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ok. i dont smoke. But alot of people in my grade do. im only going into 8th grade and i turn 14 in january! alot of people that i know have at least tried smoking. recently i have been having these dreams that i smoked and i liked it..then i'd wake up. is this bad? should i have already tried it. i think want to. thx for any advice!

I'm 16 and I've never smoked or tried it or anything. One reason is because my grandma died of smoking cig. and the second reason because some of my guy friends do and they would always come to me and be like "do you have gum or spray" and plus they would be pissed if I did, they told me NEVER to lol. So I never did. But, don't try it because other people have, don't follow the crowd, be your own person and once you try it, you could be addicted to it and that wouldn't be good. You could get caught and get on probation or something. And that wouldn't be good. Don't let anyone pressure you into it or don't do it just to be "Cool" or something.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well this might be long but help PLEASE.... ok well... i met this guy(lets say his name is Brad) online between some frineds.. well Brad ended up moveing very close to me and we begain "talkin" hanging out and we hit it off really well and we dated for about 7 months then i found out that he was makeing out with his best frineds(Brian) girlfriend(Katie)...BROKE MY HEART.. well me and Brad stoped talkin and Brian and Katie stoped takin and Brad and Brian werent so good of friends anymore.... well about a month later i got a call from Brad and it shocked me so much... i never thought that he would have tryed to get back with me.. well we talked our problems out and we started to hanging out again but never "went out" again.... well after like 4 months of us "talkin" and bein a lil more then friends he called me one day after school and he seemed really upset and asked me to go over to his house cause he needed to tell me somthing.. so me still in love with him trying to be here for him cause he doesnt have the best life.. its really hard on him.. i went to his house and he broke the news to me... that he was leaveing that weekend and moveing again.... this of course broke my heart AGAIN...well he moved and hes been gone for about 2 months and i miss him more then ever.... i never really get to talk to him but then do he still tells me he loves me and wants to come back and wants me to go up there and meet his friends.. well school startin in about a month so im trying to get ready for that but i havent been able to sleep at night... AT ALL... and if i do get to sleep then i have dreams about me and him back together or him dieing or us never seening each other again and different stuff.. well the last time i really got to talk to him he told me that he will be able to come down here for x-mas and next summer since he livein back with his mom.. he gets to come to see his dad... i try to talk to him as much as i can but i never seem to and if i do and then his friend r around... i dont know if he really means it or his just trying to be a "pimp" infront of his friends... what do u think???.. this isnt the only problem in my life im haveing right now but its the one thats buggin me the most..... PLEASE PLEASE HELP!
signed,
coufused x's and o's

I'm so sorry it took me awhile to reply back, I was in Vegas!! So sorry!! Okay, to ONE of your problems I will TRY and help you. First of all, I'm sorry you have so many problems in your life, I know how it feels ... if you need to talk about any of them, I'll be glad to help and/or listen to them! Okay, back to your boy problem. I'm really sorry you have to go through the whole breaking the heart situation, it sucks really bad! =( But anyways, since you REALLY love/like this kid, I think you should try talking to him and I understand that he's ALWAYS with his friends or something and trying to be pimp in front of them (I hate when guys do that, bugs me lol), when you do talk to him just be like "Hey, I really need to talk to you about something important, so when you're not in front of your friends or anything can we talk about it?" And then when you two DO get to talk, just be like "I'm not trying to make you feel bad or anything, but you did break my heart and when you moved, it just tore me apart, we barely talk anymore and I really miss you. You still tell me you love me and stuff and I love you too, but I just really want to know how you feel about me. So, please just tell me how you feel and just tell me the truth." Just say something like that and just tell him how you feel about him and see if you two could hook up and try to work a long distance relationship or something. But, first just talk to him about how you feel about him and see how he feels about you too. I hope this helps and if it doesn't just leave a message in my inbox! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well theres this guy that ive liked for a few months now, we were really good/close friendz and told each other like everything, he knew i liked him n he said he liked me too, we went places 2gether all the time(mall, movies, etc..) we ended up finilly kissing a few times afta a few months and we were thinking about dating but we didnt know if we wanted 2 ruin our friendship cuz it was such a good friendship but anyways a few weeks after we kissed both of us started hearing shit from people that we hung out with(we had like pretty much the same friends) i just ignored all the things ppl said 2 me, but he didnt he listened to everythin everyone said and decided too stop talking to me, he doesnt talk too me nemore but he tells people that he still likes me but its been more than a month now and he still wont even IM me online i still realy like him but i dunno if i should just give up and move on what do u think i should do???

