Mackenzie's advice column

♥[?]♥ how do you become out goin? i mean im really out going and funny when i get to kno someone really well. but its realy hard for me to just meet someone and hit it off right away. what are some things you say to like a cute boy you see at the mall or someone you see that looks like alot of fun and want to talk to?

Honestly, just put youR feaR behind you, and go foR it! I find the less you think about what you'Re doing, the easieR it becomes. PeRsonally, I just Run up to some Random guy and ask them foR a hug. I'm not Really suggesting this, it's just what woRks foR me, and it woRks VERY well. People have pRobably told you to "be youRself", and though that seems like a silly blaind answeR... it's Really what needs to be done. Beleif is how I see it... if you believe you can, then you can. Now see... you... I have faith in, so go get 'em tigeR!! =D Best wishes!

♥[?]♥ I am African-American/Japanese and the guys that I am normally into are white skater types. Nobody I've ever really liked has liked me back, and I've been told it's because I'm too shy. Is it really because I'm too shy or is it because of race? Do guys really think about race?

Well guys aRe only human, and eveRyone has, oR at least HAVE HAD negative thoughts oR feelings about someone because of theiR Race, so peRhaps some guys would judge you. HoweveR, not all people aRe so pig-headed. I've discoveRed that most of my male fRiends don't caRe what Race theiR giRlfRiend is. I wish you the best of luck. Hope I helped?

♥[?]♥ In the past 2 months or so, there has been alot of drama with my family. I had to move in with friends and my mom is not healtthy enough to support me, so she is no longer my legal guardian. Mother's Day is coming up and...well, I don't know what to get her. I take that back, I want to make her a mix cd, but I want to put songs on there that actually mean something. We were never really "close", I guess you could say, but with matters at hand, we've grown closer, even though we're seperate. I know my mom likes Duke Ellington, Etta James. Ella Fitzgerald and Billie Holiday. With the artists given, could you recommend more artists and songs that she might like and that might cheer her up? Thanks.
MAd Love,
Victoria

Hmm, gosh... I'm BIG into oldies fRom the 50's, 60's, and eaRly 70's, but I'm not too up on old school soul. Uh.. peRhaps ARetha FRaklin? B.B King? LutheR VandRoss? and PeRcy Sledge? Hmm, I'm not absolutely positive if all of those hit the Right gRand theme oR not, but I gave it my best. SoRRie I can't be of moRe help to you. I wish you, and youR motheR, the best of luck! Hopefully I've made at least even the slightest bit of a diffeRence. Take caRe! =D

♥[?]♥ Today, my family and I (14/m) were out playing sports. All was well for a while. Untill my lil brother started to misbehave and be uncooperative.I got vexxed, but i controlled my rage untill we got home.

At home, i was still vexxed.
(since my birthday is about a montn away)My mom asked me what i wanted for my birthday. I told her "i want my brother to be gone for my birthday. that would be the perfect gift."

She got vexx at me. so vexx she couldn't speak. Sheleft the room.

I went to look for her later and i found her crying. what i said really got to her emotionally. she just looked at me like everything was lost.

that look got to me. i am sorry i told her that.
but i dont know what to do.

What should i do?
i can't let her feel like she grew me up wrong- i am her 1st born. she will just give up with the others too.

please help.

Tell heR you didn't mean it, and it was just a pooR choice of blowing off some steam. Let heR know that you know the RemaRk was uncalled foR, and you apologize foR it. WhateveR you decide to do, and howeveR you put it, I wish you the best of luck!

♥[?]♥ i was wondering if anyone knew of any good websties that you can find good love or friendship poems or quotes .... thanks for the help

http://www.google.com and enteR in "FRiendship quotes", and "Love Poems" -- it's pRobably betteR to seaRch like that, this way you have many many choices, and not just the few you may get on heRe. Goodluck seaRchin'! =D

♥[?]♥ Does anyone have any tips for swallowing pills? I have some pills from my doctor for a bronchidal infection, and they were huge, I had to cut them up into fourths, yet they still are tough to get down. Tips or tricks?

Hmm... I used to not be able to take pills a couple yeaRs ago. I would tRy oveR and oveR, until it got to the point wheRe I just gave up, and would RatheR be ill than agRavate myself with my failuRes. I'm not shoRe how I got oveR it, I just did. I do nothing diffeRent fRom what I was tRying back then. I think simply not thinking about it, and just going foR it with a HUGE ASS gulp of wateR ought to woRk. Goodluck, my deaR! Hope I helped!

