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Understanding Boys
Hey people,
There's this guy I really like from Uni for over 2 years now, but he's not the dating type as it seems as he's quite focused on studies. We're med students. The thing is we're kind of friends, i've done a lot for him as a friend, so it's more of a one-wayish thing. but he's really nice, it's not a love-at-1st-sight thing, cause i fell for him months after we met. It sort of developed into this really crazy thing and it's driving me nuts.
I'm not in the same batch anymore due to certain circumstances and I really miss him so much. We went on a trip to a fun park once, and when i refused to go on the scariest ride there, and I said I'd die if i go on that, he said, "I'll die with you", but it was really soft and I dont know if it was a random thing or he meant it..i've no clue.
I talk to him online sometimes, i usually say hello first. He never says hello first, even when we meet. I really cant read him, need some help..
Acc to our common friend, he said I take the effort to dress well and look good etc.. so that means he notices me, right?
I thought he couldnt care less about me.
THe thing that's bothering me is, the last time i logged on MSN, he signed off 5 mins later, it sounds really immature, but I'm quite affected by it.
I've fallen way too hard for him and it's the first time i'm feeling this way for someone, but how do I know what he feels? it's really hard causeof the small things he does like the MSN thing for instance..
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Dont worry about small things like the event on MSN. Hes just naturally hard to get and (by what I can tell from what you wrote)slightly oblivious. The point is he actually notices that you dress well and look nice, which is a good sign that he pays attention to YOU. And the hello thing is actually kind of normal for guys like him. Im the same way. I dont say anything because I dont know if you want to talk to me. But when you do, the conversation goes.
And if you really want to try to read him, you need to hang out with him as much as possible. Study with him, ask him to do assignments with you, get him to help you with your education, because it seems that his head is within learning overall. This might even let him realize what you think of him.
And if it really bothers you(the MSN thing) then its best to tell you thats probably a sign he knows and he doesn't know what to do. Because logic won't give him a good enough answer. So just let it go and continue on okay? Good Luck b^_^
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The reason for him not being the first to talk both on the computor or up close is because he can be shy or he doesnt want to bother you. As for the MSN it can be that he doesnt notice that your on or he doesnt want you to think he is waiting for you to talk to him. I think he likes you you should tell him how you feel if it doesnt work out you cant say that you didnt try and im sure you wont lose him was a friend. Best of luck hope everything works out
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You are reading way too deeply into things like clothing and msn sign offs. It's unhealthy and it will, if it hasn't already, make you very unhappy.
Either speak to the guy, invite him out for coffee or a 'study date' or SOMETHING. Or stop talking to him and keep yourself too busy to think about him.
You really need to either take a step forward and risk it, or give up. What you are doing right now will make you physically ill. There is NO way to know what he thinks until you push the friendship up a notch to see how he'll respond and/or to ask him straight up.
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