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16/f, senior in high school, member of the marching band. Last year, there was a guy not to many people liked in the band, he had the most enormous ego and to me, that made him ugly inside and out. He even told me he wished I would stop breathing, from then on, I hated him. This year, however, he is the drum major and he is so nice. I don't know if he feels he has to because he is the leader of the band but he is also being nicer to me, I feel a little nicer to me than anyone else. Whenever we go from set to set, we do something called "the minus one" and he doesn't start the next set until everyone's doing the minus one, I don't do that, though and he doesn't care, like he lets me slide with things I don't want to do. He also follows me around on the field when we are marching and 80% of the time we are setting on our spots, he comes over to my section to see if we're okay and right. I am a woodwind player and he was a brass player, he should have been helping the brass but he was setting my section instead. I also seemed to have noticed when we are not doing run throughs and he is off the podium down on the field with us, he is near me an awful lot almost critiquing my marching ability. Do you think he is like this because he's the drum major or does he maybe have a thing for me? I don't see how he can be the biggest dousche bag and then change to a complete "charmer" after just a few months. (link)
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People can change with just little things,. Like maybe one of his friends snapped on him one day and said smarten up.,
You should give him a chance because people do change.
If you like him or wouldn't mind hanging out with him then ask him.
He does seem like he is a really nice guy now.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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i like this guy and my friend likes him to but she told me to go for if..
but then when i tryed she got mad..even tho she didnt to me befor...what should i do ? :o (link)
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First of all you need to talk to her,. your girl code is not very much intact.
You all three should hang out and see who he likes. But like the previous Advicer said. What is more importand a guy or your friendship.
In a case where two friends like the same guy,. No matter what, someone will get hurt. But you just need to talk to her.
If she said go for it,. Then that was her giving an ok for you. so she should be more mad at herself then you.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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im 19 and i plan on going to college for hotel management and that sort of thing.
what kind of par time jobe could i get while im studying in this field?
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start by applying to your local hotels,. That will at least get your foot in the door. If you put on your resume your currently taking a hotel management course in college they might be more intersted.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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Hi. I am 20 year old girl from India. This might take a bit long for you to read, so please have patience. I have been friends with a guy of my own age from the past 3 years and we still are really good friends. The problem is that we have been pretty intimate with each other all this time. No, we haven't gone all the way yet but yes, we have been quite close to that. He makes the first move whenever something happens and I just go with it after resisting for a few minutes (and that too never seriously). I let him do whatever he wants to me, just that I've never let him have sex with me. Now, the thing is that, we both aren't in the same cities. He visits often and whenever he's here he lets me know and we go out. I never call him up or text him whether he is in my city or not. He's the one to do it and i reply back to him only when i feel i want to. He takes me out for long drives, lunch/dinner, movies, strolls, etc. He's never shy/afraid of introducing me to any of his friends. He never lets me pay any bills even when i insist to. He has let me in his flat in my city. We have a lot of interests and hobbies in common as well. But that's the only part where i restrict everything to. I never try to sacrifice anything on my part when it comes to meeting him. If i find the time unsuitable for us to meet, i just wholly dismiss our meeting without even trying to make any adjustments or compromises. I have never let him meet any of my other friends, not even one! Neither have i told any of my friends about him. Maybe this is because (here comes another twist) i stole this guy from a very good friend of mine. Not as a boyfriend though, a crush (quite big one!). I have never let him come to my flat ever. I just clearly refuse it when he asks me to. Once he met me after a very long time and told me that he had a Girlfriend now but was having some problems with her and wanted me to help him solve them. I was very pissed listening to this and didn't feel like talking to him or letting him touch me at all! Still I tried talking about it with him. After a month i came to know that he had broken off with her and i came back on the same track i earlier was on and lured him into doing things with me in his car. Again, i didn't let him go all the way.
