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Anyone know how much one token is worth on myfreecams.com? (link)
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The FAQ states that the price will vary depending on how many you buy at once. Apparently, if you buy a whole bunch they get cheaper.
The highest price listed in their FAQ is $.10 (ten cents)
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So yesterday my windows 7 was working just fine, until I got an update for my Javascript. I opened it and began my update it seemed to be going well until it was initializing the download. A pop up 'error 1723 missing dll' came up then I was redirected to Java.com's help page.
They have this error listed, but as for the reason of why it happens, it's under unknown. :( Well I did what they have listed to do, I uninstalled all other older listings of Java as well as failed attempts. I had 3, I don't really remember what they were under, but two were uninstalled normally, but the third would pop up the error when I tried to uninstall it too. So I ran Regedit and found Java(TM) 6 Update 26 and deleted it. Then I restarted my laptop and opened Windows Installer CleanUp Utility too double check, Java isn't listed at all.
But whenever try to download Java both the online and offline packs, the same error still comes up! I'm at my wits end! I have no clue to what the cause of this error is, and from the looks of the other threads I've found seems no one else knows. I tried to check if it was a problem with Windows Installer, but I'm not sure if I want to remove it and redownload it.
I'm worried I won't be able to. Someone please help me!! :(
And be as detailed as possible, I'm not too good with computers.
http://java.com/en/download/help/index.xml (link)
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Hi there,
You are making me very nervous... In all of computing there are few things more frightening than seeing:
"... I'm not too good with computers."
... and:
"So I ran Regedit and..."
These stories don't usually end well.
I am HOPING you at the very least made a restore point before you ran regedit? Please?
If not, did you export the entries you removed before removing them, so you would be able to put them back?
If so, please un-do what you deleted.
If not, this could be complicated.
Best thing to do would be running JavaRA:
http://majorgeeks.com/JavaRA_d5982.html
... but I am afraid it won't be able to do the job now that you have removed the registry entries it will be looking for.
What I would do, if you don't have any way to revert the changes you made, is to try the JavaRA utility and see what happens.
It may work fine.
If it doesn't, then I would try re-installing Java JRE 6.26 over the partial install you have now.
THEN try running JavaRA again.
All should work out fine at that point.
What I am worried about is 6.26 saying it is already installed when you try to do the re-install.
If that happens, please let me know and we will go from there.
Would you do me a favor? If JavaRA works for you, would you mention that in your feedback please? I am curious to know if it will remove a version that has had registry keys deleted.
Good luck, and I hope it all goes well.
P.S. Please take something away from this: Thou shall not edit the registry if you aren't good with computers. ;-)
I have been doing this for a couple decades, and still tread very lightly when dealing with the Windows registry.
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Theres this boy i really like and i think he likes me but im not sure. i want to know how to bring him out of his shell AND how i can tell if he likes me. (link)
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Sorry.
We have been patient with you, but you keep asking the same question over and over again.
People keep answering you, and you keep ignoring them.
If this happens again, your ability to use this site will be taken away.
If you would care to explain why you keep doing this again, and again, and again... please e-mail:
dangernerd@gmail.com
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There is this boy that i really like and i want to date him but i dont know if he has ever dated anyone and i want to know how to bring him out of his shell AND how to know if he likes me (link)
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Hi there,
You keep asking this question over and over again... any reason why?
People have answered you before:
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I have an emachines laptop. It is in great condition, however, I opened it this morning to use it, and it has a black screen yet the green power button remains on. I try to shut it down by holding this button but it will not react to anything. No screen light, no sounds, just the sound of it running! I don't know what to do and I have so many school assignments due tomorrow and my laptop is going nuts! Help!? (link)
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If you have tried holding the power button down for a full 4 seconds and it doesn't turn off, there are only two ways to get it to turn off:
1) Pull the power cord and wait for the battery to run down.
2) Unplug the laptop, then remove the battery.
Wait a couple minutes, then re-install the battery.
The laptop may have overheated and locked up. It may come back to life just fine when you replace the battery and power it back up... and it may not.
If it doesn't come back to life, there isn't much you can do without taking it to a repair place.
If you have to use this as a reason for a let assignment, be CERTAIN to bring your laptop and demonstrate it for your teacher.
