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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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I have a Motorola ROKR, and I can download the ringtones fine from myxertones.com, but I can't apply them as a ringtone. Under File Details, it says Forwarding is possible but Applying it as a Ringtone isn't. Are there any settings I can change or something to make it apply the songs as a ringtone. (link)
i am not familiar with the site you are using... as a temporary fix, download the ringtones to your friends phone, and send them over to your over bluetooth, that was how i used to get ringtones onto my rokr. you can also switch it from itunes transfer mode to data transfer mode, so the songs you send will go in the phones built in library instead of itunes, and you should be able to set them as a ringtone that way, you shouldnt need to download special ringtones, just use regular songs


Well days ago my dad shut off the power to fix something. He shut off the power while the computer was on. After that I turned my computer on and everything was like messed up. I tried to fix my screen resolution, but the slider won't move! It's stuck on 800x600 or something. I the color was also really bad and I tried to fix it, but the only option is "low". The color is really ugly and I can't see stuff like pics on the computer correctly and I can't see the real color and it sucks. So how can I fix this??!! Thanks SO much!!! (link)
sounds like the computer is in safe mode. shut it down normally, and boot it up again, if it does the same thing, shut it down again, and turn it on after at least a minute, then start tapping F8 as it is turning on, you will eventually see a menu on how to boot, one of the options is safe mode, one is normal, choose normal and it should work.


oh woops, didnt read the entire answer of the last person, and just thought they only mentioned a graphics card problem


how can i put pictures on my myspace profile heroes section?? (link)
put this code into where you want the picture to be


me and my crush have been poking each other on facebook for like a day or 2, i kinda think of it as a way of flirting but ive seen that hes been on facebook and he hasn't poked me back. will it tell me if he deleted my poke or if he just didnt poke back yet? thankss (link)
if you click poke on him, it will either pop up the regular screen if he deleted it, or give you a "___ has not received your last poke yet" message if he hasnt


Sorry about the length, I just really need advice!!!

Okay, I'm just going to get straight to the point.
The other day me & my boyfriend was having sex.
I don't want lectured about whether I should be or not, I'm old enough to make my own decisions.

I just need serious help!

Okay, I'm on birth control, ortho trycyclin, or whatever, I have been since November, 2006. Wednesday I was supposed to have start taking the pills to start my period, today is Friday, and I still aint bleeding.

So today, me and my boyfriend was having sex, and well, the condom broke, this is the first time this has ever happened to me, and I'm literally freaking out.

He says he pulled out before he got off, but theres always pre-cum. And the thing is, when he pulled out, it was a couple seconds later, he cummed, I felt the cum against my bed sheets, so I jolted higher on my bed, over to the side, basically so none would get inside of me.

I ended up taking an extra pill; tomarrow nights pill.

After that, I got a Vaginal Contraceptive Film thingy, the thing that kills the sperm, if any got inside of me, I told him to insert it.
He did.

I'm so concerned over what to do, I dont want to get pregnant.

Although, I've been cummed in before.
I didnt get pregnant.
I'm so freaked out over this.

Help me please!!!
Thanks in advance!

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Well, there is always the emergency contraceptive pill. it works best within 3 days, but is still good up to 5. you can get one at your local planned parenthood.


Okay, are you able to get on AIM right now? I tried getting on the last 3 times, and you haven't responded. Anyways, is it possible to get a step by step guide on how to set up WiFi? I have a working wireless router in the basement. I just hard reseted the PDA. (link)
im still getting used to this version of aim... i didnt get an alert for some reason.

firstly, wireless router in the basement is a bad idea, it will obstruct the signal, you want it at a high point, as unobstructed as possible.

it depends on what kind of router you have, most have an auto setup wizard.


K, I'm 19m,
I can't really remember what I was doing at the time, however, i became extremely curious and a question popped into my head. "what if a person could control their blood flow?" This question has been eating at my brain for the last 4 hours.
If anyone can answer this I'd be very greatful. (link)
errr im guessing since you are 19m you werent talking about the kind of blood flow in the last answer... anyways, blood vessels are one directional, veins flow into the heart, arteries away from the heart, changing that would pretty guarantee something really bad happening. if you could control the speed, you could lower or raise your blood pressure as needed to stay healthy. you would be able to possibly prevent a heart attack by making sure blood didnt knock off any cholesterol deposits, though if it became a big problem, it would require constant attention. you would probably be able to speed up more than your body naturally would in times of physical stress to get more oxygen to your organs as well.