There has been a long gap since we met now. I totally avoided being in contact with him during summer vacations without giving him any reasons. And in that period of time, i made an actual boyfriend whom i like talking to and everything and never ever try avoiding him at all. But, this new guy, he won't get intimate with me i know. He's not that type. So its clear that he ain't gonna make any moves on me and i'm not the type to make the first move by myself. Now, after a few days, the previous guy whom i was talking about all this time, is coming back. And i know by all means that i want his company and that too in every way possible, even physically. Its getting difficult for me to avoid him now and i dont wanna lose my boyfriend also. I can't tell either of the guys about each other. I wanna know why is this happening to me? Why am i feeling so guilty about all of this? Its not just this time that i am feeling guilty, it has been throughout the past 3 years. Sometimes, i think that i should keep my boyfriend, love him and care for him and keep him unaware of my friend. And for my physical needs, i should rely upon my friend. But then, i know, this would be very wrong from my side. But i just can't control myself. This could mean i would have to lose one of the guys. But i don't wanna lose any one of them. What should i do to get rid of this guilt? I'm not a bad girl, trust me! I'm really very confused and I don't have any idea what to do and still be happy. I am being too selfish, right? Please suggest something to me soon. And please try to keep it somehow in my favour as i'm sick and tired of compromising my life for others' sake now 'cause always it has been me only who has been at loss in life. Now I just want to keep myself happy anyhow but yeah, without feelng guilty about anything.
Tell me, what exactly should i be doing? (link)
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You have lead your friend on. Because of the fact your very distant and you won't introduce him to your friends won't take himm to your place,. I would say you are using him for stuff. Which is SO WRONG.
But when he got a Girlfriend and came to you with his problems cuz he wanted your help. You got pissed of because he isn't available to you anymore. He is with someone else.
The fact that you have a bf and are contemplating CHEATING ON HIM means you don't love him and you don't want to be with him,. If you really loved him you wouldnt be thinking about anyone else but him. I honestly think you don't deserve either of them. Because of the fact that you are contemplating cheating on one of them and using the other.
But if you want to settle this,. just write a list for each guy,. what you like about them what they do to make you happy and what you don't like about them, and what they do that doesnt make them happy.
Now look at which list has the most likes and the least dislikes. That way you can truly figure out which one you actually want.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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Does any one hear about xbox 360 key (also called x360key)? Now this item is pre ordering on Fyygame, it is said that x360key will allow you to play all Xbox 360 you have saved on any USB reader or external Hard Disk. What is it ? When will this xbox 360 key be launched?
The webpage about x360key:
http://www.fyygame.com/lp/x360key/
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I have never heard of this before.
But it is almost the price of an xbox 360. SUre it looks like a great deal but you have to becareful when buying stuff online,., It could be a fake that looks like the real thing.
I would wait till you see it in stores as it seems fishy to me.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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I was with this guy for 1 year and 8 months, no details.. all you really have to know is that we were best friends/lovers/brothers/sisters/ basically everything to the other person.he ruined it completely, he was confused , wanted his freedom, and basically threw me out of his life, i wouldnt leave him alone until one day i jus did, i didnt contact him for a month, and he came back saying he regrets it, and hes sorry and i told him i dont trust him, and i dont know who he is anymore, and all that.. but i said maybe i can try and trust you, and hes been working hard to gain my trust and now we always talk, he totally broke my heart, i felt like there was no reason to live after the break up, it was horrible, and idont know if me giving him another chance is right, my mind tells me everyone deserves a second change, and my heart tells me hes just gonna break it again, i dont know what to do, should i give it a try? or should i stop talking to him and tell him things will never be the same? alot of things happend between us, he lost my trust ALOT, im not just telling him this, i litteraly DO NOT trust him what so ever, maybe ill trust him again? should i give it a shot or would that be stupid going back to someone who hurt me? i dont know what to do, my heads all over the place, im a mess.. i cant be with him or without him, im so inlove with him not much people will understand it.. thats my FIRST question.. my second question is, i need tips to get over my jealousy issue completely, yes it sounds retarded hes never really been close to friends that are girls uptil we broke up, which was a huge mistake because its normal to be friends with the opposite gender, and if i want this to work i have to have to have to get over it and i dont know how, whenever i hear him calling his friend cool or "were so close" i get all jealous and pissed off and i KNOW its wrong, i just dont know how to get over this. Sorry if this was long. (link)
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For the First Question.
If you still have strong feelings for him,. Then you might want to try it again. But be very careful. Also Trust is something that is earned not given. It will take him a while before you can trust him. That is completely normal.
