ask what they do, and how much. Then compare prices, and see which one works best.

Also, if the you go to the place & they already have their needles laid out, go to another place. They're dirty & you could get some type of infection. Make sure they take everything out of the packages in front of you, and make sure they explain everything. Such as what they're gonna do, what they're using, how to clean it, and everything else. =) If they don't do that, you should leave immeadiately.

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