Good luck, and I hope it was just freaked out and works fine once you cycle the power.
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I Really Iike this boy and i think he likes me but im not sure. How do i bring him out of his shell AND how to know if he likes me (link)
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Hi there,
You keep asking this question over and over again... any reason why?
People have answered you before:
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=602658
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Im told there are many sites to advertise for free - Is there a good directory where i can list my construction business. I would like to find a popular site where people really go to find contractors for home remodeling.
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Hi there,
After some extensive searching, I didn't find a one-stop-shop for finding contractors. What I did run across in my travels were a great many local-only contractor sites, which if you live in that area would be good, but other than that... nothing.
May I suggest listing your construction/remodeling business on Manta? It isn't contractor specific, but it is very popular and millions of people use it:
http://www.manta.com/
... You can create a business profile for free, and people in other trades as well as store owners will discover your business.
Important to remember: Sure, they may be in other business lines, but they all go home to a house they want something done with, something remodeled on or generally want their home renovated. :-)
It is a good starting place.
I would also suggest listing yourself in any local classified sites. Craig's list may have a site that covers your area, and would be free for you to offer your services.
Good luck and happy hammering!
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My boyfriend has had really bad luck with girls. Hes had about 20 girlfriends and seventeen cheated and three died. I havent done anything to make him believe im cheating but he thinks I am. He wont believe me and he says if they did I am. I dont know what to do to get him to believe me. I love him so much but he cant see it. My question is how can I get through this rough patch? He basically just says yeah thats what they all say. :/ (link)
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Hi there,
The previous answer pretty much says it all, but I thought I would add a male perspective:
Therapy. You have no chance, and I mean literally ZERO chance of getting through to him by yourself.
He needs to seek counseling, and if he will not go to a relationship expert to help him get through this, then you have no hope of reaching him on your own.
He expects you to cheat on him. If you stay with him, and are faithful for 20 years, he will still expect you to cheat on him.
I know from experience that being mistreated even once can leave you in a bad place as far as trusting a new spouse. If it happens two or three times, you start to get the idea that there are no honest people in the world.
There are faithful people out there, and you should find one of them for yourself. As badly as this guy has been damaged by past loves, he is likely to go that direction himself.
There is a certain mindset that says: "This is what is going to happen anyway, so I might as well do X."
I have some experience being on the receiving end of that attitude, and it sucks.
When you are in a relationship with someone, you MUST have fair communication.
You can get mad, yell, scream and flail your arms if you need get that energy out, but when you are both calm, you NEED to be able to talk to each other and RESOLVE things.
He isn't willing to resolve this issue, so can you imagine what it is going to be like if you guys had an issue that actually existed in the real world, and not just in his head?
That is right... it would be an impossible situation.
So, if those weren't enough reasons to seek counseling: PTSD. PTSD is an awful thing. If he has really had the run of luck that he claims, then he should have been seeking help for PTSD issues long ago.
Last thing: I, as a guy, have a hard time believing the numbers he is quoting to you.
How old is he, that he has had time to get into 20 serious relationships? If he is under 50, I would seriously doubt this.
This isn't a rough patch. This is a mental block that you won't be able to budge no matter how hard you try.
God bless you for wanting to, and being willing to try. I hope that after he gets the help he needs, perhaps he will appreciate what you have tried to do. Maybe then you two will have a future.
Warning: If you spend enough time with someone who has a sick view of the world... it tends to rub off on you. Please don't let your kind and loving heart be hardened by trying to fix him. It can't be done by anyone but him, and when he decides to seek help, it needs to be professional help.
Good luck to you. I wish you only the best.
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thanks for your advice..hope it helps me some day..
i was curious about the Potassium cyanid thing...
can i buy it in drug store..where can i purchase it...please any hint??i know it might be too much to ask but i want to know cause some day if i wand to end up my life then i don't want to die ugly..i just want to make peace with my life and leave without causing any trouble to anyone and i don't want to suffer when i die...pleasee can u tell me where can i get Potassium cyanid?? (link)
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I don't know who you meant to write this to, but I wish I did.
That would be an absolutely horrible way to die. Anyone who told you otherwise just wants to see you suffer.
