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I was wondering anybody know a site.. or books on like stuff deal with working with kids and all. I have exprineces but only with family memeber becouse they my cousins i know it different working with kids who they don't know you or not a related or anything. i know kinda the same but alot different..

Go to your local library. There is probably an entire section of these types of books. If you don't know where they are or can't find them, just ask the librarian. Good luck! :)

Texas Christian University - I've sewen the website, I've done the research. Now I need real life experience - do you know anyone who's been there? Do you go there? Anything i should know? Do you like it? Do you know anyone who doesn't like it - why?? Is it a good school academically? What about social stuff? Is it hard to get in? What kina GPA & SAT scores do I need? What do they want to see on an application form??

THANK YOU FOR ANY INFORMATION YOU'VE GOT!

This is a bad place to get that type of information. I highly doubt any of the active columnists on this website attend or have attended that one particular college. What you should do is visit the college. You can find out all of this information there. Go on a guided tour and you'll have a current student show you around campus and answer any questions you have. Good luck. :)

14/f.

My mom quit her job of 12 years last year; she was a programmer, but they laid her off. Since the arrival of my baby brother, EVERYTHING has changed. We are suddenly needing a lot more money because we moved into a house, and my mom took a job as a waitress at a local restaurant. She comes home and complains about making only $50, and the most she's ever made without working double shifts, would be $80 on a FRIDAY night. I'm so worried to see her like this. She's a very strong woman and I try to help out when I can with my baby brother. Sometimes it's so, so hard, and with going into my freshman year and starting tennis at the school, we had to put my brother in a (home) daycare. Up until now, I've watched him ever since the second that he was born. I'm crying right now, and I know I'm not supposed to worry about these things; yet I still do. My mom tells me that everything will be okay some day.. but when will that day come? We went to Buenos Aires in Argentina this past January, and spent well over $10,000. Not to mention that we have to pay about $1200 a month for our mortgage, on top of that, food, clothes, diapers for my brother, daycare, everything. My stepdad works as a delivery driver, and basically delivers medicine to Walgreens and other pharmacies. I think he makes $600 a week, and works overtime when he shouldn't be. (He's a supervisor). He got a job offer from his old boss, and might be making $1000 a week now. It will help so much, with that extra 400-500 dollars.

Sorry that this is so long. It also doesn't help that my mom's twin sister (my aunt), and her 2 boys get everything they want and live in a very decent home, are caught up with their credit card bills, and pay everything in cash.

I just needed some place to vent. I really want to do tennis, but it's hard to see my mom struggle to find someone to watch my brother. It seems like ever since he was born, my life has completely turned around.

Ok, take a deep breath and try to calm down. Your family can't be in that much trouble financially if you can come up with the money to go to Argentina. My family never took me out of the country and we rarely went on vacations like that. Adults complain about money all the time. They shouldn't do it in front of you, but all adults wish they had more money and will be upset that they don't. Don't feel bad about playing tennis. If the daycare was too expensive for your family, they would have told you it wasn't okay for you to play tennis. It's a really good thing that you're concerned about your family and you're venting about it in such a positive way, but there's really nothing that wrong. There will always be people out there that are better off than you. You're always going to be a little jealous of that. If your family was as well off as your aunt's family, you'd still be jealous of someone else. Your family is getting by just fine. Pretty well actually. You're really lucky. A lot of people out there are even worse off than you are. Just keep your head high and try not to get too caught up in what your parents are worrying about. All worrying is kind of silly. Worry doesn't get you anywhere. It just upsets you. Look at all the positive things around you and find opportunities to make your life better. Good luck. :)

16/f
i liked this guy named Kasey for a year and
we were good friends for awhile then we just stopped talking after he found himself a girlfriend.
he started doing bad stuff.
so ive liked him for awhile now and i finally decided to tell him.
i sent him a message on facebook and told him and i got no reply.
he told his friends and my best friend.
so what should i do b/c i really really liked him and its all over with now.

