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Okay, to start it off I'm 14 and I am a female.
I have had depression before, when I was in eigth grade, and during the end of that year it went away. Well now that I am in ninth grade, I am depressed again. I've got ADHD and I take Adderall for it. I have no self confidence, I am shy, and I'm not happy. I USE to be very confident and outgoing. Right now I am balling my eyes out, and I have no idea. I am very close with God and I've prayed about this a couple times and so has my family. I am balling my eyes out right now and I have no idea. Someone please help me, I can't stand being like this anymore.
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ADHD is a strange thing. It has its disadvantages, but it also helps you in some ways. The same hyperactivity that keeps you from getting your homework done can also make you a very outgoing and energetic kind of person. When the medication takes that away, you can find yourself in a slump.
I also take Adderall for ADD (I don't have the hyperactivity component) and one thing I've observed about it is that it tends to make me irritable and short-tempered when it begins to wear off. It seems reasonable that this sort of thing could also worsen symptoms of depression. You might consider asking your doctor if you could try a different drug; there are other options besides Adderall.
I'd say your first stop should be your doctor. Tell him how you've been feeling depressed and ask whether that could be because of your medication. He may recommend changing the dosage or trying a different pill. Of course, the depression may not have anything to do with your meds or your ADHD; in any event, your doctor is still a good resource to try to find the root of the problem.
One thing I've experienced is that depression feeds on itself; left alone, it gets worse. Sometimes you can temporarily break the cycle by engaging in a new and absorbing activity. In other words, join a new club or start a new hobby. This isn't likely to be a cure in and of itself, but it can pick you up long enough for you to recognize that the depression isn't unbeatable, and give you enough confidence to start dealing with it.
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my boyfriend's internet was down and he didn't call me for 3 days so i was wondering if he was no longer interested. i checked his myspace page and found that this girl left him a comment saying "i'm talking to you on the phone right now. i loveee youuu" that got me pissed because i didn't know what she meant by "love". i asked her if they were going out and she wouldn't answer me. so then my boyfriend calls me 3 days later and he asks me if we are still going out because he said he's not going out with that girl and he said he's really sorry for everything. my friend had a feeling from the beginning that he was a cheater and a player so we put him to the test. i made up a new screen name and pretended to be one of his friends and here is our conversation
his friend - heeeeey its _____
my boyfriend - heyyyyy =)
his friend - i have something really important to tell you
my boyfriend - kay go ahead
his friend - well your not gonna believe this but i like you.....
his friend- more than a friend.
my boyfriend- oh really ??? =)
his friend - yeah are you going out with anyone?
my boyfriend - no (HE SAID THIS WHILE HE WAS TELLING ME HOW MUCH HE LOVED ME)
his friend- on you dumped that girl?
my boyfriend- yeah she was weird
his friend - did you ever like her?
my boyfriend - no i liked you
^^ that was me talking to my boyfriend who really thought it was his friend
so then i told him that he had been PUNK'D and i saw the whole conversation and i said "if you were so sorry why would you cheat on me?
his first reaction was "i think im gunna cry for the first time in my life and i cant believe this"
and then after he was done being shocked he was like oh my god im soo sorry. he said "i KNEW it wasnt my friend the whole time so i was just leading them on" and i go "uhm yeah right"
and now he tells me he STILL loves me. how can i believe it??? he'd probably cheat again
i haven't broke up with him yet but i'm really really mad and i just can't trust him. what if he was going out with that girl on myspace but just lied so i'd think he's single?
is what he did considered cheating?
what should i do? (link)
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You've asked three questions.
(1) "Did I do the right thing?"
Normally, I'd say that a "sting operation" against a significant other is not a good idea. However, in this case you had fairly good evidence that he was straying in his thoughts. Note that it would have been entirely possible for someone to leave an "I love you" note on his page without his returning those feelings in any way, but in that case, I don't think he would have had anything to apologize for. The fact that he did say he was sorry about it would indicate that he had something to be sorry about.