As for the jealousy. You must remember. HE is Dating you. Not them. You are his girlfriend not them. You have something they don't him. So don't worry.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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Ok so I'm 16 and my boyfriend is older. He is absolutely amazing, but I just feel like I can't compare to him. He always sends me cute things in texts messages and stuff, and I need to do that for him. But I just can't think of anything!! We are in a long distance relationship so things are hard enough. I don't wanna make them harder. So please help!! Thanks, anything will be greatly appreciated :)!!! (link)
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Just speak your mind.
Like i wish you were cuddling with me right now
Your so cute i could hold u in my arms all day.
If you have a thought just use it in a text:)
Hope this helps
~Jasmine*
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There is this guy and he is one of my really close friends,lets call him J, and he always talks/tells secrets to me and everyone thinks he likes me and so do i and one of my/his friends,lets call him B, asked me if i liked him and i said i like one person and i trust B so i told B i liked J and he asked me if J would ever ask me out would i say yes and i said yes and then B asked me if another one of my/our close friends, lets call him D, asked me out would i say yes and i was like ummmmmmmmm and i did like D a little bit and B waz like ohhhhhhhh you like D 2 and i was like jus a little bit and then B asked if he could tell one of our friends, lets call him P, and i said no but then he talked me into it so i said yes and the next day at school he asked if B could tell one of our other friends, lets call him F and we r all in a close friends group, and once again B talked me into it so he tolled F and later at lunch somehow everyone in our group heard bout it but not that i liked J and a little D and months before that me, D and J made a deal where we tell each other our secrets and in the lunchtime i was talking bout D came up to me and was like remember the deal we made were we tell each other our secrets and i was like ohhhhhhhhhhh so i let B tell D and then J really wanted to know and i was like but it would be awkward if u knew and B kept saying it wouldn't and J kept asking so after a while i just got B to tell J and J was like that isn't awkward and i dont mind and its ok because people like people and other people like other people then J was like i like emma and not me and that broke my heart because me and my friends really thought he liked me and i am in love with J and only sorta like D and it isn't strange around J or D but i am really sad he doesn't like me and cant get over it quick and easy because he is 1 of my best friends and see him everyday.
Plz help......!!!!!!
p.s i am in love. (link)
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First of all. it is nevery quick and easy to get over somone. It takes time.
Plus Your not in love. Your in puppy love,. It's were you have a strong crush on someone and really like them.
I know this because love is something that is formed over a long period of time of being with the person.
I would just play it off easy and if anyone asks Just say yeah you like him. But your not going to be sad or Upset because u are stronger than than and you don't need a guy to make you happy.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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Under 21 / f
This is a little about my past 4 years. I basically have not been sober for longer than a day or two in 4 years, whether it be pot, pills, shrooms, salvia, drinking,..etc. For the year 1/2 Ive been drinking everyday, quitting everything else. I think Im an alcoholic. Very 'functioning', but I do love to drink.
Now, I quit drinking because it was beginning to be a major problem. Im no longer friends with people, I got taken advantage of, binge drinking when Im out, and Ive been drinking every day. Ive taken the first step of not drinking. But now what?
All of my friends with an exception of a smallll few drink. My band drinks. Everyone. Im at a weak point where I dont want to perform at bars or chill with everyone drinking yet.
-Would AA really be helpful?
-When does the craving subside?
-From anyone with an addiction, is it possible to be around it and stay strong?
-Also I need help finding out how to have fun. I live in Palm Beach, Florida if that helps.
Im a good person, but I want to be the best person I can be. Please help:) (link)
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When you stop an addiction it can be very hard,. you don't necessarily have to drink when your band or friends drink. you can have a pop or suggest you do something else.
Constant drinking is not a good idea and i'm really happy for you that you did quit. That is the first step.
Just keep telling yourself that you don't need to drink to have fun.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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I'm 16 years old and I like this guy who is 2 years older than me. He works at the same place i do and goes to the same school as me. He is really shy and because i'm shy too, i struggle to show my emotion toward him. When people jokingly say "have you asked him out yet?" or when they say to him "have you asked her out yet?" we both just say "no" and act like we're not interested. We had to work together the other night and we talked for the first time, but i dont know if he's actually interested in me or not. What is your advice about how i can see if he likes me back and what i should say to him if we ever talk again? (link)
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Talking is the first step,.