Do seizures, vomiting and choking to death on your own vomit while you are fully conscious sound like fun?
Please, call this number:
1-800-273-8255
... or look here for a number closer to you:
http://suicidehotlines.com/
... and if you aren't in the US, then please write back and I will try to find some in your country.
Please don't give up. There is nothing and nobody worth giving up on life for.
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The above is a Brother printer that became inoperative recently. I would like to repair it because Brother repair centres charge $75 just to look at it, plus parts! I understand from the information I gave to Brother that the power board is the likely culprit, because after showing an error (which I have forgotten, sorry) it STOPPED functioning completely. It is dead! Thus I need to know:
1) How do I GET INTO the printer,
2) Using my testing meter and soldering iron, how do I find out what's wrong and what might I replace or repair?
Your answer might be that I am too vague, or it might simply be that I should replace that board, in which case what is that part and where might I get it?
Thank you. (link)
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Hi there,
If I a Brother MFC-885CW all in one printer / scanner / phone / etc sitting here in front of me, it would take me a couple hours to document the disassembly and re-assembly steps for you.
Add to that the time it would take to create and exploded diagram of the various subsystems so you have a chance at getting them back together right... (about 8 hours) and you suddenly understand why they make service manuals for these things. :-)
I wouldn't even consider opening this up without a service manual if I were a beginner to modern electronics troubleshooting techniques.
Luckily for you there are many places you can buy a service manual on-line these days.
Here is the cheapest place I found with the correct manual:
"Brother MFC-885CW Printer Service Manual"
http://servicerepairmanuals.net/printers/brother-mfc-885cw-printer-service-manual/
... and if you don't like them for some reason, here is a search which will show you hundreds of other places to get the same info:
This will show you how to open the printer, and identify ALL of the parts inside, as well as supply you with a troubleshooting guide for common failures in this model.
As for where to buy the parts, I would look here:
"Spare Parts Warehouse: Brother MFC-885CW Printer Parts"
http://www.sparepartswarehouse.com/Brother,MFC-885CW,Printer,Parts.aspx
If it is the power board, that is VERY lucky for you, as it is one of the cheapest parts in the entire machine:
POWER SUPPLY PCB ASSY (INCLUDING AC CORD) --$15.06
If you look at the cost of the other parts, I am thinking you will begin to re-think the project.
If it were me, and I had reliable intel that suggested it was the power interface board, I would order the service manual, and I would order the power PCB assembly, and try it.
If it didn't do any good, I would then seriously re-think this project.
You might look for a parts-donor machine on eBay:
http://www.ebay.com/dsc/Printers-/178/i.html?LH_TitleDesc=1&_nkw=MFC-885CW&_catref=1&_dmpt=BI_Toner&_trksid=p3286.c0.m1538
... if you are determined to make a go of this regardless of cost. All of the major assemblies inside this machine are more expensive than buying another one used.
There are high-voltage parts in this machine. If you haven't worked with high voltage electronics before, it might be best not to get into this. If you have, then read the cautions in the service manual and follow them to the letter.
Good luck and stay safe.
P.S. Buy yourself a static discharge wrist strap, if you don't have one, or you may blow more things up than you fix. ;-)
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So yeah i read your thingy and i was wondering how you played r u nervous bcause it sounds kool and i wanna play it with my friends. (link)
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1) How do you change the rear wheel bearings on a Mercedes W124 E280 1994? Can you provide step by step instructions?
2) Is it really difficult without special tools?
3) How long might it take per wheel? (link)
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Hi there,
If this was a front wheel drive vehicle, it might be worth your time to try and do this by yourself, but even then you would be working with the brakes as well, which I wouldn't suggest to a beginning mechanic. As this is a rear wheel drive or all wheel drive model of Mercedes car, depending on sub-model designation, I wouldn't even think about doing it yourself.
There are brake tools you are going to need, as well as the possibility of needing to rebuild the rear-end. Now, that isn't likely, but if the bearing has been bad enough, long enough, it may have damaged the internals of the rear drive line.
You aren't likely to know enough to tell if this is the case, judging by the things you asked here.
Please take it in and get the work done by someone with a little experience working on RWD Mercedes cars.
