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How come there is no boys asking questions? I'm a guy and I have a question... anyways... I'm kinda shy when the topic asking girls out comes up. I'm 13 and I dont ever think im going to get a girlfriend, because im so scared on what would i do if i asked someone out and then they said yes? i mean i dont know how to make out and stuff like that... what should i do? (link)
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First thing - don't worry. 'Making out' is something that happens, it's not like she's gonna ask you 'wow, let's make out!'. Just do what you want and what you think she would like, as holding her hand, caressing her face and her hair, holding her tight, kissing her on her lips and on her face.
My ex-boyfriend was 18 when I first kissed him and he didn't ever kissed before that. And it was a good kiss! I knew he was a begginer and that didn't scare me at all. I just made things slower, and it was very, very good. Maybe your girl will know (or find out) it's your first time, and then she will be gentle and warm.
Last thing - don't ever be afraid of asking what does she like, and telling her what do you like. Some girls love it when you pass your hands through her hair, some don't like that as much, and every girl has something that she loves. And the easier way to find out what it is, is to ask.
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Does it hurt to get your ears pierced or your nose or your cartilige or whatever????? (link)
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Yes, and it depends on where you pierce. In the lower part of your ear, it almost doesn't hurt, it's just flesh. In the upper part, there is cartillage. It hurts a little when you pierce, as if an ant would bite you, and it keeps hurting for a week or two. I couldn't sleep turned to the right when I pierced my right ear, because it hurted. And the last place I know, your belly button. It hurts a lot when you're piercing it, and I mean a lot, but it's quick. And then it never hurted anymore. It was like 'did it end, already?' because it's like it isn't there.
Hope that helps!
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What do I do if a boy likes me who I don't like back? He wrote me notes in math class...had his friend give me one and he gave me one himself.
I keep complaining about this but its just annoying. I feel nothing...its feels like somethings missing whenever he looks at me...like somethings not right. I have NO feelings for him.
Everyone either tells me to stop complaining or
give him a chance but it's not that great when someone likes you and you DONT like then back. I don't really feel something when a boy likes me unless I like him the same way....so it's not that great. He still comes up to me and waves and says Hi *******! and I just wave and he like giggles or some weird thing. I mean...he's a really nice kid but nothings there...I feel like i want to cry...I have no clue why. Is this normal? I don't like him and I'm absoulutely sure about this...100%. I like someone else...and I don't know, whenever I see him my stomach twists and turns because I dont want him to give me another note or actually come up to me and ask me out...so I avoid him. I just don't want to deal with this...I don't want to turn him down...every girl turns him down and I feel so bad. But then again if I did go out with him nothing would be there anyway so there would be no point to that. I like another kid so much but i just have to get up the courage to at least smile at the boy.
errg! I'm so frustrated! I DON'T WANT ANY MORE NOTES! what do i do? And I'm NOT going to give him a chance because he has admitted to liking a whole bunch of girls just last week and even if I did like him it wouldn't be real if we went out...and last I heard he was going out with some girl named Ashley or something...ERGGG! what do I do...HE'S EXPECTING AN ANSWER SOON AND IT'S JUST ANNOYING! please help! (link)
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The best way to get out of this situation is telling him the truth, or asking a friend to do that. Tell him that you like him as a friend, but you are in love with someone else, and your heart belongs to this other guy. Don't feel guilty for turning him down; you can't pretend you like him just to make him happier.
Be careful to let the doors open, in the future. Don't say you'll never go out or despise him. Maybe you'll find yourself in love with him someday and then the situation will be reversed :)
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OK, I was at school today and a fifth grader who I danced with at a dance ONCE asked me out through one of my friends. I'M AN EIGHTH GRADER!!!! I told my friend to tell him no thatnks and I think she DID carry on the correct message but I think he told everyone we were going out and now people are making fun of me because they think I'm going out with a fifth grade russian. I mean, I don't care that he's russian but isn't the girl supposed to know when she's going out with somebody and now I have a dance tonight and I'm afraid he's going to ask me to dance and I really don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to get any rumors started again. Please respond quickly because I have to leave at 7:15. I need to know what I should do and I don't trust myself to make the decision. Now it's 4:26
Unknowingly Dating (link)
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You can always say your feet hurt, or you have to go to the bathroom, or get a drink... this way hopefully he will notice you don't want anything with him. If that doesn't work, I'd suggest talking with him. of course he may be sad if you tell him you don't like him this way, but it's always good to know the truth.
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...I have my very *first* job interview coming up! And since it's my first one, I am very nervous. :) I want the job mostly because I need to raise some money- but I know that's not the answer that the manager will want to hear. Any suggestions about what to do for the interview, other than dressing up? ;)
Much Love!
-Turc (link)
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One thing that helps is getting to know everything about where you want to work. If the interviwer asks why do you want to work there, you have to know, right? And you must have a good reason: why do you suit this job? What are your good points? How can you to help your co-workers to do the job? Do you think you can improve yourself working there? Will it be a good experience? WHY?
Remember to look interested in the job. Of course you are, but I've seem some interviews where the candidate would not speak for himself, only sticking to the questions asked, and would not look very happy either.
Hope that helps!
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Ok, I'm only 16, and maybe I'm just being stupid. And maybe some of you will think I'm just bitter because I'm single. But, it's not that I'm bitter or jealous. I just don't understand why people my age so immature about relationships? I mean, they post everywhere on the internet about how "hot" their boyfriend/girlfriend's are. And it's like, if they're going to post something about them, then why not post about the things that REALLY matter? Like, for instance, how: funny, brilliant, and/or talented they are. I just don't get it. I mean, one day, they're going to be old and wrinkly, and def. not hot. But, they will be more funny, brilliant, and/or talented. And, I'm not saying a physical attraction isn't needed, because it is. But, why is it that most people are so pathetically consumed with the things that are the least important in relationships? Ahhhh. Some days, I wish I weren't 16. (link)
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I have an answer that might make you feel better. In my country, it is normal to make out with guys just for one night, and then act like nothing occurred. You might just have met him, you might know nothing about him and kiss him anyway. Some friends of mine lost count of how many boys they kissed.
