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How do I tell my bf...
How do I tell my bf that I don't want to have sex with him? I don't want him to be hurt..
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You don't wanna hurt him? Don't you worry about that! Just tell him you don't. And he should accept that whether he wants to or not, he's gotta be there for you and understand you.
Tell him like this:
"Umm... I'm sorry but I'm really not ready. And you don't want the possibility of a baby turning into a clinging birden to you, do you?"
It might kinda freak him out depending on how you say it, but it's worth it!
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just tell him...if he really likes u he will understand
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One thing I noticed that all the answers below are not addressing is this:
Is it that you don't want to have sex with ANYONE at this time, or is it a personal thing with your boyfriend?
It makes a difference. If sex is not something you're EVER going to be willing to offer your current boyfriend - in other words, if the physical side of your relationship has progressed as far as it will go - then you need to tell him that in no uncertain terms. My guess is that he will probably break up with you as a result, but that may be for the best; whether one wants to have a sexual relationship or not is a pretty fundamental item.
On the other hand, if sex is something you will be prepared to do with him eventually, then by all means tell him so - but make it clear that it will come in its own time, when you are ready. Perhaps you're waiting for marriage (I see an astonishing number of people making that assumption, though you haven't said it). Perhaps you're waiting for it to simply feel right. Whatever it is you're waiting for, you deserve - just as everyone does, male or female - to have your first sexual experience be an act of totally free will, and not the result of pressure or a sense of inevitability.
So, what you tell him depends entirely on what you see in the future for your relationship. Either way, the most important thing is that you tell him the truth.
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Does your boyfriend care for you? Does he love you? If he does, just tell him your not ready. A real man will say, i'm fine with that. If he says hes dumping you, that's his fault. Men are so stupid! Don't feel like it's your fault, it's his fault. Hopefully, he will understand, and do it when you are comfortable and ready. Maybe your boyfriend just wants sex from you...you don't want to be used, right?
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tell him you love him, but you think that sex before marriage is wrong
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Tell him you're not ready for sex yet. If he loves you, he'll accept your decision. If he doesn't, then he was just in it for some ass.
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Just explain to him you're not ready. That he doesn't have anything to do with how you feel about it. It's yourself. You are just not ready. He shouldn't be hurt, he should respect your choice.
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Tell him that you are not ready emotionally, mentally and physically for sex yet but that does not mean you do not love him. When it comes to sex you are in the driver's set and if you aren't ready for it don't do it. He will understand your position on the issue and will not be hurt.
Tell him that he may in fact be "the one" some day but you would like it if both of you were well researched on the subject and had it planned what you would do for when the time did come. It's not about how he feels about things it's about how you feel and your comfort and readiness.
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Just tell him straight out. Tell him you want to wait or whatever the reason may be. Don't feel guilty. It's YOUR body & YOUR decision. He'll have to respect your choice. & if he doesn't, then he's not the boyfriend for you.
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Just tell him. He'll have to accept it.
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"i dont want to hurt you, but i dont want to have sex yet"
really, the direct aproach is almost always the best one.
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tell him you love him your just not ready ~hope i helped~
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Just be upfront and honest. He'll understand, if not, he's not the right guy for you. Wait until you're married.
Hope I helped!
--Jack
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