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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Heyy I got my bellybutton pierced almost a year ago and I found it only hurt when the barbell was put in but I didnt have a good experience! Anyways, I want my tongue pierced and I was wondering how bad that hurt!

Pain is different for everyone. What could hurt to you, might not to someone else, & vise versa. Also, different piercings can have different pains. My ears didn't hurt at all, but if I was to get a different piercing, it might hurt really bad. So, I can't tell you how much it would hurt, because it might not hurt or it might hurt.

For some side info, the tounge is a really bad place to get a piercing simply because there are nerves no one can really see there. If the person piercing you hit one of those nerves, you probably wouldn't be able to feel your tounge, you wouldn't know hot & cold temps when you put them into your mouth, and you might even lose some tastebuds. So be very cautious when you go & get this done. Don't let just anyone pierce you. You should probably find a person who specializes in tounge piercings & has a lot of experience because if you get someone who doesn't know what they're doing, they might fuck it up.

Also, go somewhere clean. There's a lot of chances of getting an infection at places. So always go somewhere clean when getting a tattoo/piercing. If they don't open the needles in front of you & explain everything, leave.

hi i am a 24 years old female, i have been with my current partner for 3 and a half years, i have a baby girl with him but, i am so miserable. i have met someone else on a chatroom whom i have spoke to many times and it is cause of this i have realised that i am trapped in my current relationship. i am scared to leave him as i dont want to hurt his feelings and fear i wouldnt be able to manage without him over the past 3 and a half years he has totally brain washed me to thinking this, he puts me down all the time and bullies me to make me feel worthless. i dont no what to do please can some one help me

If this guy tears you down piece by piece, why the hell would you stay with him? It'd be smart to stay for the sake of your baby, but seriously, do what is gonna make you happy in the long run. Why be scared to hurt his feelings? All he ever does is hurt yours, so do it right back & show him how the hell it feels. Break up with him, and move on with life. Nobody deserves to be with an ignorant, jerky asshole.

hey. ok. so there is this song called "Umbrella" by Rihanna. But what cd is it on?? cause i can't find it on "A Girl Like Me" cd. is she coming out with a new cd with "Umbrella" on it?? i can't find it on limewire eaither. can someone plzzz help me?!?!? thanks so much!!

It's more than likely on a new cd.

I'm 16/f, my bestfriend is 16/m. When he was leaving to go home last night, we gave eachother our usual hug, but I had a clip in my hair and he accidently pulled it, and it sorta hurt. I was like "oww" and he kissed the top of my head. Do you think he did this just to be nice, or does he like me? He's never done anything like that, usually we just hug.

He might like you. Talk to him about it.

Is there a way you can rmove blood or juice stains from soft white material clothing?

I heard that bleach works really well.

Well we have to do paper mache on monday so the teacher told us not to wear any valuble clothing cuz it's gonna get messy and dirty. But I have very little clothes (exactly 5 outfits for the school days). What can I do?

Where something you wear to bed. That way it won't matter if you get it messed up or not because no one really sees it.

13/f....I have a bump on my vagina and i don't know what it is. It looks like a pimple but it's bigger and it's sore. Does anyone know what it is?

You should get it checked out.

i recently lost 4 pounds. im 5'3" and 137 lbs now. but i was just wondering is this okay? and if anyone has those BMI calculators id love that. thankss.

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

I use this one. I think you're okay though.

(15/f) i've got this friend... that smiles like a model, like with the weird smile not showing the teeth, and leaving a little gap in the center, but to do it, she uses ALL of her muscles and wrinkles up her chin and cheeks and everything. she's copying the models and trying to be in style, but she's doing it weird and wrong. should i tell her? or what? because i don't want her to be embarrased but i don't want to be rude..

Tell her. If she's looking like an idiot, you'll be saving her the embarassment.

ok So this guy i like is taking me out on a date. I met him in my english class senior year but we didnt really talk since then. Well i saw him a couple of months ago at my work and he just really put a smile on my face. The thing is weve been having a online relationship since. Im just worried its gonna be weird when we go on our date tonight. Does anyone have any good topic starters for a first date?

Just say hi & ask him how he's been. Tell him you missed him, ask him how his day was.

Or, you can just ask him how much a polar bear weighs, and then when he says he doesn't know, tell him "enough to break the ice." Corny, cute & funny.

Can anyone teach me how to spin a pencil between your fingers with one hand?

How long did it take for you until you could do it?

was it a lot of practice?

