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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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My boyfriend's parents are divorced because few years ago, his dad cheated on his mom and later she did the same too. But they still live together to raise him. If his father did that, would my boyfriend be like his dad in the future? I am worried about this in a way because i know he is being faithful to me but there's a saying "Like father, like son." You just never know what would happen later in the future.

Just because his father did it doesnt mean he will there probly is a less of a chance now of him doing it because of the way he saw his mother hurt when his father did that. It all depends of what type of person he is if he took it hard when he heard the news about his father i dont think you have anything to worry about. Best of luck

Hey people,

There's this guy I really like from Uni for over 2 years now, but he's not the dating type as it seems as he's quite focused on studies. We're med students. The thing is we're kind of friends, i've done a lot for him as a friend, so it's more of a one-wayish thing. but he's really nice, it's not a love-at-1st-sight thing, cause i fell for him months after we met. It sort of developed into this really crazy thing and it's driving me nuts.

I'm not in the same batch anymore due to certain circumstances and I really miss him so much. We went on a trip to a fun park once, and when i refused to go on the scariest ride there, and I said I'd die if i go on that, he said, "I'll die with you", but it was really soft and I dont know if it was a random thing or he meant it..i've no clue.

I talk to him online sometimes, i usually say hello first. He never says hello first, even when we meet. I really cant read him, need some help..

Acc to our common friend, he said I take the effort to dress well and look good etc.. so that means he notices me, right?
I thought he couldnt care less about me.

THe thing that's bothering me is, the last time i logged on MSN, he signed off 5 mins later, it sounds really immature, but I'm quite affected by it.

I've fallen way too hard for him and it's the first time i'm feeling this way for someone, but how do I know what he feels? it's really hard causeof the small things he does like the MSN thing for instance..

The reason for him not being the first to talk both on the computor or up close is because he can be shy or he doesnt want to bother you. As for the MSN it can be that he doesnt notice that your on or he doesnt want you to think he is waiting for you to talk to him. I think he likes you you should tell him how you feel if it doesnt work out you cant say that you didnt try and im sure you wont lose him was a friend. Best of luck hope everything works out

so heres the deal

ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off.. im really in love with him and this weekend was crazy.. friday we stayed in a hotel 2gether.. and we hang out all the time.. i live in missouri and he lives in illinois. he comes and picks me up all the time.. he calls me his shawty..

the thing is, hes bout 2 b locked up.. hes turnin himself in about 2 weeks.. im waitin on him.. hes not going in for something real bad, it was a big misunderstanding and hell be out real quick.. should i stay with him????/
thanks=]]

If the reason for him going to jail was something as small as a misunderstanding then there is no reason to break up with him. Best of luck

whats an online relationship?
like i know its a relationship online, but what consists of it?
Like do you meet the person online?
What goes on?

A online relationship is when you stumble upon a good person over the internet most likely find common interests one of them tells them how they feel like they want to be more then friends basically asking you out but its more complicated since its long distance most of them time. Online relationships are very difficult to work unless both are committed. What i like about online relationships are that people look at you for whats on the inside not on the outside. So if you do ever get into one don't be embarrassed to say it. I know plenty of people that are. I hope i didn't leave anything out. Also if you do get into one be careful there are a lot bad people out there try not to give more information about yourself then you have to.

First of all, I'm a musician....sort of.
I write and record my music and I love it.
Many people, some that I don't even know,
have said that its good...check it out at garageband.com "4xWise" and judge for yourself.
OkOk let me start again.. I'm a Mixed Martial Artist....sort of. I train and fight in local competitions and I love it. The team I train with tells me I'm pretty good at it.
I have a fulltime job and a family so there is not enough time to do both full on and I'm tired of goin halfway with it. Thats why that song isn't as good as it could be.
Every time I do one I wish I was doing the
other. I can't make up my mind.
The wife of course, wants me to stop fighting
saying that I'm getting old. I'm 29. I love MMA.
You could win 8 fights and almost open your own school.
Then theres nothing like it when your creativity
starts flowin and your ideas come together......
..... Whatdya think?

