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friend&my ex
Okay, so theres this guy that i really really like, we talk on the phone every night & he likes me too. The problem is that i just broke up with my ex bf almost 2 weeks ago now & im working on a friendship with him..and i dont want this to ruin it. plus my ex knows that i was talking to this guy on the phone while we were dating, but it was just to help me through a difficult time & i told him that now & he heard that i did like him before. So im worried that we wont be able to be friends now if i end up dating this guy & i really want to do both. i dont want to hurt my ex anymore than i already have but i really really like this guy, hes nothing like any other guy ive dated. we are planning on hanging out on spring break but not saying anything so my ex dosnt find out, atleast not yet. Also theres another little problem, one of my best friends liked the guy i like a few months ago i told her and she said she dosnt care but i dont know if shes lying or not cuz i asked another friend about it& they told me that she is kinda upset about it & i completely understand how she could be a little mad but she has been ignoring me lately & i just dont know what to tell her, she kind of hides her emotions from people, then she started telling me not to like him because he lied to her, but no one knows for sure if he did or not. but that dosnt change the fact that i really like him. So what do i do about my ex & my friend? When do i tell them that we are hanging out now? My other best friend knows everything about this, but she wasnt sure what to tell me about this. So please help!
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you shouldnt have to hide this from your ex. but if you also just dont want him finding out.. just dont talk about this new person. if things do get serious between you two then go for it. if you and your ex boyfriend are really over and done with he should still be your friend. as for your friend you need to sit her down and tell her straight out that you want the truth about him .. ask her questions. if shes bothered by it give it a little while.. if she says shes fine with it and she doesnt like him anymore then go for him. if shes upset about it later, thats her fault not yours.
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If you're completely done with your ex boyfriend for good, you might wanna make that clear to him. He's not dating you anymore, so what you do with your love life is none of his business at all. He's not apart of it anymore, so he basically shouldn't care what you do. Explain to him that you're just gonna be friends, and he shouldn't care what you do with your love life because it no longer has anything to do with him.
For your friend; I realize she's your friend, but are you guys close? If not, then just hang out with him & go out with him. You like him right? If she's gonna let something dumb like a boy come between you guys, then she's dumb & she was never your friend anyways.
As for your other friend who couldn't tell you anything, she probably doesn't wanna get involved with it, so she wasn't gonna say anything to you.
But listen, just like whoever you want. Date whoever you want & learn not to care if feelings get hurt or people ditch you. It's life, and you can't stop it from happening. Be happy, and don't stop being happy because it's gonna make someone else miserable.
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