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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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my mom and dad like to yell at me all time, but when it come to my sister and bother they at all, it like every think i do is wrong, every thing i say is wrong. i try 2 make them happy and proud of me,but it seems to fell every time. WHAT DO I DO TO MAKE THEM HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My parents do that to me too. If I do something, it's the end of the world, but it's okay for my brother to do it. It's called play favorites.

Talk to your parents about it. They might not even know that they're doing it. If it doesn't change, then stop trying to make them happy. Make yourself happy because that's a main thing for your life.

i need more dogs at my doggy daycare but i don't know if i should tell the whole world. What should i do?

Put up some fliers, or tell some friends. It can spread by word of mouth, MySpace, a flier, anything. But you've gotta do something about it. Put some posters/fliers up around your town & see who calls.

I had a baby 5 months ago by C-section and finally had sex again . I started to bleed during sex.Is that normal???

You need to see a doctor.

Any places I can order a cute swimsuit?

Try these:

www.delias.com
www.walmart.com
www.target.com
www.pacsun.com
www.zumies.com

They have really cute swimsuits. =)

~13/f~ im the kind of gothic rough girl and hes the kind of preppy nice guy.Im not sure how I like my friend bff or bf. Weve been really close friends for a long time then it started going to bffs. because I tell him more than my other bffs and he tells me a lot and were always there for each other. But then we flirt so much. people think or say were dating or should but were not. He knows I liked him I know he liked me but I have no idea now. I went to a paintball party. at the party my team was my 5 bffs 3 of their bfs and him. we flirt so much that’s what im so confused about. He was showing off and when we separated he was looking for me? hes just really too nice. Is that what it should be like. we used to be i guess rough to eachother but now hes just nicey nice.But now hes been wearing a lot of black and deppressed. Does that mean something. But then we do joke or do shoot each other on purpose. he was talking to my other friend about something ‘top secret’. later on she started truth or dare. I kept doing truths I was just to nervous. I knew it was a setup. He asked truth to me if id ever take a dare. Then my bff asked truth to me if I liked him then truth to him if he liked me we both i said no then he said no. I regret it. Everyone already knew we liked eachother anyway but im just not sure if I like him bf or bff? And ive never kissed or been kissed. That’s what it was supposed to be...us kissing. I thought wed start taking it longer than just a ‘dare’ kiss. I like him as a bf then bff then bf then bff I just am not sure whats wrong. Hes all I think and write about. i really need help soon. we tell each other a lot of stuff and we both knew or thought before the party that we liked each other because we told eachother. my life is very messed up now and always has been i hate my life.
how do you think I like him as a boyfriend(bf) or best friend(bff). How do you think he likes me? What should we do? How do you kiss? How could i tell my mom?
this happened like 8 days ago we still havent talked exept saying hi were bffs. what should i do? im soo confused

I think you like him as a boyfriend. You've been close friends a while, and now you're best friends. You talk to him more than you do your other friends, and he knows you like him.

I think he likes you as more than a friend. He talks to your other friends about top secret things, makes them set stuff up, he flirts with you non stop, he was showing off, and looking for you non stop when you guys seperated.

If you like each other, go out. People already think you are, and are telling you that you should be if you're not. If you like him, and he likes you, then do something about it, and start going out.

Kissing comes naturally, and it's nothing to worry about. When it happens, it'll flow & you'll realize there was nothing to stress over.

Just sit your mom down & talk to her about it. If your mother loves you [as she should since you're her kid], she'll understand and she'll be there for you. If she doesn't, then try talking to her some more. Also, when you talk to her, don't throw a fit, or get an attitude. It'll be harder for her answer or her thoughts to be positive, and an argument will most likely break out. Good luck. =)

Okay sorry this is so long....

ight....my name is sarah,im white and im 15...i date this boy named brandon,hes black and hes 17 and i just turned 15 in march and hes about to turn 18 in may...well we been dateing since march 24th-2007 and when we were on the phone he said babe are you ready to fuck me and i told him no because im still a virgin and we only been goin out for 2 weeks.He said i better set a date or its over.So i told him ill be ready friday.Well we just started talking and he was like babe i got somethin to tell you but i wanna say it to your face but I LOVE YOU!!so i said i love you too.WEll he always tells me well be together forever no matter what.Well all my friends tell me were rushing but i never felt this way about a guy befor in my life.I just dont no what to do because my plan was to brake up with him thursday because im not ready to fuck him yet.Hes everything i ever wanted in a guy.The only thing is he wont wait until im ready.and everytime he says i love you and he blows kisses in the phone and always calls me baby...well when ever i hear his say that stuff to me its like i cry all over again and i just dont no what to do with him...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think he's rushing, so I agree with your friends. And I'm gonna explain why:

[1]You've only been going out two weeks and he's telling you he loves you. Love takes longer than two weeks to find.
[2]Again, going out for two weeks, and he wants sex already. Not only that, but he's pressuring you for it, and if you don't it up, your relationship will be done.

