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This is actually a very hard descion, and i really need the help i can get.
I was with this guy for 1 year and 8 months, no details.. all you really have to know is that we were best friends/lovers/brothers/sisters/ basically everything to the other person.he ruined it completely, he was confused , wanted his freedom, and basically threw me out of his life, i wouldnt leave him alone until one day i jus did, i didnt contact him for a month, and he came back saying he regrets it, and hes sorry and i told him i dont trust him, and i dont know who he is anymore, and all that.. but i said maybe i can try and trust you, and hes been working hard to gain my trust and now we always talk, he totally broke my heart, i felt like there was no reason to live after the break up, it was horrible, and idont know if me giving him another chance is right, my mind tells me everyone deserves a second change, and my heart tells me hes just gonna break it again, i dont know what to do, should i give it a try? or should i stop talking to him and tell him things will never be the same? alot of things happend between us, he lost my trust ALOT, im not just telling him this, i litteraly DO NOT trust him what so ever, maybe ill trust him again? should i give it a shot or would that be stupid going back to someone who hurt me? i dont know what to do, my heads all over the place, im a mess.. i cant be with him or without him, im so inlove with him not much people will understand it.. thats my FIRST question.. my second question is, i need tips to get over my jealousy issue completely, yes it sounds retarded hes never really been close to friends that are girls uptil we broke up, which was a huge mistake because its normal to be friends with the opposite gender, and if i want this to work i have to have to have to get over it and i dont know how, whenever i hear him calling his friend cool or "were so close" i get all jealous and pissed off and i KNOW its wrong, i just dont know how to get over this. Sorry if this was long.
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Listen to me, stay away from him. He will rip your heart out an you will b empty. Move on before you waste anymore time getting attached. I'm sure he's a scumbag
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“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
That pretty much sums it up. What is life without taking risks and chances? Life would be completely boring and useless if nobody took risks. You know whats surprising? You learn more about yourself when you take risks and try new things. You never know what you're capable of doing unless you try. In this case, you never know how its going to turn out unless you try. One more thing, “It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel.” Meaning= I'd rather take the risk and get hurt one more time, than to be a coward and always wonder "what if".
As for the jealousy issue.. I have the same problem so I don't know if I can be much help haha. I think everyone gets jealous eventually. We are human and its normal to feel that way. I guess it just comes with trust. I understand you don't trust him at the moment, but if you give him a chance, maybe you'll trust him again and then that jealousy issue will go away. A trick that kind of helped me was thinking "if he can talk to other girls, then I can talk to other guys". It made me realize that I dont have to feel this way. My feelings and reactions are in my power. I control how I feel.. not him. I don't want a guy to make me jealous, so instead of him controlling that, I decide to control my own feelings and push that jealousy away. Its hard but you really need to be patient with this issue. It wont go away over night. It takes time, trust, and effort.
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
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For the First Question.
If you still have strong feelings for him,. Then you might want to try it again. But be very careful. Also Trust is something that is earned not given. It will take him a while before you can trust him. That is completely normal.
As for the jealousy. You must remember. HE is Dating you. Not them. You are his girlfriend not them. You have something they don't him. So don't worry.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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There can be no good relationship without trust. If you don't believe you can trust him in a relationship with you, tell him so. Don't continue leading him on. And it's perfectly normal for people to want to "broaden their horizon". Especially if you're both still young. Also, if you're getting jealous, even while you were with him, you never truly trusted him to begin with. Without trust, there can be no real love, without love there can be no real relationship. If you harbor bitterness, happiness docks elsewhere.
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