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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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Ok so I'm 13 and I got my nails done about 6 weeks ago and I'm soo ready for them to come off. Two of them are really loose and some of my real nail is coming off with it and it hurts soo bad. My dad told me I couldn't have fake nails but I went out with friends and got them done anyway ( I know it was stupid) so now he won't give me money or take me to the salon to get them removed. He says it's part of my punishment for "disobeying him". Anyway, since I can't get them removed by the nail people I need to know if there is a way to take them off on my own without pulling them off because it hurts. Help please?

Well you should have listened to your dad, but if you go to the store and buy nail polish remover and make sure it does not say non accryllic they should desolve and come right off good luck and next time listen to your dad he only tells you things because he knows whats best and he is looking out for you

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i've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 months. we've been long time friends, and dated once before, but now its becoming more serious. lately, he's been getting tutored by his ex girlfriend. she goes over to his house, and he goes to hers all the time. they used to have a really close relationship, and now its getting back on track. he says i have nothing to worry about and he wont ever go back to her. i feel very jealous and insecure. i dont know what to do. please help.

If it is making you uncomfortable you should definatly say something about it. But you also need to trust him.. If he says you have nothing to worry about than most likly you dont have anything to worry about.. I am sure its hard but you would want him to trust you if it were the other way around.. Dont feel insecure if he would do anything to hurt you or mess up your relationship it wouldnt be your fault at all... good luck

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My boyfriend of 2 years.. left me for partying,and drinking.. and all that crap.. he was never like that, he used to be really clean, infact he used to make fun of people and hate people like that.. i dont know what to do, i cant write much because im so shocked and devistated.. i told him icant be with someone like that, and he chose it over me.. he keeps saying he loves me but he just wants to have fun.. i told him i cant have that stuff in my life.. thats just the kind of person i am, and were muslims by the way.. so in our religion this stuff is wrong.. and he knows that really well.. but im so heartbroken.. he changed so much, you dont understand how much hes changed.. i dont know what to do..will he ever regret dropping me for this? help..

Some day he is going to realize what a hugh mistake he made by leaving you.... you seem like a very nice girl and youre right you dont need that in your life you did the right thing... I know it hurts now but you can get through this... someday you will look back and it will only be a memory not pain... you are going to find a great guy who loves you and respects you and would never do something like this good luck and keep your head held high you got this

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I've been with this guy for a year. he's been nothing but good to me. He used to tell all his friends "She's the one." "She's the one i want helping me make a life." we're packing 'em up for college here in August.. I need help, before i can't get out.. I've lied to him. My friend was having a sleep over && we, kissed. i mean it was no make out or touching but (kiss).. I mean not horrible? && i haven't cheated.. But, i talked to my ex. He text(ed) me a time or two? i text(ed) back. I felt as if i had no other choice! he was trying to get to me threw my sisters.. once my boyfriend found out the my e was trying to get with me, he went & beat the snot out of him! when he found out i talked back to him.. he was pissed.. i mean.. he didn't even care if i wasn't flirting or not.. he didn't leave but, i know how bad he wanted to.. he says i'm a horrible person && that he has no more trust in me. i asked him the other day why he was still with me and he answered with, "cause." I'm not a bad person?.. everyone makes mistakes right?? why is he still with me??

He is still with you because he loves you and cares for you and your job now is to prove to him that you have changed and that he can trust you again... it may take a while but his heart is hurting and you have to fix it... now he should call you names but you shouldnt do that stuff again let him know that you love him and you want to change for him and work on your relationship before it gets worse and he does leave good luck to you

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I want to have sex. im a virgin and im tired of that. No lectures. How do i do it with this guy? We have made out before but long time ago so were not as close anymore.. any tips on how to ''seduce'' him haha.?
Oh and dont even bother lecturing me im not stupid. Im responisble.I dont need you to recite the reasons i shouldnt.
im just shy and not flirty. guys love me but in bestfriends way. I just want to have agood ol' hookup and dont know how to achieve that with my non outgoing non flirty personality..
Im Not ugly or fat either im just not looked at as a slut or someone you wanted that way.