It all comes down to what you like doing most and also take your wife into consideration if she has a big problem with your fighting then i recommend that you choose music over fighting. PS your music is really good. The best of luck

Ok , when i get really mad i studder my words to where i have to say it over like 3 times to say it right & it makes me look stupid because im not use to getting really mad at someone , & usualy when im mad at someone im by my self so i dont have to say anything . But when im talkin and argueing with someone in person or on the phone i make my self look like a total idiot and their like laughing and like wtf you cant even talk right ! its so embarrising but its only because im so mad i cant think straight & i aint use to going off like that on a regular basis

any help to make it flowwww

I had the same problem a while back what i did was go over in my head what i would say when i was mad. not when your in the situation when your by urself. Best of luck it might take a while to get your words to flow together. Also if you are talking really fast that can also be a reason slow down when you talk.

on tv (the news) i saw this screensaver that you could buy its like a dog licking the inside of the screen, its sooo cute and i really wanna get it, does anyone know where to get it?
thanks:)

i found one but its for a cell phone here is the website http://www.rap-ringtones.co.uk/gb,cell-phone-screensavers,cat-L2410009,licking-pets.html sorry i couldent find one for a computor.

16/f. my friend, 15/f...one of my best friends...has changed a lot since this year. reasons: i got a boyfriend and she didnt. i developed more and she didnt. stuff like that.
now, she's very mean towards me. she mocks me, she makes fun of me..and i cant trust her anymore. when she asks me to tell her something, i trust her with my secrets...and so i tell her.
she goes to her OTHER friends...and tells them everything i told her. even after i told her not to. she has a big mouth and is very obnoxious. she's turning into a bitch and i cant do anything about it. she even told me thatt she was jealous.
i cant have a person like that around me. yet..its so hard to end a friendship, but i feel that if i dont...she will hurt me so much in the end.
what can I do?

Let her know that she is hurting you and you would greatly appreciate it if she stopped. If she doesn't seem too care you shouldent have a problem dropping her as a friend well it doesn't even seem like she is a friend.

like when your going to type the website your going to. in that little box thingy, yeah well how do you get the websites that you have been to, not to show up. Because some of my friends make fun of me or something, because i go to websites like these, or jsut other websites. And, that leads to me, being afraid of letting them on my computer, because i'm embarresed. Please help me, because i've seen computers that are like that. Thank-you!

It depends what kind of internet you are using if you are using internet explorer go to start control panel then category general delete browsing history . If you are on mozilla firefox then it is alot more simple go to tools up top where it says file and edit and stuff then go to clear private data and click on clear private data now. hope i helped

I need some. Preferably emo/screamo/metal/rock, etc.

Bands that i like that are emo and scremo are...
Underoath and scary kids scarying kids. hope i helped

what are some really good flirting tips that would make a guy want you really bad....theres this boy i really like and i wanna kinda catch his eye you know....please help!
thanks
jess

Show confidence Lead the conversation when you talk to him and find common interests. Best of luck

15/f

when a guy asks for your number, after you give it to them are u supposed to ask them what their number is also??

Yes you should if you want to get to know him better if you don't he is gunna think that your just being nice and feel sorry for him.

i am not fat. i know that. however i have what my mom likes to call a "buddah belly" which is like the area where my belly button is a bit big. ive tried crunches and ab work outs. is there a certain diet i should start? or a specific work out that will make my stomach flat? i would really love to get in shape before summer =] thanks so much !

I don't recommend a diet. Unless you have been eating to where you get full if you do then eat what you normally do but just enough to hold you until you will eat again. On the workout just keep working on abs crunches, situps, leg lifts. start out doing 3 sets of each (25 of each 3 times) then just keep going up every other day in sets. Don't work out every day 3 times a week is good. Best of luck

hmmmm..im thinking wether or not to have sex with somone i dont really like. but he likes me. what do you think?

I think you should wait get to know him better maybe you can like him but just don't know it yet. If you do have sex with him now it just makes things complicated for the both of you even if you don't plan on having a relationship. Best of luck

Okay so prepare yourself for some nasty. When I poop it hurts so bad. I usually don't cry. Like when I broke my finger I never cried, but when I poop I cry. It hurts way bad. After it's over it makes me bleed. I told my doctor and she didn't do anything. She just said my poop is too hard and it's causing me to bleed. It rips my skin at times. Is this really serious or should I toughen it out? I'm also 16/f. If that says anything.

