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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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How to get over a guy? especially your the person who falls hard on guys?

Time heals everything. Consume yourself with something else.

Is it okay to go out for halloween even though you're christian? I want free candy..I'm Christian and I think it's ok but..

Yeah, it's cool. I was born a catholic [although I'm now an athiest], and I still go trick or treating.

13/f okay well we have established that. Well here's the deal, I got my phone stolen, and didn't realize it, but I told my parents, so now I want a new phone, but my mom doesn't think I'm responsible, and I don't have any money. Should I try to earn it, get it from my brother, or just wait until my birthday or christmas

Wait until your birthday. But you should call the company you had your cell phone under & have them turn the phone off so whoever stole it can't use it rack up your bill. Or they can track it for you so you can get it back. Try that.

heyyyy. its spring break and i wanna come back with a complete makeover.
im thinking about:
1. going to get my eyebrows waxed
2. uses facail and scrubs
3. doing my nails and stuff.
4. working out
5. shopping for clothes

any more ideas. i cant dye my hair but i can do diffrent styles with it.

thanksss

Good plan. Some other ideas:

[1]If you're shy & conservative, try to be a little more outgoing.
[2]Get some contacts.

ok I been freinds with these 2 girls are best freinds growing up. so we all been good friends and had good times. well thing is they are in collage. and i am not. i am kinda in different driction i am not bommer its just not everybody can go collage. but how ever. right now me and my freind are dift way from eatcher and sometimes now and days I feel like my life is control by them and wasted on them. and i think good idea is to stay way from and not talk to. becouse i don't know who i am anymore. I am kind person have alot of friends but thing is growing up making my self feel like i be more my self with that person. and now I not around anybody. i don't go out and i don't drive. (I have a certain disbities) how ever I love all most my friends but thing is that i don't feel like couple are my true friends. i don't want lose them i don't know how confont them my true feeliings and don't listen. they think i read minds. sometimes i am tried of playing mind games sorry if this don't make sence but i think trouble is being best friend with 2 that been best friend. i was walking away from them frist time i met them. anyway this all i can say advice i am asking for is. if they question me why and way i am acting how i say they never or care about my feelings and stuff.
thanks
sorry long

Your spelling & grammar is HORRIBLE, but I'm gonna help you anyways.

If they don't listen to the way you feel, or what you say, then they either don't care or they just don't know what to say to you. I honestly don't think they're true frends. You can be yourself around them, and they listen to you & care about you & the things you have to say.

Your friends suck.

i really can`t dance. whenever my friends dance, i fell really awkward dancing with them because i feel like i can`t dance. any tips? or good websites to learn from? and i really want to learn how to crip walk. help me!

Awww. Ask them to teach you. I'm sure they won't laugh & that they'll help. They shouldn't mind it at all.

What's the best stuff to whiten your teeth? like crest whites or whatever

and

Which is better for gingivitous (spelt wrong i know) (crest?)Pro-Health or colgate total?

I'd used crestwhitestrips. And as for your second question, you should try both & compare them. =)

