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hey i just wanted to know if there is anyway that you could let people not see what your rating is? like take it out or something... anyone who can tell me how i'll give a 5 thanks

The only way you can let people not see your rating is by deleting the answer to the question which'll delete the question and the rating all in itself, so not only will the people not see it, but you won't either. But if you mean like nobody can see ANY of the rating, but only you.. sorry you can't do that. Hope I helped!!





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Ok..well the other day my best friend came over. We were in my room listening to music. I dontreally remember what happened much but we basically ended up kissing and doing other sexual things. Were both girls. I really like guys..but what I did felt good. I've never liked girls..but after what I did with my best friend, I just dont know. Were both 14. HELP!! am i lesbian? I like guys..but hooking up with girls doesnt sound bad either..

No you're not lesbian ; you're probaby bi though. If you don't know what that is.. that's whenever people like the both sex. Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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okay well tomorrow or thursday this guy that i like is gonna come down to my house .. i only have one thing planed and that is watch a movie.. because we won't have to talk because well i won't say he's shy but he's not good at making conversation.. so i realised it would be a good way to just like chill and cuddle :-) but what else can we do because that only takes up like 2 hours or less of the time! any answers would be gladly appreciated.. easy 5

Well maybe you guys can go take a walk around your block which would also be a good time to talk and get to know eachother... I know you said he's shy ; but just start asking him random questions and stuff about his life, etc..cause that might help him make better conversation. Or maybe if you have a pool go swimming or go to a pool...also another nice thing to do is maybe go out to your backyard/porch and sit down and cuddle with a blanket =) and talk and stuff =) Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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I've confided a lot in total strangers lately. On this i mean. I'm happy with that it makes me feel ssecure that it cant come back on me. Any how friends of the realm. I have found myself incredibly angry these last few years. Im 16 years old and i am probably sufering from something beyond me. I jus want to know. How can i control this anger or what ways are there too redirect it. I'm only concerned because i'm starting to hit things like punch walls and anything close to hand; alll the time!! And can anyone possibly give any clues as to what this could be. All help greatly appreciated.
Anthony

It's probably just hormones or just stuff happening that makes you mad in everyday life. You just need to learn how to control your anger. Anytime you get angry ; just first take a deep breath and calm yourself down, and if you don't feel like you're calming down walk away from the thing that's making you mad and just walk/run it off somewhere. And hitting your walls and stuff isn't good, and you can hurt your hands...so try hitting a pillow. Or better yet, focus onto something maybe buy a punching bag or try a contact sport to let out some of the anger. But if you still feel like you're really angry, you might need to go to this site:


http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html


I'm not saying you need anger management, but I'm just saying if all else fails, you MIGHT need it. =/ but this site'll tell you how to control it and such. I hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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My little sister is turning 16, and I want to get her a cool present. She doesn't like clothes, or perfume, or most typically girly things. What she really likes is anime and anything cute and cuddly. She also loves video games.

I've been considering getting her either a How-to-Draw reference book or a J-pop/J-rock cd.

Any ideas for a good present?

My friend is obsessed with Anime and she has this book on how-to-draw anime things and it's really cool-- my friend's like in love with it..haha she always has it and she's always copying the pictures from it =) so yeah she'd probably really like that. Or you can also get her some Anime DVD's of her favorite show. Or since she likes cuddly stuff, try getting her an anime stuffed animal. Like find out her favorite anime show, and see if they sell stuffed characters of them... cause then it's anime and cuddly!! =)
heres a site I found:

http://www.dealtime.com


like I used this one show INUYASHA as an example, and in the search bar I typed "Inuyasha 8 inch plush figure" and it had some options so try to find out her fav. anime show, and type the same thing only instead of inyuasha the show's name or the characters name..
Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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Hi!! This is really awsome and i think it is soo cool that you spead alot of time giving great advice to people! K well there is this boy that i like and he likes me back and we both know that but we werent gunna go out right away. We are close though and spend a lot of time together. The other night i was out however at a party and people were gettin dared to kiss and hook up and a lot of stuff and i was apart of it. Every1 swore not to let wut happend go out but somehow it did. And the guy i told u abuot knows. We havent really talked directly yet but i need to know what to say. Some of my friends say to deny it and they will have my back and others say i need to say the truth even if it hurts him. What do you think? Thanks a lot!!!!