Sooo im going into my freshman year and i was wondering if there is a prom for every year or if its just seniors, and if theres like a homecoming every year.

im really confused can someone explain this to me?!?
:]] thankss. (link)
it really depends on your school. typically, homecoming is every year, for everyone. prom is every year, just for seniors, unless you get asked by a senior.


i want to start a web show but i dont know how can anybody help me please!!!!!!!!!!1 (link)
well you can upload all the vids to youtube. you can also start your own site, and just post the youtube vids on that


Ok well i never had this problem before i am 15 years old i lost my virgenty like a week ago.. and now i have like one pimple down where next to the vaginal area.. im wondering is that because of wwhat i did or is it there because my period is coming up.. i put vagisel cream on it i hope it works.. so what can i do to make it go away and what could be the reason it is there? (link)
well you should still go the doctor just in case, but its not likely to be herpes, since most often its more than one "pimple" and takes longer than a week to get symptoms, but there is a host of other things it could be. generally, if there is anything on your body that you dont recognize its a good idea to go to the doctor.


Ok this question isnt supposed to be offensive to anybody, im just wondering opinions. Today kids are having sex younger and younger, some kids are like 13 years old. I was wondering what you all think of that. Personally i cant believe this is happening to the world haha. I was just wondering if anybody out there agrees with me or if you dont agree with me, why? This is just out of curiosity. Also, if this is how things are now, imagine in 10 years, whats gonna happen!! haha, ok thanks! (link)
well you can always read brave new world to find the extremes of what could happen.

yes the age seems to be getting lower and lower, though, the youngest person i know to lose it, lost it at 13, and i knew her... about 6 or 7 years ago, so i havent noticed a much of a decline, because most people i know are losing it at 16. i think it depends on the area you live in, and the cause possibly does as well. there are statistics linking it to pretty much everything.


Im 14/female!
I need help on how to get a guy to give you a chance.
well its kind of a second chance. But the first chance never really worked out. (link)
it really depends on what you need the second chance for, theres no generic answer, other than appoligize and promise youll never do it again


For the past few months I've eaten very poorly and drank one too many sodas. Does anyone know any fasts or bodily cleansing things I could eat for a few days to repair my body before getting right back on track? (link)
a lot of people swear by the lemon juice diet
http://www.falconblanco.com/health/cleansing/lemoncleanse.htm


My Question Is simply that recently, like every time I see my boyfriend, he ends up sexually pleasuring me in some way (not all the way, an empty house doesn't normally present itself as often as we'd like). I keep thinking - why would he do that? he says he likes doing it and that it feels good, but I seriously doubt him in this sense. Sure he keeps doing it, but it something that I don't need and I've never been very bothered about - it just so happens, he's very persistent in doing it and also pretty damn good so I never decline his offer. Sometimes he doesn't even ask for anything back and says he'd prefer I didn't today... but last time he did it, after about quarter of an hour he said that's enough for you and I thought that's fine, but it made me think that he feels in some way pressured to do it. Also, I get embarassed when he comments on the fact I get 'wet' - are boys grossed out by this? I mean its natural and all but I was just wondering if they think it's a bad thing.

That was all a bit muddled, so I'll summarise my questions.

- Is it strange for him to do it so much and not ask for anything back?
- Could he actually be enjoying it as much as he says he does?
- Does 'wetness' gross boys out?
Also, I have Scoliosis. That means my spine is an s shape, although mine is very mild. Basically, I'm not worried about him seeing my spine, but I am worried because it causes one of my hips to be further up than the other and I am curved on one side like a normal woman - but on the other side i am alot straighter, there's almost no curve. It's not too noticeable unless your me, but he has seen it. I'm a bit lopsided in this sense, and not even on both sides. Will this effect a way he'll look at me?

