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i was talking to this guy that i have never seen him or heard him before. (his mom set us up) and i called him one night and four guys was talking to me like i was a peice of trash actually. They was asking me a whole bunch of questions, like what i was wearing and if i would have sex with them (except in a more pig-like manner.) And dont get me wrong i am not making an effort any more with him. But if he does call, which he probably wont, what should i say. I mean if talks like that with his friends, then he could talk like that all the time. And if i see him then what do i do? do i go off? cause i was really really mad. like i was crying because i was afraid of who or what i might hurt. i was shaking. and i just dont know why boys act like that and why they would want to talk like that to a girl. but what would i do in those scenarios? and would one consider the talk sexual harrasment? thanks
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Thankyou for your question.
Right, If I were you, I'd do the following:
*If he phones, simply don't answer or return any of his calls, or block his number.
*If you see him, ignore him. If he catches you up, tell him you're in a hurry/busy.
Why did they do it? Well, they probably thought they were being funny and showing off in front of each other.
Did they mean it? I'm guessing not. and probably didn't mean to make you feel the way you did - but they still upset you alot and there's really no excuse for that in the end.
Remember, not all boys are like that. and don't let that bad experience affect future boyfriends etc.
Finally, I wouldn't call it sexual harassment, because you're the one who called.. and they haven't made any effort to contact you since.
I know it's hard, but try your very best to forget about the whole experience.
You're better than that. and you deserve better than them.
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Well, I would suggest (if you have his mobile) texting him to see what hes like without friends, because sometimes a guy thinks this is the best way to get a girls attention, they dont always realise its affecting you.
But if on the other hand you really dont want to talk to him, then if he does ring, answer and say im sorry but i dont like the way you spoke to me last time so until i get an apology I dont want to hear from you again.
If you see him, then avoid him, if he comes over then ask him what he wants, and if its anything you dont want to answer, then walk off. You wont be hurting anyone.
Yes it is sexual harrassment, maybe you can mention it to his mum? Or anyone who talks to him? See if they can say to him that his behavious around you is not acceptable.
Underlining it I would say...
*Avoid him as much as possible physically, however if he phones/texts, then answer and ask for an apology, and sternly say until I get one I dont want to hear from you again, good luck <3 Marizzle x
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Hun, you really need to tell your mom what happened. That violates you in so many ways. It is verbal sexual harrasment. If that's the way this guy acts around his friends, he doesn't deserve you. If he calls, change your number or hang up. If you see him, walk away. Ignore him to the best of your abilities. You do not need a guy like that. He does not deserve your tears or anger. Let it go. Better yet, let him go.
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