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okay. so, i'm studying in an exclusive girls school and i've recently crushed on a girl. i know its wrong, but it just happened. anyways, i need tips on how NOT to keep it obvious. i'm good at that, but the thing is, today i suddenly blurt out something that MADE IT obvious. so any advice?
oh, and besides that, i MIGHT admit it to her... so, any suggestions on time, day (like the last day of school or something), place and how i'm gonna say it? please help :)
thanks in advanced!
<3carla
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I would say on a Friday because if she doesn't have the same feelings for you, it could be so embarassing and you won't have to see her for a few days, so you'll have some time to get over the situation and for her to forget. You should ask to speak to her in private, in the hallway before classes start. You should probably say something like... "This is really hard to explain because I've never had this view of a girl before but... I find you pretty attractive. I really wanted to tell you to get it off my chest, and it's ok if you don't feel the same way." Or something like that.
Good luck
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ye i say the last day of school would be the best. Do not ignore her though. just play it cool. and where is a tough one because you want her t be a lone that way it does not mess anything up with your other friends.i think that you should just say it at the end of the day after she is done saying bye to all of her friends and you dod nt have to say it a certain way just say it.then wait for a reply from her then say ok and walk away.i do not know if this advice will help but it is the best i can giv for this situation.
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Right now, I don't think you should tell her. Here's what needs to happen before you can: you need to be able to remove the words "I know it's wrong" from the above statement.
In other words, it's not fair to expect her to deal with it when you cannot. Suppose, for instance, she actually said she wanted to explore a relationship with you - would you be able to handle that? Until you can, keep the crush to yourself. The only case in which I would say to tell her about it would be if SHE brings it up; in that case, tell her the truth, but also tell her that you're not sure about the "rightness" of your feelings, and that you need to sort that out.
As far as how to avoid letting something slip, that's a tough one; as Sigmund Freud taught us, we often say exactly what we're trying desperately not to. However, most people won't make the assumption that you're crushing on another girl, so while what you blurted out may seem terribly obvious to you, it might have gone right over everyone's heads. Don't call attention to the remark, whatever it was, and you'll probably find that no one even noticed it.
If they did, and the general population of the school finds out about your crush... well, that's when you'll find out who your real friends are.
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Well..haha... this sounds familiar and I DO remember being in this situation...I am bisexual myself and remembered thinking to myself..,"What if she's not bi and I ruin everything?" I hated it,but just try to treat her like one of your normal CLOSE friends..and flirt a little on the side and make her know that you feel this way about her...but quietly...just smile at her and help her any way you can...hey, she just might like you back? ;) Good luck. Need aditional help... feel free to contact me.
-Ciao
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I completely understand. I am bi, and my parents don't know.
If you don't want to make it obvious, you can take two routes. Be VERY flirtatious, and people would think you were metro. Or you can simply try to become bff's with this girl. Then when you're close, you can sort things out.
If you're going to admit to her, do it WHEN YOU CAN SEE HER, and do it alone, or with a close friend who sympathizes. Going somewhere somewhat private is a good idea, because broadcasting it is probabaly not sensible. I don't know if you're open about this with anyone, but it would be good to talk to someone else, a real person who understands the situation and get advice. I really don't know what else to tell you, because I don't know the situation. If you'd like to e-mail me with details, I can help you more.
LYL
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