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16/f
Basically every girl in my grade including my best friends have had sex they also have boyfriends. I am really independent and mature for my age and dont feel the need for a boyfriend whatsoever. However I do want one as of right now but I am really picky. I'm not going to date someone who I dont even like but I do realize that the perfect guy isnt going to fall into my lap. But anyway I do sort of feel like the odd one out since im a virgin compared to everyone else. My bestfriends always have their boyfriends and have sex. On one hand I am perfectly fine with waiting for the right one but on the other hand I do feel left out. I dont know...any advice or personal experience is greatly apprpeciated :)

Your time will come when you will find the right boy but until then i think you should live your life and enjoy it while your still young you will always have many chances for relationships seeing as there's tons of boys out there it's better to be different you don't want to be like everyone elese i'm a virgin too sex is good but there's chances of becoming pregnant and caring for a child is a huge responsiblity once you feel ready to date you should go for it(:

I made these new guy friends in a class recently that I sit with.
Two of them are best friends...we'll call them...Tony and Kyle.
Tony is kind of perverted and loud but really funny and nice at the same time.
Kyle is really sweet and funny too, and he's a lot more quiet than Tony.
So over Christmas break I was texting Tony a lot and we talked about a bunch of stuff...and he started telling me about Kyle and how he likes me and wants to go out with me. And he kept asking me if I like him (for the record, I do, a little =]...).
Then, I texted Tony and said "so, do you like anyone?" and he texted back with "yeah, you" so I said "haha. ok no really who do you like?" and he says "no really, me and kyle both do"
...
so i asked "if you like me to, why are you trying to get me and kyle to go out?" and he said "because i'm nervous" and we kind of left it at that

So...
I'm sort of torn between two guys?

like I said before...
Kyle is really sweet and I sort of like him

but Tony is also really nice and I'm closer to him

If you were in this situation, what would you do...?

Thank you very much

Sit down and really think about who you'd like to be with and who you get along with better if you sort of like Kyle then i'd say go with Tony since your more closer to him you could hang out with them or talk to them more and see what happens and where the conversation goes then make your decision
see what happens in class with the both of them if things progress and if they get better(:

well, i'm 15 years old and JUST started my period today I know not normal! most people start at like 12 or 13. But I bleed through today at school... and i'm superrr heavy and I heard with pads it's really easy to bleed through and tampons, I would wear them but i'm to scared to put one in, i've heard it hurts the first time you put one in.. WHAT DO I DO!?!
:/

Start off with pads as long as you change the pad and don't leave it on for a while i think you'll
be good and won't have to deal with it bleeding through i use pads and that hasn't happened to me i first got my period at the age of 16 & i'm now 19 and yes tampons do hurt but use pads since they are easier and less painful(:

Hey.. 14f...
Ok right now i have a bf..we've been dating for 6 months or more. He is an alright boy friend..the problem is that, we hardly get to talk..only by texting and phone calls. He never calls me.. When i text him he always has his phone off. Now at school he's sweet at the dances we have so much fun. Thats why i can't figure out what to do. My best friend introduced me to this guy louis..lou. >.< I helped him feel better when he was upset..and i started to have some feelings for him. He's really funny and sweet. When i told my best friend that i had a little crush on him she told him. I didn't want her to. Than he said he likes me to.We started talking and he was soo sweet to me he tells me things that my bf has never told me.Than one day he told me he loved me and i was like woaha. He was so romantic with me and i fell for him. The couple of days i was to scared to say those 3 words.. last night i did and i felt guilty. :/ I can't help what i feel though. My best friend now tells me that i shouldn't cheat on him and that he deserves better than me. :/ I think so. I loves arizona but Lou :/ My friend Cierra at first told me i should date lou, because Arizona will be moving and if he doesnt text me or call me now it won't be any diffrent than when he's somewhere else. I don't want to hurt anyone i really don't. Lou told me that he would let go if i told him to, nd i asked him if he really would and he said no i couldn't really..all the things he tells me i believe them..he hasn't shown me any reason he could be lieing. I showed my friend Cierra what he says, and she says its fake. :/ I have no clue who to pick...i think lou..please help out and don't criticize i already feel guilty enough..to cry:/ thanks to who ever trys to help :/

