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i miss my friend
i really miss my friend. the thing is that since we've stopped talking (like, TWO MONTHS TOPS) she's gotten really popular. she's always with people. so i'm afraid to text or call her in case she's with soebody. if i finally do work up the courage to call her, what should i say? we didn't really get into a fight, just some stuff happened and she was weird around me so we stopped making contact.
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well, you have to think about some things. like, if you do call her, how would it help / not help you? like would it be worth it having her back? or will she just claim you guys are friends & not talk to you? -- will YOU be the one to always call to hang out, or will she ever try to make plans?
you obviously can't answer some of those questions right now, but for right now you can ask yourself: do i REALLY want her back? will i gain anything? so, if you are positive that you want her, taking into consideration that she's changed & has a new circle of friends, you can do the following:
- send her an email. find her email address from someone & say something like, "hey, ____. look i've been thinking recently..." get to the point. you want to be direct. dont spend too much time talking about the good / bad parts of your last friendship. it might confuse her. explain to her how you feel, however. if she doesn't respond within 3 weeks...
- IM her. but do this only if you guys used to talk on [ whatever instant messaging program ]. cause if you guys didnt talk by IM, she might be like... why did she get my sn. & how. so just be aware of that. IM her & say, "hey... i sent you an email & i'm not sure you got it?" she might feel intrigued to respond, but there's always a possibility she wont. if she doesnt ever respond, blocks you, or signs off, i'd suggest either the next step...
- talk to her in person, if possible. if she's in one of your classes, go up to her & be like, 'heyy i sent you an email the other day..." if she smiles & says, 'omg i never got it!' then just keep talking & tell her how you feel. if she says like, "oh." & nothing else, you can infer that she either read it, didn't read it but deleted it, or both. you KNOW she knows what youre saying when you say it in person.
...or just [ i know this might sound a little harsh ] try to move on. we all loose & gain friends. it's a part of life. but sometimes, like this quote:
there's a point in life when you just get tired of
chasing everyone & trying to fix everything.
but it's not giving up. it's realizing that
you just don't need certain people.
sometimes you just gotta find the heart to move on. it's hard, & considering how tiight you guys were, it's gonna be a challenge. if she stopped talking to you, she wasn't a real friend. she might have USED to been [ uh. ] but no anymore. you, like her, need to make a new circle of friends & start hanging with people who like you for who you are. cause i mean friends are supposed to be there. not get in fights.
i hope i helped & good luck, hun. just dont forget to not hang out with people that don't love you for your beautiful, smart, caring self :]
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you're just growing apart and it is natural and i felt like this once too but in my opnion let go, why is she so popular anyway, and if she did care she would come up to you and hung with you but she dosnt.Talk to her if you want, and ask to go shopping ,but in my opnion i know i would waste my time with a friend who forgets me and acts weird around me.Hang around with other people who arent as popular and WANT to hang with.But i might be wrong so if you really want this weight lifted off your shoudlers, go talk to her and forget the others and just ask her if you want to go out somewhere together.
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Just tell her you miss the friendship. If she wants to be friends again, she'll ask to hang out or she'll make an effort, and if she doesn't, then she was never your friend anyways.
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