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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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I am currently 14 at the moment and there is already a lot of drama in my life, with boyfriends. One of my past boyfriends wich I will call i (guy 1), I was really happy w/him. I've known guy1 since elementary and we didn't really know if we liked eachother so our realashonship kept going off and on. Untill this past year I thought we were going to stay 2getheer for a longer time, but he just went up to me one day and told me it was over w/no reason at all. I was really heartbroken b/c he made me feel so happy. Then another guy, (guy2) came along and made me feel happy for a while. But I broke up w/him after 3 months b/c I was wasn't so sure if I liked him, or if I was just in love w/the fact of having a boyfriend. I was w/guy1 7 differnt times and in between those times i was w/other guys to, but those realashionships never lasted long, they all cheated on me. Now i feel like i'm searching for another guy just like guy1. I have this dream now that guy1 calls me and tells me that he loves me and he wants me back. I still really love him and i've never finihed that dream so i never get to see what i say. I don't know what to do can n-e-one please give me advice?

go up to guy 1 and tell him how u feel. dont think about rejection or embarressment or anything..just tell him flat out how u feel...just to get it out of u. n ifhe duznt feel the same way..then let go. dont go searching for the exact same guy in adifferent body..ull spend your whole life looking. look for someone who just makes you happy...even if its in different ways. good luck x0x0x

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i am a pessimess...or how ever u spell that...how do i become optimistic? i have always been a pessimess. when it comes to sports,skool,friends, family and everything else. i kinda started to become more confident to cuz i dont have any in myself. but idk how exactly.if u think u can help me please answer.....i rate everyone who answers any of my questions...Me...thanx

lol pessimist* just concentrate on the good in your life! dont think about the bad stuff..or bad situations from the past...think about how much fun you could have! get out n do something you love. to be more confident - just think good of urself! concentrate on ur good traits and become someone tht people like..as long as your not being fake! spend lots of time around the ppl/things that make u happy! x0x0x good luck!

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I really wana loose a quick 10-15 pounds really fast in 4 weeks.. but the bad part is im really picky with foods.. So i dont know what to do or eat.. does ne one have ne advice?! i'd apreciate it soo much!

exercise 3 times a week n eats lots of salad n drink lots of water! ull lose like 5-15 lbs in about 1-2 weeks cuz ur body is flushin out all of its excess waters...hope this helps!

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okay, my two BEST FRIENDS are made at me becasue i went and hung out with one of my friends and not them. now they are mad at me...what should i do?please help fast!!

-so confused-

tell them that yall will ALWAYS be friends no matter who u hang w., n tht shuldnt get in the way...but you do have other friends just like they do!

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ok say ur boyfriend hasnt called u n like 3 months
what do u do?

idk if id consider him a bf anymore i mean if u never tlk...call him n c wuts goin on!!

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how do you make a website like what website do you go to to make a website?


-Webless

www.easydesigner.com is really easy n fun!

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i feel like when im playing sports i have certain expectations to look up to cuz my sisters are all awesome at soccer and basketball and then there me and i think im not that good. but all my friends disagree. idk...wut do i do?

dont compare yourself to anyone else! try to break YOUR records, not some one elses. ppl r gunnaluv u whether ur good at sports or not, but dont try 2 be some one else when ur playing. make ur goal to be to impress urself, not sum1 else!!

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Okay I'm 5'1 and my weight is 117!!!! Im not really sure if I'm fat. In my clothes I dont look fat n in my bikini I guess i dont either..I mean I dont look super skinny though either. I think I'm fat but my sister and bff say its mostly all muscle which may be true bc i am a dancer (Tap Jazz and Ballet) n I have been dancing for about 5 years. I dont think its muscle though...I really wish i was skinnier but my sister says it would look dumb bc i have a "BIG ASS!!!!" which guys like so its nice but i am REALLLLY insecure about my thighs and stomach..my bff says they look fine n they are all muscle but i still feel REALLLLLY fat...About a month ago i starved myself for 3 1/2 days n i lost 5 1/2 pounds! I would have kept going except my bff basically made me eat..I know that starving myself probably isnt tha best thing to do but its sooo easy and pretty fast. Im not sure what to do at all!! PlZzZ help!! Thanx xo0ox!!

ok first of all...no matter how you feel...YOU ARE NOT FAT. anddancers sometimes have bigger thighs bc they move n twist alot and tht works the muscle. and if u do 3 types ofdancing tht must meanu liek it...n starving yourself makes you weakso you wouldhave 2 give up dancing. dont starve urself bc if u didit for a long pd of time..when u strtd eating again, you could die bc ur body got used to not having food. if you know u dont look fat in clothesor a bathing suit then you should kno ur not fat...and if u think u weight 2 much..it IS all muscle cuz muscle weighs more than fat. most diets are ok...but dont bcome anorexic or bullimic...those can kill you. good luck hun x0x0x

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Well im 16 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months and our love for each other is stronger than you could ever believe. Around our 11 month anniversary we lost our virginity to each other. I honestly don't regret it but im starting to believe that we are too young. I love him more than anything and it scares me how much i love him sometimes. Do you think we are too young to have this kind of relationship ?

sometimes love cant wait!!! your never too young to care about someone...its ok to be in love! age is just a number..and you'll grow up faster than you think! good luck with ur relationship!!