Sit down and truely think who you want to be with do what makes you happy there's no point of being in
a relationship if your miserable plus your current boyfriend will be moving long distance relationships
usually don't work out and the couples break up depending on how far apart they are from one another i don't think Lou would lie to you he wouldn't of said all those things to you if they weren't true so yes i do think he's telling the truth as far as Arizona is concerned i think you should ask him why hasn't he called you or why the two of you haven't spoken as much you deserve to know that seeing as the two of you are dating try and straighten the situation out your friend Cierra shouldn't jump to conclusions so quickly and just assume that what Lou said to you was fake since she truely doesn't know what's true and what's not(:

my boyfriend hasn't called in 4 days. i have no idea why. usually it has something to do with me being a bitch or something along those lines, other times its just him being busy, but even then he'll call after just a couple of days. the last time we talked was when he told me that we couldn't get together on new years, and i was pretty upset about it for a while but got over it quickly.

like i said, usually if he's acting like this, i know the reason or have a pretty good idea. but as of right now, i am COMPLETELY in the dark and totally confused. should i wait for him to call me, which might be never, depending on why hes mad (if he's mad), or should i wait for a certain length of time and call him? anyone have any ideas?

Call him and see why he hasn't called you so you aren't left wondering and you'll know exactly
why i also wouldn't jump to conclusions there could be plenty of reasons but your best option is to just call him up and ask if it was something you did wrong or if he was just busy i wouldn't wait cause it could be a while depending on what he's doing(:

Recently, my friend has been talking about how hot he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room having excuses just to walk by her and at the end of the day waiting to see her leave, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and at any pictures of her in them, saying "pictures of my hot teacher are like what pornography is to other people. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to rape him he'd be all for it, and he also said he hopes her boyfriend dies. This sounds kind of funny but also weird to me. I guess you could find a teacher hot, but still. Is this normal, or has he gone too far?

friend is 16 teacher is about 26

I don't think it's normal seeing as it is a teacher
they are just there to teach students you should confront him about it and tell him that it isn't normal and that he shouldn't wish death upon her boyfriend nobody should have that wished towards them he'll never have her so he should just move on teachers are just teachers to students nothing more i find what he's doing creepy like he's stalking her he needs girls who are around his age also needs to stop obsessing over her

i just need a little help to bring me up a bit so any and as much as possible help, to me on how to cope or just plainly to make myself happier is amazing. i struggle a lot to make it day by day but iv got hope, my boyfriend of a year and a half and sometimes my few friends make me happy as can be and forget all bad but i cant always have them with me. i have post traumatic stress disorder from attempted rapes, and schizoaffective/schizophreniform disorders. for a while i was going to a doctor everyday and i got alot better and they said if it ever came back id go to rehab, i cry when i think of it i even am now. i dont wana go and iv been back at it for over a month. i don't eat anymore and don't wana leave my room i just sit here and cry and paint or my friends or bf get me out. i don't want to bring it back up to anyone. i see myself as a worthless ugly sack of shit, only flaws. but i was a modle and have a boyfriend. im so confused and crushed. it's tearing me apart i'm only 15. any advice at all for me on what to do, or how to act, or be happy, quotes? anyything positive

Staying inside isn't good try and get out more get some fresh air otherwise you'll feel trapped you'll become bored easily think positive thoughts and not negative if you do you'll make yourself feel worst and the situation won't get any better do things that make you happy to take your mind off the things that your feeling everyone has things about
themselves that they don't like or want to change but you've got to have confidence without that you'll continue to have low self esteem and think of yourself in a bad way not eating is also bad you've got to eat otherwise you'll have health problems

i just filled out something online tog et information about online courses. I filled in my real address real number and real name. I never do this but for some reason i just did it today becasue i figured its for school. Well about 1 min after I sent it I got a call from the "university" I am finding it very awkward that I would get a call right away. The people kept asking where i "live at" I found them to be very unprofessional and did not disclose any informationa nd claimed that I did not send them any information. i am scared that they are some type of fraud. the school is CTU. I am scared and am wondering if they can do anything with my name address and numeber? And what i should do to make sure they do not get any more information! i have sent an email saying I did not request information and do not want to affiliate with them? Any ideas on what I should do, or if I am overreacting?

