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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Laura!

--Jack

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where can i watch all the episodes starting from season one for free. i know that the wb website only has the second season and that's only until the 30th.

and mega video only lets me watch 72 minutes.

so, is there anyway i watch it.

Go to surfthechannel.com or try hulu.com.

Surfthechannel should have it, if Veronica Mars is a well-known show, or at least is as popular as shows like Smallville.

--Jack
(17/m)

I was talking to somebody when I was at work and they said something like it might turn out to be Indian Summer here or something like that. I have no idea what they mean by that and I'm not about to make a fool of myself. What does Indian Summer mean?

http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/indian-summer.html

From there:

Meaning

An unseasonably warm, dry and calm weather, usually following a period of colder weather or frost in the late Autumn (or in the Southern hemisphere, where the term is less common, the late Spring).

--Jack
(17/m)

Okay, I know it's stupid, but I have TONS AND TONS OF STUFF in my room, and I just can't seem to clean it- I just don't know where to start. I'm dead serious, you can't see the floor. And my bedroom has 2 rooms in it, and both are REALLY messy. How should I attack it? I've already tried putting everything in a giant pile on my bed and then sorting through it like that, and picking slips with areas, and neither works. And of course, I've tried the classic 'pick it up and put it where it goes.' Nothing seems to work! Can anyone help?

You're not going to be able to clean it all in one day.

Try cleaning one corner or section of your room each day.

Like, the other day, I tried cleaning my floor, and then the next day, I cleaned my desk.

The putting things on your bed and sorting really works, but only if you are really patient. If you try to shove EVERYTHING you own on your bed, that's why it doesn't work. If you put only a section of what you own on your bed, then it's easier to organize.

I know that with my room, most of my mess was papers and clothes. So, if you send all your clothes out of your room to wash them, it gives you more room to organize everything else.

Take a large garbage bag into your room, and throw out anything you will not use anymore, and anything you haven't used for over a year, or maybe for over six months.

If it's something you absolutely must keep, then get a plastic bin, and put it with similar things and store it away in the basement, AWAY from your room.

Try to beat the inevitable "I'm going to clean my room and then three days later, I'm going to get lazy and make it dirty again" curse. If you can keep your room up for two weeks, then maybe you can keep it clean for even longer.

Good luck! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

i recently heard a spanish version of Scars by Papa Roach. And it sounds like Jacoby is singing it. Does anyone know if he comes from hispanic roots? or did he just pick up spanish growing up?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070331072409AATmaBB

It looks like he took Spanish classes, and he isn't Hispanic. He doesn't really look Hispanic.

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm making a a scrapbook for my boyfriend for out 2 year anniversary. I'm 17 & he's 18.
We don't have many pictures yet so I'm making it for him so that it might motivate us to document more of us being together and try and fill it up.
Since i dont want to jam the pages with pictures and couldnt even if i wanted to i want to put quotes on the pages.

I need love quotes...not weird sounding ones but ones that maybe a teen might like. :)

i need a prom one if thats possible i've made up a prom page of all out pictures and need something to go with it.

Pleaseee help & give me another gift idea if possible :)

I love the scrapbook idea. It's always a good one ;].

Quotes are a good idea. You can find specific quotes by using Google.

Here's some of my favorites:

"Two souls with but a single thought,
two hearts that beat as one."
-John Keats

“Romance is the fuel that keeps love burning hot.”
-Rusty Silvey

“Love is like a piece of art work, even the smallest bit can be so beautiful.”
-Stacie Cunningham

“Take away love, and our earth is a tomb.”
-Robert Browning

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.”
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

Prom quotes:

There is a bit of insanity in dancing that does everybody a great deal of good. -Edwin Denby

We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb

Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance. ~Dave Barry

Enjoy! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

i didnt know what category so i did this 1...im not tryin to be mean by saying crybaby the stalker...but she wont leave me and my friends alone...im in a group of 4 bffs...were 13 were girls...we go to a stupid catholic school...we are very rough w/ eachother we do cuss but so what...we dont be mean 2 her we dont do it 2 her but me and my friends come up behind eachother and jump on or trip or just step on ther shoes we cuss at eachother not mean but as best friends... so she crys about everything we do and tells on us so we get a detention and SHE WONT LEAVE US ALONE...my mom whent up 2 school because of stalker telling about everything we do my mom says its fine its my friends and she was the same way...i have had 16 detentions this year because of her...i am not a trouble maker im very shy exept around my friends...if we tell her 2 leave us alone she crys and tells but we only miss recess when she does tht...how do we get the stalker to leave

Uhm, well, just because the "crybaby" told on you and got you detention, it doesn't mean you didn't deserve them.

Cussing at Catholic school is probably not the best thing, and you need to obey the rules of your school, regardless of what you want to do. That's part of becoming an adult.

Ignore your "stalker". Don't be mean to her, and don't call her a crybaby to anyone, even your friends.

