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I'm 17 years old and I weigh under 100 pounds. I don't have an eating disorder or anything like that. In fact I eat a lot, and I'm pretty healthy. I don't like feeling so skinny though and I want to know if anyone has the same problem and if you have any suggestions for me to gain some weight? I've always been so small and weighed so little and seriously, if I got to even just 100 pounds I would be so happy. Smallness is kind of genetic in my family but I want to gain! Help please.

Gaining weight and keeping it on can be as tricky as losing it and keeping it off. Rather than having the occasional extra snack, you need to regularly take in more calories than you burn. Combining this with toning exercises helps, too.

Set yourself realistic target weights and aim to gain gradually - say, around 2lb a week. To do that you'll need to add an extra 300 to 350 calories or so to your daily intake. It's best to do this in a healthy way as part of a balanced diet, rather than simply eating more fried foods or chocolate!

- Keep a food diary for a couple of weeks to learn more about your eating habits.
Rather than struggling to eat a few really big meals, plan three regular meals plus two or three snacks.
- If you tend to eat erratically, write down a regular meal plan and keep to it.
- Make meals a little larger or more calorific. For example, have an extra slice of toast at breakfast; drink grape juice rather than orange juice; make coffee with milk; serve an extra spoon of mash, rice or pasta; be more generous with healthier unsaturated oils, salad dressing and spreads; always have a dessert.
- Have snacks to hand so you never go short. Good choices include nuts, seeds and raisins; pots of rice pudding, cereal or cereal bars; pancakes; milk, yogurt drinks or smoothies;cheese and crackers; fruit plus small chocolate bar.

Try this out for a couple of weeks and see what happens. If you don't gain ANY weight, you need to see a doctor.


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Hey I just had a smoke for the first time and like I smoked the entire thing (inhaling it) and I was fine but with the last two puffs, I felt it go down and then I was like light-headed for a bit.
I'm never going to do it again but is the light-headedness normal and how come it only happened at the last two hits?

Ahh that always used to happen to me. Like, that's how I always was when I smoked, even though I smoked like 10 cigarettes, daily. I just felt sick after everytime I did it :( But it's just because it was your first two times, of course you're going to feel light-headed.

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OK I am about 5'0 or 5'1 and I weight about 140 ilbs. Im big and I know. I want to get a flat stamach the fastest I can. I love coke but i am willing to give it up. I just can not stand water. So what is somthing I can drink? I do not like most vegies, but I love all kinds of fruit. I do not own a bike. I would be willing to walk alot each day but it needs to fit in between homework and computer time. I love the computer so like yeah. LOL. How many crunches should i do also? I rate 5's!

Thx! *** Michelle

Haha, I'm great @ this stuff. :)
I'm 15, and I used to be overweight. Most people wouldn't believe it after looking at me and stuff, but tis` true. =] I lost like 30 lbs easily, and still am, SAFELY. I've never made myself throw up, or starved, because that's just physically impossible for me.

Basically, you need to STOP drinking coke. Treat yourself like once or twice a week, with a DIET coke. But, regular is a big no no. Water is the best thing for you, but since you don't like it. Try juices, milk, & flavored water.

Exercise daily for atleast 30 mins. Like brisk walking. The idea is to use up more calories then you eat. =]

Fried foods & fatty deserts can quickly use up your daily intake of calories and most foods like this won't provide the nutrients your body needs on a daily basis. [Cakes, chicken fingers, fries.. all that.]

Eat plenty of vegetables, fruits, and grain products like bread & rice. Eat only small, single servings of foods high in calories & fat. Eat less sugar & fewer sweets. Choose foods from the store labeled: low, light, or reduced. Choose 1% or skim milk.