We've been sexually active for a few months now, I was just wondering nowbecause it's been a niggling fear - I've always been a 'good girl' and I waited a year with him before we did anything, but I'm also very self conscious - I was going to ask these questions inevitably at some point.
Thank you VERY MUCH advicenators!

^_^
F

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1. some people really do enjoy pleasuring the person they are with. there are givers and there are takers.
2. probably not quite as much as he says he does, but if he keeps doing it, hes obviously getting some kind of pleasure out of it
3. it shouldnt. in fact, it should be a turn on
4. hes seen it, hes still with you. he obviously doesnt care, and really, only a horribly type of person would care.


you know when you dont really like a person but you know they like you and since they are constantly being nice to you, you kinda feel like you like them?
but then you know that deep down you dont REALLY like them. yet, all you do is flirt with them and in a way lead them on. well this guy that likes me goes to a different school than me and i really dotn think he should even like me because he doesnt know enough about me to like me. yet i being a carefree sagittarius cant control my flirting on myspace which is a completely unreliable website to begin with..
so if he asks me out or confesses his love for me again which im sure he will eventually, how can i tell him its a no without being completely rude and hurtful?
thanx =] (link)
direct approach is best.


my ex bf is telling everyone that me and him did all kinds of things and now everyone thinks im this huge whore and stuff and idk what to do! (link)
well you can wait till people grow up and realize that doing stuff with your boyfriend doesnt make you a whore, doing stuff with a bunch of guys that arent your boyfriend does. or you can just start telling people he had some kind of weird wart on his penis.


Anyone have any ideas why a father won't let his 17 year old daughter become a citizen of the United States when she has lived there for eleven years and is planning to live there for the rest of her life?

(And yes I'm the daughter, my parents aren't citizens of the USA, and I'm already a citizen of the country I was born in, but I want a dual citizen ship. My parents don't want to become citizens of the USA).

So, any ideas of why he isn't letting me? (link)
Well, he probably want to retain the pride of your original culture. If you are trying to convince him, keep hammering the dual citizenship, since it wont be like you are abandoning your original country, just picking up another one so it will be easier to live here.

PS. The citizenship process is far easier if you are a minor than if you are over 18, or at least thats how it was when I became a citizen.


(14, F) My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months. He treats me amazingly. The other day, he told me that 2 or 3 weeks after we started dating, he kissed another girl. He said he wanted to tell me earlier but didn't want to make me upset. He promises he'll never do it again, he doesn't know why he did it.

Should I break up with him? I really don't want to, but if he cheats once, does it mean he'll do it again? (link)
Well, in most cases, the phrases is "once a cheater, always a cheater" but it doesnt always hold. only you can decide. he did come to you and tell you himself, without you catching him, so that is a point for him. if you think you can trust him, then you should try to give him another chance, if not, well then you decide what to do about it.


Someone or something hacked into my myspace account. On my homepage, there is a thing from Tom saying that I've been phished and I have to change my password. Whenever I try to click the link to change my password the browser sends me back to the log-in screen. I tried to do it manually, and it did change my password, but I still couldn't do anything on my myspace. What should I do? (link)
try reseting your password from the login screen by clicking forgot password... i think they will send you a new one to your email. the link you are clicking is actually on your homepage right? not in a message or bulletin?


ok well this guy likes me a lot and we always cuddle when we hang out. i feel really safe when im next to him so i love cuddling with him. but when he tries anything else, i back off.

i told him i just want to be friends, and he has told me he wants more.
but now we have been fighting bc ive been with other guys and now he just wants to end our friendship. but i cant stop thinking about him.

i really want him in my life so so much.
could i actually like him more than a friend?
im really scared to think that i do. bc im scared to hook up with him.
i dont know why, hes the only guy i get nervous around when it comes to hooking up.

im soo confused.
can someone help me please?
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well if he cant handle just being friends, and you dont want to be more than friends then its not going to work out. you are probably sending the wrong message by cuddling with him. in general, there is nothing wrong with cuddling with a friend, but, you gotta look at the case itself, and it seems like its sending HIM the wrong idea.




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