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"french kissing"
16/F
When someone has a boyfriend, how long should it be before they begin to "french kiss"? My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month, maybe a little more. The other night, when he was dropping me off, he began to kiss me. Now, don't get me wrong, I am fine with a quick peck on the lips. But he opened up my mouth! I felt a little uncomfortable, but I let it go... until he started to use his tongue! I told him he was going WAY too fast. Did I do the right thing?
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well honestly. for being 16 and dating for a month. you should have frenched kissed him before. i frenched my boyfriend before we even started dating. but hey. its all about what you are comfortable with. and if you need more time then take it. but dont shoot it down before you tried it.
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okay well let me tell you some stuff ive done. im only 13 and my last boyfriend kissed me the first time we offically hung out and the second time we hung out we started making out but i dumped him becuz he was trying to get my to smoke and stuff but i stood up and said no and tonight i got asked out by this guy at the movies and at the end of the movie we ended up makeing out. but it all depends on the person. if your not comfertble with it then tell him, you shouldnt be pressured into stuff you dont want to do. and if hes pressuring you then he is deffentily not worth your beauty or your time. so dont be afraid to dump him like i did. but im sure this guy is really nice and will understand wat you tell him
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yes you did do the right thing!
if you are not ready than you should not have to if you do not want to. your boyfriend should learn to respect you and what you want.
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You are the one who determines how far you want to go. If french kissing made you uncomfortable, then the right thing to do was tell him so, and you did.
However, a month was probably sufficient time for him to figure you might be ready, so I do hope you're not blaming him or anything. He could probably use a little assurance right now that you didn't intend to reject him as a boyfriend, but that the kiss itself was simply uncomfortable for you. A decent guy will understand that.
I do recommend that you try it eventually. Choose a quiet moment when you're ready, and tell him you want to try again, but that he must take it slow and not be too "sloppy". You may find that you really enjoy it.
If this is something you don't feel you're EVER going to be able to do, tell him up front so you can avoid this kind of awkwardness in the future. However, it's fair to warn you that tongue-kissing is something that most guys really want to be able to do with their girlfriends eventually, and if you tell him it's never going to happen, he may find someone else who will do it. That may be put ting a little unfair pressure on you, but it's also a fact.
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deffinatley---
you did the right thing.
you told him what you were comfortable and that was the right thing to do.
alot of girls arent brave enough to tell their boyfriends when is too far.
so they get pulled into doing things they dont want to.
just go at whatever pace you are comfortable with,and your boyfriend should be fine with it.
it depends on the person how fast they want to go.it could be alot longer than you have been going out with your boyfriend,so dont worry about it.
good luck.
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You did the right thing here for you. If you were not comfortable and felt he moved too fast you had every single right to say so whether he's been your boyfriend for a month or not.
Tell him that you love him but just were not ready or expecting of that just yet. He should understand as long as you let him know that you do love him and will in fact kiss him that way in the future but want more time to build your relationship up before things get hotter and taken up a notch.
Right now he's probably feeling rejected but he will be okay. You should probably tell him you aren't that experienced with french kissing and didn't know how to handle the situation nor were you expecting it.
It's always about your comfort because if you aren't comfortable you shouldn't do it yet. You need to communicate with your boyfriend and talk about where your boundaries are right now and work up more trust for such an imtimate thing as a french kiss. But to reiterate, you made the smart move.
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You did do the right thing. Only do something if you feel comfortable me and my boyfriend didnt do that until like after 4 months but hey thats just us. Do it when you are ready. there is no reason to rush things at all. If you guys really like eachother then why hurry you hav so much time and so many chances to do that. tell him you arent ready and when you are you will.
Hope I Helped :)
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there is no real right time to start. it depends on the person. honestly, you totally did the right thing. if you don't feel comfortable, then you shouldn't do something. good for you!
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I personally think it should be no longer than a week before making out, becuase its a fun flirty way to show you care! i could tooottaaalllyyy see why you got freaked out i guess... but its seriously noo big deal and if you want to take it slow you should!
i think its good that you know what your comfortable with, because i have friends that give handis and bjs in like 2-3 weeks. good for you!!
honestly i dont think frenching is a big deal, but don't do it if your not comfortable with it, cuz then it'll be an awkward kiss! and you dont your first french with him to be bad!!
*****yea so you asked what handis and bjs are... hand jobs and blowjobs (oral)
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there is nothing wrong with making out after a month of going out. many people make out before they are even "officially" going out, or even casually. now if that actually makes you physically uncomfortable, that's another story - you shouldn't do anything that doesn't feel pleasant to you. if you'd rather just cuddle, maybe you could do that. but don't try to look at how soon other people do it - set your own pace based on how it feels to you.
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yes, you did the right thing if it was uncomfortable for you. just give it some time, and maybe it will feel more "right." there isn't a certain length of how long you should be dating before you start french kissing, its just a matter of how both people feel about it, and if its comfortable for them. you did the right thing, so don't worry about it!
hope i helped!
~KE~
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If you felt uncomfortable, then of course! You should never do anything you don't want to, and your boyfriend should understand that. Don't let anyone pressure you if you don't really want to do something.
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