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How come there is no boys asking questions? I'm a guy and I have a question... anyways... I'm kinda shy when the topic asking girls out comes up. I'm 13 and I dont ever think im going to get a girlfriend, because im so scared on what would i do if i asked someone out and then they said yes? i mean i dont know how to make out and stuff like that... what should i do?
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For one thing, you sound like a really nice guy and I think any girl would be lucky to have a guy like you. True, 13 seems young, but hey, I started dating then. Don't worry so much about the "how tos" of dating and making out and all that. I don't know "how to" make out. There isn't really a how. Just whatever feels right. That last applies to everything. Do whatever feels right. The girl might make suggestions too, or you could ask her. I'm sure she wouldn't expect you to make all the decisions. God knows I don't expect my guy to make all the decisions. Just relax and be casual. *Shrug* I hope I helped!
-Siren
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Hmm... well, being a boy and asking questions from time to time (although many of them aren't obviously guy questions -- lentils are an equal-opportunity culinary nightmare, and many work issues are the same for guys and girls), I can tell you that we do, just that the boy population's a tad small here, for all kinds of demographic reasons I guess.
Making out isn't hard-wired into anyone, it's something you kind of have to figure out or make up... in some ways you start over with each new person, so really you'll want to get used to the mystery. No pressure though... a lot of "going out" is about being there to talk, and going places/doing stuff together, and all that, there's no rush to get into mashing face right off. So, go forth, ask people out when it seems right, get to know lots of them, be yourself and have fun (etc. etc. -- you get the picture)!
There's a lot of complaining about cheating and other stuff here, because "everything is going fine, we're happy and comfortable with where things are going" makes for a pretty boring love life question.
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First thing - don't worry. 'Making out' is something that happens, it's not like she's gonna ask you 'wow, let's make out!'. Just do what you want and what you think she would like, as holding her hand, caressing her face and her hair, holding her tight, kissing her on her lips and on her face.
My ex-boyfriend was 18 when I first kissed him and he didn't ever kissed before that. And it was a good kiss! I knew he was a begginer and that didn't scare me at all. I just made things slower, and it was very, very good. Maybe your girl will know (or find out) it's your first time, and then she will be gentle and warm.
Last thing - don't ever be afraid of asking what does she like, and telling her what do you like. Some girls love it when you pass your hands through her hair, some don't like that as much, and every girl has something that she loves. And the easier way to find out what it is, is to ask.
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Just be yourself. Girls like that. And who cares if you don't know how to make out. I mean if you've never had a girl friend. And when you ask a girl out for a first date, don't ask her to go to the movies. Cause you can't talk. See if she wants to go ice skating.
Elle
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I think you should wait until you are really comfortable with a girl before you ask her out. You don't really <i>need</i> a girlfriend. About making out, if you get to the point where you ask a girl out, and you feel like the occassion is right, then you might try kissing. You don't have to "make out" and make an event of it. You just learn by experience, and you don't need to feel so rushed.
Boys cheat on girls because they are not ready to be committed to one girl. And girls do the same thing. When you are 13 it isn't like you are going to marry them. I think there is too much pressure to have a girlfriend and be committed.
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Well, this one if kind of hard to explain. Maybe try asking one of your parents. They might help out on your problems.
Girls do complain if we get cheated on or something like that, but I don't know the answer to that. Sorry! And I am glad that you wouldn't even cheat on a girl! That is a good thing that you have in you! Keep it!
~~~Shasta~~~
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You're only 13. You don't even need to worry about this yet. But if you are going to do it anyways don't worry about it. It's all a learning process and theres no "right" way to do it. Just do whatever feels right.
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you sound so nice...anyway if you like a girl just start talking to her, try and be witty.
if you ask her out and she says yes then you just go out somewhere with her, act natural. and if making out becomes part of the situation well then just go with the flow and don't shove your tongue to the back of her throat.
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Hey, im a guy and well the only thing to do is swallow your shyness and ask, and most girls don't want to make out on their first date with a guy, it rarely happens so I wouldn't worry about that. And I know what you mean I would never cheat on a girl either. The only way to get rid of being shy, is just talking to people you don't know. And just follow the norm if your too shy a movie and a dinner or get creative im sure you habe it in you.
Cspinoza1
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Everyone is occasionally nervous when it comes to stuff like that. You're 13, I don't think you'll need to know how to make out for another couple of years.
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You sink or swim when it comes to this kind of stuff. Heres what you do... flirt with the girl and get to know her a bit. Make her feel comfortable around you and when you feel like the time is right ask her out. If she refuses act like it didnt really matter and keep being friends no matter what. I hope I helped!
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Ask the girl. Tell her you would like to go owling or skating with her, and if your scared, just ask her to actually go out with you if you like her while you are out. By the way, it makes you a kewl guy since you don't cheat on girls, you'll make a girl very happy. Good Luck
Lizzy
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