You did commit a slight wrong by pretending to be this "other woman". For all you know, her part in this was innocent; he may have been feeding her lies to the effect that he was single and unattached. A better thing to do might have been to approach her and tell her the facts, then both of you could corner him together. But, I don't think she was actually harmed by your assumption of her identity, and the greater good of exposing your boyfriend's dishonesty was served.
So yes, I think you did the right thing, and of course the results you got would seem to prove that.
(2) "Is what he did considered cheating?"
Not really, if you want to get technical about it.
It was, however, a whole bunch of other things: lying, deceiving, disrespectful, dishonest, not to mention stupid. While it may not have been something that could be strictly defined as "cheating", it was equally bad and definitely cause for breaking up with him. It was also a good indicator that, even though you don't have direct evidence for it, he WAS cheating or at least that he intended to.
(3) "What should I do?"
Break up with him, as soon as possible. He his proven himself untrustworthy. Drop him like a hot rock and have no second thoughts. If he cries or gets upset, do not for one moment believe that he is sincere. He has made it quite clear that he sees you as an easily disposable girlfriend. YOU are the offended party, not him.
He says that he still loves you, and he may even think that he means it, but it's clear that he does not know what love is.
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Should soft drinks be sold in schools?
What are the pros & what are the cons?
PLEASE don't tell me to Google it-I have.
I just need people's opinions. :)
Thank you in advance!* (link)
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This is not an opinion-poll site.
This is a personal advice site.
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Feedback stated: "u r supposed to give advice, not leave rude remarks."
My response: You didn't ASK for advice. If you had asked whether you personally should install vending machines in a school, or whether you should protest the installation of such machines, THEN you would be asking for advice. What you seem to be doing is conducting a survey.
Want some advice? Here's some: Read the FAQ. Pay particular attention to this item: http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=56
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ok. so, last night i got realllyyyy bored, so for the first time ever i watched porn. and i realized i am personally ready to have sex right now. and i now none stop think about how i want it. jkas. is this normal. do i really wnat it? am i just thinking that from the porn ? (link)
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Keep something very firmly in mind: PORN IS NOT SEX.
Porn is idealized. It is fantasy. It has just as much to do with actual sex as Indiana Jones has to do with archeology.
In porn, there are no consequences, no emotional entanglements, no accidental pregnancies, and no STDs.. No one in a porn movie cares if she is labeled a slut or a whore. No one suffers any pain (unless they are totally willing), and even then there are no permanent scars, either emotional or physical. Every sexual encounter in a porn movie is done without a second thought, and everyone is always perfectly happy about it afterwards. There are never, ever any regrets.
It's a lie. Or, to be more charitable about it, it's a performance, It is certainly NOT reality.
Do NOT base your decisions based on this kind of source material! Understand that reality and fantasy will clash, and reality wins every time. If you rush into sex, you WILL have regrets. At the age of 13, you are not ready in any sense - emotionally, physically, or legally.
However, your reaction is perfectly normal. That is what these movies are designed to do: make people want to have sex. And you probably do genuinely want it, but you are NOT ready for it. You are ready for the FANTASY. The reality, you will find, is much different. Whether it is better or worse depends on many things, including how old you are, who you do it with, and for what reasons.
Here's the one lesson you should take from a porn movie: Everyone in them is over 18 years old.
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how do females msturbate? (link)
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I suggest you ask a female.
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if you have to debate with yourself whether or not you love someone, then you cant really be in love with then huh? (link)
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Love is a lot of things, but it isn't perfect. In any relationship, there will be times that you question your feelings and when they change. Love isn't constant; love takes many forms. Your feelings for the same person can change dramatically over time, and yet still be covered under the word "Love".
How can we expect something so complex to just come naturally? It would be unrealistic to think that we ALWAYS "just know" when we're in love (for one thing, that assumes that people are always right about emotional matters, which is bull).
I think that occasional examination of one's feelings, even putting them under a microscope, is healthy and intelligent behavior. Introspection is how we get to know ourselves, and since you'll spend more time with you than anyone else, it's a worthwhile thing to do.
Those who refuse to examine their own feelings and who are afraid to hold them up for self-inspection are usually living in denial. I've quoted a line from Shakespeare many times on this column, because I think it's among the best all-purpose pieces of advice ever given: "This above all things, to thine own self be true." You can't be true to yourself if you refuse to think about your feelings.
