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Usually if he starts making ovetures of a sexual freindship nature. Depends on the boy. Exampes would be [all him], 'Do you wanna go watch a movie sometime?' *bumps into you in a corridor*'I'm really sorry.',tries to sniff you or gazes into you eyes, Passing notes in class, being told by your best mate that he's tryed to get out of clas early all the time, just so he can see you.
Stuff like that.

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My friend asked me if I was goth, I didnt know what to tell her. . I mean goths dont usually go right out and yell IM GOTH! But she asked and I always tell the truth, I said ya. She said ew ur weird. . . She asked me this online, she hasnt seen me for weeks. . and I have maracuously changed, not because this lifestyle has become popular, but because I found it deep down in my heart. She got mad at me and everything .. she gave me a necklas and now she wants it back, she said she'd call the cops if i did anything to it, which i didnt and anyways its mine she gave it to me, is being gothic worth it, i rlly ant to be and i like being this. . but should I give up our friendsship and go gothic, or forget gothic and be ehr frined, I think I should forget her, but please tell me if Im right!

One: lables are bad, and if she is truly yout friend, she wouldn't lable you, hell you wouldn't even give a damn what you decide to be.
Two: she can't call the police over a dumb necklace. What does she think you will do to it anyway?
Three: She sounds like a norrow whiny little stick-in-the-mud. I say dump her, but only if talks between you fail.
*hug* if you truly belive you are somthing, then stand up for that somthing.

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okay, this guy likes me (im pretty sure) and i want him to ask me out, but hes too shy, obviously, so how do i get him to ask me out soon?

You don't. You take everything into your own hands and make the first move. If he is too shy or wireded out by a girl making the first move then he doesn't merit your attentions.

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I can't sing loudly! Since 6th grade I've tried out for 5 musicals and I haven't made any of them because I can't project my voice. I've tried everything I know of, trying to sing from your diaphram, not your stomach..and NOTHING WORKS! I know I have a good voice, my chorus teacher even told me she couldn't give me a solo because I wasn't loud enough, but she really wanted to. Any tips on singing loudly would be greatly appreciated. (And good songs to practice with, I'm a second Soprano)

Ok, this will require visulisation. As you are an actress, I will assume you know what this is.

Stand in your singing posteure, take a deep breath [with the stomach, not the shoulders]. Imaging and *feel* the air coiling in your belly, slowly let it out as a 'la' or whatever inarticulat sound you are most comfortable with, and make the sound get bigger and louder. Put your whole being into the sound and don't forget to open your throat [not just your mouth] very wide. Hopefully this should help you get use to making your voice bigger, and just keep practicing.

Rember, your mouth and your throat is a cathedral; a large airy place that the sound can swilr and become bigger.

If this doesn't work, it might just be that you have a naturally soft voice. Good songs to practice with are actually rock songs [well sung rock, like linkin park, not slipknot] or hyms.

Good luck

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Well I think the subject pretty much gives away what I'm going to ask you...what should we do?

We went to see a film (The Last Samurai btw) on Sunday.

I'm 16, he's 18. Clubbing (my friends suggestion) is not really an option).

Any ideas?

You could try bowling, or going for a meal. You can go to a pub, [working on UK law] as it is permisable for him to buy you non-alchoholic beverages.

Other than that, there's not a whole lot you can do. Maybe go for a walk [park or beach].

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I'm working on a song. So far I have only the basic outline of the lyrics which need serious help. Here they are:

If I had to die right now
I'd die in your arms.
If I was crying right now,
you'd be near.
You mean so much to me,
I love you more than anything
right now.

You are my all in all,
I want you here beside me.
Your smile can dry my tears
Take away my deepest fears.
I love you more than anything right now.

I know I haven't known you long,
I hardly know a thing about you.
I know if I had to die right now,
I'd die in your arms.
I love you more than anything
right at this moment now.

Now I don't have a lot to give you,
I hope you'll understand.
And you don't have to give me jewels
I love you more without them.
I love you more than anything
dying in your arms.

It's called In Your Arms.

Its sounds like a good start, but one can never really apprase a song on lyrics alone. I'm not sure I like the repetion of 'I love you more than anything, dying in your arms.'

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I have a big nasty zit on my nose. I want it gone, NOW! What do I do? I'm so mad... it's really noticable, and I'm 26 years old! I shouldn't be getting pimples!

You can get spots at any age as they are a result of plocked pores or greasy skin.

If it is popable I would suggest washing your hands, poping it and washing it imediently afterwards. Make sure you get the core out.

If it is just red, with no head, I would suggest just putting some conceler over it.

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My boyfriend, David has diabetes. He has had it for almost 4 years. He has asked several doctors on the proper nutrition, but they all give different responses. So my question is does anyone have Diabetes that knows the proper nutrition facts in what he should eat.
Sincerely,
worried

The main concern is keeping the blood shuger level. I would recomened sticking to low-suger foods, not having fizzy drinks and eating things with fruit sugers in them. You don't mention what type he has, but I belive friut sugers are ok for those with low diabetes. I would also ask his doctor to refer him to a nutritonist for more advice, and to possibly draw up a plan of what he can and acnnot eat.