Why would you want to? It could fly out of your hands & hit someone. Just use your pencil normally.

my parents, i love them, btu somteimes they get on my last nerve. when i mean last, i mean last. right now im not doing so well in school, and everytime we get into a fight, that is the first thing they talk about my grades. Sometimes they don't know how stressfull it is nowadays in school, especially how i take an AP class only as a soph. Sometimes i feel like noone understands me. Theyve always been on my case about my grades, and i try to bring them up, but its the pressure i get from them thats making me loose my sanity.Sometimes i think about killing myself, and everytime i do, i get closer and closer. I don't want to, but sometimes i feel like it's the right thing to do. Sometimes i think that by me just leaving, itll make them happier. So they won't be embarresed of me. Idk, i can't talk to them about it cause they think im crazy. My friends don't even bother anymore. Im loosing it... please i need some advice on how to get through this.

Your parents are always going to get on your nerves, and there's nothing you can do to prevent it. The best thing to do is to just suck it up, or talk to them about it.

I have a huge massive gigantic hangover. I just threw up at its 10am. I took my birthcontol pill at 8.... did I throw it up? I believe we digest things in 2 hours... but Im assuming there is a chance I threw it up.

Does anyone have any sweet hangover cures? PLease help.

THanks.

Drink water, and sleep.

okay so my friend is really mad at me for something that was even my fault, but anyways thats besides the point.
when this girl is mad at you, she can be sooo mean. and i mean, really really mean. and i want to be like "whatever shes mad at me i dont care", but if she's being mean, i know its going to get to me. does anyone have any words of advice i can think about when i see her? like...idk anything. =[

Just ignore her. If you let her get to you, she's gonna keep doing it. So toughen up.

ok so when i chat with people they r always funny . but i have no idea how 2 be funny ONLINE
lol so can any1 give me some good jokes or something that i can tell xD

Make a joke.

Background info before I start: (warning: this might be long)

My lil sis = 13
My cousin #1 = 12
My cousin @2 = 10

Those three are really close. When they're together, they're 'the bomb'. My cousins go to a diff. school though. So naturally, the three of them see things differently.

My prob is the following. Today, I was at church and my cousins and lil sis were sitting next to me. I looked at my sis and she was scratching the inner side of her arm (where all the veins and stuff are). I told her to stop 'cause I get uncomforable when I see people scratch themselves. Long story.

Anyway, she kept on doing it till it started to bleed and there was this 'line' on her arm. One of my cousins was doing it too.

I told my mom, she didn't know what was going on. Later, I asked my sis "why the hell were you doing that?" and she replied "because I'm emo".

Emo? Is that scratching act considered to be emo-ish? I'm not against stereotypes and all that, but I'm not sure she knows what she's doing. I think she's been influenced by my cousin (the school she goes to is just .. 'bad') and my cousin's case is worse...Or is this the 'cutting' everyone talks about? I doubt that but I wanna know what's on her mind.

I don't get along with her well and we always end up screaming and kicking after speaking 5 words or something to each other. I'm thinking of creating a new email address and emailing her about all this. I need help. How do I get to talk to her and tell her what she's doing is wrong?

Please help me..

I'm 18/f, btw.

Thanks.

She thinks that because emo kids tend to cut themselves, that she is. So scratching herself is basically a replacement.

You need to sit your sister down and have a long talk with her.

There have been rumors at my school that there will be a school shooting tommorrow, as it is the anniversary of Colombine. I know that many schools are having rumors such as this circulated, and that it probably won't happen. However, I don't feel safe going to school tommorrow. I'm terrified. My mother is making me go; she refuses to listen to me when I say that I'm scared. How can I convince her?

Even if it's just a rumor, this shouldn't be taken lightly.

Tell a school official.

well that is my question please answer- if a girl has aids and she gives a guy a blow job does he get aids?

ps this is just for the info

No. If she had an open sore in her mouth, it'd be possible. But if she wasn't bleeding, and he wasn't, then I wouldn't count on it.

Always use a condom to prevent the spread of STD's and AIDS.

do you need a prescription to get birthcontrol
because i can't tell my mom and I can't go to a doctor.
don't tell me to tell her i have cramps so i need birth control because shes smart and it doesnt work for me.
im 14 so i have no car and it would be easy for me to walk to walgreens and get it but im not sure if you need prescription or anything.
so if theres a way for me to get birthcontrol tell me
thank you :]

I believe yes and no. At Planned Parenthood, they give them to you for a small price. If you're over 18, you can get them over the counter at some places, and when you go to a gynocoligst, you then need a prescription. But condoms would be a pretty good bet. They're not that much, and you can buy them without any type of prescription.

umm does ANYONE know how to upload pictures on photobcuket

because i dont know how?
please help i really need this on thing

Go into your album, and you'll see an upload form. Click "Browse" go to the file where the picture is, click it & press open, and then it'll be in the place you clicked Browse. Now click "Upload." And there you go. =)

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