♥[?]♥ okay, on thursday...we walked by this guy and i said "wow, hes hot" and he looked over, but it was like a slow turn not like he heard or anything. but then he smiled at me when he saw me...
Friday- he saw me playing cards w/ my friends. and walked over and asked me if he could play. I think he said 1 secntence to the other girls. And he would stare at me and act emmbarrassed when we BS-ed him (we were playing BS) and talked only to me...
Anyway, my other friends like him and so do i. And it bugs me when my friends like the same guy
MY QUESTION-- do u think he likes me? And how can i get over my problem w/ friend liking the same guy?

FRom what you've descRibed, it shoRe does *seem* like he likes you. TRy looking aRound foR him in the moRnings and duRing lunch houR and just go foR it... walk Right up to him, just like he did you. He's bRoken the ice by making the fiRst connection, which tRanslates an invitation to appRoach *HIM*. I doubt theRe's anything you can do to stop youR fRiends fRom liking him, but you shouldn't feel bad about going out with him if the oppoRtunity eveR weRe to aRise. Just think of it this way: if one of youR fRiends had the oppoRtunity to go out with him, and at the same time knew many otheR people liked him, would she hold back on account of you? Possibly, but VERY doubtful -- it's just society. Goodluck; I have faith in you! =D

♥[?]♥ I really like supporting charitable organizations, and I want to buy bracelets for the tsunami relief, Livestrong, and breast cancer. I have heard the footLOcker and Sport Chalet sell them. I was wondering if this is true and where else I could fing these bracelets! Thank you!

You can puRchase them at http://www.livestrong.com . I've also seen them at Foot LockeR, so theRe's definitely a place to check. HoweveR, if youR intentions aRe Really to suppoRt a chaRitable oRganization, make shoRe the pRoduct you'Re puRchasing is AUTHENTIC!! TheRe aRe sooo many people and businesses tRying to cash in on the sell of these bRacelets, it's sickening. Know that authentic yellow Live StRong bRacelets aRe ONLY sold in YELLOW, and will have the logo on the outside of the package. If you buy a bRacelet that does not have this logo, youR money is not going to the canceR foundation, it's going puRely to the business fRom which it is bought. Hope I helped!

♥[?]♥ hey... my boyfriend and i just had a big talk and he wants to be in "time-out"
i have no clue what that means just that theres no kissing at school (so he said). now i dont know how to act around him or what to say to him
My questions are ... what do you think time-out is and how should i act around him at school???... im so confused and lost in all of this

In *THIS* case... youR "time-out" seems like a way foR him to be juggling some ho's at school. Although it may Really seem like that, you Really need to ask *HIM* what *HE* believes time out is, that way it's cleaR to BOTH of you, and the space that is Requested is kept. I Really do hope things woRk out! Hope I helped! =D

♥[?]♥ kay..well lately ive been slacking off in school. I used to be sooo smart and used to get awesome grades-but that ALL changed in middle school. Ive been concintrating on guys, friends, and my homelife more than my school-life and school-work. Any ways that can help me get back on track??

Make a schedule, and stick to it. Go home immediately afteR school, and staRt youR homewoRk Right away. Find a quiet space wheRe you will not be inteRRupted, and make ABSOLUTELY shoRe to tuRn off youR cellulaR, computeR and television! Do not allow youRself to go anywheRe oR do anything OTHER than schoolwoRk til all of it is completely done. It may seem like a silly, oveRly stRict solution, but hey... school takes dedication, haRdwoRk and effoRt -- that's the only way. It may seem like a pain in the ass now, but it will all pay off in the end. Goodluck to you. Hopefully I've helped out some! =D

♥[?]♥ There's this new guy at our school. We've already become really good friends and I've introduced him to some other people. But he doesn't seem to open up in public. (like on AIM we talk for hours, but at school it's just a simple "Hi") What can I do to make him feel more welcome?

Give him the scReen names of some of youR buddies at school. That way he'll be able to feel moRe confident, and will eventually lead up to his opening up moRe. Also, tRy thReeway phone calls, and always make a point of making him feel included in the conveRsations. AnotheR thought, if you'Re school has plays, ask if he'd like to tRy out. MANY shy people become totally alive and animated on stage - 'tis it's poweR! I wish you the best of luck! Hope I helped!

♥[?]♥ ok i just found out that we might have to move, and if we do i wont be going to the same school. now heres the problem, we dont have the money to move or to stay in the house we have right now. so i dont want to move and im to young to work any where really.so what should i do?????????