Enough abstraction, though - here's something practical. Falling in love is an incredible rush, but you can't fall forever; eventually you land, and the rush goes away. If you don't take a moment then to think about your feelings, then you might imagine that the love is gone too, when in reality it's just changed its form. Maybe you still love your girlfriend, but it's become a less urgent, quieter kind of feeling. The good news is that with real love, the rush revisits you from time to time. Of course, it's also possible that the love really is no longer there, in which case the relationship may not last for the long term; but doesn't it make sense to THINK about that and not just break up because there's a spark lacking?
So hold your internal debates and dissect your feelings. It's romantic to imagine that we can always be guided by our hearts, but sometimes your heart doesn't know Jack.
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female btw. how would u know if someone has a crush on you? what are the signs of that? (link)
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If it's a crush, then there really are no recognizable signs. The reason is that a Crush is, by definition, something that one plays pretty close to the chest. The crush object isn't MEANT to know about it. Any signs that might be given will be so subtle as to be completely missed - which is entirely the point.
Genuine affection is a little easier to spot. One of the biggest clues is how he reacts if you talk about other guys or if you date someone else. He will be MISERABLE about it, and it will be very hard for him to hide it. Ask him his opinion about other guys and he will always come up with a reason why they're no good for you. Kiss somebody, and he will probably turn away and quietly seethe. And if he gets the idea that someone isn't treating you right, he will leap to your defense every time.
A guy with a crush won't do these things, because his attraction to you is countered by fear that you'll find out about it!
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How do I tell my bf that I don't want to have sex with him? I don't want him to be hurt.. (link)
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One thing I noticed that all the answers below are not addressing is this:
Is it that you don't want to have sex with ANYONE at this time, or is it a personal thing with your boyfriend?
It makes a difference. If sex is not something you're EVER going to be willing to offer your current boyfriend - in other words, if the physical side of your relationship has progressed as far as it will go - then you need to tell him that in no uncertain terms. My guess is that he will probably break up with you as a result, but that may be for the best; whether one wants to have a sexual relationship or not is a pretty fundamental item.
On the other hand, if sex is something you will be prepared to do with him eventually, then by all means tell him so - but make it clear that it will come in its own time, when you are ready. Perhaps you're waiting for marriage (I see an astonishing number of people making that assumption, though you haven't said it). Perhaps you're waiting for it to simply feel right. Whatever it is you're waiting for, you deserve - just as everyone does, male or female - to have your first sexual experience be an act of totally free will, and not the result of pressure or a sense of inevitability.
So, what you tell him depends entirely on what you see in the future for your relationship. Either way, the most important thing is that you tell him the truth.
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okay. so, i'm studying in an exclusive girls school and i've recently crushed on a girl. i know its wrong, but it just happened. anyways, i need tips on how NOT to keep it obvious. i'm good at that, but the thing is, today i suddenly blurt out something that MADE IT obvious. so any advice?
oh, and besides that, i MIGHT admit it to her... so, any suggestions on time, day (like the last day of school or something), place and how i'm gonna say it? please help :)
thanks in advanced!
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Right now, I don't think you should tell her. Here's what needs to happen before you can: you need to be able to remove the words "I know it's wrong" from the above statement.
In other words, it's not fair to expect her to deal with it when you cannot. Suppose, for instance, she actually said she wanted to explore a relationship with you - would you be able to handle that? Until you can, keep the crush to yourself. The only case in which I would say to tell her about it would be if SHE brings it up; in that case, tell her the truth, but also tell her that you're not sure about the "rightness" of your feelings, and that you need to sort that out.
As far as how to avoid letting something slip, that's a tough one; as Sigmund Freud taught us, we often say exactly what we're trying desperately not to. However, most people won't make the assumption that you're crushing on another girl, so while what you blurted out may seem terribly obvious to you, it might have gone right over everyone's heads. Don't call attention to the remark, whatever it was, and you'll probably find that no one even noticed it.
If they did, and the general population of the school finds out about your crush... well, that's when you'll find out who your real friends are.