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I didn't do this, but when my sister started losing weight she joined WeightWatchers, which you can basically do at home, by;

- Counting up how many calories you eat in a normal day. That's right, wake up and eat like you usually do and keep track of everything single thing you eat.
- At the end of the day, count up how many calories you have aten/drank.
- Starting the day after you counted calories, eat 500 calories LESS then you normally do. So, say the day before you had 2,000 calories, then the next day you'd aim for 1,500 calories.
- Instead of eating three big meals a day, [brkfst, lnch, & dnr.] spread your meals out into 5 smaller meals. Eat one meal for every 2 - 3 hours. Doing this will speed up your metabolism.
- Cardio. Running, walking, jogging, swimming, dancing.. whatever. Atleast 30 minutes a day.
- At the end of the week, weigh yourself and you'll hopefully notice some weight loss.


Also, I suggest joining a gym or a support group or somewhere, where you can compare to other people in the same position as you.

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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help

Hey. Aw that's so cute. Well, I think the best way is to talk to her in person alone, like without her brother being around. Just to see if she has mutual feelings towards you! :)

After that, if she does; then talk about starting a gf/bf relationship with her brother not knowing at first and then telling him a little bit into the relationship. That'd probably be best.

Of course he's going to handle it like all big brothers do! But, eventually he'll get used to it, atleast he knows that she'll be dating someone close to him, y'know? I mean I bet he'd rather her date you [his best friend] then some randomer from like her school that he doesn't know! =] Hope I helped.

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where can i find an esoteric algorythm? i love those!!

Searched on google for you.
Is this what you wanted?
http://www.wsabstract.com/script/pastlife.htm

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a lot of my friends have drifted away. what are some activities/ things i can do to get them back and let them know i still care?

Plan like a party night type thing. Like on a Friday or somethin get everyone to meet at a movie theatre or your house. And have like a small get together when yall can spend time together. :)

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Okay i need the answer to this riddle please!!

You are stuck in a room with no windows or doors. a solid room. Only things in this room is a mirror and a table. how do you escape?

It really got me thinking and i can't seem to find out the answer. If i think you got it right then i`ll give you a 5. but if you try i`ll give you a 5 also!! =D thank you

Hah I hate that riddle. My friends used to ask me that all the time. It's: Look in the mirror, see what you saw, pick up the saw, saw a hole in the table and climb through the hole!
EdiT: Trust me, I'm right, the guy above me obviously has no idea what he's talking about. Besides they basically are the same thing, you use the hole to get out. But whatever :P

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hey i have a question for all guys: are guys turned off by big feet? i wear a size 8 1/2, and so i was just wondering. thx for all answers, i'll give all NICE answers 5s! ♥

Haha. Guys aren't turned off by big feet. Besides, I wear a size 8, and they aren't big. So don't worry about it. You have perfect size feet for a girl.

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Does anybody know about Zeno?

How effective is it?

Does it hurt?

Omgosh! You know what Zeno is! My friend uses that thing, and like no one else even knew what it was, hah that's so funny. From what she used to say about it, she said it hurts like at the beginning, the first couple times you use it. You just have to get used to the feeling, and it gets all hot. She also said it is very effective & if you use it as many times as your supposed to daily then you'll get good results, but if you don't do it atleast 3 times a day, then the pimple won't go away fast. She also said when she started using it her skin peeled, but her dermetologist said that was just a skin reaction, and it's bound to happen when you first start using something your skin isn't used to being in contact with.

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I am a 13 year old girl...
ok there is this guy...i like him but i dont know if he likes me...i dont know what to do cause i do not want to ruin our friendship...most of my friends say he likes me too cause i normally have something of his (hoodie, chain necklace, ect.) What should i do?

.*.Kel.*.

Get one of your friends to ask him if he likes you. Like just get one of them to go, "Why's __ wearing your necklace? Do you like her or something!?" Or online, like if yall have AIM or something, then make a differ. screename pretending to be someone ele & just ask him questions. If he let's you wear his hoodies and necklaces, he likes you!

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ok my best friend is moving and it is realy hard because we have been best friends and neighbors forever what can i do =(

That happened to me too when I moved. I left all of my best friends, and it was definitely hard. I'm just keeping in touch with them by writing them letters. Because, I hate talking on the phone. =P But anyways. I'm sorry about your friend moving, But seriously, just make sure you keep in touch with her.