You shouldnt want to have sex with someone just because you are "tired of being a virgin" it should be with someone you love and it should be special... if you just do it for the hell of it you may regret your choice later on in life... but if you are ready than just jet him know by either telling him, or kissing him and using sexual gestures but make sure that you use protection if you do not want to get pregnant good luck and i hope all goes well

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i lost my virginity when i was 13 with my first ex boyfriend. at first i was afraid of doing that act, but he really wanted to do it with me.. i couldnt resist him because i love him. so we had sex. we did it 3 times. but then i broke up with him. because i felt he really did not love me and he's just using me. i regret of letting him use me:( now i can't resist having sex with boys i like. at the age of 17 i already had 11 sex experiences. i always regret when i think about it. im so sad, i think im a slut but i dont want to accept it. im so sad:( i dont know what to do.. im afraid and hate to accept than no other guys would love me because of these past experiences. i wanna die :((((((((((((((

First of all having 11 partners does not make you a slut... if you dont want to have sex than just say no... if the boy doesnt like it he can move along and leave you alone... you are a wonderful girl and no one will hate you for your past.. Dont worry about what others think or say about you... and your virginity is something you can never get back but just because you lost it that doesnt mean you have to have sex now... good luck in the future

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I am of 16 and female....it my first love ever....i love him a lot and i know he love me too...but i dont what had happened to him, his reaction was changed suddenly....he always says i love u a lot and i cant live without u,u r too sexy, too beaution,amazing,etc.....i love him too...and i know i cant live without him....suddenly his reaction towards me changed and he started saying dont text me or dont call me by mistake also...i will change my no. And will never talk to u.....it hurted me badly....i love him madly....seeing his changed attitude made me cry....and made me to do hillarious things like cutting my hand with knife,etc.....i know he love me more than anything in the world but at the same time i cant bear his changed behaviour too.....please give advices....i need u all... Thank you!

You are only 16 and you think that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with... that could happen but its highly unlikly... sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel... he doesnt need to be treating you bad like this... if he doesnt agree and change his ways then its time to move on you are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you this wont be the last of love for you he either needs to be a better boyfriend or get lost stay strong best wishes for you

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18/f
I have been seeing an ex again and he makes me happy (he is only an ex because i fell out with im his sister) very happy but my parents hate him so much. i want to be with him and like wise but he said to me 'i want to be with you but not as a secret, let me know when u have told your mum' what am i to do tell her and win him or dont tell her and loose him?

You dont have to be afraid to tell your parents about your love.. But when you tell them try to understand their feelings maybe they feel like this boy is taking you away from them... let them know that no matter what you will always be their little girl and you love them.. also remind your boyfriend that he needs to respect your parents and earn their respect... he needs to treat you well and be kind and they will in time see that he is right for you good luck

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I like my bestfriend who happens to be dating my other bestfriend:/ I feel like I'm betraying my bestfriend just by liking her boyfriend. I've had this "connection" with him for 2 years now but it just never lead to anything serious like a relationship. He flirts with me and it's obvious he has feelings for me. But he's dating my bestfriend and I would never do that to her. I don't know what to do. I had my chance with him last year but I let time go and now I'm his "best friend for life" as he calls me:/ what can I do? Tips on how to get over him? Thank you:)

Best answer I can give is just let it go... It is okay to be attracted to someone, but if that someone is taken you dont want to get involved... Let the friend that you like know that it is not fair for him to flirt with you when he is with someone else and try not to flirt with him.. You can all still be friends but you have to respect the girl he is with and take a step back... who knows maybe if they dont work out she will be okay with you giving it a try with him but dont ruin your friendship by trying anything with this man good luck hope all works out

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I am 19 years old and have never had anything remotely close to a relationship. I completed my first year of college without anything even resembling a romantic encounter.

I know I am not unattractive. In fact, I know for a fact that there are guys out there who are attracted to me.

Honestly I feel as if I know why nothing has happened for me. I'm shy, quiet, and avoid conversation with the opposite sex. I just don't feel comfortable with most guys, and it causes me to try brush them off as fast as I can so I can get out of an awkward situation.

Does anyone have any tips?