I mean no disrespect, and I admire your passion to DIY but this wouldn't be the project I would start with, unless this is something that isn't a daily driver. That way if you screw things up, it can sit in the garage for weeks or months until you have the money to fix what you break. ;-) Even then, where safety systems like ABS are involved, I would have the work inspected by a certified mechanic before I took it out on the road.
Good luck!
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I am very worried about my friend. She has been throwing up almost every 10 minutes, but only when she's at her house. She's perfectly fine in school. I really think she needs help. I don't know if it has to do with being EXTRA skinny, because she is. She's not even a hand width thick. She's light headed, alot. Please help. I need advice badly. (link)
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She needs to go to the doctor. Period.
This isn't normal, and if it keeps up, she could potentially die if she doesn't get help.
There may be something at the house she is allergic to, or there could be another reason, but whatever it is, she needs to get out of that house and get to a doctor NOW.
I hope she will be ok.
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you commented on this "?" about a year ago. i was woundering wat you were able to come up with. i had basicly the same stuff when i was a kid but it went away and now yeas later its back and it herts like something els. you told the person to email you so i was woundering if you were able to help him. if so what can i do to help myself get better? if not i thank you anyways for you'r time. sincerely Jesse.
you commented on this " "
"Okay so I'm 20. I feel like I can't breathe properly, as if I'm not getting enough oxygen into my lungs which causes me to feel lightheaded and dizzy. I also can't do a full yawn sometimes and like i need to yawn every couple of minutes. It usually takes me 6 or 7 tries to get the satisfaction, its the same as the breathing.
I am a smoker, have been for 6 months BUT I've been having this exact problem since I was 5 years old and the only thing the doctor will do is put that thing to my chest and back and ask me to take deep breaths but I don't have the breathing issue when I'm in the doctors office seeing as i only talk to him for 5 minutes.
Doctor also said It could be anxiety and yes I've had anxiety and depression before but like I said, it's been happening since I was 5. Sometimes when I try to get that oxygen satisfaction after a while, my shoulders hurt near my chest area(like the colar bone area) and i can't take deep breaths again for about 5 minutes.
He hasn't even mentioned the possibility of it being Asthma or anything else besides stress and axiety but that can't be it for the reason i stated above and also because it happens 24/7 every single day even when i'm calm and i'm stress free! Dad thinks I'm crazy too, like it's all in my head, but it's not. I've tried breathing exercises and i walk alot and i drink a lot of water and everything and yeah, since I was 5! and I'm pretty sure i wasn't suffering from anxiety or anything when I was 5 so thats another reason.
Does anyone else have the same problem and if they can help? I feel like i'm about to faint or worse, die! "
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Hi there,
The user left their e-mail address:
karito5_12@hotmail.com
... and that is how you should probably contact them.
They don't allow inbox questions here from people who didn't sign up for a free account.
If you still don't want to e-mail them for some reason, you can create an account:
http://www.advicenators.com/register.php
... and ask them again on this site.
Good luck, and I hope you find an answer to your problems.
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can i have sex with your daughters. (link)
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Ask her yourself, here is her number:
1-866-347-2423
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I took an at home pregnancy test 3 days ago, and it was positive. I instantly began crying, and have rarely stopped. I am 21, and my husband of 1.5 months is 23. I am in my senior year of college, and my husband just joined the army, and we just moved to our first duty station. I cannot stop crying, because I have always wanted to have a career before having kids. It was my dream as a child to be a pilot, and in September I decided I wanted to join the Army to achieve my dreams. But having a kid right now pretty much ruins my chances, and there is no other plausible way for me to become a pilot.
I started to talk to my husband about possibly having an abortion, and he said he would support me in whatever decision I came to, but he also said he would probably view me differently. I know that having an abortion is the right decision for me; it is only when I think about it, that I stop crying. But the thought of my husband viewing me differently, and possibly growing to resent me, that makes this decision extremely hard for me. And it is not just giving up on my dreams that haunts me, I also feel that having a baby now isn't what is best for me, and I know if I keep it, I will grow to resent my husband for having the career of his choice.
I am looking for advice, support, or thoughts of who I should talk to in order to figure out the best course of action. (link)
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Hi there,
Would it help if we just took abortion completely out of the equation?
In truth, this isn't an abortion problem, it is a relationship problem.