You want to get to know him better and by talking to him you will do that.
Try flirting with him a bit,. Like if there's no one around and your walking by him say you look really good today and smile and then go back to what you were doing:) That will show that you are interested.
It seems that he might be interested.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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How to treat pinched nerve without spending money. What are working home remedies to treat pinched nerve in lower back? (link)
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http://www.buzzle.com/articles/pinched-nerve-in-lower-back.html
http://www.livestrong.com/article/24722-home-remedies-pinched-nerve-back/
Hope This helps:)
~Jasmine*
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so my step dad and mom live together ad married but wont say happily. just the other day we got in a argument and he called meh a bixxh and told meh he wants meh out his house im 16 and where am i supoze to go.. my mom said he cant put meh out but i want to go. the thing is just two years ago he had told my sister and my brother this and they moved now he tells meh. and im pretty sure hes going to tell my younger siblings this soon. the crazy part is that his dather iz 21 and she still lives there and he say i have to live when im 18 . how could i tell my mom he just dont like none of her kids and hes trying to get rid of us all (link)
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You should first talk to your mom about what he is saying and how you are feeling. If you are feeling pressured to leave you need to let your mom know. She obviously will not let you leave yet as you are only 16 yrs old. But if she does not know what is going on,. she MUST be informed.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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I'm 13/f,and I'm a cutter.I cut my wrist.I've cut it about 6 times.Whenever my mom asks what happened to my wrist,I tell her I was doing something,and got cut.She just says ok,and believes it.One day we were sitting at home,my brother and dad went to the store,and she was watching something on t.v.,and it mentioned something about if you have a teen who cuts.So she said she needs to check and see if I'm a cutter because of the cuts on my wrist.I really don't want to tell her,because when I cut,all my emotional pain is gone,and I'm happy.I feel that I should tell her,but I really can't.Should I tell her?Or should I keep it a secret? (link)
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Cutting is a serious issue. It is not a good way to get rid of the emotional pain. It may seem like a good idea at the time,. and release the pain for a short term. But won't erase it completely.
It would be a very good idea to talk to your mom about what's going on and what's making you feel like you need to cut. It is not a healthy way to solve things. It will be very scary talking to your mom about the cutting,. But that way you will have a supportive parent helping threw these issues instead of dealing with them on your own.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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I'm from india (link)
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Don't mind the previous advicer.. obviously this is saying your thinking about it and your from india.
So i ask you why are thinking about it,. what is making you lean towards that. and you must think about your friends and family. and all the people you have made an effect on.
sure life gets rough at times,. but that is part of our adventre on our path. if things weren't so hard then we wouldn't be learning anything and we would just be breezing through life with no concerns or worries.
So befor doing anything rash and extreme take amoment to think about your amazing life and how you deserve it to you,. your friends,. your family,. your kids and parents.
You deserve more.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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Im an curious on whats the fastest and easiest way to lose weight? That doesnt cost alot. Thanks:] (link)
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Try doing youtube work out videos if not do small workouts well watching tv.
Now nomatter howmuch you workout,. it will take a while before you see major results or changes. that is just how our body works.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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where can i get vintage clothing that is good for cheap and/or decent prices? thanks! kisses! (link)
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Try value village,. Giant tiger,. Salvation army,.
Also try googling Vintage clothing stores in your area,. You might be suprised where you can find them!
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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It seems as if no matter how hard I try, I get caught in the same twist every single time I am interested in a girl.
I am currently 17 years old, and my first high school crush was this girl in ninth grade I knew. We shared a choir class, and she always joked around and flirted with me. At first, I acted myself and charmed her by doing so, yet as I started to fall for her more and more, I changed my mannerisms in a fear that if I keep showing her my true self, she will become uninterested in me. I tried to hide my feelings by acting macho and sort of mean, and that made her distance herself, and when I eventually confessed my feelings, she turned me down, and that night was still the worst night of my life.