I'm sorry it took me a couple of days to reply back, I just got back from Vegas!! So, I'm sorry =( Okay, aaaanyways. Rumors are so bad! I hate them. I think since you still like him and you know he still likes you, try talking to him and telling him whats up and tell him the REAL story. You can either write him a letter, IM him, call him up, or talk to him face-to-face. And just basically tell him the real story and just be like "Me and you were so close and you know I like you still and I hear that you still like me too and I know what messed us up. They were rumors and none of them were true, people were telling me things about you but I ignored them and I thought you would too, but you didn't you believed them, but they weren't true at all." Just say something like that and just be like "And I still want to know if you like me and if we could ever go back to how it use to be" Say something like that and just tell him the truth and then tell him how you feel. Hope this helps, if not just leave another message in my inbox! Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay, well, I think I want to break up with my "internet boyfriend". but I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't know how to end it :(

Lilly

Just break it to him gently. And just be like "I'm really sorry, I'm not trying to hurt you or anything, but I don't think this whole internet boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is working out, I mean don't get me wrong, but we're never meet each other..." Just say something like that, he should understand. Just try to be nice about it. Hope this helps! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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How do you breakup with sumone that loves yOU?!

Yea, thats tough to breakup with someone who loves you! Just break it to them gently. Just be like "I don't know how to tell you, I'm not trying to be mean or anything, and I'm really sorry too, but I think we should just be friends, I just don't see have those feelings anymore like you do for me, and I think it would just be best if me and you were just friends." Just say something like that. Make sure its nice, so you don't totally break there heart into pieces. Hope this helps, if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox, I'll be glad to help you out! Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I dated this person 4 almost 4 yrs... I loved them soo much n then we went down hill. I don't know if I'm still "inlove" with them, but I always think about them. It's starting to get better and fade away, but they seem to already have moved on. It's only been a year!! What should I do?? Do you think they've moved on?We were eachothers first loves, and I thought first loves don't end!!!Plz Help!!

What do you mean by them/they? But, I know its tough since this person was your first love. You'll never really stop loving that person. True love, really never has an ending, you just sometimes have to move on. But, you have to let go of this person's heart and if it returns then it was ment to be. But, if you want you can try confronting this person and just being like "You were my first love, true love never ends, and I know you have someone right now, but I'm still in love with you and I just want to know how you feel about me." Say something like that, but if you dont then the best thing for you to do is go out and have fun. And by doing that, you can't just sit around waiting for there heart to return. Go out and meet new people, you might even fall in love! Who knows! But, you have to go out and have fun, go to the mall, friends house, parties, etc. wherever people will be that you can meet and try to hook up! You only live life once, don't you? Hope this helps and good luck! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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what are some good ways to get my muscles bigger? like in my stomache and arms n' stuff.

Try:

1.) Sit-ups
2.) Crunches
3.) Pushups
4.) Swimming laps (Makes your arms stronger)
5.) Lifting weights

*Hope that helps, good luck!*

xoxo Kourtney

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hey

i am 15 f and i really like this guy 15 m and he like me back we just dont ever talk about it and i think we will end up goin out i just dont know if i should tell him that i have never even kissed someone and i know he had done stuff with girls so should i just go with it and not tell him or do u think he can tell?

Hey!! No, you don't have to tell the guy! He won't know either! The first time I kissed a guy, I didn't tell the guy he was my first kiss, and he didn't know he was either! He thought I had madeout/kissed tons before! lol. So, you'll be fine! Kissing comes natural, it really does! And if he does know, he'll be nice about and not tease you about it either if he's a nice guy! Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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i want to tell my ex-boyfriend that i still have feelings for him even thought i know nothing will happen cuz he has a gf that i'm sure he loves but how do i say it??!!

Try calling him up or talking to him face-to-face and just being like "I know you have a girlfriend and everything and I'm not sure if you love her or not, I'm sure you do, BUT..I still have feelings for you." Just say something like that and how you feel. And just see what he says. But, don't get into his relationship too much because I'm sure you wouldn't want any girl doing that to you! lol. Hope this helps and good luck! If you still need help, just ask, I'll be glad to help!

xoxo Kourtney

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i'm going into high school and im really scared and nervous..what if i dont know anyone during lunch and i have to sit by myself?! i dont know what to do..how can i be more brave and not be so scared?

Aww don't be scared! You'll be fine!! You just have to be outgoing. And plus you have classes before you eat lunch. So, in each class, talk to people that sit around you, just be friendly and talk to them. You'll meet friends that way. Just make sure you talk to people. And the 4 kids that ARE going to your school, see what hour lunch they have and if they have the same hour lunch as you, you can also sit by them too! Hope this helps. And you'll be fine!! If you need any more help, I'll be glad to help =D

xoxo Kourtney

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See i liek this girl but she lieks another guy and i always try to tell her but she never liek answers wat do I do?
signed,
confused

Girls can also be stubborn lol. When you do talk to her, just be like "You know I like you and every time I try to ask you, you never answer me and I just want to know how you feel about me, so can you PLEASE just tell me how you feel..." Just say something like that and if she still doesn't answer, you might want to just forget this girl and try to move on. Hope this helps and good luck! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox, I'll be glad to help!

xoxo Kourtney

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besides talking to a guy how can you get him to like you...BESIDES TALKING! please i love someone but talking isnt working