Uhm, well I'm not shoRe what you'Re *exact* question is, but if you'Re asking how to Raise some money, tRy making a bunch of flieRs and distRibute them on the bullentin boaRds at youR closest couple of gRoceRy stoRes; fRee advceRtising -- that's what it's theRe foR. Also, you can tRy putting an ad in the papeR. AnotheR option, f you'Re paRents appRove, and you'Re up foR the challenge, tRy baby sitting. HoweveR, baby sitting is a seRious matteR. Make shoRe you and youR fRiends know exactly how to peRfoRm CPR on infants and toddleRs in case of emeRgency, and once that is all settled, you can add that to youR Resume. PaRents aRe moRe likely to give you theiR business if they feel theiR child will be safe with you. Also, tRy putting up flieRs on stReet coRneRs and in papeRs foR lawn mowing - big money to be had theRe; geneRally $20.00 - $65.00 peR good sized yaRd. These aRe all good ways of making money, and quite a bit of it, but I *extRemely* doubt it'll make a diffeRence whetheR youR family can continue to live in youR house oR not. SoRRie, my deaR! I wish you and youR family the best of luck! Hopefully I've been of some help heRe. =D

♥[?]♥ my sister has just bought a guinnea pig and it has started to whine . A short while later it starts to purr. Why does it do this?

it's kinky! =D

♥[?]♥ Okay here it goes, my boyfriend is really unexperienced, and really shy. I want to know if I should just go for it or wait untill he goes for it (it being the kiss) Or is it more of a "we both will know when its right" type of deal. I was the one to initiate most everyhting else such as holding hands and whatnot,...now what?

If I weRe in youR shoes, I would just wait foR it to just happen. To me, it is just one of those "when the moment is Right" type of deals. I would say you'Re best if you let it Run that Route. Goodluck deciding! Take caRe! Hope I helped? =D

♥[?]♥ well i have a mole on my cheek and im planning on getting it removed pretty soon by a plastic surgon... has anybody had a mole or anything removed from their faces before? and if so what do i need to expect adn does it show much scarring or what?? thanks!!

My uncle had a MASSIVE one Removed fRom his eyebRow, and the scaRRing was none, so I'm shoRe you have nothing to woRRie about; this is a common pRodecuRe. And if this helps ReassuRe you: his was on his eyebRow, and haiR won't gRow oveR scaRs -- he still has both of his eye bRows completely; no flaws. But if it'll help you feel betteR about it, you can always coveR it up with foundation, yep. Hope I helped??

♥[?]♥ see,my boyfiend and i have been dating for a year and 7 months.I trust him completely, but i feel like he's losing interest in me.I thought about dumping the guy just to see what he would do,but see he's so prideful that he probably won't do anything about it just so he won't be the one comeing back to me.So, i don't want to risk that! Idon't want to lose him. Should i try it?? Should i talk to him first? What should i do guys? He's 10hrs.away from where i am.

You should definitely talk this oveR with him, and find out exactly how he feels befoRe doing something so dRastic it could end it all. Just sit down with him, and calmly and matuRely tell him exactly what you'Re feeling, and how this is affecting you. I wish you the best of luck!

♥[?]♥ ok my parents rele fight alot!!!wen i try to go to bed (well atleast try)there always yelling.i've tryed to break it up and talk it out but they yell more!!wat do i do??
sighned,
janice05

Aww! What an awful situation; I'm so soRRie to heaR that. And as cRappie as this is, the best thing you can do is keep out of theiR business. I know it's paRtly youR business since you aRe a membeR of the family as well, but whateveR theiR pRoblem is... is between the two of *them*. I would say suggest making moRe of an effoRt to show them how much you love them. SoRRie, Babe; theRe's just not much a kid can do in this scenaRio - just hope foR the best. I wish both you, and youR family, well. Hopefully I've been somewhat of a help to you. Know that you can always come to me foR a second opinion; you can find a fRiend in me.

♥[?]♥ random question... but im like starving right now!! anybody know any good ideas for some food i could eat?!~ lol

ceReal. fRozen pizza. bRownies. toast with jelly. Rasins. caRRots. bacon, egg, and cheese on a bagel. tofu. Rice. Enjoy?? =D

♥[?]♥ ok well last night i went somewhere and after, i went to this guys house.. we were alone and stuff and we did some sexual stuff... but like i mean i have a boyfriend... and i totally hate myself for doing this to him... i dont want to tell him, but what if someone finds out and tells him...help?

That's why it's best to be upfRont about these kinds of things. See, if he somehow found out fRom someone otheR than you, you honestly think he'll just be so willing to foRgive and foRget? It's possible he can foRgive, but he won't be happie about it, and theRe's no way he'll eveR foRget. He'll appReciate knowing this occuRRed, and he'd like it to be fRom you. Place youRself in his shoes... You Really ought to sit down with him and calmly discuss it like adults and figuRe out wheRe to go fRom theRe. I wish you the best of luck whateveR you decide to do. Hopefully I've been of some help. Know that I am always heRe if you eveR need a second opinion. Take caRe! =D

♥[?]♥ does anybody know if you can find out who wrote a comment to u in ur advice column?? i got somereally mean ones and i was just wonderin if you could find out who theyre from...

No, Ma'am. This site allows the option of Remaining anonymous, so theRefoRe, you'Re out of luck; soRRie.

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