Ever since then, I have felt the need to change my personality once I know a girl likes me. The moment I find out that she is interested, I choke up and any conversation becomes awkward as I focus in too much on making her laugh, making her interested, just desperately keeping control and making sure I don't lose her, and I always do
The next year, I had a relationship with a girl from Youth Camp. She was feminist, super liberal, and a very outspoken and loud girl. My main insecurities are trivial, like stomach hair, public perception, and other dumb stuff, but its those little things that make me so unconfident in my abilities. But I digress. I worked up the nerve to explain to her how self conscious I was, and she just said whatever, thats ok. I fell in love with her immediately, satisfied with the person who saw my true self and was unabashed. I then became clingy, and she also ended the relationship
Most recently, I started talking to this other girl. She was a year younger than me, and was the prettiest girl in my school. Guys chased after her, and I thought that hey, I might as well see who she is as a person. At first, she was distant, probably getting messages from many other fellas, but soon, she started initiating our conversations and she started to like me. We talked for six months for hours every single day. The moment I figured out that she was interested, I faltered. We set up a date to the movies, and my hands were shaking and I was totally nervous. In the movies though, I cracked some jokes and made her laugh, and she held my arm, which made me think that she was interested in me, either that are very flirtatious. Long story short, after the movies, she stopped talking to me at all, and I torture myself with wondering why. With wondering why I mess up right when I know she likes me, with wondering why I can't trust my abilities, with wondering why Im a good looking guy but still hone in on every glaring little flaw in my body and mind.
I know my confidence isnt that great, but I have to figure out what to fix so I dont ruin it next time. Im deeply sorry if this is too long, but I need some help. Thanks :) (link)
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First of all for the grade 9 Girl.. Girls do not like macho im the greeatest guy in the world ego driven guys.
Second. You must learn to be yourself. I know that is hard around girls and it's easy to choke up in conversations,. us girls are the exact same.
Clingyness is a hard thing to come over,. Just dont be too attached and try not to be too distant as well
As far as this movie popular chicky goes... something sounds fishy to me... Why not try asking her what went wrong and why she became so distant after.. it might not be you,. it actually might be something to do with her and how she didn't want to lead you on..
As far as confidence goes,. That is a very tough thing to overcome,. i myself as a girl have very very huge confidence issues,. you just gotta keep telling yourself you are amazing you are handsome and well deserving of a great gal!
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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hello i just wanted to ask
I have met a guy in london while i was travelling and we had few conversation and we got on s well
as i live in birmingham we cant not meet each other very often but we still communicate
onday he said to me he is looking into jobs in birmingham and may plan interview one or two
and he says defenetly want to see me again and get to know me.
also oneday he came to see me in birmingham
we had dinner together (he baught) and he kissed me more than twice i just wondered he likes me or seriouse with me ? (link)
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I already answered this question for you in the last two days.
If you don't get the answers that you want,. Please don't repost the exact same question as it has already been posted.
-J.
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my father hates me since i was 13 years old in now am 17. and am afriad of him ever since he had went to jail cause of me for abuse. my mom and him hasnt spoken sence and when i dream of him its like nightmare and i more afriad of him. I ALSO HIDE FROM HIM WHEN HIS IN THE HOUSE IN HE DONT EVEN ASK IF AM AROUND OR NOT! (link)
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So your question is.. Why does he hate you or how do you get over it??
Which ever your question is..
If he went to jail because of the abuse he was causing you then it's a very good idea to stay as far away as possible. It's not you. You did nothing wrong. Each parent that does this has different reasons,. and sometimes no reason at all to explain why they did what they did.
He probably doesn't ask for you because of the history that you two have.
and for the dream aspect of it. maybe you need to try facing him in your dreams and be like I am not afraid of you. You can't hurt me anymore?
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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I just found myself crying, I miss him so much . But I do not understand why I do . I realize that he might have moved on and doesnt think about me anymore but why cant I get over him (link)
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You are thinking about him,. Because you still have a attachment to him,. and have not yet moved on. This is completely Normal! It honestly just takes time,.
He may not have been the guy that you deserve to end up with. And if he moved on,. Well then it's his loss.
If you miss him so much.. Maybe try talking to him? That might help close the feelings off that you have?
Hope this helps
~Jasmine*
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