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So Im thinking about getting a digital camera from my grandparents for christmas...but it has to be under 180 dollars, and I dont know anything about them, so could you guys and girls give me some suggestions on nice ones..THANKS and I rate lots of FIVESS!!5's!!!

Ohh, digital cameras are my specialty. =)

I have a camera right now, and it's HP it's the best digital camera that you could possibly get, especially when you just start out with one. My camera costed me around $125, but costed my friend $105 from Walmart. & If you're looking for a cheaper camera, you should really try HP. I'd suggest looking at this site as well: http://www.shopping.hp.com/webapp/shopping/generic_subcategory.do?storeName=storefronts&landing=storefronts&category=digital_cameras&subcat1=see_all&catLevel=2 - it has many different cameras under the price of $180. Also, you type in google.com & put "best digital cameras under 180$" and see what comes up!

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Hi everyone!

I feel terrible. Allow me to explain. I'm Todd, and I'm 15. A friend of mine (female) was cutting herself and that she was really depressed. I went to the counselor at my school to make sure that she didn't do anything hurtful (like suicide).

When she came back the next day after I told the counselor, I found out that she was on a new anti-depressant: Zoloft.

On Friday, I found out that the principal called her down and said that she wouldn't be allowed back in school unless she had a note from her psychiatrist. She told me she might be out for a while. :-(

Some of my friends said I shouldn't tell the counselor (on the day before I told the counselor), but my parents and several people said that I should. I was pretty nervous, and I didn't want her to commit suicide or do anything terrible.

I feel terrible, like I made her go away. ;-( She's not sure when she'll be back, but I feel like I committed a crime or killed someone. :-(

I'm also afraid of what my friends might say when I go back to school tomorrow. Most of all, I feel terrible since I won't see her, and I don't know how long I won't see her either. :-(

Any comments, advice, please feel free to say so.

Thanks,
Todd

You did absolutely nothing wrong! You're just saving your friends life. My friends & I were in the same position, my friend was saying how she cut herself and would do it again if she failed a subject because her parents would bitch at her! So we told the counselor because we cared about her and didn't want her to do something that bad to herself.

My advice to you about tomorrow, if your friends even say anything to you about it, then just ignore them. Seriously, it's not worth it at all, you did what you thought was best. Which is the road everyone else would've taken. Just think, if you wouldn't have told the counselor, she might be dead right now. There's always those IFs. but Seriously you did the right thing. :)

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To start off, im 13 female.

i really need your help..

i dont live with either of my parents,i live with my grandparents, because my mom was a addicted to drugs and my dad was addicted to sex ( with other people besides my mom ) well they never got married, it was like a 1 night stand thing. and of course i myself was a mistake. < im over that now... any ways the judge guy said that me and my sister ( who is almost 16 ) are not allowed to live with her or be alone with her ( one time when i was two, my grandmaw was in the back yard playing with me and my sister and i was in the grass a little farther from them and my mom came , she was high, and she came through the gate and took me and i was gone for 2 1/2 months and then my mom went to jail i dont know what for though but then this lady brought me back ). that was like when i was little. any ways i always hang out with my mom now, and she has her life mostly staightened out but she still has her liscense suspended and isnt allowed to drive ( sometimes she still does ) well i have been places with her alot and she was talking on the phone with this guy she lives with and she was like walking away from me when she was talking to him and she was like i need some and i heard him say need some what and she was like you know what i am talking about and then she didnt kno i heard her and so she was through talking to him and she hung up.. well today i spent the night at her house and we went to the gas station at like 8 in the morning, ( she was driving ) and then she called this guy on the phone and her exact words were " i need four" and he was like alright come over and get them and so we went to his house but she made me stay in the car and she went inside and was gone for like 10 minutes... well i think shes into drugs again and i think she is cheating on her boy friend with other guys because when she got back she said " i had to talk to my other boyfriend " and it juss hurt me so bad knowing that she is doing all this.. well do you guys think shes into drugs again? im really worried.. should i juss wait and see where this all takes me or should i confront her, or go to my grandparents.. but i think they might not let me see her again if i do.. im soo lost! please help me.. i rate 5's