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When someone has a boyfriend, how long should it be before they begin to "french kiss"? My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month, maybe a little more. The other night, when he was dropping me off, he began to kiss me. Now, don't get me wrong, I am fine with a quick peck on the lips. But he opened up my mouth! I felt a little uncomfortable, but I let it go... until he started to use his tongue! I told him he was going WAY too fast. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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You are the one who determines how far you want to go. If french kissing made you uncomfortable, then the right thing to do was tell him so, and you did.
However, a month was probably sufficient time for him to figure you might be ready, so I do hope you're not blaming him or anything. He could probably use a little assurance right now that you didn't intend to reject him as a boyfriend, but that the kiss itself was simply uncomfortable for you. A decent guy will understand that.
I do recommend that you try it eventually. Choose a quiet moment when you're ready, and tell him you want to try again, but that he must take it slow and not be too "sloppy". You may find that you really enjoy it.
If this is something you don't feel you're EVER going to be able to do, tell him up front so you can avoid this kind of awkwardness in the future. However, it's fair to warn you that tongue-kissing is something that most guys really want to be able to do with their girlfriends eventually, and if you tell him it's never going to happen, he may find someone else who will do it. That may be put ting a little unfair pressure on you, but it's also a fact.
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ok my sister is 16 and she wants to get a small tattoo of a peace sign down by her bikini line and she said some guy who's like thirty is gonna do it cus he does his own. i really dont want her to do it b/c its stupid and she's not telling our parents and they would definitly say no and everytime she does something bad and my parents find out its like a huge thing, my dad screams and yells and chases her out the front door, my mom freaks out and threatens to call the cops on my dad, my sister cries hysterically and me and my 8 year old brother sit together in my room and try not to panic too much. anyway i really dont want her to go through with it so what can i say to make her not? (link)
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Your sister should be made aware that what this guy is doing is, in fact, illegal. A 16-year-old can't get a tattoo without parental consent, and if it's going in an intimate spot like that, then the artist could be brought up on some pretty serious charges. The fact that he's willing to do it anyway should be setting off some alarm bells about how legitimate he is (or isn't). An infection from an improperly used tattoo needle can cause permanent, disfiguring scars - not something I would imagine she wants in her bikini area.
If she is still willing to put herself in danger, then you have an obligation to tell your parents - and that leads to the real problem here. Your sister's desire for a tattoo is nothing compared to the family dynamic you describe. The way your parents and your sister are dealing with problems is not healthy and it is not fair to you and your brother. I suggest that you use this incident as a way to try and explain to them how these clashes are affecting you.
You might start by approaching your mother alone (from what you describe, your Dad is the one who's exploding about things, so your mom may be more able to sit and quietly listen). Tell her that you're worried about something that's going on (give no details yet), but that you're afraid to talk about it because of the inevitable blow-up. Tell her your real feelings: that it seriously frightens you when your dad explodes and when she threatens to call the police on him. Tell her that you want to be honest with her and come to her with problems, but that you can't do it if this is the way they react to them.
Then, ask if she will help you approach your dad about it. She should be willing to do so - if not, then the problem is even worse than it would seem, and you may need to get another adult on your side to intervene. Tell him, with your mother's support, exactly what you told her: that you want to come to them with problems and be honest about what's going on in your life, but that you are terrified of the way they react to things and you need them to promise to try not to fly off the handle. Hopefully, your dad will see your point - again, if he doesn't, you may need help from someone else.
Once you've extracted a promise from them to deal with the problem calmly and rationally, tell them exactly what's going on with your sister.
Hopefully, they will keep their cool and deal with the problem like adults. If not, then you should approach them again afterward and ask how they can expect you to come to them with your problems if you can't trust them to keep their promises. Bear in mind that saying such things might get you on the receiving end of the same kind of screaming fits that are usually directed at your sister, but it's something you need to say anyway. And once again, if this is what happens, then you will need outside help. It might be best to start with another adult family member if there is one you can trust, such as a grandparent. If you have no one else, try a teacher or school guidance counselor.