The only thing i can think of is that you don't have enough fiber.

15/f/sophomore

alright so we have a dance in a couple of weeks called the Snow Ball. i havent been to a school dance since 8th grade. i'm not ugly, and im really outgoing, and i have friends. and its not that i cant find a date or anything. its just that..i dunno..its just i think i cant handle all the things you have to get done (make up, dress, etc) to go to a dance, and then when you get there, all the people you see, and it's so crowded, and even when im surrounded by my good friends i feel totally alone...

so usually on dance nights i stay at home by myself and just watch tv or something just to distract myself from the fact that all my friends are at school having fun while im at home doing homework or something. and when my friends ask where i was that night i just say that i had to go visit my aunts, or i was sick, or i had to baby sit, or i went to new york for the weekend, or whatever excuses i can come up with..

i wish i could be able to go out and have fun at dances, but i dunno if it just comes down to bad experiences from my 8th grade dance, because that was back when i wasnt as umm "popular" as i am now and i spent most of my time hanging out with people that were friends of my (few) friends.

anyway so i was wondering if this is normal? because lately ive been feeling..idk not self conscious, but kind of sad about it..and i feel lonely. or like..what can i do to have more fun at dances? please dont say "let loose and be yourself" because its kind of hard..arghh i dont even know if what im trying to ask has got across

It's normal that you don't like going to dances for some ppl its just not what they like to do. but if you still want to try. Do something that you like to do at the dance for example if you like to talk make conversation with someone dances are not all about dancing. Best of luck

13/f
I'm in middle school, 8th grade, and I need a 6.0 to go to high school. My school is year round. So first trimester I had a 1.8 and now, 2nd trimester I had a 2.5. History is my worst subject and I have a plain F. Then in Science a D. And all the rest is A's and B's. I am really trying to keep my grades up and trying to get the rest of my grades to go up. I've been trying to study for tests but what I study is completely off. And I really don't know what to do. I talk to my teachers but I don't understand. My friend is helping me with the rest of my classes that she has with me but she doesn't have history and science with me. I am really in trouble and I don't know what to do, I can't let my grades go any lower. Any idea's what to do? And any studying tips? Thanks a whole lot!

I had the same problem the reason why i didn't get what the teacher was talking about was the class room size to many student. I suggest tutoring go in after school so you can have one on one time with your teachers while your there im sure they can give you advice on studying. Best of luck

For the past month, I've been having problems with the right side of my lower back, my right hip and right leg. They hurt if I don't sit a certain way and it hurts to bend over. That's not really my main concern though because that happens to me on and off...usually just my back though.

My main concern is that every time I stand up, my right leg (from my thigh down to the tips of my toes) feels like it has a very painful heartbeat in it. It only lasts for a few seconds before subsiding. This happens every time I stand up after sitting down. Sometimes if I stand too long, it happens then too.

I can't seem to find anything about this on WebMD or any other site so I would greatly appreciate it if someone could help me with this. I have a history of having blood clots, if that helps any.

Thanks in advance.

I haven't had this problem or heard of this before i think you should just visit a doctor they always have the answers. Best of luck

Okay, so I scored a job interview!! I'm so excited.

This will be my second job interview, my first one was for my old job, you can tell I got the job.

I don't have a resume as I've only ever had one job and don't have any school achievements :(

What should I take, and what should I say? Should I remember my first job interview and remember what I did last time to score the job? (Answering HONESTLY, not lying or even exaggerating to get the job and trying to appear calm)

Just remember "dress for success" and show as much respect as you possibly can. Remembering what you said for your last jobs interview cant hurt. Best of luck.

i am 13 and i am a female and i have a problem because this boi says he dont like me to my best friend and that if aasked HER to call and ask him out for me then would he go out wit me and he said that is a great no and a hellllll naw because he said the main reason is i smoke and i told him i dont smoke i never did and he needs to stop listinin to rumors but he tells all my otha friends that he is single and he kinda likes me and he said it b4 right in front of my face!
so i dont know what to do and im really onfused ! can any1 help me! cuz i am clueless! thank you in advance!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You should hang out with him more often or start if you haven't already. He will see that the rumors are lies and that there is nothing wrong with you. Im sure in a couple of day he will ask you out. Best of luck

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