signed
- confused

That's so sad. Sometimes I think my life is horrible, but whenever people like you write stuff like this, it makes me sad. :/ Anyways, you need to stay away from your mom. It looks like she's getting into drugs, again and she's doing it in front of you, which is not setting a good example at all. You need to go to your grandparents and tell them what your mom has been doing, your own mother is putting you in a bad position, she could be like on drugs whenever she drives you around, and she's driving you around without a license, which is VERY bad. Tell your grandparents - right away.

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ok i'm 13 yrs old and kinda emmeresed to ask this buttt...my boy freind wants to finger me and i'm really scared cuz i have never been fingered b 4 and i'm just keep askin my self questions leik...will it hurt...will i cry ..and stuff liek that and i just don't know what to do ...can u help me pleaseeee...

I've never been fingered before, so I can't tell you what exactly your going to feel. I know that it will hurt though, and you may cry - but that's always going to hurt your very first time, so no need to worry about something like that. But from what my friends have said, it does suck your first time getting fingered, but after that it'll all be easy.

Don't do it with this boy if you're worrying though, make sure that YOU want him to do it before you let him, okay? Just don't give into pressure, and if you don't want to do it, say NO! :)

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Hmm... I guess this question may have been aked quite a lot but here it goes. I am currently a freshmen, and there is this very cute junior at my school. I see him every other day during lunch and he's always staring at me, and it's obvious that he's talking about me with his friends. Plus I know one of his friends and he has told me that the guy likes me. The problem is he never approaches me. Do you think I should try to make a move or play it cool and wait for him to say something?

You should definitely make a move. If you think he's attracted to you then definitely. =) Just think, if he likes you and you totally ignore that and not go up to him and find out later on that he used to like you, but likes someone else. You'll regret it. Definitely make a move, fast! :)

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what are some good advice columnists on this site?

Haha ME!
Just kidding. Personally to me, one of the good columnists on this site is; Mackenzie. But that's just my opinion. I guess you could just look around in Browse Columnists & stuff, and put 5 as the top rating, so you can get the absolute best columnist. Or just look around in peoples columns and see what advice they give.

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I want to download limewire because I've heard you can get free downloadable music from it.. but I don't know if it's safe, and I don't know if I'll get in trouble with the law or anything for using it. Does anyone have any experience with it or any advice whether to download it or to not?

Hey. I used to use Limewire until my computer decided to break on me, but it wasn't Limewires fault but I haven't redownloaded it. You can't get in trouble with the law or anything. But no music downloads like Limewire and others are safe, they are illegal. But you won't get into trouble. The only people that can potentially get into trouble are the Limewire owners. But I definitely reccomend it. It's probably the best I've ever used. It's much better then Kazaa & Napster. Also, I reccomend WinMX.

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Ok. I have this friend from Canada and I Imed her and her aunt 'supposeofly' said that she passed out and then about an hour later i got back online and she said she didnt know who I was. I think she is lying. How Can I tell???

Haha, she is lying to you. I used to do that to my internet friends all the time. Hah, there's no way that she can pass out & like forget someone in an hour. Besides, I doubt she would've remembered her aunt or anything. Or how to use a computer, or what AIM is. :)

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i have 2 best friends and we all hang out all the time but my two best friends have known eachother longer and they tend to leave me out ALL the time! Its annoying, it comes to the point where i dont want to hang out with both of them at the same time. When they arent together and im just hanging out with one of them its is soooo much fun! i have already talked to them about it so that wouldnt work...any suggestions?

I used to be in the exact same position. My advice to you; is to find new friends - seriously. That's what I did and they stopped being friends anyway so we all went our seperate ways. Or, you can pick one of them out that you like the most and start hanging out w/ her more. OR, you could just join them. Invite them both over to your house & both of them out places with you. Trust me, it'll work & you guys will definitely get closer.

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