Hang out with him alot and be yourself. And when you are with him, just be really flirty and smile and laugh (the flirty smiling and laughing lol if you know what I mean). Just hint to him that you like him. But, now-a-days guys are stubborn you have to tell them you like them lol. So, if he doesn't get the hint, try talking to him and just being like "I've tried hinting to you that I like you, but you seem to not of noticed, so I'm just going to tell you that I like you and I just want to know how you feel about me." Say something like that. Hope this helps and good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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what r sum sites w/ quotes

Go here they have TONS of quotes!!

http://hellz-angelz.cjb.net

xoxo Kourtney

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i got a gurl iv known for awhile and i like her alot and i kno she knos but like she trusts me alot and like she tells me everything...and i guess thats goos but , she tells me who she likes and everything and asks for my advice and i just wanna b like forget them come with me but i try to give her advice from a friend type i jus want her to be happy. but it hurts alot listenin her talk bout all these guys but i dont want her to stop talkin to me wat should i do?

Aww thats really sweet! I think you should tell her how you feel! When you two are talking just be like "I know we're friends and thats awesome! All I want is you to be happy and I love talking to you, but when you tell me about the boys you like, it hurts because I like you and I'm afraid that when I tell you this, you'll stop talking to me, but I don't want that to happen, I want you to be happy, but I like you!" Just say something like that. Just tell her how you feel. She may feel the same about you! =D Hope this helps and good luck! If you still need help, just ask I'll try to help you out!

xoxo Kourtney

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Come on Come on
You know its time to go
it times to let go
there nothing to hold on to
gotta let go to get over it
we cant live in the past. there nothing we cand do change that.. oh come on come get ready let go its times to let go.. nothing nothing we can do and hold on to. I dont want to know I want to let go.. so can we go now..

That sounds like a song more than a poem, but who cares I liked it!! lol. I thought it was really good, because some people live in the past then trying to move on, so that poem really trys to push people to move on. I thought it was great! You did a great job on it! Good job! Keep writting!

xoxo Kourtney

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thank you soo much im the shy girl that liked the shy boy for 2 years i took ur advice and he asked me out because we got to know eachother thanks a bunch
no longer confused heart

Aww you're welcome!! I'm so happy for you!! That just made my day because I didn't have such a great day today lol! If you ever need help I'll be glad to help you out =D Congratulations on your new boyfriend!! Hope you guys last!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey its me again ull probally reconize me comparing to all of my questions. well anyways anthony now likes me and im so0oo frikin HAPPY! he started to like me yesterday. but turns out his grandfather passed awa too. he didnt tell me my friends brotha did. But the problem is i took your advice b4 and i went for it and asked him out. And i kno hes gonna say yes but he hasnt yet. and i dunn wanna rush him or anythin cuz he still pretty sad about his grandpas death. and i juss wanted to kno how longs should i wait to bring it up its already to been about 3days since i mention about askin him out. Ps. he still dont know that i kno bout his grandpa hoo passed away yesterda y sadly.

luv awlays-confused girl

Hey! Aww yay he likes you!! But, now that you know he likes you, he'll say yes. Just give him time to get over his grandpa. I mean, I can't give you an answer of how long it will take him. But when you two are talking just be like "I know you didn't tell me about your Grandpa, I found out and I just want to say I'm really sorry! I just want you to know I'm here for you. And you know I like you, and you said you like me too, and I'm not trying to rush anything, I just want you to know whenever you are ready to go out, I'm ready too" Just say something like that. And just wait for his response. And if you still need help, just post back. I'll be glad to help. Hope this helps and good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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does anyone know any good clothes stores with cheap clothes? i'm not saying cheap cheap but cheaper than abercrombie type cheap. help asap! i rate REALLY good!

Try:

www.kohls.com
www.forever21.com
www.579.com
www.ross.com
www.target.com

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ok well i asked a question bout this girl i like and how she wouldnt tlk cuz of somethin. well she started tlkin 2 me again and now my friend is tryin 2 say that she doesnt like me. she said she likes boys wit frecles, red hair, and lite skin. well my friend said that she said she was playin a joke on me n that she doesnt really like me. well my friend likes her also so i wanted 2 kno if it was jealousy or if u think it was the truth?

I think your friend is jealous and he likes the girl. I think you should talk to the girl and just ask her if its true just be like "Hey I have a question to ask you, is it true that you only like guys that have freckles, red hair, and light skin?" And if she says no thats not true, then ask her if she likes you. Hope this helps, and if you still need help, just ask I'll be glad to help!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay i wrote a poem and i wanna know what yoo thiink

never will a day pass that i dont think of you i may not show it but i truely am in love with you i know its true alls i can think about is you your more than a person to me your my inspriation you mean the world to me .. only if you would open your eyes and see how much u mean to me

ehh it probably sucks !! =(

Don't be so hard on yourself! I thought it was a great poem!! I can relate to it and I'm sure many other people can too! You should add more to it and just write how you feel about that person you love, that would be an awesome poem - even though it already is, but just add more. You did a great job on it! Good job! Keep writting.

xoxo Kourtney

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