He's just moving WAY too fast for you. You're 15 years old. You've got more to think about than sex. You've got school, and everything else to worry about. And boys at his age are only interested in one thing, and it's sex. Wait a few more years to have a boyfriend, it's completely worth it, and you'll be better off. No stress at all.

Dump him. I gave you more than enough reasons why. He's no good.

hii this is x3babyycakes & i was JUSTT wonderingg

is there a way to filter out people who have been rated
less than 25 times? cause i hate browsing for
columnists & having them come up as "top-rated" with
a 5 if they've only been rated like 2 times.

& also, would you consider my rating good? it's 4.91
& i've been rated around 163 times. please be honest!

thankss - & happy easterr everyone :]

When you go to "Browse Columnists" there's a dropdown box. You might have your's set on Top Rated Columnists. Go in the dropdown box, and click something else.

Yeah, I would say it's pretty good. But remember that it's not about ratings, it's about helping.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. It was great at first. We agrue all the time now and he gets on nerves all the time. Every little thing he does gets on my nerves. I love him and i want to be with him but i am not sure what is going on, He says that its just me, and he thinks that nothing is wrong with our relationship. Please help me.

Talk to him about it. If things don't change, then break up. No use in staying if the relationship doesn't change for the better.

respond asap please!!!

as some of you know, school starts again tomorrow and well I was just in my closet choosing what to wear. I went to florida for about 5 days and I got a really nice tan. So what are some colors (shirts) to bring out a tan? Blue??? Red?? I don't know but that's why i'm asking you guys.

thanks! HAPPY EASTER!

Maybe wear something white, or pink. =) If you wear something dark, it might not make you look as tan. I'm naturally tan, so whenever I wear white it looks better one me. =)

so there is this guy. he really likes me, and i kninda like him, he yougner than me but ive finally decided it doesnt matter. The problem is like a lot of my friends like him and i really cant i mena CANT go out with him becasue im not like that too my friends, but htats not the problem. i think he thinks we ARE going out. last night he text me saying i luv you and all this shit about us, and i couldnt text him baq, dnt remember his reason, but now i dnt know how to tell him were not going out, and that i dnt love him i like him....i dnt know what to do or say, cuz now rumors are going to spread and i cant stop them becasue i dnt go to the same school[[anymore, so i know everyone]] wut shud i do about him and what he thinks our relationship is like, even though i still consider us as just friends

When you're on IM, just tell him. If you don't, it'd be leading him on & making him think you feel the same when you don't.

Tell him, NOW.

hey...im the girl that had the question about bob...turns out i told bob i liked him and i told him i didnt want him acting weird now, he said that there was nothin to worry about and asked if i wanted to start talking i freaked out. im soo glad i took ur advice. he said that fred would just have to get over it :D

Haha, that's good. Just do what makes you happy.

i never go there though.
i only saw him once.
we don't go to that mall unless it is like a special occasion.

Just try & go to that mall again, and just go inside the store even if you usually don't. You know his hours, so now go see him.

16/f.
i really like this kid. a couple months ago he got into this fight with this kid and the kid used brass knuckles. well he has permanent brain damage from it but he just found out. i have no clue about anything to do with the brain. is it gonna effect him alot to where he cant really do anything or can i still have a relationship with him. like i dont know how bad it is but i know that it didnt start effecting him until like a month and half to 2 months after the fight. and he only forgot one night that happened and thats when he had to go to the hospital cause he thought something TOTALLY different happened that night. so do you think he everything is gonna be different now? i mean it cant be that bad if he still remembers the people that were there that night like me. right?

I had a friend who was brain damaged. He's had a lot of strokes, so that's how his came on.

Anyways, he used to act like a child, and tried to catch light. It usually happened after he would wake up. He'd talk quiet, wouldn't let you leave him, or get him any sort of help. Also because of it, his brain doesn't send messages to his stomach so he could literally eat forever, and gain no weight, AND not be able to tell when he's full. Sometimes he doesn't remember things & resorts to acting like a kid, once again.

It all depends how bad the brain damage is. If he still remembers things, then he might not be that bad, but he could lose his memory at any given moment. The best you can do is just be there for him, and if he does tend to lose his memory, just guide him & help him to remember things.