HOWEVER - bear in mind that if a school official suspects abuse, they are bound by law to report it. Therefore, do not exaggerate the situation, but tell only the truth. If you really are fearful for your safety, then say so, but this may bring a visit from Child Protective Services, which regrettably sometimes makes things worse instead of better.
All things considered, the very best thing you could do - if you can do it - would be to get your sister and brother with you so that all three of you can confront your parents about what their style of discipline is doing to you. If they see that it is affecting the whole family and that all of their kids are upset and afraid, then maybe they will understand that it is something that must change. You might try talking your sister into this course of action before she goes for the tattoo (it might help bring her around if you tell her that Mom and Dad will find out about it anyway, if not from you than from your family doctor or just by noticing it when she goes swimming or something).
To sum it all up: if you and your sister can act like adults about the situation, maybe your example will help your parents act like adults too.
Good luck to you. Please let us know how it turns out.
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For as long as I could remember, I've talked to myself (out loud). This may sound strange, but sometimes when I'm alone, I start having random conversations or debates. At times, I'll just start stating my thoughts out loud. I never, ever do these things around other people. In fact, no body would ever guess that I actually do talk to myself. I stop myself sometimes and wonder why I have such a habit.
I know that I'm a stable person, but I feel so
alone sometimes that I just start talking when no body is around. The thing is, that in the back of my mind, i understand what I am doing. I can bring myself to stop; it's not as though I have no control over this.
I feel like this is abnormal...but I really don't know. Is there anyone who has a similar habit? Or, is this even normal? Please only comment if you know about this. thanks (link)
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I think that this is one of those things that almost everybody does, but nobody admits to. There's nothing wrong with vocalizing your thoughts in order to fill silence, as long as you're alone (if you do it in crowded rooms, people will be annoyed and have reason to doubt your sanity).
I have heard that this habit can be one of the signs of Attention Deficit Disorder, but if you don't have any other symptoms, it's probably just something you do - and as long as it's not causing problems in your life, it's harmless. So go ahead and talk to yourself. At least you'll know your audience is listening.
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I'm not sure if this is the right category but...
Today we were playing soccer in gym and I was the goalie [and I'm the least athletic girl you'll ever find] and we weren't using regular soccer balls since the last one got kicked up onto the rooft -- dont ask-- and so we were using one of those hard, rubber dodge balls filled with air and this girl that just happened to be very athletic kicked it and I tried to block it with my hand (didn't work by the way) and the ball bent my wrist way back and I had ice on it for the whole day in school.
It's a little swollen and I can't move my wrist without it hurting [I couldn't pick my violin up, write, tie my hair, hold onto stuff, etc--I can move it a little but it hurts like crap]
Is it sprained or something? And what should I do? [don't say put ice on...it's kinda obvious]
Thanks very much!!!!! (link)
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It probably is sprained. There also may be a hairline fracture, though that is unlikely.
As you say, ice is pretty obvious, but only for the first 24 hours. Ice prevents swelling; after the first day, there should be no further swelling, so ice won't do any further good.
If it still hurts to the point that you can't use it after the second day, you might consider seeing a doctor about it and getting it X-rayed to check for a fracture. Most likely, though, he will probably just prescribe pain medication and immobilize the hand and wrist with an Ace bandage and perhaps a splint. You can get an air cast (kind of like an inflatable glove without fingers) at any pharmacy if you want to just do that yourself, and if you can handle the pain with just Advil, you may not need to see a doctor. (Advil or Ibuprofen is the best thing to take because it helps with swelling.)
It's normal for it to hurt more the next day. If it continues to hurt more and more after that, though, it's not getting better - it's getting worse. At that point, definitely see a doctor.
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A couple days ago I tried having sex with my boyfriend with my legs up on his shoulders so he could get deeper and hit my 'g spot' and stuff. well wen he did it, it hurt my lower abdomen, my lower back, and my hips. it was like a really weird cramping feeling. It almost felt like his penis was poking up into my stomach and it kinda made me feel like I was gonna throw up. Is there anything wrong? and is there any way i can get more pleasure besides that because it for sure does not feel too great like that. thank you !
~amandaaaa* (link)
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It seems to me that he penetrated too deeply. Not all positions work well for all couples. This is one that you probably won't be able to do pleasurably.