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at the dance s i always rejected this guy i know, but now i like him and he probably wont ask me. he has a girlfriend now, he went out with her to make me jealous, so he doesnt like her. what should i do?

You should make the first move. Aks him politly if he would care to dance. And be gratious if he turns you down, even thought you might feel like KKF*ing him. It might also be a good idea to talk to him privatly about his likeing you, and your likning him.

*KKF=Kick, Kerosene, Fire. A little something imported from Spacefem.com
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I am in love with this boy Joey. He is in 8th grade and I am in 6th and he will be leaving for high- school soon. I don't want him to leVE BUT i DON'T KNOW WHAT TO TELL HIM BEFORE HE LEAVES. i WANT TO HUG HIM AND TELL HIM HOW I REALLY FEEL BUT I DON'TR WANT TO BE EMBARRESED
WHAT SHOULD I DO?

You could ask him if you can talk to him privatly and tell him, what you have told us. But you can't stop him from going to high school, and if you really love him you will respect and understand that he has to move on in his life and grow as a person.

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i really like this guy. he's been really weird lately and says that he wont go out with anyone until hes in tenth grade. he did like me for a week, but he wont answer any of my friends about me. i want to stop liking him, but i just cant! i really like him! what should i do?

If you like him that much you should respect his wish to not date untill he feels he is ready, and you will wait for him. Try getting to know him as a mate first. Also, why are your mates asking him about you, if you like him so much then you should be able to ask him yourself.

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I want to go out with a guy!I love him but he only wants to be friends with me what should I do! I think he likes my friend and I am really confused?

Get to know him as a mate better. One of the corner stones to relationships is freindship. If his liking your mate really bothers you, talk to him about it, and find out if its true.

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There is this boy that keeps calling me. He called me 5 times in 2 days and left a message asking me out for the whole world to hear. I told one of his friends to stop calling me..gently though. His friend was a little harsh and i don't think he likes me anymore. What should I do?

I'm confuzed. You like the mate or the guy who keeps calling you, or the guy who keeps calling you?
If you like 'always-calling-you' guy, say yes and see what happens.
If you like the mate, then you should talk to him about your feelings.
If you like nither and the behavoir of 'always-calling-you' guy reaches unacceptable levels contact some one in authority, a teacher or perent.

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I'M MOVING BUT THE GUY I LUV STILL LIVES HERE AND I AM MOVING TO CANADA BUT I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?

Who would you live with if you decided to stay? Do you think you are old enought to live life on your own? Do you belive that this guy is 'the one' or your soulmate? Do you think a long-distance relationship would work? Do you think a long distance aquantance would work with your mother?

I would consider all these questions. I don't really have any advice for you except that long-distance relationships are hard. You must really follow your heart in this matter, and try to work out what would be best for you. *hugs* good luck

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i went to camp with this guy and i slowely fell in love with him. i liked him for three years and now we rarely talk anymore. im not sure if i like him in a crush way, i like him more as a brother. i miss us talking. i dont want to go up to him and start randomly talking, i'd look like an idiot.what should i do???

You should randomly go up to him and re-introdcue yourself: 'Hey, do you remember me? I'm the really odd girl from camp if you don't.' Then you could maybe ask him if he want to hang out some time. Remember, e-mail, text, IM and letters are acceptable means of contact if you are unsure what his reaction would be and don't want to be embarased.

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I really like this guy and I asked him out yesterday and he said Not Today what does that mean?

FRom PLease HElp ME

It probably means he doesn't feel ready for a relationship.

How old is he? For that matter, how old are you? I wouldn't take it to much to heart, and I expect you are at the begining of your life so there will be plenty of other guys for you. Its not worth getting that upset over.

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OK, this is really hard to explain but when I was in 2nd grade, (6 years ago) My dad got into a car accident that wasn't his fault. Because of that, his back has never been the same, he wasn't able to do as much fun stuff with me and my siblings. When I was in 5th grade, (4 years ago) Dad's lawyer tryed to sue the guy in the truck that slammed into him. The guy in the trucks lawyers did some things that I don't like. They followed us around to try to find out if Dad was really hurt or not and they sent guys to watch our house with video cameras. Since I live out really deep in the woods, I would get dressed in my bedroom with the windows not shaded. It turns out they were watching me the whole time. It's been 3 years and I keep thinking that they messed up my life. And I feel guilty that my dad had to go through that. It was the first time I saw him cry. What should I do?
-Violated

I'm pretty sure that that is illigal, and invasion of your personal privacy. You should talk to your perents about it, and maybe they will decide to contact a lawyer.
I'm sorry to hear about your father, but you shouldn't feel guilt about it. You have done nothing wrong. If you feel really bad then talk to a proffesional about it. *hug*

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What would make a question disappear? I asked two questions. I got emails showing they were both answered several times. I could see the answers for one question, but the other question is gone. Was I flamed? Was it a computer glitch? Are questions erased for various reasons? What happened?

Were the questions identical? It is possible that one of the admin deleated it to save space or whatever. It is fully possible that it was also a computer glitch. If your question was in very poor taste, ie 'I wanna rape this person, how?' and you got flamed, it is also possible it got deleated.

I would go with glitch though.

Adenduim: It might be that the page hadn't loaded properly.

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