You dont just want to settle for anyone but you also need to loosen up... relax.. all first conversations are a little off because both sides are nervous... and thats ok but dont just brush them off... try to be a little flirty, and fun to be around but dont take it to serious and act so silly you come off as childish I know it sounds complicated but its easy.. just take a deep breath smile and go for it you can do this :)

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Okay well he broke up with me and then later that night he said he acted stupid and asked if I would take him back. He also said he loves me and has loved me since two years years ago when we started talking. I'm so confused on what to do. So should we stay broken up or should I give him another chance?

You can give him another chance but move slowly back into it dont just let him walk all over you and think that you are a pushover and he can do or say what ever he wants with no consequences.. He has to know that he did hurt you and although you have forgiven him he needs to earn your trust back good luck :)

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I am from Kentucky. I used to date this guy named Braiden three years ago. We broke up because we couldn't get along and we were both too immature for a relationship at that point. However now he is in Afghanistan and we have both matured considerably since then. So we reconnected and decided that we still liked each other. I thought we were back on track and maybe going to talk about getting back together. The next thing I know he is in a relationship with another woman. When I asked him about it he said that he does not know what he wants. Then I decided to move on and see other people. He found out about it and got really angry. He said that if I loved him I would not be with anyone else yet he is still with another woman. He keeps saying he is going to leave her but he never does. Am I a fool to wait around? Why is he doing this?

Dont waste your time on that huni.. you are better than that and deserve to be treated better.. Talk to him and tell him this is how it is ... its either you or her... make him chose and if he dont leave her that same day within the same hour tell him to lose your number and forget you exist because its over .... dont let a man treat you less than what you deserve... you go ahead and move on with your life and find yourself a good man and show him you are better than him and his petty little games... good luck stay strong and dont wait for him

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What does it mean if a boy is ashamed of a girl he is dating or with?

It means it is time to break it off and move on you are better than that... He needs to treat you like the princess you are or get on with his life and leave you alone :) good luck

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My ex and I broke up about 4 months ago and we recently started talking again. We started texting again and we were friendly with one another. Then he became flirty and honestly, whenever we held those flirty conversations, those lasted the longest. He asked me if I wanted to continue being that way with him and I decided to test it and see if he had feelings for me and he told me that he has learned to control his feelings. Clearly that meant he's over me, or that he's trying very hard to. I don't know why he would ask me to do something like this. We did establish that we are very comfortable with one another but I only agreed because I wanted to see how far it would go. He was my first boyfriend and the only guy I've ever been really physical with and because we have broken up with issues, I'm not sure if I can be "friends with benefits" with him, but he seems to be completely fine. What does this mean? Oh, when we first started talking again, he did apologize for some of the stuff that happened in our relationship. But one of the last things we said to one other was that I didnt want to go on with the "benefits" part because I didn't want it hindering my feelings I would have for anyone else.

It seems as if you both still have some sort of feelings going on for eachother.. My advice is to wait a bit and see where it goes and if nothing changes or it gets worse than you should just remain friends or move on... but something might get better and more romantic, if something starts to change and you two become more romantically involved than sit down with him and talk to him about how you are feeling and decide if the two of you should take a step forward and become more serious good luck hope all works out for you and remember if it doesnt work out with him there will always be someone else waiting for you

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My friend wants to use a oujie board at a party we are planning. What are some things I should know about oujie boards and what are your beliefs on oujie boards. Also what are some legends on them and how would you use one? Thank you!!!

Not a good idea in my opinon... they are supposed to attract bad spirits and demons and if you try to communicate and you do attract something you gave it permission to be there to frighten you and even hurt you... my advice dont take the risk

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Ok so My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months, when we had our first kiss i felt something i never felt before, im guessing that's the spark, So we just kissed like normal (not making out ) then after 2 months of dating we decided to start making out, every since we started making out i dont feel the spark .... Is this normal, I love kissing him and all but i havent kissed him normally for a month now :/ i havent felt the spark for a month, should i tell him or... Can i make there be a spark when we make out ?

