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13/f
My names Shantae.. I have been dating this guy on and off for about a year now. I have a problem though. My parents totally hate him. He's 17 and he use to have a drug problem. My parents didnt know about it until I got really mad one night and spilled. Now, they dont want me anywheres near him. I'm inlove with this boy. When I see him the only thing I want is him to wrap me in his arms and hold me tight, i want him to tell me everythings going to be okay and he loves me more than anything. Right now, we aren't dating. My parents do not approve of anything about him, and I'm afraid that he's goin to leave me if we get back together because they wont let me see him, what do i do? Please give as much advice as you can PLEASE!!! :(
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i had the same problem, i am 14 and he ws 18, except my mom didnt know nor my brother, only a couple friends did and they were all against it, he used to be into harsh drugs...but told people he was over those....any way f*** my story i took time apart from our seceret relationship and started to notice this other guy, and lost my love for him, and let me tell you i did love him. and i felt bad because i had betrayed my brothers wishes to stay away from him let alone date him and i felt so shity, so please PLEASE just take this break and try and see if there is anyone else, i know you love him, but you never know he could lie and still be into drugs, atleast my guy was. im not saying dont go for him, because i know how you felt, love, i felt it to in a similar situation, but please try because love is blind, and because you love him you may not see something something huge important, so try to almost fall out of love for a minit and take a look around, and if you did love him it wont be hard to fall back into. also, if he is not a bad guy and missunderstood dont lisent to everyone else
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shantae,your parents are right.This guy isnt right for you.Your 13 and your parents are so much older and expereinced then you.You have to listen to them because they know best.This guy you love used to take drugs and very easily he might get back on them or who knows,mabey he still does take them but isnt telling you.He might be high once and try to do something you might not like.If you want to stay with him then you will have to think about the consenquences of it and be RESPONSIBLE enouugh to handle whatever happens to you cuza him.If you end up getting pregnant by him cuz he was high once then you have to take the consenquences of that.
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I've had the same problem. My boyfriend is almost five years older than me, but we love each other and it took a long time for me to make my parents realize that. he may not be the best person, but he's the best person for me right now. that's what i told my parents. i stopped fighting with them about it and just sat them down calmy and told them how much he means to me and that i'm really happy and that they should be happy that i'm happy. if you're boyfriend has changed, tell them that. tell him he's gotten better and he's going to try to be better for you. good luck!
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The answer as to why your parents hate him is obvious.
For one, he's gonna be 18 soon, and you're only 13. That can be illegal in most cases, and they don't want their kid with an adult. They want them with someone her own age.
And number two, he used to have a drug problems. You should have a nice respectable boyfriend. Not some hardcore thug off the streets who thinks he's the shit because he used to do drugs.
Let him find a girl his age, so you can find a guy your age. You're 13 years old hun, you don't know what love is, and you can do so much better. Trust me.
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