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Is it worth it?
My friend asked me if I was goth, I didnt know what to tell her. . I mean goths dont usually go right out and yell IM GOTH! But she asked and I always tell the truth, I said ya. She said ew ur weird. . . She asked me this online, she hasnt seen me for weeks. . and I have maracuously changed, not because this lifestyle has become popular, but because I found it deep down in my heart. She got mad at me and everything .. she gave me a necklas and now she wants it back, she said she'd call the cops if i did anything to it, which i didnt and anyways its mine she gave it to me, is being gothic worth it, i rlly ant to be and i like being this. . but should I give up our friendsship and go gothic, or forget gothic and be ehr frined, I think I should forget her, but please tell me if Im right!
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Are you people fucking stupid? do you even know what goth is... you make me sick that you consider yourself what you think... what the fuck... I am a masochist that Bi and im not punk if your wondering im trying to be gothic as best i can but i hardley know what it is myself even after the four years of studing it so everyone who thinks they are goth... there is a new title for you! its called EMO now go kill yourselves and stop bitching that life isnt worth it... U PISS ME OFF
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I'm sorry you think (or are) losing your friend to one of your choices...but I mean think about it...she's was never really your friend...or at least isn't at all now if she doesn't except you becoming goth. There's nothing wrong with it. It's a style...nothing more, unless some people make it to be. Try talking to your friend in person...online or on the phone...or somewhere where you guys are alone and where she can't avoid you...because you should really talk about it with her and ask her to her face..."is me becoming goth really so big of a deal that we cant be friends anymore?"
Forget her if she doesn't listen...you really don't need to be with someone like this. And let me guess? Middle school or 9th grade right? I'm in 8th grade, and what i meant when i asked that question was are you in middle school or 9th grade...because the way you describe your friend is immature and wants to just follow the crowd and these are the years when that usually happens. It's stupid I know...but be who you are...and by the sounds of it...you are doing exactly that which is good because think of it this way (even though it hurts) It still made it clear to you that your "friend" really wasnt your friend afterall...and it's good that you move on because you shouldn't be around somebody like that.
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Do black magic with the necklace.
Simple and plain.
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I'm not a goth, but I like their style a lot. And I think to be a goth takes a lot of guts. But she also is your friend. There might be a way to be her friend and a goth. You could calm down the gothic clothing for a while And talk to her and tell her that this is just you. I'm for all you know this might just be a stage your going through. and if it isn't Is she willing to give your friendship up? Tell her it's just a style. and what matters is what is inside. If she's not willing to see that, then I personally don't think she is a really good friend. It's your decision.
GOOD LUCK,
Elle
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your friend is an idiot to judge you just becuase you're a goth. goths aren't any better or worse then any one else and they have a rite to FREEDOM OF SPEECH. FIRST AMENDMENT. duh. you should DEFINETLY 4get her, if she ditche you just bcuz your goth shes not a good freaind at all. *thank you for your time*~luckiedice~
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OMG. That's so wierd. I just was involved in a conversation like this because my friend asked my step-sister, who has moved to our school if she was gothic and she said, "I guess" but nobody said she was wierd. I think you should stick to being gothic and give up the friend because she probably isn't a very good friend to think that you're wierd just because you're gothic. DO NOT GIVE THE NECKLACE BACK!!! It is rightfully yours and if she went to court about it, she wouldn't win, actually she'd probably get in trouble for wasting the judges and the cops time for bothering them about something as small as a necklace. Next time she tries to bother you about it, tell her to f*ck off because she's an idiot and it's yours.