~13/f~ im the kind of gothic rough girl and hes the kind of preppy nice guy.Im not sure how I like my friend bff or bf. Weve been really close friends for a long time then it started going to bffs. because I tell him more than my other bffs and he tells me a lot and were always there for each other. But then we flirt so much. people think or say were dating or should but were not. He knows I liked him I know he liked me but I have no idea now. I went to a paintball party. We both go paint balling a lot then at the party my team was my 5 bffs 3 of their bfs and him. we flirt so much that’s what im so confused about. He was showing off and when we separated he was looking for me and worried? hes just really to nice. Is that what it should be like. But now hes been wearin a lot of black and deppressed. Does that mean something. But then we do joke or do shoot each other on purpose. And my other bff and her bf broke up that night so I went with her. So he knew so he went to get him(the guy she broke up with). Then we went around me my bff(my ?bff or bf? As in him) and my other bff (she just broke up). he was talking to her about something ‘top secret’. later on she started truth or dare. I kept doing truths I was just to nervous. I knew it was a setup. He asked truth to me if id ever take a dare. Then my bff asked truth to me if I liked him then truth to him if he liked me we both said no. I regret it. Everyone already knew anyway but im just not sure if I like him bf or bff? And ive never kissed or been kissed. That’s what it was supposed to be…us kissing. I thought wed start taking it longer than just a ‘dare’ kiss like making out or something. I like him as a bf then bff then bf then bff I just am not sure whats wrong. Hes all I think and write about.
i really need help soon. we tell each other a lot of stuff and we both knew or thought before the party that we liked each other.
Do I like him as a boyfriend(bf) or best friend(bff). How do you think he likes me? What should we do? How do you kiss? How could i tell my mom?
How can I change what happened? What else should I do? i really lied i love him at times but then at times its just friends but mainly i love him but we both deny it when theres alot of people. is that love were too flirty.

I honestly think you like him as boyfriend material. The things he does suggests he likes you, and I think he does. If you like him, and you know for sure he likes you back, then ask him out. I highly doubt he'll say no. For kissing, don't even worry about it. It comes super natural, and you'll have wondered why you worried in the first place. As for your mom, just tell her. If she loves you, she'll understand. Besides, your mom should want you to be happy, and if he makes you happy, then she'd want that for you. Just tell him how you feel & talk to your mom about it calmly.

how do i get my bf to open up to me?
i have no problem opening up to him, but idk why he wont open up to me. maybe its because he moved 3 years ago (away from me) and it seems like its hard for him to open up to me.

any suggestions?

You can't get him to do it, but you can suggest it to him. When you ask him what's wrong, and he says nothing say "Well, if you need me, I'll always be here for you." He'll eventually come around, but in the mean time just stick it out.

could anyone find me some cool italian speaking rock bands/punk, basically anythign that's not that super traditional stuff. lol. even ballads would be good, i guess. =) if anyone could find me lyrics, too, that'd be cool.

Lacuna Coil.

how do you know when you should have your first kiss? i really like this guy and i think he likes me too. so i want to kiss him reeeaaaallly badly but dont really know how to go about it. also there is a chance that he doesnt like me as more than friends. so how can i approach him in a way that is not too awkward. i dont plan on asking him if he likes me or telling him that i like him. the signs are there and if they are misread than i cant really do anything about it. i liked him before and he didnt like me because he was going through something in his life. now that he is over that situation he seems to like me. so how, when, where should i kiss him. should i kiss him at all? specific details please. thanx i luv you guys. =)

Tanara

First, make sure he likes you back. If you just kiss him, he might be like "wtf" and think you're weird. If he likes you back, then just kiss him. I'm almost positive he won't mind.

What is the best way to get rid of blackheads? especially the ones that are in difficult area's like around the edge of your nose where the skin is fragile? thanks

I use Clean&Clear Blackhead Clearing Scrub. It works REALLY good. That's where most of my blackheads used to be until I started using this. I absolutely love it, and most my friends use it too since I recommended it to them. =)

what is the difference between a g string and a thong?

A g-string is thicker.

heres the deal:
(keep in mind, this guy is my best guy friend)

sept: i like boy
nov: boy likes me
dec: i (unaware of him liking me) stop liking boy
jan: boy tells me he likes me. me=AHH.
feb: boy says he likes someone else. his friend says he still likes me
mar: i tell him i like someone else. when he hears this, he says he likes someone else too but won't tell me who.
present: boy is flirty(naturally. this guy flirts with everyone) but he gets angry at me and we get into a lot of fights over nothing

so does he like me or not because i'm not getting any clear signs here?