If you read back what you have written here, you will find that you haven't considered anyone's feelings but your own. I don't mean that to be harsh, just to point out that it would HELP you to be able to understand why he would view you differently, for example.
How about we change it up:
You come to your husband and tell him that you are pregnant and happy to have a family started.
He, for his own reasons of career, fun or whatever, says: I don't want you to have a baby... I want you to kill the baby you love so much so I can do whatever I want.
You try to reason with him, but he tells you that you don't have any say in the matter. He says: "I will punch you in the stomach until you miscarry."
You say: I will support you in whatever you decide... but I would probably look at you differently.
If the roles were reversed, and you were happy to be growing new life inside you, yet he could only stop crying if he was thinking about punching you till you miscarried... how would you feel about him?
Probably not too great, right?
Same for him.
Before we go any further: Yes, it is your body, and the law says you can terminate the life of your child.
Nobody is arguing this at all. Like I said, this isn't really about abortion... It is about two people who have different goals and plans for their lives.
Two people who probably should have discussed this before they got married, unfortunately, but here you are. So what do you do?
Nothing you wrote sounds even remotely like you will even have time for marriage. Have you asked yourself why you got married in the first place?
I don't mean why would you EVER, just why did you do it before completing the things you KNOW you want to do before you are able to consider anyone's feelings beside your own.
It isn't a bad thing to be driven and self absorbed when in pursuit of a career, but to be driven and self absorbed inside a marriage is a sure recipe for disaster.
I ask myself this question: Would it have been better for Casey Anthony to have had an abortion, or murdered her child?
What about the woman who wanted to go "clubbing" with her lover, who didn't like kids... so she backed her car into the water and drowned her 5 kids?
5 abortions? :-(
Even with the VERY best use of birth control, you are probably going to get pregnant again. How many abortions are you willing to have? I don't mean that in any argumentative way. Legit question that you should think about before making the first decision.
Everyone else has already suggested therapy, and I totally agree. You two aren't going to be working this out by yourselves most likely, and just the ability to say all this out loud in front of a neutral party will help more than you can even understand yet.
HTG's answer provides a great many Army related suggestions, and he speaks from experience with such things, please listen to him.
Once more, to confirm:
Yes, it is your womb, and your right to decide who lives there, or in this case who dies there...
... BUT, when you enter into a partnership, and promise to SHARE your life and yourself with your partner, you are promising to include them in the decision making process.
You can do whatever you want, but the reason that he is going to resent you is because you made the partnership of the marriage a lie. It really has nothing to do with the abortion itself most likely.
I don't think you meant to lie, and I am not assigning any blame to you for the lie happening.
The NUMBER ONE thing people MUST discuss before getting married is how they feel about children. This includes how many they want, when they want them, if they are willing to home school them, etc.
You two failed to do this.
I can prove that this isn't about abortion, but instead relationship:
Let us say that you wanted to send the kids to public school, and he wanted them home-schooled. Well, what happens when you say: "I was thinking about sending the kids to public school. I don't want them interfering with my career, and I just don't feel like dealing with this whole "kids" thing right now."
He might just as easily respond the same way he did: He would support you in your decision, but would probably never trust you to have the best interest of your children at heart again. Hence, he would never feel the same way about you. He would probably grow to resent you.
... if you home-schooled, you would probably grow to resent him, and the kids.
Who knows, you might be the next one on the news backing a car into a lake... or drowning your kids in the tub one at a time. :-(
I don't say that to shock you, just to drive home the point that resentment is, without doubt, the single most efficient fuel for the destruction of any relationship.
No matter what, your answer is going to be a hard one.
All any of us can do, is tell you what we would do, and now it is my turn:
If I were you, and you did have the abortion, I would try to annul the marriage (if there is a loophole) or get a summary divorce.
You have your own goals and are on a mission. It doesn't include a husband, and it doesn't include children (obviously...) so until your mission is complete and you have achieved EVERYTHING you want to to before settling down, don't be married.
Don't have sex, and you won't have to make these decisions again, until you are ready to include other people in your life.
If you let your husband read what you have written here, my guess is that he sees the mistake you both made by not making plans before you wed. Odds are he would be in favor of divorce rather than deal with the next 5 abortions, if such a thing should happen.