It'll hurt for awhile. There's nothing you can really do. Cry, let it all out. You'll get over it in time. You may even come to forgive him and understand why he did what he did and be great friends with him again. Just remember that all that can heal something like this is time. Never try to keep it all in either. Let your emotions go when you're alone, in a safe way, of course. You will feel better eventually. Take it one day at a time. Good luck.

Ughhh ; ok ` im 14 going on 15 & my boobs are smaLL ''/ Like A cup , idk why .... aLL my friends are bigger than mine . my 13 year oLd friend is in a fuckin size C cup! . its so embarrising ?

when wiLL they grow? & any way to speed the process up ??!!

They will continue to develop until you're 20. They might grow a lot or they might not. Look around you. There are boobs of all different sizes. There's a lot of women that are A's (like me). There's no way to speed it up or make them bigger. Just like there's no way to make yourself taller. You are what you are and you need to come to grips with that. You can't change it. Be happy with your body. You're probably pretty thin right? That's attractive too! More so than big boobs. Heavy girls always have big boobs, but the extra baggage is in other places too and that's not so attractive. I've actually found that a lot of guys LIKE girls with smaller boobs. Why? Because when you're older they won't sag and because large boobs are hard to find on girls that are fit. Guys aren't just lookin' at your boobs. Plus, saggy boobs are gross. If your boobs do remain an A, that's a great perk (no pun intended). You'll be a lot better looking later in life than the women that are double D's.

last friday iwent to the doctor for vomiting,and cramping really bad.he said maybe stomach virus or gallbladder.i was fine until today 09/12/2007.same thing as friday.is it gallbladder or could it be something else?should i see another doctor?he check alot of stuff,and everything was fine.except tendernes around gallbladder

Don't go in again. If it was dangerous or life-threatening they would have told you. Call first. Tell them what's going on and let them make the decision of whether you need to come in again or not. There's no reason to go in and just have them tell you the same thing when you can avoid that altogether by calling first. I hope that you feel better soon! :)

our high school is brand new and our yearboook needs a name..something to do w/ cougars or roar/grr. or w/e cougars say

Yearbooks usually have kind of weird, but solid, timeless names. Stuff like "Reflections", "Crystal", or "Victory". I think "Victory" is a good one. Something strong, composed, and powerful like your mascot. You don't want to be too original. Remember that it has to be timeless too because the name of the yearbook will stick for all the years your school is around. If you pick something that's really hip and modern, it might sound pretty dumb 20 years down the road. Good luck! :)

15/f

I have some really strange things that I do.
I'm constantly talking to myself (but not really talking out loud, just sort of just mouthing what i would say if i were talking to another person.)
And If I've just walked away from having a convo with someone, I keep repeating what i've said to myself for like 20 minutes after.
I can't focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard I try and I'm always oblivious to everything.
I always isolate myself in social situations because it's the only thing I feel safe doing. I never say anything to anyone because I know that they won't want to talk to me.
I feel like people are watching me when I'm alone and I worry that people can hear my thoughts. I know that's irrational but it doesn't make it go away.
I'm also in some kind of negative mood all the time- be it sad, mad, upset, lonely, etc. I never feel happy and when I smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.
I'm always horny and I can't stop my sexual behavior even in public.

so just tell me what you think is wrong. am I schitzophrenic? (sp?)

You're definitely not schizophrenic. I can't diagnose you, but it sounds like you could have avoidant personality disorder or something like it. You should get evaluated by a doctor just in case. You may not actually have a disorder, a lot of the things that you brought up are actually pretty normal. You could just be shy and stuff. :)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

can someone please please tell me what some programs related to social sciences are? and as well as some details about it, like what i need to get into them and where i can go after im done. ( im in canada, ontario, ....toronto by the way) im dyingg and im so confused and theres just too much pressure on me right now...