There are other ways to try to reach the G-spot. One would be for you to lie down on your back and prop yourself up on some pillows, to raise your hips. It also might work if he lies down on his back and you straddle him, sitting up on your knees - this one may be very exciting for your boyfriend, too, as he gets to lie back and watch you.
Experiment with subtle differences, and you will eventually find the perfect position. If it hurts, then don't do it; there are plenty of options available.
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Does anyone know of any websites where I can be pre-qualified for a mortgage? (link)
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There are dozens, if not hundreds, of websites where you can be pre-qualified for a really lousy mortgage that will put you at risk for identity theft and/or install spyware on your computer. So the first thing you need to keep in mind is to only go to websites that are run by banks you are familiar with and that have a good reputation.
However, the pre-qualification is probably not going to represent the best possible deal. A mortgage is a pretty major item - it would really make a lot more sense to go to a mortgage broker and do the job properly. Certain things are worth putting in the extra time on, and for something as big as a home purchase, you really don't want to take shortcuts.
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Yesterday this guy admitted to me he used to really like me, and I asked him if he still did and he said, "eh i do in a way, its hard to explain though" what could he mean by that? My friend asked him why he doesn't just ask me out, and he said, "mainly its cause i know she doesn't like me and im just plain scared of relationships" i dooooo like him though. how can i get him to ask me out & not be scared of relationships? (link)
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I'm going to advise you to do something that may be a wee bit drastic, but it will produce GUARANTEED results.
Pick a moment, preferably when you're alone with him. Then proceed with the following conversation:
You: "Remember how you told me that you used to really like me, and you still do, but it's hard to explain?"
Him: "Yes."
You: "Let me explain how I feel about you."
Then KISS him.
Give him one right on the lips, about two seconds in duration. Then pull away, look him in the eyes, and say:
"Your turn."
Like I said, guaranteed results will follow. They may not be the results you want, but rest assured you WILL get him talking.
Or, if you're lucky, you'll get him kissing you back, and then talking.
(if you do follow this advice, please let me know how it turns out!)
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I dont want to call them my parents because they do not love me.They love my brothers but not me. Its not a gender thing because when my brother dropped out and did nothing they did the same thing to him. But my oldest brother Scott is the success he can do anything and it wont madder they'll still love him.Hes probably going to jail for a DWI and my parents were planning to buy him a calling card and stuff because they wont let you bring in a cell phone... my mother told my dad not to tell anyone and im joking and im like too late and my mother starts swearing and says.."SHUT UP i wish i was buying it for you" so now my mother wants me to go to Jail be punished for scott being dumb. BUT she still loves him. Both my parents call me names too bad to put on here its swears and IM sick of.. I do nothing wrong why do my parents hate me...? (link)
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I want to answer your question, because I think you deserve some answers and you're not getting them from your parents. However, please bear in mind that I have no experience along the lines of what you're going through. I was fortunate enough to have parents who were able to love all their children equally, and they were able to show it. I'm not saying this to make you feel worse about things, just to let you know that my advice comes from someone on the outside looking in, not from someone who's been there and done that.
I've observed that there are some families where one child somehow can get away with murder and still be treated like royalty. I suspect that this sort of behavior begins early, with a baby or young child who needs a little more affection or tolerance to get by, and as time goes on the situation escalates until he's committing actual crimes and still being coddled for it.
In other words, the problem here is not you. The problem is your brother Scott who won't grow up, and your parents who enable his poor behavior. They are frustrated with him and are probably taking it out on you, because they know that if they took it out on him he'd probably do something desperate and violent. Taking it out on you is "safer" because they know you will roll with it.
You have two practical options if you want the situation to change:
(1) You can confront the situation. Choose a time when Scott is not around and your parents are not actively upset over him. You will need to approach the problem cautiously, because it will easily descend into a shouting match if you let it. It might be best to start with just one of your parents. Tell them that you feel underappreciated, that you don't think you deserve the insults and names they throw at you, and that you aren't sure that they love you. They may surprise you by responding with compassion and regret. Don't expect change overnight even if it does go well, but hope for the best.