If you are not feeling "the spark" maybe its just not meant to be.. you dont want to stay in a relationship if you are not happy.. let him know how you feel maybe he is feeling the same way... best wishes to you and dont give up there is someone out there for you :)

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14/f

Summer break is finally here! I love visiting my family and going swimming and stuff, but every single one of my friends are out of town for the whole summer! I keep busy playing soccer four times a week, babysitting, and going to my cottage, but my dad keeps pushing me to do something with my friends and get out of the house more. It does get boring just lazing around the house all day.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can spend my summer?

Why dont you try going out and finding some new friends to hang out with!! You can also go swimming, go to parks, the ymca is fun... there is all sorts of things for you to do.. Maybe even get a group of neighborhood kids together and clean up the nieghborhood you could have fun make friends and make your dad very proud of you for making a difference... have fun !!

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I am almost positive I was raped but I am not 100%...About a year ago I was with my well now ex boyfriend and we had been dating for over a year...One day we ended up at his house and we were doing stuff...Well I always got really scared and wanted to cry so I was asking my "sex expert" of a friend what to do and she thought I was ready to have sex. I told my boyfriend this and he started pushing me to do so. He used everything he could to get me to give in from family, to religion, to friends, to if I really loved him...Even though before he said he would wait as long as I needed...Especially since from the start of the relationship I told him that I didn't want to have sex until marriage and he was perfectly fine with that. When I told him to give me to the next time I saw him so I could make sure I was positive and make it hopefully more romantic he got mad at me and was yelling at me that I was going to do what I normally do and back out then accused me of blue balling him all of the time and how it wasn't fair on his part. Eventually I screamed fine then went to the bathroom and cried a little then went back to his room and just gave in...Is this rape? We were fighting and I know he pressured me but I don't know what it is legally considered...I absolutely hate myself for what I did.

Sorry for this being so long

I dont think this would be concidered rape but it was definatly wrong. By you giving him consent or "giving in to him" made you willing.. But the fact that you told him you did not want it and even crying saying no should have made him back off... He had no right to pressure you into something like that.. If anyone ever tries to hurt you like that again just run away and dont stay in a relationship... you are better than this and I am so sorry for what happened to you good luck in the future and if you feel depressed or upset about the whole thing and you are not sure how to cope maybe you should try out some counceling best of luck

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I'm feeling ashamed of myself, because I've been thinking that I may have been sexually "abused" as a child. My father is an alcoholic & is a violent & careless person when he drinks. I am the youngest and only girl. When I was younger than 8, my dad would watch soft-core porn while I was in the room. Sometimes he would make me put my blanket over my head. Typically, I was in a different seat than him, so he wasn't touching me. My dad has always been blunt and open about sex or sexuality to us kids. Once when I was in bed between my parents after a nightmare, he reached over and squeezed where I would have breasts had I been old enough & squeezed my vagina. Not sure if he was asleep or not, but it scared me badly. He's always made comments about my breasts, even when I didn't have any. I had a recurring nightmare as a child of being sexually molested by a teenage boy in a public setting. I have a lot of anxiety issues, suffered from severe depression, & have had suicidal thoughts since I was in elementary school.

I'm extremely ashamed of myself for even considering that I may have been sexually abused as a child. I know my dad loves me and wouldn't be upset to be accused of such a thing. I have sexual problems & have always had major self-esteeem issues. I don't want to think that I was sexually abused if I wasn't. I don't know that I was touched or assaulted and most of this happened before my 8th birthday. I am now 30. I was date raped by an acquaitance in my own home when I was 22.

Does it sound like legitimate abuse, or am I just being too sensitive? I don't want to belittle legitimate abuse by making an accusation when it's not really abuse. I appreciate genuine, thoughtful responses.

I am so sorry to hear this... You were such a young girl when this happened.. Your dad touching you like that is molestation... Obviously this is hurting you and effecting you. My advice to you is go do some counceling you need to talk about it and find methods to cope... best of luck to you

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OKay! I Think I am In love With My Ex And I never Made out with anyone.Well The Other night he stayed the night with my brother and he told me to come down stairs so i did we cuddled and we made out he is a smart ass and i just dont know what turns on smartasses:P Please Help:)

Well if you really want to know what turns him on maybe you should try asking him.. Who knows you could make a fun game out of it, he tells you his turn ons you tell him yours lol good luck

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