Take a deep breath and try to relax a little. I'm not sure how your school is set up, but I'll bet that someplace, they have a lot of resources that can help you. My advice for you is to talk to your guidance counselor. Guidance counselors are there for this very reason. Your guidance counselor should be very helpful. If for some reason your school doesn't have a guidance counselor, talk to any teacher. They should be able to help or refer you to someone that can. Don't try to do this all on your own. There are a lot of people out there willing to help you. Good luck and remember to try to relax. Everything will turn out fine, it always does, right? :)

im on somebodies myspace
and the song is hidden of course
and its a remake of the i wanna love you song
and idk who sings it!!!
and i want to know
its like a band kinda like the scene aesthetic
or kinda like motion city soundtrack
i know the band
but i cant htink of it!
help :]

Message that person and ask them. It's as simple as that. They're not going to be mean about it or anything. Good luck. :)

14/f
i have a question on the rules of cheating.

okay well i had this boyfriend and we had gotten into a fight because he was playing witha girls hair and hands infront of me. i asked him why he did that and he gave me the "rules". he said what he did was being "friendly", kissing is "innocent" flirting and sex is the only thing considered to be cheating. i told him that those rules only apply to him. i told him what he did was flirting (innocent i don't know intentional? yes).kissing is where the cheating starts and the only he got right was that sex was cheating too. would you agree with me or not and why.

please and thank you! =]]

He's wayyy off base. To me, cheating is anything that you wouldn't tell your significant other about. If you're e-mailing a guy behind his back and you don't want him to know, that's cheating. It's a guilt thing more than your actual actions. If you can tell him about it, it's not. You don't have to tell him, but as long as you're not hiding it from him it's fine.

Now to your particular situation. He's doing this crap right in front of you. At least he's being honest, but seriously. He says he's being friendly. He's DEFINITELY flirting. Ask him if he would play with a guy's hair or hands. His answer is obviously going to be no. That's how you can distinguish flirting from cheating. If he's just being friendly, he could do it with anyone. Make sure he realizes that yeah, he is flirting. Let him know that it's okay for him to flirt with other girls through innocent comments, but that touching them in any way really draws the line for you. On to the next part. How is kissing not cheating? Everybody thinks kissing is cheating. That right there tells me that this guy is bad news. The fact that he said that to you makes it almost a sure thing that he's going to be kissing other girls while he's with you. I give him a lot of credit for being honest, but you don't want to be with this type of person. Either set him straight or drop him right away. This guy is completely ridiculous.

what's that thing called that you spray your clothes with in case it catches on fire? i know you cannot use a fire extinguisher because it makes it worse. i learned in in school today but i never wrote down the name. it's some kind of extinguisher but only for clothes. & this has nothing to do with stop, drop & roll. thanks!

There's two different types of fire extinguishers. There are silver ones that just have water in them and red ones that contain some chemicals. If the fire is a grease fire, or was aided by chemicals like that, don't use a water fire extinguisher! That will just spread the fire out. So really, you can use the red fire extinguishers whenever you want. That's probably what they were talking about and they just used clothes as an example. Like, you were cooking and got grease on your clothes and they caught on fire type thing. You can't use a water fire extinguisher for that. I hope that answers your question. :)

15/f

you see i have red hair......down there.....and i really want to have sex w/ my boyfriend but idk if he would be offended, or turned off, cuz i have pubic hair..... should i shave it off?

Ask him what he thinks. That is the only way to know. I can sit here and say "most guys think this" or "most guys think that" or "do what you want to do", but your boyfriend isn't most guys. He is one guy with his own unique opinions about everything. Not all guys think alike. If you're too embarrassed to ask him about it, you're not even close to being ready for sex. Being ready isn't just about being physically ready. You have to be mentally ready too and ready for any and all consequences that may come of it. You need to be able to talk about it.

