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sick of worrying
14/f.
My mom quit her job of 12 years last year; she was a programmer, but they laid her off. Since the arrival of my baby brother, EVERYTHING has changed. We are suddenly needing a lot more money because we moved into a house, and my mom took a job as a waitress at a local restaurant. She comes home and complains about making only $50, and the most she's ever made without working double shifts, would be $80 on a FRIDAY night. I'm so worried to see her like this. She's a very strong woman and I try to help out when I can with my baby brother. Sometimes it's so, so hard, and with going into my freshman year and starting tennis at the school, we had to put my brother in a (home) daycare. Up until now, I've watched him ever since the second that he was born. I'm crying right now, and I know I'm not supposed to worry about these things; yet I still do. My mom tells me that everything will be okay some day.. but when will that day come? We went to Buenos Aires in Argentina this past January, and spent well over $10,000. Not to mention that we have to pay about $1200 a month for our mortgage, on top of that, food, clothes, diapers for my brother, daycare, everything. My stepdad works as a delivery driver, and basically delivers medicine to Walgreens and other pharmacies. I think he makes $600 a week, and works overtime when he shouldn't be. (He's a supervisor). He got a job offer from his old boss, and might be making $1000 a week now. It will help so much, with that extra 400-500 dollars.
Sorry that this is so long. It also doesn't help that my mom's twin sister (my aunt), and her 2 boys get everything they want and live in a very decent home, are caught up with their credit card bills, and pay everything in cash.
I just needed some place to vent. I really want to do tennis, but it's hard to see my mom struggle to find someone to watch my brother. It seems like ever since he was born, my life has completely turned around.
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It's totally and complelty normal to feel this way. You are having a hard time, but I don't think you should give up tennis,you are still a young girl, and though you have grown up problems they shouldn't stop you from doing what you want! This will only make you stronger. You will work harder and not take things for granted. Sooner or later things will fall into place. Your baby brother may soemtimes feel to you almost like a burden, but it wasn't his fault to be born. He's so inocent and has no ides what's going on. That's why you have to set an example for him. SHow him it doesn't matter where you come from. If you want something you go for it! No matter what. If some days you see that you really can't stay after for tennis. Talk to your coach. They will understand, and admire you for your maturity. If you feel pitied in any way if people ask to help DON'T! They only ask to help because they care for you, and don't want to see you struggeling. If you have problems and need to vent write it all down and put it soemwhere where no one will fing it. Give some time for yourself. Your parents only want whats best for you. They are the adults let them handel things, and if you feel you need to do something, sit back relax and say. I am fourteen, I am not a supoer heroe and my parents want what's best for me. I will work hard in school and concentrate on me. That's all you can do. It won't be easy, but I have faith that you will look back on this and say, "Wow! I over came that! I am really strong." Remember if you can overcome this you can overcome anything.
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Ok, take a deep breath and try to calm down. Your family can't be in that much trouble financially if you can come up with the money to go to Argentina. My family never took me out of the country and we rarely went on vacations like that. Adults complain about money all the time. They shouldn't do it in front of you, but all adults wish they had more money and will be upset that they don't. Don't feel bad about playing tennis. If the daycare was too expensive for your family, they would have told you it wasn't okay for you to play tennis. It's a really good thing that you're concerned about your family and you're venting about it in such a positive way, but there's really nothing that wrong. There will always be people out there that are better off than you. You're always going to be a little jealous of that. If your family was as well off as your aunt's family, you'd still be jealous of someone else. Your family is getting by just fine. Pretty well actually. You're really lucky. A lot of people out there are even worse off than you are. Just keep your head high and try not to get too caught up in what your parents are worrying about. All worrying is kind of silly. Worry doesn't get you anywhere. It just upsets you. Look at all the positive things around you and find opportunities to make your life better. Good luck. :)
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