I wouldn't stress over it i'm sure the information
you did give them won't be given out seeing as it is a college if it wasn't a school then you'd have a reason to be concerned i don't think it's some type of fraud wait it out and be patient see if they send you a e-mail back if they do make your decision whether or not you want to affiliate
with them try and get the situation straightened out if you still want nothing to do with them then find another school and move on i'm sure you'll be fine(:

I Need Advice. Im Fifteen Years Old And Has Only Had A Couple Boyfriends In My Life. I Do Have A Low Self Esteem Issue, But I Need To Find Ways To Like Myself So I Know Guys Will Like Me....

I Really Want A Boyfriendddddd!!!!!

You've got to be confident and believe in yourself if you don't have those two things you'll continue to have low self esteem and feel
horrible if you get nervous don't let your nerves
get the best of you it's normal and happens to everyone but you can't let that happen confidence is key boys like girls who are confident try to think postively thinking negatively will make the situation worst(:

My girlfriend just broke up with me because im starting to act like her. The truth is i just do the same things she does. Ive been like this for a long time. But she says its creepy and that its over. And yeah i want to cry but then again I'm wondering if that's a justified reason to break up with me, She told me not even 6 hours ago that she loves me and I'm her world and she wants to live by me. I find now that she lied to me or at least that's how i feel :\
-15 m

I think that was a stupid reason for her to break up with you she should of given you a chance she shouldn't of jumped to conclusions so quickly and ended the relationship she should of given you the benefit of the doubt there are plenty of other
girls out there one's who will treat you with respect you deserve better then her so i wouldn't
stress over it just live your life and move on and once you feel ready to date again then go ahead your still young and have plenty of time to date(:

well 15/f and sorry if long . but me and my bestfriends we all chill and hang inside and outside of school well when they all got mad at me for breaking up with my boyfriend and they told me that i was stupid for it and the fact that i did it i told them to leave me alone and then they finally became my friend they said that they wont get mad well someone said that i said something about them and now that i said that they were a slut they said they dont want to talk to me and that they hate me should i confront them about some of the stuff i heard that came from there mouth about me or should i just leave me alone.

I think you should confront them and stick up for yourself don't allow them to talk badly about you
they aren't real friends if they say things that hurt you he was your boyfriend and you could do whatever you want since it's your life your in control approach them and say that breaking up with your boyfriend was your own decision you don't deserve people in your life who are going to put you down just confront them and say what you'd like to say and move on you'll always have the chance to meet new friends

Okay 15/f here might be long but okay. Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months now and my mom doesnt like him at all. Well the other day me and her was talking and she told me that she didnt want me seeing him now that i really like him i just want him to know that i love him and everything she told me that if i am seeing him when im not allowed to then i am grounded but i really like him and i want to stay with him but i want to break up with him to just for a couple of days and then i want to get back together with him so should i end it or should i just stay with him and just say to my mom we are broken up?

I think your only option is to break up with him
you should listen to your mother and not lie or disobey her plus if you do end the relationship you won't get grounded nobody likes being grounded
there are plenty of other boys out there if you lie to your mother you'll feel horrible and you'll end up regretting it it's better to tell the truth then to tell a lie (:

Its been 15 weeks since I came to this college, and I still don't have any real friends. Yes I talk to people every now and then but I still feel really alone. I have left my dorm room door open most of the time and not a single person has ever walked up and started talking to me. I have joined clubs but they are not really active and everyone seems to scatter when the meetings end. It's now the end of the semester but I am hoping that next semester brings a new start and I want some advice on what I can do to meet people

Be confident believe in yourself confidence is key
just be yourself if you get nervous take a few deep breaths and calm yourself down everyone gets nervous sometimes it's normal but you can't let your nerves get the best of you if other people aren't willing to start the conversation then you be the first one too and see where it goes think positive thinking negative will make the situation
worst and you'll end up feeling worst as well :)

16/f

for the past six days my head was hurting, but on 4 days my head wasn't hurting as much as it did on the 5th and 6th day (today). i took different medicines because the whole time alot of people just thought it was just stress due to the finals or a migraine because of the cold weather. i took regular tylenol then took a nap before i went to work, it worked for five minutes but started hurting again. then, my manager gave me regular advil which i took seven hours later then went to sleep when i got home, i woke up.. my head was hurting more than it did the day before that. so i called my sister and she bought me advil migraine, i took it the night before i went to sleep and i woke up feeling better my head wasn't hurting as much anymore until i went to the restroom my vision got blurry until i went into my mom's room to lay down. i finally told my mom that my head hurt (usually me and my sister had to take care of ourselves because my mom is usually busy or gone), and it turns out that i have a fever. i just want to know, is this normal? i don't have any other symptoms, my head just hurts and i have a fever. is this serious? help me please!