AWwww thanks so much!! Well I love helping people out and I'm like addicted to this site now!! =) I'm checking my inbox and stuff like everyday! haha... it's because I have no life =P Anyways..



Oooh sticky situation =/..I think that you should tell him, cause even though your friends will back you up.... what about the other people at the party? They might back you up, so he'll probably find out what really happened one way or the other. Just try and calmly explain to him how it was just a game ; there were no feelings involved...and maybe explain to him ( not in a pressuring way ) that how if you two were going out you would have never participated in the game, but you figured you weren't dating anyone so why not? ( or something like that ) and then also if you tell him, at least you're being honest with him. Hope I helped!!







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MELii

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hey well next month on the 5th me and my baby will be together for one year.. and i want some ideas of what we can do or something i can surprise him with.. Please dont say make a CD for him..or make a photo album cause i made a album of us for his birthday.. and if i made a CD he'd think im weird lol.. thanks alot and ill rate high for anything good romantic and cute..

Well something that's really romantic and nice is maybe going out to dinner. Or even better, cooking dinner for him, because that'll show that you truly care and want to make something nice for him, and he'll feel special =) and then maybe after/before the dinner just pick out a romantic movie and cuddle up together and watch it. Or something that is really romantic too is take him back to where you guys first met and hang out there and stuff and recall on memories and stuff =) And if its somewhere outdoors you guys met then have a picnic with candles and stuff =) ( or just take him to the park and watch the stars..aww =P..) and for a gift just give him something that he likes. I don't know what his hobbies are, but maybe give him a present that is autographed by his favorite basketball/sports person or if he's into music then maybe write a song about the two of you =P Hope I helped!!







Love,
MELii





p.s. And then at the dinner/pinic and stuff, play nice music and stuff =)

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Ok what do i do when my Friend says her brother likes me, but i dont know if he really does??

Ps-The boy already asked me out but i think he doesnt mean it. And how should i act when im over there, i mean she is my bff.

im a 14/f

Well if he asked you that, then that probably means he meant it and that he does like you. But I would go to your friend and ask again and tell her if she's really telling the truth just to make sure. And then I would see if it's okay with her if you two date, but she might not be.. and then whenever you are over there, I would try and balance the two of them out, cause they'll both want to hang out with you whenever you are there. So maybe some days just hang with him and then some with her, and then maybe somedays both. Like you all can watch TV together or something =) I hope I helped!!







Love,
MELii

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I have a friend who hangs out with me when we are in class and since we have a locker right next to eachother she hangs out with me. But when she is around certain "friends" she acts really mean to mean and ignores me. Sometimes I feel like i'm not her friend and sometimes i feel like we are best friends, What should I do?

Sometime whenever you two are alone, just ask her what her deal. Ask her why whenever you two are around eachother, you are the best of friends and then whenever her "friends" are around, she's all mean and stuff? Because she's not really being a friend if she's acting like that. So I might wanna stop being her friend and find some new ones, but first of all, talk to her about it. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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-- this might be long so sorry im goin to try to put in all details.. wel my bf's birthday is 6 days away and it will also be our 17 months together.. for birthdays and stuff like this he always goes all out for me and i want to do the same for him.. its not easy planning stuff for a guy bc they rnt into the whole cutesy lovey dovey stuff like all the girls are.. well i know i already hve him cologne and i am PLANNING on gettin him a north carolina championship basketball also.. [bc he loves NC] well idk what to DO.. i mean ive thought of a few things but i dont want it to be too lovey dovey u know? well i think im goin to make a collage card with pix of us in it and right a note on the inside.. but i need ideas on things to DO.. like where to take him what to do and all that.. nothing sexual.. he is turning 15 and now im 14.. not tryin to be bragging but i hve money to spend on him.. i just want to make him feel special and hve a great birthday.. so if someone could PLEASE give me some good answers i would GREATLY appreciate it! if you need anymore info just ask

Yeah-- it is pretty hard getting guys stuff sometimes and do stuff that isn't cutesy and lovey dovey sometimes =/...Well since it seems he loves basketball and stuff-- maybe get him tickets to a game. See if his favorite team is playing near you guys anytime soon or something!! =) Or maybe since you are planning to get him a north carolina champsionship basketball -- maybe go on ebay and find one autographed by one of the team members ( or are they already autographed? I'm sorry I don't know like anything that has to do with basketball so I might not be making some sense haha! ) Or maybe just do one of those things where everyone pretends to forget it's his birthday and tell him to go somewhere with you like to shop for his birthday present ( so then he can get something else too or something =).. ) and then whenever you go back to his house there's a huge party with everyone there! =) Hope I helped!!