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You see there's this guy and I think he likes me but I don't know. He tried to put moves on me the other day and it kinda freaked me out. Like he kissed me on the cheek, put his hand on my leg. He did stuff just to get close to me. When a guy does stuff just to get close to you it means he likes you, but I don't really like him. Ohh...help! What should I do??

just tell him politely that you consider him more of a friend and it makes you uncomfortable when he touches you like that. he should understand!

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i am to obsessed with dieting im 16 5'0 and weight 114lbs i think i am so fat even thought every1 thinks im not...i dont no why..i work out 4 times a week..and i eat really healthy...but lately i havent aten to healthy..my friends all think im ganna become anerixic and im scared 2..i check every label carbs calories everhything it drives everyone crazy and its starting 2 drive me crazy what should i do?

well first of all..ur not over weight at all...if you lost anymore wieght ud dissapear!! lol. but its ok tht ur watchin wut u eat..but dont take it 2 far. your probably feeling the way you are bc you changed you diet lately (u sed u hvnt beeneating healthy lately..) so get back on track 2 ur old diet n ull prly feel fine! just dont do sumthn ur gunna regret...

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there is this girl whos is really really really nice but some of my friends make fun of her b/c she can't afford new clothes i want to make her have really cool clothes but the problem is i don't have any money to get her new clothes how can i make her look stylish w/ out usin alot of money??

if her bdayor any holidays r commin up..ahveur present 2 her be a shopping trip n u give her like $100 n go 2 the mall n get sum new clothes n go w. her 2 help her pick out nice stuff!! cheap stores tht have rly niceclothes r sears, jc pennys, hechts, n forever 21. theres alot more but i cant think of any lol. but i hope tht helps!

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I've messed up a lot...and I'm only 15. I'm not going to go into detail about all the mistakes I've made, I just need a way to deal with them. It's like their haunting my mind. I don't know how to deal with it, and I'm always putting myself down about them too. I'm only 15 what do I do? I know its in the past and I can't do anything about it....

dont beat urself up over it..everyone makes mistakes...the good thing about themis you can learn from them! plusit seems like your trying to be a better person..and you have nowhere to go but up! to make urself feel better..maybe you could try helping sum ppl who r going thru wut u went thru...n dont concentrate on ur bad qualities! cuz you have the best quality some1 couldever have...your trying to be a better person!! plus you seem really sweet and you regret what you did...so youre already a good person!

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Does anyone know what the solute thing is all about?? why do ppl do them?? i dont get it

so ppl cant pretend to be someone theyr not!! they pretty much prove your identity..

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my hair is wavy--not straight and i usually straighten it--i wanted to try to make it really curly so i tried scrunching moose...gel..hairspray curling shampoo and other stuff nothing will work plz help me!

get a perm!! or put rollers in over night. w. perms you can still straighten it too so you can change the style alot! (i kno..i have 1 lol)

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Hi school is just getting ready to start and i've been homeschooled for the last year,or so . How can I get my mom to put me back in school???
signed
help needed

tell her you think a regular highschool will be a good expierence for you and she shouldnt take that away, it helps prepare you for real life with real people! plus you make great relationships and its a fun expierence! just tell her all that but dont do it like rushed, sit her down and talk to her about it. i hope she lets u!! x0x

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i luv my bf ALOT and hes really sweet...we havent been dateing that long but do ne 1 hav any ideas that i could d0 f0r him that would b sweet?? like idk we kant drive yet so we cant go no where real far but kan u gimmie sum ideas that will turn him on n make him happy?

instead of him surpising you with dinner, suprise him!! go out of ur way to do something you normally wouldnt, make him feel special and give him a night he'll never forget, like maybe a candle-light picnic, or a nice dinner (nice duznt always mean expensive either ;)) or get him a little present like a framed pic of u 2! good luck

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i really like this guy. but he lives in another state. i dont get to see him very often, but i can talk to him online or on the phone. should i ask him out?

if you think that the distance wont be a problem then go for it! long distance relationships are tough...but hey sometimes they work out! n if you care about each other enough, im sure it will!

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hey. (great column and lol the question about the webbed feet? ehhh lol) ok well moving on. i have this great friend.(i love him to death) a couple months back he got stepped all over by a girl he liked like a TON. hes scared of gettin hurt again and almost gave up on girls. how can i teach him all girls arent like that? and how can i get him to notice me as more than a friend? (idk if i mentioned i REALLY like him! so btw I DO)

hey lol thanks!! ok well its normal for people tobe scared to keep putting themselves out there...just let himk now that your always there for him no matter what! maybe you should try telling him how you feel about him..maybe he has feeling for you too and just hasnt noticed it!! lol. and if he tells you hes just scared...remind him of how well he knows you (assuming itspretty well if hes a great friend!!) and that you would never hurt him! he needs time right now so dont rush him and mdont make him feel cornered..make him feel comfortable and safe around you!! make it so he WANTS to give you his heart. good luck with the whole thing!!!

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ok idk how to say this. i read my sisters away message the other day and it sed "my life is so perfect. so dont try to ruin it" and i feel like my life is crap cuz of everything that is going on. how it her life so perfect and mine so horrible? wut am i missing?

maybe your concentrating too much on the bad stuff...try to have more fun and forget about anything thatgets you down!! look for the good in every situation..even though its hard to find sometimes...theres always good somewhere!! i think one of the worst things ever is when sum1 dies...especially someone i care about..but the good is...i have 1 more angel watching over me! if u ever wanna tlk feel free :)

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