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IS he to old or experienced
Okay sorry this is so long....
ight....my name is sarah,im white and im 15...i date this boy named brandon,hes black and hes 17 and i just turned 15 in march and hes about to turn 18 in may...well we been dateing since march 24th-2007 and when we were on the phone he said babe are you ready to fuck me and i told him no because im still a virgin and we only been goin out for 2 weeks.He said i better set a date or its over.So i told him ill be ready friday.Well we just started talking and he was like babe i got somethin to tell you but i wanna say it to your face but I LOVE YOU!!so i said i love you too.WEll he always tells me well be together forever no matter what.Well all my friends tell me were rushing but i never felt this way about a guy befor in my life.I just dont no what to do because my plan was to brake up with him thursday because im not ready to fuck him yet.Hes everything i ever wanted in a guy.The only thing is he wont wait until im ready.and everytime he says i love you and he blows kisses in the phone and always calls me baby...well when ever i hear his say that stuff to me its like i cry all over again and i just dont no what to do with him...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hey there! This is probably hard for you since you really care about this guy! But everyone's right...if he cares about you and respects you then he'll wait and he won't rush you!
He shouldn't put pressure on you cuz this is a huge thing! Plus your relationship shouldn't be just about sex...it should be more than that! You're giving this guy your heart and you love him that should be enough for him...
If he's not satisfied with that..that's his problem.. and you should know by then that he's not serious....and that he just wants to get you in bed! Every girl deserves more than that...if he's not goin to be there then he's not worth it..(no offence) i know you like this guy but you have to ask yourself does he like you too as much as you like him? will he break up with just because you wont have sex with him?
But if he sticks around...then this guy really cares about you! =) and i hope that happens! Good Luck!! Hope i helped!! Hope it all works out! tc...=D
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He's not the only guy that blows kisses over the phone and calls you baby. But he IS the only guy that wants to rush you. He's NOT doing you right, he's being sweet just to get in your pants. Open your eyes! Alot of guys are like this. He doesn't want YOU, he wants it. I know it sounds totally disgusting, but it's true. Guys will do anything to get it. If he really loved you or cared for you at all, he would wait. Sorry. :(
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He doesn't love you. Love takes a lot longer to form then 2 weeks. I know that its hard to hear, but its the damn truth.
He's using you, he's rushing you, he's pressuring you, and he is not being a nice man. If he did love you, he would wait till your ready. He just wants sex, which you don't want, which is perfectly okay.
Make the right descion, break up with him. When you get older, you'll realise you made one of the smartest moves in your life. Why lose your virginity to a guy you don't know, don't love, don't want?
Its not worth it.
Edit; Good choice hun, inbox me and tell me how it goes.
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honestly, i think hes using you. guys say ALOT of of crap to just get in your pants. not to be mean or anything but by the way hes acting it sounds like hes gonna get some ass from you and then leave && treat you like shit. besides theres a huge age difference. i mean think about it if hes gonna go to college and your still gonna be in highschool. hes prob. gonna just like dump you anyways before he goes to college. sorry but thats just how it ussaully works out. and like. if your not ready then you shouldn't do it. your 15 for godsake. serousily. i wouldn't do anything that im not ready to do .. and you shouldn't either.
and if he really loved you then he would respect your decision. im sorry but like this stuff is drilled into my head because i know friends who have been through it and my dad serousily has drilled this shit into my head since i was like... 8. and you know what else.? thats like a serouis line that alot of guys use. like if you dont have sex with me then its over. come on. if he really loved you then he wouldnt dump you because you dont want to have sex. if he really loved you then he would respect you by not forcing it down on you. honestly, im just saying that im 100% sure that hes using you and that you should forget about it. sorry but its true.
and only say i love you if you truely mean it. im not saying that you dont love him, but just remember that.
pleasee dont make the wrong decission and have sex. im telling you, guys say that all the time like "baby i love you. your everything to me." just to get in your pants. i mean some guys really mean it but in this case with the whole sex thing, im telling you thats what he wants from you. i mean its been TWO WEEKS. thats really really rushing into things. it just sounds like he wants to "hit and quit". serouisly. im telling you. like i dont know how many times i said that but ahhhh.!
and if he really wants to be with you forever and stuff then cant he wait untill your ready to have sex if hes planning to spend the rest of his life with you? yeahh. im telling you and please believe me that he just wants some ass and then leave you. it happens all the time. and i know im saying it over and over but like ive just seen it happen so many times before and heard so many diffrent things so please please please only do it when your ready. and if he dumps you because you wont have sex. then honestly. hes not the kind of guy you want to be with.
for like the 17289471823 time. make the right decisssion.