Love,
MELii

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ok so there is this guy that i REALLY like..and i talk to him online a lot and tells me im really pretty and stuff..and i think he's really hott but i dont know what to say back to him? because instead of telling me im hott he says that im pretty and beautiful and stuff which i really like because its not insensitive like saying im hott is..so whats a sweet way to tell him he's "hott" or fine or whatever??

Just say something like," awww you're so cute!!" =) or you can just be like," You ain't too bad yourself =P " or you can say," Right back at ya!" but in a way that's kinda calling him pretty, but hey, ya both might get a laugh outta that one haha =) but I just say those first two things alot mostly the first one =) Or you can call him handsome too =) Hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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Okay, this site is awesome! Mell, you seriously are amazing at helping out people! So, I thought I'd ask a question since I'm sure you'll give me great advice.

Ok, so theres this guy I like, and I think he might like me back. But I'm not really sure. Also, it's like too good to be true and I don't know how to find out if he does. My friends could ask him and stuff, but I don't want him to think that like I have to have my friends do it and what not? You know? So, we talk online a bit and he says "iloveyou" at the end of our conversations (: !!! Ha. And, I know you probably think, well he probably says i love you to everyone, but honestly, I know this kid, he's not like that. And I think he means something when he says it to me. I just don't know what to do. Plus, I'm not sure that he would want a summer relationship (that is if he even likes me =\ ). I'm just so confused, please give me some advice.

AW thanks so much!! =)


Well instead for getting YOUR friends to find out if he likes you, you could get HIS friends. Ask them if they know who he likes. Or you could ask him yourself.. just someday whenever you guys are talking online and stuff like that.. just be like," Hey.. who do you like?" and if he answers something like," I don't know " or something like that.. he COULD be hiding it cause he doesn't know if you like him or not. Or he.. just doesn't know. But that's probably not it. It does sound to me like he does like you if he says "i love you" at the end of the conversation!! =D.. and if he doesn't a summer relationship, just stay close with him, hang with him and stuff, so he won't lose interest, and you guys will still be close =) and then maybe whenever the new school year starts, then you guys could date, but if he does like you, then talk to him about going out first, cause you're just not SURE if he wants a summer relationship.. so he might!! Good luck!! Hope I helped!!







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MELii

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What are some things to talk about with friends and stuff. I always have trouble starting conversation over AIM, and I really need help. Thanks

Well first I just IM them the usual," Hey!! Whatsup?" and then we just start talking about our vacations we went on, hot guys we saw, hows the summer going, relationships...and then I'll be like," I miss you so much! I haven't seen you in forever!! We should do something!!" Or something like that.. but if you already are hanging out with them and stuff, just have a conversation about the hot guy you saw or something whenever you two went to the movies or something or something funny that happened there..or we just talk about random stuff, cause there's never a silent moment =) hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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i really like this guy and he likes me too but he doesnt want a summer girlfriend...do you think i should mention going out or ...what? help me

I don't think you should because if you mention it, he'll probably still say he doesn't want a summer girlfriend ; just hang around him alot..ya know like in a way you are going out, but he hasn't asked you yet. And that'll still make him like you and stuff cause sometimes if people don't see their crushes and stuff they start to lose interest...Cause summer's almost over ( sadly..) so then whenever the year start's he'll still like you and then he'll ask you out!! Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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OK, so im going into 8th grade and i really want to make this year count! I want to be popular. I'm friends with 3 of the popular girls..and i wear some of the same clothes as them and im pretty ...kind of. So, why am I not popular? Please help me..I need advice on how to start being friends with them and being really pretty and popular! PLEASE ANSWER asap! thanks!!

Well I really can't give you advice on how to be prettier and stuff cause I mean, you're born with the face you have (unless you get surgery and I'm NEVER gonna suggest that to anyone and you shouldn't do it.. but anyways..), but wear makeup and stuff to tone it up or w.e you call it and stuff =) but on the popular part.. well since you are already friends with 3 popular girls, just start talking to their friends who are popular and stuff and then if you become friensd with a bunch of popular people you might become popular yourself...basically being popular is just whenever you are liked by everyone and are friends with basically everyone so just talk to alot of people this year even the people who aren't popular and stuff and you'll get more well known and stuff. Hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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i have a few questions about getting your belly button pierced.
1. About how much does it cost?
2. How long do you have to leave it in before you can take it out?
3. How long can you leave it out before it closes?

thanks and ill rate you!