I'm tired of songs without depth. Can someone please list some amazing ones...? Ones that I like are
The Earth Song-Michael Jackson
and
Let The River Run-Carly Simon

They don't have to be sad: they just have to have some decent emotions put into them!

Thank you!

"November Rain" by Guns N' Roses and "Konstantine" by Something Corporate are two of my favorites.

I used to go into chatrooms through AIM called like "P. Diddy" and other celeb names or TV Shows just to look at different peoples infos. Now you cant do that, and I know there's a website you have to go to to get there instead. Does anybody know what it is? Thank you =P

I think this is what you're looking for. :)

http://www.aim.com/community/chats.adp

Where can I find color contacts for sale that do NOT require an eye exam? I looked it up online and it says that by law, you must have an eye exam to get them, but a lot of people I know have color contacts that they got from friends.

Any help is appreciated. =]

You need to get an exam because contacts come in different sizes and curvatures. Not everybody's eyes are the same. If the contacts are not the right size and shape, they're not going to stay in your eyes. Basically, you need to get your eyes measured for the contacts. :)

Hi, I'm 17 and I have always had problems with understanding something example math. I'm in special ed and I'm not happy I want to be normal just like all the other regular students. Also every test I take usally I fail. Now I have to take a test for college like the sat I mean I dont know what to do it seems I was born wrong. But I mean I am levels behind how will I have a chance to succed in life. And I always wanted to be, please tell me what I can do if I goto college I'm going to fail and want succed at life.

Ok, so you're bad at math. That's not a big deal. Colleges don't pay any attention to the SAT's anymore and unless you want to go to college for math you're not going to have any problems. You can easily get by and become a very successful person. Life has a lot more to it than math. :)

yes, but. he doesn't like me. :( if he did. then yeah i'd give it a shot, i actually considered it because i knew no matter what he wouldn't purposely try to hurt me. so it's either now..i let go of him and risk loosing my best friend...or i just hold on...and still have my best friend..whom i like a lot. :(

i don't know if i can let go of him and still be able to have my best friend there. :(
if i let go..it means i wouldn't be able to really talk to him for a few days..which could cause us to drift..and not be as close as we once were. :(

How do you know for sure unless you try? There's no use in just giving up. I never said let go. That's giving up and giving up is the worst thing you can do. You haven't even started yet. Give it a shot and see what happens. You will regret it if you don't. You came here looking for advice. If you're just going to reject any ideas given to you then what was the point of asking for advice? If you could figure it out for yourself you would, but you can't or you wouldn't have asked. There's no harm in trying to start a relationship with this guy. No harm whatsoever. You've got nothing to lose at this point. It's not like he dislikes you. He may not have strong feelings for you but he definitely likes you, he must, you're his friend. Strong feelings develop over time after you've already been in a relationship with someone. You can't have all the feelings you're ever going to feel for that person until you've been as close to them as you can be. Strong feelings for you can develop in him. Again, give it a shot. You have absolutely nothing to lose. Tell him everything you feel and ask him if he wants to be your boyfriend. Good luck.

well my parents wont let me get contacts unless i come up w/ a good reason of why i should have them instead of glasses..... any suggestions........
....please dont give the "oh ppl at skool make fun of me" crap cuz they wont believe it

You can see a lot better with contacts since they cover your entire field of vision. In other words, your peripheral vision will be greatly increased. Glasses tend to distort what you see. For example, things can be closer or farther away than they appear, or your glasses may make things look curved that are straight. Contacts would thus improve your hand-eye coordination. They often have full UV protection. They won't get foggy or get rain on them and have to be cleaned constantly because of fingerprints and dust. There's no glare. They won't hinder you from being active and/or participating in sports. They will help your self-esteem because you will look better with them. I hope those things help. Good luck! :)

can my parents get him arrested do they even have a say so in my life

They can have some say in your life until you're 25, but not in this. You're legally an adult and can choose to be in relationships with whoever you want as long as they are at least 18 too. Good luck.

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