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If she doesn't like you because of this, then I think you should just forget about her because she isn't worth it
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after reading this ive realized that
a true (for the lack of a better word) "gothic" person does not believe in labels so therefore i do not believe that you really belive in what you say but are doing it because it seems to be the new fad
i myself when asked if i am gothic will respond
"why dont you tell me what gothic is and ill give you my answer"
basically this takes care of that persons miscinceptions
i was once asked and responded that i was only to find out later that the person thought a gothic person was nothing more than a satan worshiper (lucifirist not a satanist) and when i told her i wasnt she didnt belive me
basically if shes your friend then she wont care what you look like how you dress or anything like that. shes not your true friends if she feels that way
im sorry to say that i belive you will have to make a deescision of either keeping a friend and lossing who you are or no conforming to what people want you to be and stick it out what comes will come and if someone realizes they want nothing to do with someone like you forget them you dont need them
hope this helps if you need to talk abot it anymore email me at yoyofire.cr@verizon.net
or my aim sn is poeticinjsts i love to talk and meet new people with the same interests as i ^^
-me
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One: lables are bad, and if she is truly yout friend, she wouldn't lable you, hell you wouldn't even give a damn what you decide to be.
Two: she can't call the police over a dumb necklace. What does she think you will do to it anyway?
Three: She sounds like a norrow whiny little stick-in-the-mud. I say dump her, but only if talks between you fail.
*hug* if you truly belive you are somthing, then stand up for that somthing.
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Hello, let me ask you this do you know what a true goth is? Most people get confused with a goth examples: dark make up, black lip stick, dressed in black, pale faces, bondage belts, fish net stockings, lots of rings, high combat boots, ect. Goth is a life style a state of mind undering that the world is beautiful everything even the bad, and that death isn't something scary but something to embrace. It doesn't mean your a dark child or screwed up. I did the goth scene when I was young for years, and I lost friends left and right because their parents and because they thought I was weird as hell. But you know, What kind of friend can't accept you? Is it really worth changing who you are for someone that can't support your lifestyle?
If you have any questions Email me at Cspinoza1@aol.com because I know what your going through. Hope this helped
Cspinoza1
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i think u shood do wat U want, and forget wat she wants. she cant control u. if u wanna be gothic, ur friend shood support u. so i tink u shood forget her and be goth.
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First off, STOP FOLLOWING TRENDS. Now listen good, ok? Don't dress "goth" or "thug" or "preppie" or any of that crap. Doing that just makes you less of an individual and more of an advertisement. Now, if your so-called friend doesn't want to be friends anymore because of how you dress then that's too bad for her. The necklace isn't worth the trouble either, especially since she sounds like the kind of person who got it for 5 dollars from some roadside stand. She's probably just as cheap as the necklace. So start fresh and dress however you feel comfortable and don't listen to what anyone else says 'cause it's only your opinion that matters.
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Okay, if she's jusging you on what you believe or what you are, then she's not your friend. At least, she's not a very good one. I say give her back her stupid necklace and forget about her until she's ready to accept you for who you are, cuz being against someone for being gothic is as bad as being against them because of their gender, religion, or ethical background. She probably doesn't deserve to be your friend if she'd turn on you that quickly.
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I personally think being gothic is weird but that doesn't mean I would stop being a friend to you...BECAUSE BEST FRIENDS ACCEPT EACH OTHER'S DIFFERENCES...Just because you have a diffent taste in life doesn't mean you are a bad person. I wouldn't waste my time on her if I were you and move on.
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I don't know much about gothic, but I know about friendships. Your friend has to accept you the way you are. She must like you because of what you are, because of your thoughts, your beliefs, your story. Talk to her and try to understand why she can't be friends with you if you're gothic. Maybe she has a good point that's worth listening. Maybe you can show her there's nothing bad in being gothic, and that she can still be your friend. Don't quit a good friendship this easy, without trying first. But don't change your beliefs for anyone who don't deserve it, ok?
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I think your friend is just being selfish. You have the right to make your own decions! Try talking to her and reasoning with her.
-shay :-)
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Well, I don't know if being Goth is worth it or not. That's for you to decide. but I will say this, any "friend" who calls you weird for following what you believe to be is best for you, is not a friend at all. A true friend may not agree, but would feel comfortable saying that, yet still support you in what you want to do. And by asking you to return the necklace, she's trying to "bully" you into her way of thinking. My advice, give the necklace back...big deal. Keep the black...lose the slack. Find someone who will accept you for who you are.
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