OK, i like this guy that works at pacsun, i've only talked to him once and only seen him once,but i'm completely love struck and i don't know why. I don't even know his name, because his name tag was flipped around. My friend even asked his hours but not his name, i need to know who he is because i can search him on myspace, is there anything you could do to help me find his name?
heres a few details:
longer dark brown hair;
tan;
works at pacsun in the southern park mall;
Boardman, Ohio;
works the evenings on every night;

age:14
gender:female

p.s. i'm not a stalker haha and i never will be

Okay, you wanna search him on MySpace? Go ask him his name, and start talking to him. He's there to help you find something in the store, but also to voice his opinion about something in the store. And also to talk to you. I talk to most of the employees in Hot Topic, and I'm pretty okay friends with them.

If you wanna achieve that status, then go in & say hi & talk to him. That way, you can learn his name, become his friend, talk to him, & maybe get his MySpace.

Also, be sure he's not 18 or older. Some people who work there aren't 16.

Bob-my best friend
Fred- My ex
okay before we get into this i dont wanna be called a whore
Okay. Bob and I have been friends for a really long time. I even dated one of his close friends, and had sex with him. Well, now, I have been talking to him, well, we kinda had sex, but only once. I only did it because I really like him, and he still talks to me and acts better than ever. But, he don't know im inlove with him, he really means alot to me, and I want to be with him soo bad but i think his friend Fred is keeping us from being together. i dont even know how he feels about me im afraid to ask him, i dont want him to think any different of me

I agree with the person below me. If Bob had sex with you, he had to have had some type of feelings for you. I mean, yeah you can have sex somebody with no strings attached [friends with benefits], but I doubt this guy is like that. If you like him, tell him because some other girl could just come along & snag him, and then you'll never have your chance.

If you don't tell him how you feel, not only could another girl come around, but you could potentionally regret it. It could kill you not knowing how he feels about you, and it'd kill worse that you had the chance to ask, but never took it. Just ask him, and the worst he could say is that he's gay [which I doubt, since he had sex with you], he's taken, or he just doesn't like you. But you never know. Just ask him, and let me know how it turns out. Good luck hun.

how do you hide your last login/age/location on myspace? and also, what are some other image holders besides photobucket and tiny pic? thanks!

I personally use a few sites for all of my HTML [unless I know the code already], and if one of them doesn't have what I need, another is bound to.

I use:

- createblog.com
- whateverlife.com
- freecodesource.com

As for other image holders, I only know of Picture Trail.

okay, so who ever has read the book "Drowning Anna" I was wondering, do you know anyother books like it? Thankies!

I've never read it, but these two books were amazing:

- Breathing Underwater.
&
- Keeping You A Secret.

You'll like them.

I was wondering if you guys had some bands/songs that you really liked that are similar to my favorites.

Some of my favorite artists are Red Hot Chili Peppers, Dashboard Confessional, Switchfoot, Jacks Mannequin, The Audition, Houston Calls, Cobra Starship, The Matches.

So could you give me some of your favorite alternitive rock type bands and songs?

I'm just gonna give you the bands I know because I know a lot of songs, and it's easier to list the band. Plus, you can just go through their songs & select the one you wanna hear.

Gym Class Heroes.
The Academy Is...
The Hush Sound.
The Sounds.
Paramore.
Cute Is What We Aim For.
The Almost.
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Hellogoodbye.
A Heartwell Ending.
The All American Rejects.
Armor For Sleep.
Chris Daughtry.
Taking Back Sunday.
All Time Low.
This Providence.
Brighten.
Therefore I Am.
Down To Earth Approach.
Envy On The Coast.
Down For The Count.
Boys Like Girls.
Pistolita.
Brand New.
Cartel.
Fall Out Boy.
Motion City Soundtrack.
Lostprophets.
Panic! At The Disco.
Plain White T's.
Saosin.
Senses Fail.
The Used.
My Chemical Romance.
The Postal Service.
Death Cab For Cutie.
The Blood Brothers.
The Starting Line.
Yellowcard.
Say Anything.
30 Seconds To Mars.
Escape The Fate.
From First To Last.
Four Letter Lie.
Greeley Estates.
Gatsby's American Dream.
Lovehatehero.
Head Automatica.
Hollywood Undead.
Matchbook Romance.
Ok Go.
Self Against City.

I think you might like them. =)

ok..how do you get over the buterflys during kissingand being afriad of sucking?? hellp

There is no way to get over having butterflies. As much as they suck, they never go away, but can sometimes be a good thing. That's how you know you might really like someone.

You shouldn't be scared of kissing & worrying about being bad at it. If you like the guy, and he's never kissed before either; then he probably won't even notice. And if he does have experience, he could just teach you. =) All the more reasons to kiss him. So don't worry about it. You've got nothing to be scared of.

i see this like everywhere

"i love you |"

whst is it?

I usually use it as a seperator. Like in my profile on aim you'd see something like this:

"friends || i love you guys."

Or something like that. Sometimes I use it to seperate the links, and sometimes I use it to seperate the words I put in there. But it can mean a lot of things. Like theymos said, that's the absolute value sign in Math.

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