If he wants babies, and you don't... he isn't going to want to risk having sex with you. That baby, which he appears to already be in love with, is his fault too. You didn't make it without him.
Basically, he may feel (as men often report feeling in this situation) that he caused the death of a child by having sex with you.
That doesn't make things better in the bedroom. :-(
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best life possible, and I hope that you are able to live with your decision no matter which way you choose.
Good luck to the both of you.
DN.
P.S. If you do decide to deliver the child, please consider adoption, as someone else suggested. No child deserves to have their every waking moment be a reminder of how much you resent them. That would be like living in hell, to me. I have seen the end result of that treatment in someone very close to me, and it is hard to deal with. There are about a bazillion people waiting in line to adopt babies... so if you decide to go that route, you don't have to worry that it will be hard to do. Pretty much one phone call to get the ball rolling, and they will guide you through everything. Many places also pay you for the child. They say it is for expenses and all that, but it still works out to be paying you to have the child.
P.P.S. PLEASE, and I am literally begging you here, do NOT make any decisions without finding and talking to at least one counselor.
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Does the LG enV touch require a data plan as of Feb. 1, 2012? I have seen things on the internet saying "no, no, no you dont." and others that say "well yeah you do." so I don't know. PLEASE HELP!! i need to get a phone in the next 2 days from ebay for someone. So PLEASE help! if you have experience like as a worker at Verizon let me know, or if you have had this question please tell me! if you know how to call and ask or you can email or go to the store pleae do! but my charger doesn't work for my current phone so i cant call. THANKS SOOOOOO MUCH!! :) (link)
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My understanding, from the Verizon forum post:
"Does the LG EnV Touch require a data plan?:"
https://community.verizonwireless.com/thread/576878
... is that in order to activate the phone, you have to add a data plan, but then you can have them put a data-block on the phone, which will remove the wireless plan, and block all wireless features.
The VERY best thing to do is to go down to your Verizon wireless store and have them explain all the options to you in person.
Good luck!
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ive been with my boyfriend for 14 months now. and im completely confused. i have so many mixed feelings. we were so happy in the beginning we were perfect, hes my first everything, and im so comfortable with him its crazy. i love him so much. everything he does is cute and he does everything for me. pays for me puts me before anyone will walk in the freezing rain 3 miles to come and see me. hes the best boyfriend anyone could ever ask for. but heres the issue. we started breaking up and making up ever since the middle of summer. when we fight its usually over jealousy or him getting mad at me because i ditched him or whatever. but when we fight they are huge. he gets so angry and yells and freaks out he alwaysflips out. im just getting tired of all of it. and i see my friends having fun being single and i just wanna be happy again. im not happy. me and my boyfriend always are fighting and now im starting to reject him and hes freaking out even more sayin gi dont love him or care about him or anything.... and he thinks i want someone else which i dont! i cant take our constant fighting and breaking up and making up anymore cause i feel like he just pushed me away cause he freaks out over a lot of little things. but im confused..... if i leave him will i be happy or regret it? am i supposed to break up with him? cause i love him so much and he does everything for me... i dont wanna take the mistake of dumping him cause what if we were supposed to be together in the end........ im just so confused and i need some help :( (link)
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(EDIT: The answer below mine is excellent, I just wanted to add this to point out something that wasn't addressed.)
Hi there,
It feels like there is something missing from this question.
You have a guy who:
"hes my first everything, and im so comfortable with him its crazy. i love him so much. everything he does is cute and he does everything for me. pays for me puts me before anyone will walk in the freezing rain 3 miles to come and see me. hes the best boyfriend anyone could ever ask for."
... and yet:
"...him getting mad at me because i ditched him or whatever."
Now, if he is the best everything, ever. Why are you ditching him?
That would cause any guy to freak out on you.
Think about it from the other side:
He is doing EVERYTHING for you... and the only thing you said you do for him in this question... is ditch him. Think about how that makes you sound. :-(
Should he get as upset as he does? Nope. Not even for your benefit, but for his own health that is a mistake. So why does he? Simple: He doesn't have the skills to cope with something like this. Most people don't.
An anger management class would do him a world of good. A counselor he can talk to about this, would change everything.