Go to the doctor since what's happening to you is dealing with your health they'll be able to help you and tell you exactly what's wrong it could be
serious if your fever goes any higher then what it
is that's dangerous if you can't get a appointment with your doctor head to the hospital
you can get headaches from many different things bright lights,not eating,staring at a computer screen,dehydration try eating and see if that makes your headache disappear continue to take Advil or even Tyenol those will make the pain your feeling go away :)

I hope you feel better!

I can't seem to stop itching. It's been going on for a week or two. I'm itchy from head to toe. It's driving me nuts. I think I might rip my skin off. I've tried allergy pills and calamine lotion. Showering works for about ten minutes. I wake up in the middle of the night just to scratch.I have scratched enough to make myself bleed. I'm scratching myself like crazy right now. It can't be poison ivy or oak, I am rarely outside. Please! What should I do. I think I am about ready to scream. Should I go to the ER?? It's getting worse as days go by. I can't stand it anymore.

Yes i do think you should go to the ER if it's
bothering you that much the doctors in the hospital will be able to help you tell them that you've used pills and lotion even tried taking a shower and none of it's helped :)

I hope your itching stops!

I've been applying everywhere and yet i have no luck. Not even one phone call. I've been job searching online and yet there are limited or nonlegit results. I could work online from home if any websites are interested in an 18 year old working for them whom is still in highschool and whom has no work experience. I'm willing to do an honest day's work and I'm very competent of doing anything I have knowledge of how to do. I even made my own resume. I need money really badly, and if anyone does hire me, I'd be more than happy to work.

You could try and look in the newspaper where the jobs section is and see what's in there and if there's none that interests you then continue to look online think postively and be patient but you've got to also remember there's a recession happening and people are loosing their jobs so it
may take a while for the place you applied for to
contact you just continue waiting and searching :)

I got taken out of school in the middle of school last year it is almost going to be a year since, and it will be the second semester of school. I got taken out; because there was too much was going on and I was getting in trouble I guess you can say. I drifted away from everyone; I don't talk to anyone from that school old friends anyone. I have been on my own just doing school all day. I believe it was right for me to leave school to I guess re create myself and find out who I really am. Well I have learned so much from being home schooled. Being home schooled has helped me with school and also having a different out look on life and right from wrong. Skipping to Halloween night this year. I was in my room with my mom just crying to her about things that were bothering me, I just was telling her that I can't stand being home schooled and I just want to go back, I have learned so much from this experience and I am ready to go back. I just want to be a normal teen girl living my life... Then I said to her now I want to go back to school so bad but I am so insecure with myself and I compare everyone to myself I just can't go back cause I’m fat and I hate myself. ect. I told her I would NOT want to go back to the school I was at before I left, because I said that everyone moved on with there life and they don't care about me, there going to talk about me ect. And I was just crying and crying... once I let that all out we just kind of talked and I stopped crying..... All of a sudden the door bell rings, my mom goes down stare and all I here is my name I got extremely nervous! They were screaming like oh my god I haven't seen her in for ever I miss her tell her to come down ect. my mom came up and I herd them cause they were screaming but she was telling me that I needed to go down maybe it's a good thing they came it was about 7 people... talk about pressure I hadn’t seen any of them in half a year, I told my mom no I didn't want to but in the back of my head I really did want to because I missed them but I didn't cause I was scared of what they would think of me. I went outside and it was so normal it was like I had never drifted from them and I wasn't different from them body wise. After they left me and my mom continued talking and she said wow was that GOD or what.
So I said you no maybe I should go back to school that I went to before... I have been thinking about it ever since that night and I just don't no my mind has been going back and forth like one day I will get really existed saying yea I should go back and think of all the positives then the next day ill think what the hell there is no way you can go back I’m too fat what if they don't like yada yada yada. My mom wants me to wait till high school, but I would want to go back this January. and she said she doesn't no if she would let me go back... but I wasn't worried about it because I didn't believe that I would really go back because I was scared... well last night we were on our way home from Hollywood studios.. and I told her how my mind just goes back and forth and I gave her all the details... she said well maybe you should just go back this year and ignore your negative thoughts something like that....