Be an adult for once.

--Jack
(17/m)

My tongue has been sore a lot lately. Particularly on both sides. From side to side. It hurts so bad, it hurts to move my tongue, or eat.

Soreness goes away within a few days.. then a day or two later it comes right back.

I can't go to a Doctor because I have no insurance. Laid off.. so if that is an option I would be consulting the Doctor instead =]

What can I do to reduce pain? And get rid of it?

Thanks for anything in advance.

I would eat soft foods, because maybe that will help soreness go down by you not chewing as much.

If you eat ice cream, if might help your mouth feel better, too.

Go to a pharmacy, and maybe they can give you something OTC [over-the-counter] to help your mouth soreness go down.

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm 17 and so is my boyfriend. He has this cousin who's about 30 years old, maybe a little older. Well his cousin hasn't spoken to my bf in about a year and they live five minutes away from each other. Well suddenly his cousin decided to reconnect with my bf and they've been spending every day together for the past week and a half. I honestly wouldn't mind because its family but his cousin is so rude, annoying and racist. My bf quit smoking pot but if he smells it, it makes him want to smoke and his cousin always smokes pot around him. If we're in the car he'll smoke a cigarette and not bother to blow the smoke out the window. We live in an area where there's a large hasidic Jewish community during the summer and it makes the full time residents a little annoyed because it gets really busy and hectic...but most people will never say anything. Well one day my bf and I were driving with his cousin and he starts yelling racist comments out the window.I was so embarrsased! After that he whistled at two 16 year old girls that I used to go to school with..and remember this guy is about 30yrs old. One thing that drove me nuts happened a couple days ago. After being with him all day my bf was supposed to drive his cousin home but instead his cousin wanted to stop by a friends house. I thought we were going to be there for 10 minutes but instead we were in this run down, dirty apartment building for an hour and a half while his cousin got drunk with his friends and then we eventually drove him home after stopping for cigarettes that he saked my bf to pay for. This guy is driving me crazy. He always makes my bf drive him around and do favors for him and my bf just does it because he's too nice to say no. I don't want to tell my bf I hate the guy because that's his family and my bf always is willing to hang out with my family so I'd feel bad but I don't know what to do. I don't want my bf to be taken advantage of.

Talk to your boyfriend, because if you don't say anything, he won't know that you don't appreciate how his cousin is treating him.

A 30 year old is SUPPOSED to be more mature than that, so obviously he has issues.

Ask your boyfriend if it would be alright if you three didn't all hang out anymore, at least not with you involved, because while it isn't fair to him how the cousin is treating him, it isn't fair to you how he's treating him [and you, for that matter].

--Jack
(17/m)

i have a boyfriend of 11 months i love him so much but we fight nonstop. some friends ask how i put up with it n my only reason is that i love him. i really dont ever wana loose him but im starting to question a breakup what should i do, if we did breakup itd hurt us both so much but the fightings bringing me back to insanity and i start hallucinating again. but we also have alot of magical moments where we are on top of the world n i cant imagine anything better and were so deep in love were talking about when we have kids and our future. i love him so much but i cant handle the fighting anymore, what shud i do?

If you can't handle the fighting, try talking to him about it and finding a way to solve it, because it doesn't sound like you've really searched for a solution.

If you two can't find a solution, then, well, I guess you should end it. Relationships are based on a few things: healthy communication, trust, and love. You aren't having healthy communication, and so eventually the other parts of the good relationship are going to fade with the fighting; for instance, the more you fight, the less you'll love him and the less you'll trust him.

Sure, there's no way for any relationship to come without fighting, because no two people agree on EVERYTHING, but if you are fighting EVERY day and it's nonstop, then it's time to end the relationship and find someone with whom you'll be more happy.

--Jack
(17/m)

How old was Ashley Tisdale when she got her period

Google it?

No one is going to know when she had her period unless she came out and said it.

--Jack
(17/m)

iv ben with my boyfriend for almost a year. its not working out anymore and i kind of wana break up but im scared to do it, hes my best friend and i wana stay bestfriends. hes unstable and has anger management so im scared on how to, i dont want him to freakout. should i give him another chance? hes leaving for vacation for the next two weeks on friday. what do i do :(

The letter is an alright idea.

I recently broke up with my [now ex] girlfriend, about a month ago, and I did it in person.

Doing it in person is probably the best, because, although it IS the hardest, at least you have the guts to do it in person.

He might be angry, like you said, but if you're unhappy in the relationship, you have to end it. It's not fair to either of you to go on dating if you aren't happy.

I would break up with him a few days before he leaves for vacation, because waiting TWO MORE weeks to break up with him will be WAY to tough on you.

I mean, sure, it might ruin his vacation, but it will also give him a chance to get away and forget about it and try to enjoy himself.

Best of luck; I know how hard it is to build up the courage to break up with someone.