best of luckk =]
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hes rushing you, and you really dont want that. and if all he wants is the sex then maybe you have to think if he really wants you. he probably does, but rushing isnt always good,plus its ONLY BEEN two weeks, and hes 18! 15 may not be young to some people, but my brother is 15 and its really young to have sex, and maybe if you do choose to do it that young it ould be with someone younger. Plus a lot of people think guys are the guys of there dreams, but hes probably not and your young[[so am i]], i know what your going through[[in a way]] and its really hard to actually take action, but loosing your virginity too your boyfriend of 2 weeks, who is ALSO 18 isnt something to risk. I really think you should talk to him, and if all he wasnts is to rush to sex hes NOT worth your time or tears! if worse comes to worse you might have to break up...and that will suck, but its really whats healthiest, and safest for your body, and youself, as in stress and those things. if you do break up you might cry, but then you really need to think of all the bad things that were and could have happened. hope i helped
Lauren
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its not easy going through and the ebst thing you have to say is would you rather give your self up for something your not ready to do oor lose your own dignity. if your not ready then your not read yand he needs to understadn that tell him thta if he really does love you he will respect our decision
tell me how it goes
my email is nayez23@yahoo.com :)
and i hope everythings goes well
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sounds like he's using you for sex. I'm sorry, I know that this is hard for you to hear! But understand, you're young and you just sound so unsure! I think you should break up w/ him.
And I don't mean to be blunt, but... after he turns 18, legally, you can't do anything sexual with him, since your 15. And I was just thinking...could that be why he's rushing you???
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if he really loved you he would wait until your ready. im sorry to this but it seems like hes using you.
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I'm sorry but this guy is not the man of your dreams..
If he doesn't want to wait till your ready that means he doesn't respect you..
believe it or not Sex is a big thing and it changes a lot of things
I Know what im talking about to.
I dated a boy named Tomas for about 11 months and even after that i wasn't ready to do it.
SO he warned me that either i do it or its over.
I didnt do it because he didn't respect me enough,
Ot was one of the hardest decisions in my life.
but i thank god everyday that i didn't do it because your first time should be special.
Your 15 you have a long time to decide all these things.
Your young and hes 18 (almost)...Don't do it because he wants it because you haven't been together that long.
And when he gets it he may leave you as bad as that sounds.
You need to talk to him and if he still doesn't respect your decisions to wait than hes into worth it
Its not going to be easy but its the right thing to do and i think deep down you know that..
don't give in to him because he says the L word..
He may just be saying that to make you want to do it.,
BE STRONG,
Wait and See because he may seem like the man of your dreams but you don't want to do something you will regret.
-SKY-
I AM PROUD that your dumping him,,,
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I think he's rushing, so I agree with your friends. And I'm gonna explain why:
[1]You've only been going out two weeks and he's telling you he loves you. Love takes longer than two weeks to find.
[2]Again, going out for two weeks, and he wants sex already. Not only that, but he's pressuring you for it, and if you don't it up, your relationship will be done.
He's just moving WAY too fast for you. You're 15 years old. You've got more to think about than sex. You've got school, and everything else to worry about. And boys at his age are only interested in one thing, and it's sex. Wait a few more years to have a boyfriend, it's completely worth it, and you'll be better off. No stress at all.
Dump him. I gave you more than enough reasons why. He's no good.
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yeh ill agree ii rekOn he is useing you for sex
and its normal for your boyfriend to cal you babe and bay so dw anyays just say no sorry im not ready yet and if he gets aggresice or mad or whatever lol then yeh thats your que to dump him if his fine wih it then maybe we were all wroNG
TC =D
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You sound really unsure about it. And you've only been dating for two weeks. My advice would be not to do it & don't even put yourself in the situation by telling him you'll do it. I'm sorry, but two weeks is not enough time to tell if someone genuinely loves you and cares about you. And him saying "set a date or its over" is a HUGE heads up. So, he'll break up with you if you don't sleep with him? It doesn't sound like he really loves you at all and is perhaps just using you. No girl wants that to happen to them, but it still happens. I'd go with your original plan: break up with him. Get out of this before its too late and you wind up doing something you'll regret. There are plenty of guys out there, ones that won't make you sleep with them 2-3 weeks into the relationship. Ones that will respect that you're still a virgin. Ones that will love you no matter what. Seriously, trust me. I wouldn't do it now & I wouldn't say YES to doing it now.
Good luck with everything.
♥
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It sounds to me that he is just using you for sex i am sorry i know this is hard to hear but honestly if he is gunna make you have sex with him before you are ready then he doesnt really love you. you need to tell him your not ready and if he leaves you then he does there will be over guys out there that are ten times better. just talk to him and if you are not ready and he really does love you then he will not care and will respect that you are not ready and give you time. I am sorry again I know it hurts.
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It sounds like he is using you for sex. If he is telling you either you have sex with him or he will dump you, he obviously doesn't want a relationship based on more than that. If he only says I love you when you give into his demands he is lying.
I would dump him, while he may be ready, you aren't.
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