He might still like you. Tell him how you feel because he's the only one who can really tell you how he feels. =)

13/f

My names Shantae.. I have been dating this guy on and off for about a year now. I have a problem though. My parents totally hate him. He's 17 and he use to have a drug problem. My parents didnt know about it until I got really mad one night and spilled. Now, they dont want me anywheres near him. I'm inlove with this boy. When I see him the only thing I want is him to wrap me in his arms and hold me tight, i want him to tell me everythings going to be okay and he loves me more than anything. Right now, we aren't dating. My parents do not approve of anything about him, and I'm afraid that he's goin to leave me if we get back together because they wont let me see him, what do i do? Please give as much advice as you can PLEASE!!! :(

The answer as to why your parents hate him is obvious.

For one, he's gonna be 18 soon, and you're only 13. That can be illegal in most cases, and they don't want their kid with an adult. They want them with someone her own age.

And number two, he used to have a drug problems. You should have a nice respectable boyfriend. Not some hardcore thug off the streets who thinks he's the shit because he used to do drugs.

Let him find a girl his age, so you can find a guy your age. You're 13 years old hun, you don't know what love is, and you can do so much better. Trust me.

ok my school is holding cheerleading tryouts and we have 3 days before you practice. well i am pretty good at the cheer and i can do most of the jumps but im really nervous that im going to mess up in cheerleading....tryouts are friday and i dont want to mess up at tryouts...

Just try not to worry about it. Be confident. If you're confident that you're gonna do well, then you will. =)

ok. this is super duper embarassing.

i am 16, female. and i pee my pants when i laugh. like kinda bad. when i start laughing, i just lose control of my bladder. and then its soo hard trying to hide the (sometimes) huge wet spot on my pants. (i also wet the bed, but thats only once every 2-3 months so its not a huge problem)

i have tried using the bathroom like every five minutes: doesnt help AT ALL. i have tried thinking of something sad/not funny when i laugh: doesnt help. i have tried concentrating really hard on not peeing: doesnt help.

my social life has been affected by this: there is this girl i met at camp, and we became really good friends, but she lives like an hour away from me, but she has invited my to visit many times. i really want to, BUT SHE IS HILARIOUS!!!! ahhh!! (oh ya btw summer camp was hell for me: it was fun but also funny -> causes wet pants)

please help me. i am willing to do anything but get diapers (i wear tight jeans) and hang out with serious people. like i am actually a really humourous person myself, and it kills me to be scared to laugh.

I can see as laughing hard enough will make you pee on yourself, but I think you've got an overactive bladder. I'd see a doctor about it.

when i talk, it comes out slurred, and people have a hard time understanding me sometimes.

it wasnt always like that though: 2 years ago people understood me just fine, and i never had trouble saying things.

now, i talk really slow, and sometimes my tongue feels too big.

i think its because i am bilingual, and i speak the other langauge most of the time (and that one i speak fine) its just english i have so much trouble with. i used to be this really chatty girl, but my self confidence really went down becasue of this.

are there any excercises that i could do to improve my speaking abilities? talking more in english is not an option, but like reading aloud or something, would that help? what about talking with marbles in my mouth? (thats from my fair lady lol)

please help

Yeah, try to read out loud.

I'm usually at school during the day, and get back sometime between 5-7. Sometimes I find myself getting tired/lethargic after being out all day long, so I feel unmotivated and just want to sleep-right now, for example, it's passed 8 PM, and I really feel too tired to concentrate on my project that absolutely must get done by tomorrow.
My question is, is it a good idea to take a half hour nap this late at night? Do taking naps at night make you feel more, or less energized?
Thanks

I think taking naps at night can take away from the sleep you have to do. Just drink an energy drink & try to make it through.

i really miss my friend. the thing is that since we've stopped talking (like, TWO MONTHS TOPS) she's gotten really popular. she's always with people. so i'm afraid to text or call her in case she's with soebody. if i finally do work up the courage to call her, what should i say? we didn't really get into a fight, just some stuff happened and she was weird around me so we stopped making contact.

Just tell her you miss the friendship. If she wants to be friends again, she'll ask to hang out or she'll make an effort, and if she doesn't, then she was never your friend anyways.

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