--Jack
(17/m)

ok so im 15 years old and i got my period when i was 11.
i havent really been growing much lately.
i was just wondering at what age ill stop growing and if i will still grow

People grow at different rates. You should be done growing around 19.

Like Laura said, if you haven't had a growth spurt, you will in time.

Just be patient; none of us can tell you when YOU specifically are going to stop growing.

--Jack
(17/m)

kay so theres this girl, i thought she was my bff.........but then i think she kinda changed over the summer. and then she tells me stuff, and i believed her, and then she says shes lieing. but now i dont know if its true or not and im scared about her now

Talk to her and tell her that the truth is really important, and lying just creates huge messes.

If she doesn't listen, well, there's plenty of other friends to be had.

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm 13 and a girl. Okay so this guy asked me out and I like him a lot. But I said no because I don't want a boyfriend. (i'm dumb) But now he's going out with this other girl and I can't flirt with him anymore.. And i like hugging people A LOT. But I can't hug him anymore either! And i always tell people that I love them.. but now I can't do that, either! They're always together and it makes me so sad because HE DOESN'T EVEN LIKE HER! he said he loves me but he wants a girlfriend. I'm making him sound like a jerk but he is awesome and fantastic! At his birthday party, I WENT THERE TO SEE HIM! but I didn't get to talk to him because he seemed to try to avoid me (i guess he thought he might flirt and get into trouble)

What do I do?

Signed,
Confused

It's simple what you're going through. You're jealous that he has a girlfriend, and you're regretful that you said no.

Well, you have to live with your choice. It wouldn't be fair to intrude in his relationship right now, because you don't want to be known as that girl.

If you still like him after this relationship is over, maybe try to go out with him then, because it wouldn't be right to steal him from his girlfriend.

As for how you act around him, you could still act the same, but his girlfriend would probably get jealous. So, I would just stay away from him for awhile so you don't tempt yourself.

how do you know if a girl like you?

If she smiles around you a lot and she flirts with you, she probably likes you.

If she makes it a point to be with you, she might like you.

You won't know for sure, however, unless you ask her. If you like her too, maybe this is the start of a relationship? ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now. but there have been people telling me he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. and i do know that his ex-girlfriend still really likes him. what do you think i should do?

-kelly

If you talk to him and find out what's going on, then you can better judge if he's been cheating on you or not.

Of course, he might lie, but if you've been with him for awhile, you should be able to tell if he's lying.

DO NOT break up with him based off of rumor.

--Jack
(17/m)

so I just asked the question "siblings bringing up ex bf" and my sister (who has an account on advicenators) answered my question, acting like a victim in a "different situation." I rated her a three (which means decent enough advice) because I thought it was horrible how she was lying. she saw I rated her a three and told me she knew the question was from me, and that she was going to file an abuse report, so she did, saying that she didnt know it was my question, and that I was purposely lowering her rating. help?

I don't have any say on this, but I think that a 3 is a good rating. Abuse reports shouldn't be filed upon getting a 3, unless you believe your answer was BEYOND fantastic.

I think you were right, but time will tell.

--Jack
(17/m)

17f

im really into soccer, i have been playing for about 3 years now, would it be stupid to get a small soccer tatoo somewhere on my body? where would i put it? you can say its a stupid idea, i just want opinions.

I think if it's important to you, you should do it.

Personally I don't like tattoos, but whatever floats your boat.

I would put it on your ankle, like above the bone that comes out, but more toward the back of the side of the foot, if that makes sense?

Like this:

http://z.about.com/d/foothealth/1/0/k/1/-/-/TamAnkTat2.jpg

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm having trouble coming up with things to talk to a girl about. Could someone give me a list of conversation ideas?

www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

1. Always start off with something that others don't use often. Example: You see a girl in a bar and she's sitting with some friends. You walk up to her and say, "I would like to sit with you, but before I sit down, what are you drinking?" "Bud Light (insert drink)? Good choice. I'll be back with 2 Bud Lights (insert drink) and I'll hope that this seat isn't taken when I get back."
2. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
3. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
4. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
5. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
8. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!

Tips

* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world.
* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about.
* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
* Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about

Warnings

* Don't be overly invasive with questions.
* Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
* Don't desperately ask personal questions.
* Keep eye-contact
* Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing

--Jack
(17/m)

I'm not sure if cats are naturally friendly with humans, or is it that they just believe we're other cats as well? Possibly their foster mother? (I have a cat who was a foster mother to one of my kittens who is now grown.)

I once read in a book saying they believed we were just bigger odd-looking cats. I found that interesting, because my kitten treats me as if I were his mother. He comes to me for comfort and puts his paw on my face when I hold him (:

I read a study somewhere that said that cats actually think that humans are large cats, not that cats are small humans.

My cats follow me around; they just get attached to us naturally.

--Jack
(17/m)

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