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Spyed
OK, this is really hard to explain but when I was in 2nd grade, (6 years ago) My dad got into a car accident that wasn't his fault. Because of that, his back has never been the same, he wasn't able to do as much fun stuff with me and my siblings. When I was in 5th grade, (4 years ago) Dad's lawyer tryed to sue the guy in the truck that slammed into him. The guy in the trucks lawyers did some things that I don't like. They followed us around to try to find out if Dad was really hurt or not and they sent guys to watch our house with video cameras. Since I live out really deep in the woods, I would get dressed in my bedroom with the windows not shaded. It turns out they were watching me the whole time. It's been 3 years and I keep thinking that they messed up my life. And I feel guilty that my dad had to go through that. It was the first time I saw him cry. What should I do?
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It sounds to me that you feel more guilty than violated. I don't know where you live, nor am I a lawyer who can tell you to sue the camera guys, but I think you are taking on your fathers accident and the fact that someone did something that messed up your life. I think you are angry and feel that life is not fair, and it isn't. One of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten is that we have to learn that life isn't fair, and sometimes things happen that really suck! I am sorry for you and sorry for your Dad, but it could be worse...(probably not what you want to hear right now). When we can accept that things happen in life that aren't fair, but just go with the flow of it and be grateful for what we do have (you do still have your Dad, wish is a MAJOR gift!)...A little story I heard once that put it all in perspective for me...
"There was a boy who had an old pair of shoes and whined and whined because he wanted a new pair...until the day he met the boy with no feet".
Made me think.
Maybe tell your Dad how you are feeling about all this. At least let it go. We can't change the past and if we live in it, we are only ruining what happiness we can share today.
God luck and God Bless you.
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Oh my gosh you should do something about them watching you for seeing your every activity, especially getting dressed I don't think thats legal. I think that sexual offence in a way I think that if you know that for a fact that he is disables they shoudl have not had those camera there for sooo long and for your dad crying whatever that truck person did to him he shouldn't be doing that to your dad it's not your dads fault for being disables its that stinkin driver blame on him and kinda blame yourself that your dad was there at that exact time maybe you should held him back for another min. but its still NOT YOUR FAULT IT WAS THE OTHER DRIVER!!!
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God, I'm so sorry. I imagine everyone is telling you that this is illegal. It SHOULD be, but unfortunately, it's not. Not in the manner that you described. Someone stated that it was an invasion of privacy. Although I'm sure you DO feel violated, the law states that if your windows are open, and provide a clear view without them having to physically MOVE anything to get the shot, then it's not against the law. It falls under what they call the " Plain View Doctrine". If they have to pull a curtain back, move blinds, pull a bush out of the way or anything like that, THEN it's against the law. Now, you said they were "watching" you the entire time. That may be sick, tacky, tasteless and unprofessional, but it's not against the law. If your windows were open, the courts will deem it a "public place". BUT if in addition to watching you, they actually TAPED/FILMED/PHOTOGRAPHED you, that's what the courts call "actionable". You were not the focus of their investigation and they had no right to tape you or preserve you or your likeness. If they did, you have to be slick enough to try and get a copy of it, and THEN get an attorney. Without proof, it's going to go nowhere.
It's not harrassment, because they had "legal reason" to follow your father. The fact that they were trying to affirm or deny the presence of fraud, they had the right to take the steps that they did. God, I know this sucks, and I really feel terrible for you and your father. But unless they actually photographed you, I'm sorry, they broke no laws. God bless you and your father.
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It is kind of a normal thing in these lawsuits to follow people to make sure they are really injured as much as they say they are, BUT video taping you through your windows while you were dressing is illegal, no matter how old you were, and you have grounds for your own law suit. I hope your Dad's lawyer is good. You should ask to sue them again for that. Or just get another lawyer that is good. I have had to change lawyers with a law suit and it was worth it.
If you can find a lawyer that will not charge you but only charge them if he wins, that is what you need. That is what I did. I actually told him I didn't care what I got out of it, as long as they paid and paid as much as possible. He settled out of court, but they did pay.
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OH MY GOD. do you KNOW how AGAINST THE LAW that is? those laywers are insane! they need to learn how to play fair. THATS SO AWFUL. just try to get over it, and if you ever have to testify or anything like that,tell that EXACT STORY!!! i'm so sorry! *thank you for your time*~luckiedice~
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Hello I am a new acvice columist but I think I can help,first of all I they were watching you get dressed you could get them for sexual herassment and second of all you could get them for stalking you and your family. But since the court systems in the usa suck it would just waste 5 to 10 years of your life!!!! I think that you should let it go tey know that they were wrong and it wll come back to haunt them.If you need more advice e-mail me at cyborggt2003@yaho.com
respectfuly J.Watts
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Hell go and sue them, thats against the law in may different way, trust me if it can be proven that they were spying you can charge them with so much, Privacy invasion, harrassment, and so forth so I suggest talking to an attorney about this.
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Sometimes things happen in our life that we have no control of...and this is one of those things. Please don't feel guilty about this. It's not your fault this happened. If your parents have the money to hire a lawyer to put those peeping toms behind bars I'm sure they would...As for you, you should try real hard to put this behind your back and live a normal life. We all have bad experiences that we have to forget in order to go on. If you're having difficulty dealing with this, I suggest you talk to your parents into putting you into counseling or therapy....but remember, only you can help yourself. Be strong not only for yourself but also for your loved ones!
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I'm pretty sure that that is illigal, and invasion of your personal privacy. You should talk to your perents about it, and maybe they will decide to contact a lawyer.
I'm sorry to hear about your father, but you shouldn't feel guilt about it. You have done nothing wrong. If you feel really bad then talk to a proffesional about it. *hug*
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As always, feel free to contact me if you need to talk.
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If they've been spying on you, you can sue them. It's an invasion of personal privacy. Other than that, there really is nothing much you can do. Just try to move on past that, it's over now. What's done is done, and it can be hard to move on, but there's nothing else much you can do. You might also be able to sue for emotional damages though.
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