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Ok, I'm only 16, and maybe I'm just being stupid. And maybe some of you will think I'm just bitter because I'm single. But, it's not that I'm bitter or jealous. I just don't understand why people my age so immature about relationships? I mean, they post everywhere on the internet about how "hot" their boyfriend/girlfriend's are. And it's like, if they're going to post something about them, then why not post about the things that REALLY matter? Like, for instance, how: funny, brilliant, and/or talented they are. I just don't get it. I mean, one day, they're going to be old and wrinkly, and def. not hot. But, they will be more funny, brilliant, and/or talented. And, I'm not saying a physical attraction isn't needed, because it is. But, why is it that most people are so pathetically consumed with the things that are the least important in relationships? Ahhhh. Some days, I wish I weren't 16.
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I have an answer that might make you feel better. In my country, it is normal to make out with guys just for one night, and then act like nothing occurred. You might just have met him, you might know nothing about him and kiss him anyway. Some friends of mine lost count of how many boys they kissed.
I don't usually do that. I really prefer to kiss someone I like, someone that's funny, brilliant and talented. Even when a very cute guy wants to kiss me, I won't let him unless I really like him and have feelings for him.
So what's the thing that might cheer you up? Most of the guys I dated didn't 'kiss for fun' either. They were with me for more that one night, because they knew me and liked me. It's not that I've choosen guys that didn't do that. It's just that, when I find a guy that I like, usually he focus on things I consider important. Most (and I mean like 90%) of the guys I liked in the past would like me for what I am inside, and would not care if I lost all my hair or got fat. When you find someone who's funny, intelligent, nice and everything you want, chances are he'll be searching someone like this too. :)
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Because you are obviously ahead of your time :) Most people at that age dont have the depth to know what really mattersm and quite frankly, they dont care. At that age, relationships are usually formed because of the attention that the mate will bring them. Thats why they always say how "hot" he or she is. Not how intelligent. Noone is considered "cool" if their mates are intelligent, articulate etc. You, on the other hand, seem to be on the right track. Stick with that. And when everyone else catches up, it'll be you that they look up to.
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If you really think you're that mature, then you shouldn't let petty things like this bother you but rather find them shallow, silly or even funny but not annoying as you claim. I suggest you concentrate on your on life and not on other people's lives. Live in a lifestyle according to your age because your only sixteen once.
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You are right - it all matters if you are going to be with someone for a long time. But what they post on the internet doesn't really matter. If they wanted to be more thoughtful and creative they could put more effort into posting more about how funny, talented, etc., their boyfriends or girlfriends are. But they don't.
Besides, I have known very few wrinkled old people who met their wife or husband when they were 16.
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I agree with you completely. I'm afraid I don't see the advice you're asking for here, but I must say I agree. We live in a world where people throw around the word "love" and go out with each other just because they fit into the same social class. Kids are starting to date earlier and earlier, just so they can be popular. And this gives them a sense of immaturity toward relationships. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't grow out of this phase. I've always prefered personality over looks, however, I've only had a few boyfriends. Perhaps we just aren't seeing it the way the rest of the world is. *rolls eyes*
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Well, if you're talking about people your age or younger, I think you have your answer. I'm not saying that all teenagers do this, I'm saying that certain teenagers go out with the opposite sex just to look "cool" and "mature". Then obviously they'll brag about their girlfriend or their boyfriend to others to make themselves feel important.. And have you ever noticed how that type of relationship lasts never more than a few months? It could be something else though. A lot of people want to show how much they love their significant others. They want to show how proud they are of having someone who looks this good.. I know it sounds superficial, but I bet they don't necessarily love their significant other for their looks...
I don't think you should worry about what other people do, because they aren't you. I mean, when you get a boyfriend, it won't be that way. Because you'll know how superficial a lot of people are and you won't want to do the same thing. :D
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so? Whats the problem? If people are proud of their relatonship eith someone and feel that they need to talk about them on the internet that is totally their buisness. Im sure they do have good qualitys too, but some just think that people will be impressed by how hot they are.
-shay :-)
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