I don't usually do that. I really prefer to kiss someone I like, someone that's funny, brilliant and talented. Even when a very cute guy wants to kiss me, I won't let him unless I really like him and have feelings for him.
So what's the thing that might cheer you up? Most of the guys I dated didn't 'kiss for fun' either. They were with me for more that one night, because they knew me and liked me. It's not that I've choosen guys that didn't do that. It's just that, when I find a guy that I like, usually he focus on things I consider important. Most (and I mean like 90%) of the guys I liked in the past would like me for what I am inside, and would not care if I lost all my hair or got fat. When you find someone who's funny, intelligent, nice and everything you want, chances are he'll be searching someone like this too. :)
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how can you tell when a guy likes you? (link)
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It depends on the guy. But generally speaking, when a guy likes you, he should treat you better. Not with flowers and stuff, but he should like when you're together, and seem happy when you're near. He should care about you, be curious about your life and you.
Sadly, some guys just can't show they like you. They can be shy or just don't know how to do it. So if you like a guy and are not sure if he likes you, why don't you take the first step? I don't mean 'go and kiss him', I mean get closer to him, or invite him some place. There are invitations that don't mean 'I want you'. Like, if you're talking about the newest (name a good actor he likes) movie, you can suggest you two go see it. This way he can say yes or no without hurting you, and without feeling obligated to go.
I hope this helped!
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My friend asked me if I was goth, I didnt know what to tell her. . I mean goths dont usually go right out and yell IM GOTH! But she asked and I always tell the truth, I said ya. She said ew ur weird. . . She asked me this online, she hasnt seen me for weeks. . and I have maracuously changed, not because this lifestyle has become popular, but because I found it deep down in my heart. She got mad at me and everything .. she gave me a necklas and now she wants it back, she said she'd call the cops if i did anything to it, which i didnt and anyways its mine she gave it to me, is being gothic worth it, i rlly ant to be and i like being this. . but should I give up our friendsship and go gothic, or forget gothic and be ehr frined, I think I should forget her, but please tell me if Im right! (link)
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I don't know much about gothic, but I know about friendships. Your friend has to accept you the way you are. She must like you because of what you are, because of your thoughts, your beliefs, your story. Talk to her and try to understand why she can't be friends with you if you're gothic. Maybe she has a good point that's worth listening. Maybe you can show her there's nothing bad in being gothic, and that she can still be your friend. Don't quit a good friendship this easy, without trying first. But don't change your beliefs for anyone who don't deserve it, ok?
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okay. one of my best guy firends...yeah...i think im falling for him. ive been thinking about this for the past 3 months. we're really close and i really love spending time with him. my school's semi formal is coming up and id really REALLY like to ask him.
but i have some issues.
a) i dont want to ruin a quality friendship by throwing "love" into the mix
b) I dont know how to "ask" guys out. im just not really "into" the whole guy thing...WHTA THE HELL DO I DO????
c) how do i even know if he likes me? what are some hints that he would drop? because my friends are pretty sure that he feels the same way about me as i do about him. but im just not sure!!
HELP! (link)
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First, thank God (or whatever you believe in) for being a girl. That makes everything easier! Second, facts that you'd like to know:
1. boys like girls.
2. boys are blind, and with this I mean probably he won't notice you want him unless you *tell* him this.
3. boys don't always know how to express themselves. As girls, sometimes they don't even know what they feel.
4. boys like to be invited (actually, everyone likes that). To anything.
5. never, never wait for someone (specially a boy) to do anything if *you* can do that. That saves time and worrying.
So, the best you can do is ask him. If you don't want him to realize everything right there, the best way is to be direct: ask him to go with you. He will never think 'hmmm, and why do you want that?'. If you need any excuse, say 'because we have so much fun together' or something like this. But if you want him to notice you have second intentions, you will have to make it kinda clear. Start touching him if you have the chance: take his hair off his eye, touch his arm to call him, this kind of stuff. Get closer to him when you're chatting (you can speak lower, so he has to come closer to hear you. but don't do this obviously). And the most important: show you're happy to be with him. Don't be afraid to show you are happy when he arrives, by smiling and even saying that. When you ask him, you can be shy and say, there's something I'd like to tell you but I'm shy. He will want to know, and that will double the effect of the asking. But please, don't make him bag for what you're gonna say: it's ok to take a few moments of indecision before, but not hours.
The last thing I wanna say is: there's nothing to lose. If the worst happens, and he says no, it's not like your life is over. It's just a no. And it can happen for a zillion reasons, like he had already been asked, or he won't go to the party. But don't let it stop you from doing what you want.
(and please, if you invite him, come back and tell me how things went :)
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i think is is totally gross and disgusting to be a gay guy or a lesbian is it wrong to think that i dont think it is (link)
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We sure can't help the way we feel about some things. But we can help the way we *act* about them. You can believe in whatever you want, and you can think whatever you want, but that doesn't give you the right to do whatever you want. As long as you treat gays the same way as you treat everyone else, I think it's ok for you not to like it.
Remember, sexual preference is not everything about one person. Gays and lesbians can be as nice and as boring, as beautiful and as ugly as everyone else. So don't miss the chance of a gay's friendship just because of this, ok?
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