I don't understand I got my moms exseptince my old friends excepted me but it's still not good enough because of my stupid mind, I am so uncomfterable with my body and embarrassed with it I want to love who I am but I just can't. I am trying to make god number one in my life again cause I no once my relationship with him is good then everything will line up and I no that I just have to trust him but
I don’t know ugh and I have like 25 days or something in till January:( I don’t know what to do I need help should I take the chance and go or just wait in till I loose weight and love who I am??? Help!

I agree with what your mother said about ignoring the negative thoughts your feeling try thinking postively thinking negatively will make the situation worst and you'll make yourself feel more upset everyone has things they don't like about themselves or they'd like to change it's normal to feel that way but try and accept your
body and who you are your in control of your life
if you don't like something change whatever you don't like until your satisfied if you don't feel
ready then don't go but if you do i say go for it it's mainly up to you what you'd like to do nobody
can make the decision for you only you can :)

Well, there's this guy at school and we're friends..
I wouldn't say we went out before, but we had a kind of 'fling' it wasn't very serious, so I won't really count it as a relationship, and this was about a year ago, so it's old now.

Anyway, the point is, I don't even know what brought it on, but we were talking one day and I felt myself starting to think about him again afterwards, and I'm pretty sure I'm starting to like him in that way again..

I just wanna know if I should say something about liking him, or refrain..'cause I don't want it to seem like I'm messing him around, since the last thing that happened with us was a year ago... but at the same time, I'd kinda like to tell him and see if he feels the same. I mean, we got on well when we were 'together', and we have loads in common, so I don't see why not..

Anyway just confused, opinions would be greatly appreciated. :)

Go for it if your wanting to it's worth a shot the worst that can happen is him saying that he doesn't like you and if that does happen well then you'll still know you tried trying is better then not doing anything at all and you ending up regretting it later on i wouldn't not tell him how you feel do it and see what happens see where the conversation goes and what he says it would be a different story if the both of you didn't have things in common or you didn't get along so well then i'd say don't do it but seeing as that's
not a issue go for it tell him you like him :)

Hey 14f i don't know if this is in the right category?

Okay, lately I haven't been feeling like myself. I've been worrying a lot lately and feeling sad. (i'm usually a worrier), but this week it's different every morning this week i had a nervous feeling in my stomach (plus the feelings from my period.) I don't know if its from my period or not? I've been less talkative to my friends and everything..I even walk away quickly in the hallway not even waiting for my bf. I feel so upset this week. I'm not the most popular girl in the school, and usually i don't care. Now i do, i wonder what the hell does my boyfriend see in me? I feel like i'm not skinny enough, even when i look like i'm fine. I remember(this was awhile agoo) I was having this horrible fight with my friends and every morning i made myself vomit because of all my nerves, i didnt really "make" myself i didn't stick my finger down my throat i just threw up.. and it made me look horrible and my friends were really worried about me and i was worried to. I stopped that i don't do that anymore but i'm worried i will. Am i just feeling this way because of my period? I think that's it but i really want to learn to not feel so sad for myself because yes a lot of people don' t like me, but i have A LOT of good friends that a lot of those "popular girls" don't have. A lot of people have things worse than me and i really need to bump up my self esteem? Can anyone help me with that? thanks for everyones help, i appreciate it :)

You need confidence believe in yourself if you don't have those two things then you'll have low self esteem and you'll feel horrible don't let your nerves get the best of you everyone gets nervous sometimes it's normal you shouldn't have to change for anyone and if people don't accept you for who you truely are then you don't need them in your life as far as your body is concerned
everyone has something they don't like about themselves or they'd like to change it could be that your feeling that way cause of your period or simply because your nervous but then again i'm not a doctor if your becoming stressed over it go visit one and see what they have to say :)

So i have a good friend, we were friends since grade 5. now were in grade 8. in facebook, she tagged all her friends. she tagged me as "a good friend" and she tagged other friends including my crush as "the one you can trust on". so my friend doesnt trust me :(... what should i do? we were like sisters...really close to each other. maybe i was acting a little mean to her. thats coz she doesnt care if a guy makes fun of me ... (being racist with me)..

Try talking to her talking goes a long way it's better then not saying anything at all keeping everything your feeling to yourself isn't healthy it's better to get everything out in the open explain to her about the comments she made about being racist towards you that isn't right i wouldn't worry about the Facebook thing :)

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