-about $50.. it really depends on the place ; but that's about how much it costs...

-about 7 months

-now more than about 4 or 5 days!! Just do 4 incase!!



Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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13/f
okwell my sister got caught sneaking out and ever sincemy parents wont let me do anythng even though i would never do that. so is there anyway that i can get them to relax, and see that im not like her?

please help!!!

What I would do is start picking up more responsibilities around the house cause that will show your parents that you are a responsible person unlike your sister and that you wouldn't do that. And I would also talk to them about it. I would just be like," Look I'm not _____. I'm not gonna do that, and I don't think that's fair you're not allowing me to do anything because of something my sister, not me, did." Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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Okay me n my boyfriend has been dating for almost 4 months and everything has been going good we have a couple of disagreements but who doesnt.. well a couple of weeks ago he got me a cell phone but i payed for it but its in his name and everyday he goes through it. people tell him that im messing around with other guys but how could i when im with him 24/7 well last nite my bestfriend who is a girl texted me stuff she didnt want anyone else knowing and he went to go through my phone and i took it from him. i knwo it looked as if i was hiding something but im not. now he thinks that im hiding stuff and im cheating so he doesnt want to tell me he loves me anymore intill i can change and get my priorities straight or however u spell it. and he doesnt knwo right now if we are gonna work things out he just always tells me i dont know i dont know.Please help me try to get my boyfriend not to break up with me im sorry its long.

Well I would just go to him and explain the situation. Just tell him how you can't show him the one text message because it's from your friend and it was something private that she didn't want anyone to know. If there's a name or number there above the text message show it to him or call her and have her tell him how she told you something private so he'll know that it wasn't a guy. I hope everything works out between you two!! Hope I helped!!






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Me and my friend Jay have been very close friends since the 8th grade. We are Juniors in highschool now, and in the beginning of last year he became very attractive. I developed a crush on him, and recently it's become really intense. We've expressed some intress in one another, he used to like me at one point this year, and vice versa, but neither of us told eachother. (i found out from my friend). I've been itching to tell him how i feel, because we hang out almost every day and i just feel it necessary. But last week he told me, unexpectedly that he likes my best friend, lindsay. They never hang out, and if they ever do, it's with me. She already has two guys that she's with and it would bad of me to say this, but she really is in some way a slut. I don't know what to do. I've built up all of these emotions for Jay, and now i really cannot tell him about it. When he told me about his crush on Linds, i acted a bit weirded out and he caught on a bit. Since then we havent hung out or talked. What should i do?

If it were me ; I might tell him how you feel becaues maybe he was just saying that to see how you reacted to it... and maybe he still likes you too also so he might go out with you. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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iok yesterday i went to my friends house and she told me there was a guy that looked like a guy that i used to like and had the name of my ex. so i wanted to see him.. nothin else. but then my friends cousin hooked us up and i dont even noe the guy i would have said no but her cousin told him i liked him. the problem is he is 20 and i am well 14.. he didnt care about the age but i have a clsoe guy friend that i like a lot we are planning to hook up we just have to find a way to see each other more. (he lives 15 min. away) and my friend is 15.. i want to give this guy a chance because he was all sweet to me but i think the only reason why he asked me out was 4 my looks. but we were taking pictures and he had his hands all over me and he didnt even noe me. here is what i would like to noe:

*should i give him a chance? if not how can i break it to him but still wanting to get to noe him better?

*should i tell my guy friend about this?
i want to tell my guy friend but he thinks i dont like him which isnt true i tell him i like all the time and he does the same to me..

thanks!

I would just explain to him how he might be comfortable with the age difference ; but you aren't... and that theres also a guy that you really like that's your age...but also explain to him that you want to still talk to him and get to know him better and hang out and stuff, but just friends. And I don't think there's really any need to tell your guy friend about this...cause then that might make him mad at then he might not talk to you and stuff, and really you didn't do anything at all so it's not like you cheated on him or something and you'll have a guilty conscience.. I don't think there's really and need for him to know..hope I helped!!







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