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He wants me to wait around while he dates other women?
I am from Kentucky. I used to date this guy named Braiden three years ago. We broke up because we couldn't get along and we were both too immature for a relationship at that point. However now he is in Afghanistan and we have both matured considerably since then. So we reconnected and decided that we still liked each other. I thought we were back on track and maybe going to talk about getting back together. The next thing I know he is in a relationship with another woman. When I asked him about it he said that he does not know what he wants. Then I decided to move on and see other people. He found out about it and got really angry. He said that if I loved him I would not be with anyone else yet he is still with another woman. He keeps saying he is going to leave her but he never does. Am I a fool to wait around? Why is he doing this?
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Im sorry to tell you this but yea, you are a fool for waiting around. If he hasnt left her yet he is not going to. Basically hes just stringing you along purposely to make you suffer. Don't wait around there is no use in it.
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Dont waste your time on that huni.. you are better than that and deserve to be treated better.. Talk to him and tell him this is how it is ... its either you or her... make him chose and if he dont leave her that same day within the same hour tell him to lose your number and forget you exist because its over .... dont let a man treat you less than what you deserve... you go ahead and move on with your life and find yourself a good man and show him you are better than him and his petty little games... good luck stay strong and dont wait for him
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Deep down, you really know the answer to this question, but it's just so hard to follow through because your heart is involved. So, let's play the "what if" game...
What if you wait for him and he finally leaves the other girl...do you think she will be the last one? You may think it's a different situation because he is away, but you are establishing a pattern in your relationship, and once a relationship pattern is established, they are damn-near impossible to break. Even if the two of you do get together, there will be so many scars, lead-ons, and painful memories that you will have to work out before you have even really gotten started. If he doesn't want you to be with anyone else, he shouldn't be with anyone else--period, no excuses, and no bull.
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This is an unusual question to answer. If your friend was home with you and asking this of you I would say tell him to go to h-ll. He is not at home, he is in a war zone and this does make a difference. If the women he is dating is a citizen of the country he is in or a member of one of the services fighting there that needs to be factored in as those romances never or rarely out live the deployment.
Alone in a war zone, not knowing what tomorrow will bring or if there will be a tomorrow you take your pleasure where and when you can find it. Is this right? Should you be angry? Is it right for him to ask you to be chaste and wait for him?
The answers are probably not, yes you should be and probably not. I know not real answers but this is a surreal situation. There is one part to of the equation missing for me to make a better answer. Who is this women and where is she.
Your situations are entirely different. No matter what he says he has to be scared, he is not in a safe place and all soldiers get lonely, especially when they are scared and in harms way. You on the other hand are safe and just lonely.
You have every right to be upset with him. Though by understanding his situation you may be able to temper your anger some. For either to ask the other to wait and be chaste is probably wrong as you are neither married or engaged to each other.
I don't have an answer to give you. All I can do is suggest you put everything in perspective and then decide what is best for you.
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I think he knows what he wants and obviously it's her because if he really wanted you he would be with you and not her and if he really didn't know what he wanted he wouldn't be with anyone until he knew which one of you he really wanted to be with. I think he just getting mad because he can't stand the fact of you being with someone else but it's not right for him to be able to do it and not you. You should do whatever you want like he is and if he comes around handle the situation but if he still sees other people then sweetie you should definitely move on and not waist your time on this guy because you never know if you could find someone better.
I hope this helped and feel free to ask for more advice. :)
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