On the other hand, they may respond with more of the same, or they may brush you off. If that happens, then...
(2) You may need to start distancing yourself from them, and growing up faster than you might ordinarily have to. Accept the fact that you may never win their approval or affection. And here's the difficult part: you will have to stop caring about what they think or how they feel about you.
Don't concern yourself with what they will or won't buy or provide for you. Ignore the inequities of how they treat you and your siblings. Live for your own purposes and work on achieving your independence, so that when you turn 18 you can walk out the door and not come back. To do this is going to require discipline and hard work, but it will also give you the sense of self-worth and accomplishment that they are sadly denying you.
Do not make the same mistake your other brother did by "dropping out", and don't let your own life slip down the tubes to "get back at them". Work hard in school so that you can graduate with a good record and then get a decent job or go to college. You must start thinking seriously about your future and how you will get there. Don't plan to rely on your parents for ANYTHING, because they may disappoint you when the chips are down.
Hopefully, you can either save your relationship with your parents or at least make it possible for it to be saved at some later time. If things keep going like they are, though, you will come to truly hate them before long and there will be no chance at reconciliation.
I hate to use a cheesy metaphor, but think of you and your parents as a pair of spinning gears. Right now, the gears are spinning out of sync, grinding and chewing each other up. You must find some way of either bringing the gears together so they mesh properly, or pulling them apart so that they spin freely - and perhaps try to bring them together again sometime in the future. But to leave the gears where they are will eventually strip them down to nothing.
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Do you believe that people are "made" for each other. (so to speak) That there is a fish in the sea for everyone...and you're just waiting to meet them. Or do you believe that love takes work, and that there cannot possible be love at first sight and fait plays no hand in it?
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Love doesn't necessarily take any work at all. However, RELATIONSHIPS take work.
Love can happen fast, and sometimes "love at first sight" is actually real. However, it cannot last if both people involved aren't willing or able to put in effort. Relationships require understanding, compromise, sacrifice, consideration, and trust - all of which are not always easy to give, and in fact can be brutally hard sometimes.
But if it IS real, it's worth it.
How can you tell if it's real? It's real when you find that it IS worth it.
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do guys like a girl when she shaves down there?
like blad...trim...or does it matter?
my guy friend was saying how he fingered his girlfriend and he felt like his hand was in "a bowl of hairy jello"
i keep it trimmed...but not bald...and i have been fingered and i just dont know how to keep it... (link)
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There are those who do like it shaved, and those who don't. Do it the way you like it for now. Then, once you're in a close enough relationship that it matters, you might ask your guy what he would prefer (then again, you might not - it's entirely up to you).
If you do choose to shave, be aware that stubble itches, ingrown hairs happen, and little nicks and scrapes can become infected. However, there is also an increased sensitivity that you might find you really enjoy. The good thing about shaving is that it DOES grow back, so it's not like you have to live with it forever if you do shave.
Just don't follow in the footsteps of Britney Spears, because however they feel about hair "down there", most guys do not go for the shaved head look.
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How many books are there in the gossip girl series so far? (link)
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I typed "Gossip Girl" into Google and came up with the information below. It took me about five seconds. Since this is an advice website, I hereby advise you to learn how to use the internet.
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The books are published by 17th Street Productions, New York, and distributed by Little, Brown, and Company. 10 books have been published of the series so far. Only the first 8 books are written by Cecily von Ziegesar. This is because she had only originally planned for 8 books. However, due to the success of them, she has handed her ideas to a ghost-writer who has written the 9th and 10th books. This gives time for Von Ziegesar to focus her time onto her new series, The It Girl, the sequel series to Nothing can Keep us Together. You will notice that the first 8 books say the are written by Cecily von Ziegesar, but the last two only say created by Cecily von Ziegesar.
1. Gossip Girl
2. You Know You Love Me
3. All I Want Is Everything
4. Because I'm Worth It
5. I Like It Like That
6. You're the One That I Want
7. Nobody Does It Better
8. Nothing Can Keep Us Together
9. Only In Your Dreams
10. Would I Lie To You?
11. [[Don't You Forget About Me (coming May 1, 07)]]
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