In this entire question, you never once mention his happiness. You just tell us that he does everything for you, makes you feel wonderful, and you repaid that by ditching him... then you don't know why he gets mad?
In a relationship, it takes two people who make each other happy. The only way this works is if you are as concerned about his happiness as he is with your own.
I am sure you just weren't thinking when you wrote this, but you made yourself look incredibly selfish. Read the question back and you will see that it is all about you and YOUR happiness, and not one word about his happiness.
If that wasn't a mistake, and you really are only concerned about your own happiness, then you would be doing him a huge favor by breaking up with him.
There is no future with a selfish spouse... and I speak from vast amounts of experience on this.
Some people give and some people take. If you have a giver and a taker together, the giver always ends up with the worst of it.
When the taker has taken all they can, then they move on to their next person they can take from.
The giver, is left as an empty shell with little left to offer anyone else. Very few people, men or women, ever fully recover from this.
So, if you really did mean this the way it was written, and you are a taker, then please let him go while he still has a chance to find happiness with someone who doesn't take all his love and then "ditch" him.
If you didn't realize what you had written here, then WAKE UP and realize what you are doing. Start giving something back, and watch how quickly the fights fade away.
If you want to make this work, then please consider going to couples counseling to help work through the things that have been built up to date.
You ask if you would be happy if you left him:
Well, at first probably yes.
Guess what will happen next, though? You will have the same issues over again.
People only have so much patience, and so much to give before they realize they are with a "taker" and then the problems start.
The only reason your boyfriend didn't dump you right there on the spot when you "ditched" him after all he did for you, is because he loves you.
He knows he is better off without someone in his life who takes, and doesn't give anything back... but because he loves you, he won't admit it to himself.
So, if you want to break up with him, you certainly can, but unless you fix your issues about selfishness, you will poison your next relationship as well.
Unless he gets help with impulse control and de-toxing from being taken advantage of, he probably won't ever be healthy enough to have a good relationship either.
If you have ANY doubt that he is feeling taken advantage of and used by you, then you let him read this answer and you see what he has to say about it.
Lastly, you mention that you feel he is pushing you away because he freaked out... that is NOT true.
He is most likely freaking out because because he doesn't know any other way to get you to listen. Try going through what I wrote here WITH him and see what happens.
If you are willing to make it work, and he still wants to try, which he obviously does, then get some help.
Anything can be fixed if the two people are willing to selflessly give to one another.
The minute selfishness comes into it, there isn't much hope.
Good luck to the both of you. I know this is hard to hear, but the truth is worth the pain.
If you two don't fix these things now, you will both have to fix them in your next relationships, or the ones after that.
If you have any questions about getting help, please write again.
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wat is the root of love (link)
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Why do you think my name is Peter?
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hey there is website that posted private photos and videos. "such as naked" these are close friends of mine and they have asked me to "shutdown" the website if possible...
i would be glad if you showed me how to do it...
thanx (link)
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Hello there,
I am the person who owns Advicenators, and I can tell you the best way to do this is legally.
If you would like help, I will need the following:
A link to the site you want shut down
The exact page when the things they do not have permission to post are located.
If possible, the names of the people who have not given their permission to have these things posted.
I have a lawyer on retainer. I will have her draw up what is called a cease and desist notice.
What this means is that you are telling the site owner that you will take legal action if they do not comply with your request.
It is the legal equivalent to firing a warning shot.
I will also have her send one to the company that hosts the website. They will take their site off-line the minute they get the letter from my attorney, and they will keep it down until they have removed your friend's stuff... or they may decide they are too much of a risk and not allow them to put their site back up at all.
There are other ways to do this, but YOU would be the one going to jail for those... and what sense would that make?
I have done this before for other people, including one of my cousins and her friend.
If you already have a lawyer of your own, you don't need me at all. You can pay your own lawyer to do this.
If you would like me to do this for you, then I will. I hate it when people take advantage of other people like this, and because I have an agreement with my lawyer that covers simple letters and forms, this isn't going to cost me very much at all. :-)
Now, if you would like, you can post another question to me here, or you can e-mail me at:
DangerNerd@gmail.com
If you want my help, we need to get this done right away before the pictures are spread all over the net. Once that happens it will be to late.
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